WRONG FAMILY RULESInner Healing Journey Series

Teaching Material from Elijah House

As you read through this list, put a check mark by the “rules” that were spoken or implied in your family, church or school.

WRONG FAMILY RULES

Don’t Have Feelings.Especially Negative

Ones.Feelings Are Not

Important.Don’t Cry. Stay In Control.

Let us pray…

Lord Jesus, I renounce and come out of agreement with these wrong family rules. Feelings ARE important. Because you gave them to me. Help me to learn to express my feelings in ways that are healthy and holy.

WRONG FAMILY RULES

Ignore Your Sense That

Something Is Wrong…

IGNORE YOUR SENSE THATSOMETHING IS WRONG…

I renounce and come out of agreement with this Wrong family rule. Thank you for restoring true discernment to me. Thank you for giving me wisdom , understanding and courage to deal with issues as they come up, and for giving me your heart of justice.

WRONG FAMILY RULES

Never Question Your Parents’ Explanation Of Reality,

(“That’s The Way It Is Because I Say So!”)

BECAUSE I SAY SO!”

I renounce and come out of agreement with this wrong family rule. I renounce all rebellion against my parents, and choose to honor them today, but ask that you help me to see things as they truly are.

WRONG FAMILY RULES

Image Is Everything. It Doesn’t Matter What’s Happening On The Inside; All That Matters Is How You Look(Always Compete And Compare)

IMAGE IS EVERYTHING. IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT’S HAPPENING ON THE INSIDE

I renounce and come out of agreement with this wrong family rule, and repent for being so focused on what I (and my children/home/portfolio/

grades/car/etc.) look like. Forgive me for competing with and comparing myself to others. I renounce the pride I’ve felt if I’ve done well, and the shame I’ve felt when I’ve not “measured up.”

WRONG FAMILY RULES

Be Good All The Time(In A Dysfunctional Family, Good Is Translated Perfect)

BE GOOD ALL THE TIME

I renounce and come out of agreement with this wrong family rule. In all my “goodness” and trying to be perfect, I lost sight of who I really am. I’ve tried to be what I thought people needed or wanted me to be. I repent for and renounce my striving, performance and any unhealthy need to please people.

WRONG FAMILY RULES

Ignore The Bad Things That Happen (Don’t Rock The Boat)

IGNORE THE BAD THINGS THAT HAPPEN

I renounce and come out of agreement with this wrong family rule. By your grace, I will no longer ignore the bad things that happen, and I renounce the fear of facing the truth and confronting issues.

WRONG FAMILY RULES

Don’t TalkDon’t TellDon’t Feel

DON’T TALK. DON’T TELL. DON’T FEEL.

I renounce and come out of agreement with this wrong family rule, breaking the power of it over me. I no longer have to keep my family’s secret. I ask for wisdom and discretion… to know when and how to share and who to share with.

DON’T TALK. DON’T TELL. DON’T FEEL.

Help me to share with the right motive; never to embarrass or humiliate my family, but to bring healing and freedom.

WRONG FAMILY RULES

Never Get Help

NEVER GET HELP.

I renounce and come out of agreement with this wrong family rule. I DO need help Lord Jesus and I ask for the humility to ask for others for help when I (or my family ) need it.

WRONG FAMILY RULES

Don’t Trust

Anyone.

DON’T TRUST ANYONE.

I renounce and come out of agreement with this wrong family rule. Help me to learn to trust, and give me wisdom who is trustworthy or not.

Be Healed in Jesus Name.Be healed from

your childhood memoriesBe healed in your emotional pain.

Be healed of yourdysfunctional past

Forgive all the people who have wronged you.

Mention their names.Release forgiveness.

Confess your root of bitterness.Accept the healing.

Forgive yourselfAs you forgive others.

BE HEALED IN JESUS NAME.