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Bronnie Ware

The Top Five Regrets

of the Dying:

A Life Transformed by

the Dearly Departing

Top Regrets of The Dying

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a

life true to myself, not the life others

expected of me.

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express

my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my

friends.

Top Regrets of The Dying

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a

life true to myself, not the life others

expected of me.

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express

my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my

friends.

5. I with that I had let myself be happier.

Top Regrets of The Dying

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a

life true to myself, not the life others

expected of me.

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express

my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my

friends.

5. I with that I had let myself be happier.

Top Regrets of The Dying

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a

life true to myself, not the life others

expected of me.

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express

my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my

friends.

5. I with that I had let myself be happier.

Top Regrets of The Dying

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a

life true to myself, not the life others

expected of me.

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express

my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my

friends.

5. I with that I had let myself be happier.

Top Regrets of The Dying

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a

life true to myself, not the life others

expected of me.

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express

my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my

friends.

5. I with that I had let myself be happier.

Top Regrets of The Dying

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a

life true to myself, not the life others

expected of me.

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express

my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my

friends.

5. I with that I had let myself be happier.

There can be no

happiness if the

things we believe in

are different from the

things we do.-Freya Stark

self censorship

playing small

covering

downplaying differences

conforming

playing into expectations

Fear of Being Different Stifles

Talent

29% altered their attire, grooming or

mannerisms to make their identity

less obvious

40% refrained from behavior

commonly associated with a given

identity

57% avoided sticking up for their

identity group

18% limited contact with members

of a group they belong to

groupthink:

mode of thinking that happens

when the desire for harmony in a

decision-making group overrides a

realistic appraisal of alternatives.

Group members try to minimize

conflict and reach a consensus

decision without critical evaluation

of alternative ideas or viewpoints.

Group intelligence is

not strongly tied to

either the average

intelligence of the

members or the team’s

smartest member.-Thomas Malone, MIT Center for Collective

Intelligence

low

belongingness

high

belongingness

low value in

uniqueness

high value in

uniqueness

low

belongingness

high

belongingness

low value in

uniqueness

high value in

uniqueness

inclusion:Individual is treated as

an insider and also

allowed/encouraged to

retain uniqueness within

the work group.

low

belongingness

high

belongingness

low value in

uniqueness

exclusion:Individual is not treated

as an organizational

insider with unique

value in the work group

but there are other

employees or groups

who are insiders.

high value in

uniqueness

inclusion:Individual is treated as

an insider and also

allowed/encouraged to

retain uniqueness within

the work group.

low

belongingness

high

belongingness

low value in

uniqueness

exclusion:Individual is not treated

as an organizational

insider with unique

value in the work group

but there are other

employees or groups

who are insiders.

high value in

uniqueness

differentiation:Individual is not treated

as an organizational

insider in the work

group but their unique

characteristics are seen

as valuable and required

for group / organization

success.

inclusion:Individual is treated as

an insider and also

allowed/encouraged to

retain uniqueness within

the work group.

low

belongingness

high

belongingness

low value in

uniqueness

exclusion:Individual is not treated

as an organizational

insider with unique

value in the work group

but there are other

employees or groups

who are insiders.

assimilation:Individual is treated as

an insider in the work

group when they conform

to org. / dominant culture

norms and downplay

uniqueness.

high value in

uniqueness

differentiation:Individual is not treated

as an organizational

insider in the work

group but their unique

characteristics are seen

as valuable and required

for group / organization

success.

inclusion:Individual is treated as

an insider and also

allowed/encouraged to

retain uniqueness within

the work group.

low

belongingness

high

belongingness

low value in

uniqueness

exclusion:Individual is not treated

as an organizational

insider with unique

value in the work group

but there are other

employees or groups

who are insiders.

assimilation:Individual is treated as

an insider in the work

group when they conform

to org. / dominant culture

norms and downplay

uniqueness.

high value in

uniqueness

differentiation:Individual is not treated

as an organizational

insider in the work

group but their unique

characteristics are seen

as valuable and required

for group / organization

success.

inclusion:Individual is treated as

an insider and also

allowed/encouraged to

retain uniqueness within

the work group.

low

belongingness

high

belongingness

low value in

uniqueness

exclusion:Individual is not treated

as an organizational

insider with unique

value in the work group

but there are other

employees or groups

who are insiders.

assimilation:Individual is treated as

an insider in the work

group when they conform

to org. / dominant culture

norms and downplay

uniqueness.

high value in

uniqueness

differentiation:Individual is not treated

as an organizational

insider in the work

group but their unique

characteristics are seen

as valuable and required

for group / organization

success.

inclusion:Individual is treated as

an insider and also

allowed/encouraged to

retain uniqueness within

the work group.

low

belongingness

high

belongingness

low value in

uniqueness

exclusion:Individual is not treated

as an organizational

insider with unique

value in the work group

but there are other

employees or groups

who are insiders.

assimilation:Individual is treated as

an insider in the work

group when they conform

to org. / dominant culture

norms and downplay

uniqueness.

high value in

uniqueness

differentiation:Individual is not treated

as an organizational

insider in the work

group but their unique

characteristics are seen

as valuable and required

for group / organization

success.

inclusion:Individual is treated as

an insider and also

allowed/encouraged to

retain uniqueness within

the work group.

Is it safe to be

unpopular?

Your playing

small does not

serve the

world.-Marianne Williamson

an

example…

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A comfort zone is a wonderful thing

to have, but nothing ever grows

there.

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you do if you

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