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I was at a party in Greenwich Village in New York City It was crowded with about twice as many
people as the space comfortably fit There was a dog in the mix too But it was a casual event and
we all spent a lot of time in the kitchen cooking and cleaning
I was at the sink washing dishes when I heard the dog yelp behind me I turned just in time to see a
woman curse at the dog as it dashed out of the kitchen She had obviously just stepped on his foot
or tail
Watch out she shouted after the dog then saw me looking at her and added Hes always in the
way
Really You step on a dog and then you blame the dog Who does that
Actually a lot of us do
We start blaming others at an early age usually to escape parental anger and punishment but also
to preserve our own self-esteem and self-image Then the behavior sticks often well into our
adulthood I mdash and I am sure you mdash see people in organizations point fingers all the time
Sometimes its at a departmental level A struggling sales group blames a poor product while the
product people blame an ineffectual sales team or maybe lax manufacturing Blaming a department
or a product feels safer than blaming a person since it appears less personal can pass as an
attempt at organizational improvement and might seem less defensive But its counter-productive
as the transparency of culpability betrays its disguises
A few years ago I sat at a table with the leaders of a major stock exchange They were struggling
with setting goals for the year The CEO to whom they all reported was not in the room
I asked them what was getting in the way We need direction from senior leadership they
answered in agreement
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Seriously I was stunned Look around I said raising my voice a little Everyone in the
organization is looking for direction from you You are senior leadership
No the head of something answered with the others nodding The CEO isnt here
I retorted Youre blaming the CEO Youre waiting for him to tell you what to do At your level
Really
An awkward silence followed Then we got to work turning the company around
Blaming others is a poor strategy Not simply because everyone can see through it Or because its
dishonest Or because it destroys relationships Or even because while trying to preserve our self-
esteem it actually weakens it Theres a more essential reason why blame is a bad idea Blame
prevents learning
If something isnt your fault then theres no reason for you to do anything differently Which means
in all probability youll make the same mistake in the future That will lead to more blame Its acycle that almost always ends badly
Recently a CEO I work with fired Bill one of his portfolio managers He didnt fire him for poor
results He fired him for blaming his poor investment results on everything except himself The CEO
was only looking for one thing from Bill Awareness of the mistakes he was making But Bill
continued to deny his role in his poorly performing portfolio
The CEO was right to fire him If Bill couldnt admit to the mistakes he was making why wouldnt he
make the same mistake tomorrow Would you trust Bill with your money
Thankfully theres a simple solution Take the blame for anything youre even remotely responsible
for
This solution transforms all the negative consequences of blaming others into positive ones It
solidifies relationships improves your credibility makes you and others happy reinforces
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transparency improves self-esteem increases learning and solves problems Its as close as Ive
ever seen to a panacea
Contrary to what you may feel in the moment taking the blame is the power move strengthening
your position not weakening it First of all because once youve taken responsibility for something
you can do something about it which gives you strength
But also because it takes courage to own your blame and that shows strength It immediately
silences anyone who might try to blame you mdash whats the point if youve already taken the blame
The blame you conversation is over Now you can focus on solving problems
Being defensive makes you slippery Taking responsibility makes you t rustworthy You might think it
puts you at risk because others may see an opening and jump on you But thats not what usually
happens
I was running a strategy offsite at a high technology company with a CEO and his direct reports We
were looking at some problematic numbers from the previous quarter One by one each leader was
trying to argue that he or she was not ultimately responsible for the issues pointing to the other
areas that contributed
Then Dave the head of sales spoke up He proceeded to list the mistakes he felt he personally
made and what he wanted to do differently in the future
His colleagues didnt pile on In fact they did the opposite They began to say things to dilute his
blame One by one they started taking responsibility for their role in the challenges the company
was facing
Taking the blame serves as an example When you take the blame others get embarrassed about
not taking the blame themselves When they see you dont get shot they feel emboldened to take
the risk
And even if they dont you will now be able to avoid making the mistakes youve made in the past
which ultimately is the key to your success
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By taking the blame Dave changed the course of that meeting and as it turns out the course of the
company He also got promoted
There is one tricky part of this To take the blame you need to have confidence in yourself and your
capability You need the personal strength to accept failure You need enough self-esteem to believe
you can learn from your mistakes and succeed another day You need to accept failure as part of life
and not a final sentence on who you are as a person
In other words its OK to step on a dog It happens Just dont blame the dog
Names have been changed
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Well done - what an attention grabber that headline is Of course things
are a bit more nuanced than that as Peters blog and everyones comm ents clarify I cant speak
so
much about the CEO and corporate leadership world but as an addiction specialis t working
clinically Ill pipe in about personal relations hips that leaks into the work worldLets say Person A
socializes failure and personalizes success (If theres problems its your fault or look what you
did if theres success I made it happen or look what I did) Person B personalizes failure and
socializes success (if theres problems its my fault or I played a role in this problem if theres
success we did it together or I did it with your help)When both parties place blame for problems
on one of them even when success es can be s hared it creates a power differential that few
relationships can sus tain We have terms for these relationship patterns Abuse Bullying
Domes tic Violence Sexual HarassmentFar better to shift away from the Blam e Game al together
What Peter is really talking about is what I call The Respons ibility Game
httpwwwhabitsintohealthco each can play a role in changing our world by socializing ANDpersonalizing failure (When things go wrong lets solve this together I take ownership of my role
and I expect the sam e from you when things go well lets each take ownersh ip together and
celebrate our success)
Michael Anne Conley
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I fully agree I work and live in Italy and my most of my colleagues are only able to blame the other
ones instead of assuming their responsibilities This behavior is really time consuming and
leads now where They only wait to see what the other ones are doing instead of m oving forward
working towards the objectives of the company
Francesca Evangelisti
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Great post The world will be a better place when more people start to take responsibility for
themselves Personal ly I cant make anyone els e do anything but I can do y best to take my
respons ibility up a notch including owning and learning from my mis takes
David Kais er PhD
Executive Coach
wwwdarkmatterconsultingcom
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Great comm ent People are not able anymore to look ins ide thems elves and doubt about
what they are doing and saying Indeed you need courage to do it but when you do it you
respect yourself much more and you will receive more respect
Francesca Evangelisti
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Thank you Peter for this phenom enal writting Now I know that to take the blame m eans to be
respons ible In addition to take the blame serves as a point of departure to a solution
Erick Sithole
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Just make sure you dont work in such a risk adverse environment that you get reprimanded for taking responsibi lity Some organizations (consulting) are so toxic and risk adverse that they dont
want to show anything that could poss ibly end up with the firm being responsible
And so the blam e keeps going round and round as s tandard operating procedures unti l the firm
can find just the right person to disposition These firms don t want their employees to take
respons ibility and so the cycle continues
guest
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Outstanding Highly relevant to my work managing school based teams and coaching principals
Pleleith White
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I needed to hear this today - too bad I didnt see it about 2 hours earlier
It reminds m e of a goalie coachs advice to my son - the goalie needs to take the blame for every
goal scored because ultim ately its hisher res ponsibil ity to stop the puck It doesnt matter that 5
other players let a s hooter get in position its on him Only by taking the heat for every goal scored
can you get the 5 other players to see their own role in the play After all a loss is a loss no matter
whos at fault
Yvonne Moncovich
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Peter youre right on target - if people wont acknowledge what they did wrong theyll keep on doing
it Applies equally well to our personal lives Ron
Rongentile
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Its a good mess age to encourage people to convert blame game into problem-sharing and
problem-solving
Marianne McLaughlin
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I agree with CS King in that I als o learned in the m ilitary how to be an honest and e ffective leader
JJ
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who accepts responsibility and makes oneself accountable That real approach does work in the
mili tary subculture-almos t every time and there are reasons for this which are not really relevant
here
Not so m uch in the corporate culture My corporate experience (30 years) is chock full of blamers
liars cheats and thieves People who are smaller than the positions which they hold and less
than up to the challenge of facing reality in favor of protecting their own reputations and res umes
But they are that way for a good reason They are taught to be that way by the manner in which
they are treated by their organizations Corporations tend to favor leaders who can circumvent
getting stink on them by any means poss ible that includes blaming their fellow team m embers
and subordinates We all know many examples of this type behavior-make next quarters
numbers look good no matter what
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I agree with the point that language is a powerful driver of behavior and response Regardless of
where you stand on the notion of taking owners hip and res ponsibi lity for your actions (good bador indifferent) it is a powerful act I think you did a great job of highlighting that power Peter Time
and again where there is deficiency in the respons iveness of the senior teams I work with it is
usually because no one is choos ing to be accountable for their actions Taking the blame is but
one step in bui lding a healthy regard for the risk-taking resilience and res ponsiveness that is
required for our organizations to be successful
Thanks for such a thought-providing pos t
Andrew Marshall
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I agree with the comment about shi fiting away from the term blame as it does have a very
negative connotation I think it is better to step up and take responsib ility for our actions and learn
what we did well and then also examine what we will do different next time Basic s elf-coaching
approach to any situation In my experience when you take this approach i t encourages others to
examine what they will do different the next time but als o reinforces the positives that they want to
continue to do in the future
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Robert I agree with framing things out positively But learning involves experience which
obviously requires looking back I think Peter nailed it by focusing on respons ibility
learninggrowth and leading If more people viewed things this way wed have a much s tronger
sense of mutual respect and in all probability a heckuva lot more s uccess
Rcalvanico
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This is a subject near and dear to m y heart I learned in the military that the leader of any group is
the one who takes respons ibility for the si tuation and actively works to solve the present problem
whether the fault or failure lay with them or not The ability to see that changes must be m ade and
actions taken and the willingness to take respons ibility for the action and the outcome is an
essential ingredient for leadership
Failure is also an ess ential ingredient It is where the greatest learning comes from We have
become s o focused on success that many people fear failure or fear admitting it The wave of
positive thinking seeks to avoid the impact of failure but I believe it is best em braced I believe
this is an advantage many creatives have The creative process is one of exploration adventure
and experimentation Things are bound to fail and m any creatives know that success is the
exception and not the norm but often the best and mos t beautiful things com e from mis steps
That is one of the reasons why this Wins ton Churchill quote has always been important to me
Success is not final Failure is not fatal It is the courage to carry on which counts Humanbeings are s o remarkable because we cons istently pick up the pieces and carry on regardless
C S King
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This is a subject near and dear to m y heart I learned in the military that the leader of any group is
the one who takes respons ibility for the si tuation and actively works to solve the present problem
C S King
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whether the fault or failure lay with them or not The ability to see that changes must be m ade and
actions taken and the willingness to take respons ibility for the action and the outcome is an
essential ingredient for leadership
Failure is also an ess ential ingredient It is where the greatest learning comes from We have
become s o focused on success that many people fear failure or fear admitting it The wave of
positive thinking seeks to avoid the impact of failure but I believe it is best em braced I believe
this is an advantage many creatives have The creative process is one of exploration adventure
and experimentation Things are bound to fail and m any creatives know that success is the
exception and not the norm but often the best and mos t beautiful things com e from mis steps
That is one of the reasons why this Wins ton Churchill quote has always been important to me
Success is not final Failure is not fatal It is the courage to carry on which counts Human
beings are s o remarkable because we cons istently pick up the pieces and carry on regardless
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Great post Peter While I do agree with Robert that blame is a loaded term I think preciselybecause its such a trigger point its im portant to use i t Otherwise its too easy to sidestep I also
like how you frame accepting blame as a power m ove I agree completely It takes a high degree
of personal power to accept respons ibility and to see what one can do to turn around a situation
The sad fact is as you point out no matter how high our positional power is creating radical
change comes down to personal power
Julie Diamond Leadership development consultant coach and trainer
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I agree with your point here but my view is a bit different Whether its in personal life or in the
busines s world whe ther were talking about customer service performance reviews etc we need
to shift away from blame totally because the term has a high emotional im pact I prefer to think
about personal responsibility and accountability and HOW TO IMPROVE THINGS in the future and
present Blame is looking backwards
I written some posts on this re business at httpwork911comarticlesbl and Blaming Is A
Losing Game at httpwork911comcommunicati Also Blame Doesnt Improve Customer
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I was at a party in Greenwich Village in New York City It was crowded with about twice as many
people as the space comfortably fit There was a dog in the mix too But it was a casual event and
we all spent a lot of time in the kitchen cooking and cleaning
I was at the sink washing dishes when I heard the dog yelp behind me I turned just in time to see a
woman curse at the dog as it dashed out of the kitchen She had obviously just stepped on his foot
or tail
Watch out she shouted after the dog then saw me looking at her and added Hes always in the
way
Really You step on a dog and then you blame the dog Who does that
Actually a lot of us do
We start blaming others at an early age usually to escape parental anger and punishment but also
to preserve our own self-esteem and self-image Then the behavior sticks often well into our
adulthood I mdash and I am sure you mdash see people in organizations point fingers all the time
Sometimes its at a departmental level A struggling sales group blames a poor product while the
product people blame an ineffectual sales team or maybe lax manufacturing Blaming a department
or a product feels safer than blaming a person since it appears less personal can pass as an
attempt at organizational improvement and might seem less defensive But its counter-productive
as the transparency of culpability betrays its disguises
A few years ago I sat at a table with the leaders of a major stock exchange They were struggling
with setting goals for the year The CEO to whom they all reported was not in the room
I asked them what was getting in the way We need direction from senior leadership they
answered in agreement
Fenley Sue Liechti
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6 The Two Most Important Words
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Seriously I was stunned Look around I said raising my voice a little Everyone in the
organization is looking for direction from you You are senior leadership
No the head of something answered with the others nodding The CEO isnt here
I retorted Youre blaming the CEO Youre waiting for him to tell you what to do At your level
Really
An awkward silence followed Then we got to work turning the company around
Blaming others is a poor strategy Not simply because everyone can see through it Or because its
dishonest Or because it destroys relationships Or even because while trying to preserve our self-
esteem it actually weakens it Theres a more essential reason why blame is a bad idea Blame
prevents learning
If something isnt your fault then theres no reason for you to do anything differently Which means
in all probability youll make the same mistake in the future That will lead to more blame Its acycle that almost always ends badly
Recently a CEO I work with fired Bill one of his portfolio managers He didnt fire him for poor
results He fired him for blaming his poor investment results on everything except himself The CEO
was only looking for one thing from Bill Awareness of the mistakes he was making But Bill
continued to deny his role in his poorly performing portfolio
The CEO was right to fire him If Bill couldnt admit to the mistakes he was making why wouldnt he
make the same mistake tomorrow Would you trust Bill with your money
Thankfully theres a simple solution Take the blame for anything youre even remotely responsible
for
This solution transforms all the negative consequences of blaming others into positive ones It
solidifies relationships improves your credibility makes you and others happy reinforces
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transparency improves self-esteem increases learning and solves problems Its as close as Ive
ever seen to a panacea
Contrary to what you may feel in the moment taking the blame is the power move strengthening
your position not weakening it First of all because once youve taken responsibility for something
you can do something about it which gives you strength
But also because it takes courage to own your blame and that shows strength It immediately
silences anyone who might try to blame you mdash whats the point if youve already taken the blame
The blame you conversation is over Now you can focus on solving problems
Being defensive makes you slippery Taking responsibility makes you t rustworthy You might think it
puts you at risk because others may see an opening and jump on you But thats not what usually
happens
I was running a strategy offsite at a high technology company with a CEO and his direct reports We
were looking at some problematic numbers from the previous quarter One by one each leader was
trying to argue that he or she was not ultimately responsible for the issues pointing to the other
areas that contributed
Then Dave the head of sales spoke up He proceeded to list the mistakes he felt he personally
made and what he wanted to do differently in the future
His colleagues didnt pile on In fact they did the opposite They began to say things to dilute his
blame One by one they started taking responsibility for their role in the challenges the company
was facing
Taking the blame serves as an example When you take the blame others get embarrassed about
not taking the blame themselves When they see you dont get shot they feel emboldened to take
the risk
And even if they dont you will now be able to avoid making the mistakes youve made in the past
which ultimately is the key to your success
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By taking the blame Dave changed the course of that meeting and as it turns out the course of the
company He also got promoted
There is one tricky part of this To take the blame you need to have confidence in yourself and your
capability You need the personal strength to accept failure You need enough self-esteem to believe
you can learn from your mistakes and succeed another day You need to accept failure as part of life
and not a final sentence on who you are as a person
In other words its OK to step on a dog It happens Just dont blame the dog
Names have been changed
More blog posts by Peter Bregman
More on Leadership Managing yourself
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Well done - what an attention grabber that headline is Of course things
are a bit more nuanced than that as Peters blog and everyones comm ents clarify I cant speak
so
much about the CEO and corporate leadership world but as an addiction specialis t working
clinically Ill pipe in about personal relations hips that leaks into the work worldLets say Person A
socializes failure and personalizes success (If theres problems its your fault or look what you
did if theres success I made it happen or look what I did) Person B personalizes failure and
socializes success (if theres problems its my fault or I played a role in this problem if theres
success we did it together or I did it with your help)When both parties place blame for problems
on one of them even when success es can be s hared it creates a power differential that few
relationships can sus tain We have terms for these relationship patterns Abuse Bullying
Domes tic Violence Sexual HarassmentFar better to shift away from the Blam e Game al together
What Peter is really talking about is what I call The Respons ibility Game
httpwwwhabitsintohealthco each can play a role in changing our world by socializing ANDpersonalizing failure (When things go wrong lets solve this together I take ownership of my role
and I expect the sam e from you when things go well lets each take ownersh ip together and
celebrate our success)
Michael Anne Conley
Like ReplyToday 0415 PM
I fully agree I work and live in Italy and my most of my colleagues are only able to blame the other
ones instead of assuming their responsibilities This behavior is really time consuming and
leads now where They only wait to see what the other ones are doing instead of m oving forward
working towards the objectives of the company
Francesca Evangelisti
Like ReplyToday 0308 PM
David Kaiser Executive Coach Workshop Facilitator Tarot Enthusiast
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Great post The world will be a better place when more people start to take responsibility for
themselves Personal ly I cant make anyone els e do anything but I can do y best to take my
respons ibility up a notch including owning and learning from my mis takes
David Kais er PhD
Executive Coach
wwwdarkmatterconsultingcom
Like ReplyToday 0300 PM
Great comm ent People are not able anymore to look ins ide thems elves and doubt about
what they are doing and saying Indeed you need courage to do it but when you do it you
respect yourself much more and you will receive more respect
Francesca Evangelisti
Like ReplyToday 0324 PM in reply to David Kaiser
Thank you Peter for this phenom enal writting Now I know that to take the blame m eans to be
respons ible In addition to take the blame serves as a point of departure to a solution
Erick Sithole
Like ReplyToday 0240 PM 1 Like
Just make sure you dont work in such a risk adverse environment that you get reprimanded for taking responsibi lity Some organizations (consulting) are so toxic and risk adverse that they dont
want to show anything that could poss ibly end up with the firm being responsible
And so the blam e keeps going round and round as s tandard operating procedures unti l the firm
can find just the right person to disposition These firms don t want their employees to take
respons ibility and so the cycle continues
guest
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I needed to hear this today - too bad I didnt see it about 2 hours earlier
It reminds m e of a goalie coachs advice to my son - the goalie needs to take the blame for every
goal scored because ultim ately its hisher res ponsibil ity to stop the puck It doesnt matter that 5
other players let a s hooter get in position its on him Only by taking the heat for every goal scored
can you get the 5 other players to see their own role in the play After all a loss is a loss no matter
whos at fault
Yvonne Moncovich
Like ReplyToday 0124 PM
Peter youre right on target - if people wont acknowledge what they did wrong theyll keep on doing
it Applies equally well to our personal lives Ron
Rongentile
Like ReplyToday 0107 PM 1 Like
Its a good mess age to encourage people to convert blame game into problem-sharing and
problem-solving
Marianne McLaughlin
Like ReplyToday 0104 PM 1 Like
I agree with CS King in that I als o learned in the m ilitary how to be an honest and e ffective leader
JJ
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who accepts responsibility and makes oneself accountable That real approach does work in the
mili tary subculture-almos t every time and there are reasons for this which are not really relevant
here
Not so m uch in the corporate culture My corporate experience (30 years) is chock full of blamers
liars cheats and thieves People who are smaller than the positions which they hold and less
than up to the challenge of facing reality in favor of protecting their own reputations and res umes
But they are that way for a good reason They are taught to be that way by the manner in which
they are treated by their organizations Corporations tend to favor leaders who can circumvent
getting stink on them by any means poss ible that includes blaming their fellow team m embers
and subordinates We all know many examples of this type behavior-make next quarters
numbers look good no matter what
Like ReplyToday 0103 PM 1 Like
I agree with the point that language is a powerful driver of behavior and response Regardless of
where you stand on the notion of taking owners hip and res ponsibi lity for your actions (good bador indifferent) it is a powerful act I think you did a great job of highlighting that power Peter Time
and again where there is deficiency in the respons iveness of the senior teams I work with it is
usually because no one is choos ing to be accountable for their actions Taking the blame is but
one step in bui lding a healthy regard for the risk-taking resilience and res ponsiveness that is
required for our organizations to be successful
Thanks for such a thought-providing pos t
Andrew Marshall
Like ReplyToday 1256 PM 2 Likes
I agree with the comment about shi fiting away from the term blame as it does have a very
negative connotation I think it is better to step up and take responsib ility for our actions and learn
what we did well and then also examine what we will do different next time Basic s elf-coaching
approach to any situation In my experience when you take this approach i t encourages others to
examine what they will do different the next time but als o reinforces the positives that they want to
continue to do in the future
D Amstutz Sr Director PMO Sage North American RampD
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Robert I agree with framing things out positively But learning involves experience which
obviously requires looking back I think Peter nailed it by focusing on respons ibility
learninggrowth and leading If more people viewed things this way wed have a much s tronger
sense of mutual respect and in all probability a heckuva lot more s uccess
Rcalvanico
Like ReplyToday 1221 PM 1 Like
This is a subject near and dear to m y heart I learned in the military that the leader of any group is
the one who takes respons ibility for the si tuation and actively works to solve the present problem
whether the fault or failure lay with them or not The ability to see that changes must be m ade and
actions taken and the willingness to take respons ibility for the action and the outcome is an
essential ingredient for leadership
Failure is also an ess ential ingredient It is where the greatest learning comes from We have
become s o focused on success that many people fear failure or fear admitting it The wave of
positive thinking seeks to avoid the impact of failure but I believe it is best em braced I believe
this is an advantage many creatives have The creative process is one of exploration adventure
and experimentation Things are bound to fail and m any creatives know that success is the
exception and not the norm but often the best and mos t beautiful things com e from mis steps
That is one of the reasons why this Wins ton Churchill quote has always been important to me
Success is not final Failure is not fatal It is the courage to carry on which counts Humanbeings are s o remarkable because we cons istently pick up the pieces and carry on regardless
C S King
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This is a subject near and dear to m y heart I learned in the military that the leader of any group is
the one who takes respons ibility for the si tuation and actively works to solve the present problem
C S King
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whether the fault or failure lay with them or not The ability to see that changes must be m ade and
actions taken and the willingness to take respons ibility for the action and the outcome is an
essential ingredient for leadership
Failure is also an ess ential ingredient It is where the greatest learning comes from We have
become s o focused on success that many people fear failure or fear admitting it The wave of
positive thinking seeks to avoid the impact of failure but I believe it is best em braced I believe
this is an advantage many creatives have The creative process is one of exploration adventure
and experimentation Things are bound to fail and m any creatives know that success is the
exception and not the norm but often the best and mos t beautiful things com e from mis steps
That is one of the reasons why this Wins ton Churchill quote has always been important to me
Success is not final Failure is not fatal It is the courage to carry on which counts Human
beings are s o remarkable because we cons istently pick up the pieces and carry on regardless
Like ReplyToday 1209 PM
Great post Peter While I do agree with Robert that blame is a loaded term I think preciselybecause its such a trigger point its im portant to use i t Otherwise its too easy to sidestep I also
like how you frame accepting blame as a power m ove I agree completely It takes a high degree
of personal power to accept respons ibility and to see what one can do to turn around a situation
The sad fact is as you point out no matter how high our positional power is creating radical
change comes down to personal power
Julie Diamond Leadership development consultant coach and trainer
Like ReplyToday 1156 AM 1 Like
I agree with your point here but my view is a bit different Whether its in personal life or in the
busines s world whe ther were talking about customer service performance reviews etc we need
to shift away from blame totally because the term has a high emotional im pact I prefer to think
about personal responsibility and accountability and HOW TO IMPROVE THINGS in the future and
present Blame is looking backwards
I written some posts on this re business at httpwork911comarticlesbl and Blaming Is A
Losing Game at httpwork911comcommunicati Also Blame Doesnt Improve Customer
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Seriously I was stunned Look around I said raising my voice a little Everyone in the
organization is looking for direction from you You are senior leadership
No the head of something answered with the others nodding The CEO isnt here
I retorted Youre blaming the CEO Youre waiting for him to tell you what to do At your level
Really
An awkward silence followed Then we got to work turning the company around
Blaming others is a poor strategy Not simply because everyone can see through it Or because its
dishonest Or because it destroys relationships Or even because while trying to preserve our self-
esteem it actually weakens it Theres a more essential reason why blame is a bad idea Blame
prevents learning
If something isnt your fault then theres no reason for you to do anything differently Which means
in all probability youll make the same mistake in the future That will lead to more blame Its acycle that almost always ends badly
Recently a CEO I work with fired Bill one of his portfolio managers He didnt fire him for poor
results He fired him for blaming his poor investment results on everything except himself The CEO
was only looking for one thing from Bill Awareness of the mistakes he was making But Bill
continued to deny his role in his poorly performing portfolio
The CEO was right to fire him If Bill couldnt admit to the mistakes he was making why wouldnt he
make the same mistake tomorrow Would you trust Bill with your money
Thankfully theres a simple solution Take the blame for anything youre even remotely responsible
for
This solution transforms all the negative consequences of blaming others into positive ones It
solidifies relationships improves your credibility makes you and others happy reinforces
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transparency improves self-esteem increases learning and solves problems Its as close as Ive
ever seen to a panacea
Contrary to what you may feel in the moment taking the blame is the power move strengthening
your position not weakening it First of all because once youve taken responsibility for something
you can do something about it which gives you strength
But also because it takes courage to own your blame and that shows strength It immediately
silences anyone who might try to blame you mdash whats the point if youve already taken the blame
The blame you conversation is over Now you can focus on solving problems
Being defensive makes you slippery Taking responsibility makes you t rustworthy You might think it
puts you at risk because others may see an opening and jump on you But thats not what usually
happens
I was running a strategy offsite at a high technology company with a CEO and his direct reports We
were looking at some problematic numbers from the previous quarter One by one each leader was
trying to argue that he or she was not ultimately responsible for the issues pointing to the other
areas that contributed
Then Dave the head of sales spoke up He proceeded to list the mistakes he felt he personally
made and what he wanted to do differently in the future
His colleagues didnt pile on In fact they did the opposite They began to say things to dilute his
blame One by one they started taking responsibility for their role in the challenges the company
was facing
Taking the blame serves as an example When you take the blame others get embarrassed about
not taking the blame themselves When they see you dont get shot they feel emboldened to take
the risk
And even if they dont you will now be able to avoid making the mistakes youve made in the past
which ultimately is the key to your success
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PETER BREGMANPeter Bregman is a s trategic advisor to CEOs and their leadersh ip teams His latest book
is 18 Minutes Find Your Focus Master Distraction and Get the Right Things Done To
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By taking the blame Dave changed the course of that meeting and as it turns out the course of the
company He also got promoted
There is one tricky part of this To take the blame you need to have confidence in yourself and your
capability You need the personal strength to accept failure You need enough self-esteem to believe
you can learn from your mistakes and succeed another day You need to accept failure as part of life
and not a final sentence on who you are as a person
In other words its OK to step on a dog It happens Just dont blame the dog
Names have been changed
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Well done - what an attention grabber that headline is Of course things
are a bit more nuanced than that as Peters blog and everyones comm ents clarify I cant speak
so
much about the CEO and corporate leadership world but as an addiction specialis t working
clinically Ill pipe in about personal relations hips that leaks into the work worldLets say Person A
socializes failure and personalizes success (If theres problems its your fault or look what you
did if theres success I made it happen or look what I did) Person B personalizes failure and
socializes success (if theres problems its my fault or I played a role in this problem if theres
success we did it together or I did it with your help)When both parties place blame for problems
on one of them even when success es can be s hared it creates a power differential that few
relationships can sus tain We have terms for these relationship patterns Abuse Bullying
Domes tic Violence Sexual HarassmentFar better to shift away from the Blam e Game al together
What Peter is really talking about is what I call The Respons ibility Game
httpwwwhabitsintohealthco each can play a role in changing our world by socializing ANDpersonalizing failure (When things go wrong lets solve this together I take ownership of my role
and I expect the sam e from you when things go well lets each take ownersh ip together and
celebrate our success)
Michael Anne Conley
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I fully agree I work and live in Italy and my most of my colleagues are only able to blame the other
ones instead of assuming their responsibilities This behavior is really time consuming and
leads now where They only wait to see what the other ones are doing instead of m oving forward
working towards the objectives of the company
Francesca Evangelisti
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Great post The world will be a better place when more people start to take responsibility for
themselves Personal ly I cant make anyone els e do anything but I can do y best to take my
respons ibility up a notch including owning and learning from my mis takes
David Kais er PhD
Executive Coach
wwwdarkmatterconsultingcom
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Great comm ent People are not able anymore to look ins ide thems elves and doubt about
what they are doing and saying Indeed you need courage to do it but when you do it you
respect yourself much more and you will receive more respect
Francesca Evangelisti
Like ReplyToday 0324 PM in reply to David Kaiser
Thank you Peter for this phenom enal writting Now I know that to take the blame m eans to be
respons ible In addition to take the blame serves as a point of departure to a solution
Erick Sithole
Like ReplyToday 0240 PM 1 Like
Just make sure you dont work in such a risk adverse environment that you get reprimanded for taking responsibi lity Some organizations (consulting) are so toxic and risk adverse that they dont
want to show anything that could poss ibly end up with the firm being responsible
And so the blam e keeps going round and round as s tandard operating procedures unti l the firm
can find just the right person to disposition These firms don t want their employees to take
respons ibility and so the cycle continues
guest
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Outstanding Highly relevant to my work managing school based teams and coaching principals
Pleleith White
Like ReplyToday 0152 PM
I needed to hear this today - too bad I didnt see it about 2 hours earlier
It reminds m e of a goalie coachs advice to my son - the goalie needs to take the blame for every
goal scored because ultim ately its hisher res ponsibil ity to stop the puck It doesnt matter that 5
other players let a s hooter get in position its on him Only by taking the heat for every goal scored
can you get the 5 other players to see their own role in the play After all a loss is a loss no matter
whos at fault
Yvonne Moncovich
Like ReplyToday 0124 PM
Peter youre right on target - if people wont acknowledge what they did wrong theyll keep on doing
it Applies equally well to our personal lives Ron
Rongentile
Like ReplyToday 0107 PM 1 Like
Its a good mess age to encourage people to convert blame game into problem-sharing and
problem-solving
Marianne McLaughlin
Like ReplyToday 0104 PM 1 Like
I agree with CS King in that I als o learned in the m ilitary how to be an honest and e ffective leader
JJ
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who accepts responsibility and makes oneself accountable That real approach does work in the
mili tary subculture-almos t every time and there are reasons for this which are not really relevant
here
Not so m uch in the corporate culture My corporate experience (30 years) is chock full of blamers
liars cheats and thieves People who are smaller than the positions which they hold and less
than up to the challenge of facing reality in favor of protecting their own reputations and res umes
But they are that way for a good reason They are taught to be that way by the manner in which
they are treated by their organizations Corporations tend to favor leaders who can circumvent
getting stink on them by any means poss ible that includes blaming their fellow team m embers
and subordinates We all know many examples of this type behavior-make next quarters
numbers look good no matter what
Like ReplyToday 0103 PM 1 Like
I agree with the point that language is a powerful driver of behavior and response Regardless of
where you stand on the notion of taking owners hip and res ponsibi lity for your actions (good bador indifferent) it is a powerful act I think you did a great job of highlighting that power Peter Time
and again where there is deficiency in the respons iveness of the senior teams I work with it is
usually because no one is choos ing to be accountable for their actions Taking the blame is but
one step in bui lding a healthy regard for the risk-taking resilience and res ponsiveness that is
required for our organizations to be successful
Thanks for such a thought-providing pos t
Andrew Marshall
Like ReplyToday 1256 PM 2 Likes
I agree with the comment about shi fiting away from the term blame as it does have a very
negative connotation I think it is better to step up and take responsib ility for our actions and learn
what we did well and then also examine what we will do different next time Basic s elf-coaching
approach to any situation In my experience when you take this approach i t encourages others to
examine what they will do different the next time but als o reinforces the positives that they want to
continue to do in the future
D Amstutz Sr Director PMO Sage North American RampD
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Robert I agree with framing things out positively But learning involves experience which
obviously requires looking back I think Peter nailed it by focusing on respons ibility
learninggrowth and leading If more people viewed things this way wed have a much s tronger
sense of mutual respect and in all probability a heckuva lot more s uccess
Rcalvanico
Like ReplyToday 1221 PM 1 Like
This is a subject near and dear to m y heart I learned in the military that the leader of any group is
the one who takes respons ibility for the si tuation and actively works to solve the present problem
whether the fault or failure lay with them or not The ability to see that changes must be m ade and
actions taken and the willingness to take respons ibility for the action and the outcome is an
essential ingredient for leadership
Failure is also an ess ential ingredient It is where the greatest learning comes from We have
become s o focused on success that many people fear failure or fear admitting it The wave of
positive thinking seeks to avoid the impact of failure but I believe it is best em braced I believe
this is an advantage many creatives have The creative process is one of exploration adventure
and experimentation Things are bound to fail and m any creatives know that success is the
exception and not the norm but often the best and mos t beautiful things com e from mis steps
That is one of the reasons why this Wins ton Churchill quote has always been important to me
Success is not final Failure is not fatal It is the courage to carry on which counts Humanbeings are s o remarkable because we cons istently pick up the pieces and carry on regardless
C S King
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This is a subject near and dear to m y heart I learned in the military that the leader of any group is
the one who takes respons ibility for the si tuation and actively works to solve the present problem
C S King
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whether the fault or failure lay with them or not The ability to see that changes must be m ade and
actions taken and the willingness to take respons ibility for the action and the outcome is an
essential ingredient for leadership
Failure is also an ess ential ingredient It is where the greatest learning comes from We have
become s o focused on success that many people fear failure or fear admitting it The wave of
positive thinking seeks to avoid the impact of failure but I believe it is best em braced I believe
this is an advantage many creatives have The creative process is one of exploration adventure
and experimentation Things are bound to fail and m any creatives know that success is the
exception and not the norm but often the best and mos t beautiful things com e from mis steps
That is one of the reasons why this Wins ton Churchill quote has always been important to me
Success is not final Failure is not fatal It is the courage to carry on which counts Human
beings are s o remarkable because we cons istently pick up the pieces and carry on regardless
Like ReplyToday 1209 PM
Great post Peter While I do agree with Robert that blame is a loaded term I think preciselybecause its such a trigger point its im portant to use i t Otherwise its too easy to sidestep I also
like how you frame accepting blame as a power m ove I agree completely It takes a high degree
of personal power to accept respons ibility and to see what one can do to turn around a situation
The sad fact is as you point out no matter how high our positional power is creating radical
change comes down to personal power
Julie Diamond Leadership development consultant coach and trainer
Like ReplyToday 1156 AM 1 Like
I agree with your point here but my view is a bit different Whether its in personal life or in the
busines s world whe ther were talking about customer service performance reviews etc we need
to shift away from blame totally because the term has a high emotional im pact I prefer to think
about personal responsibility and accountability and HOW TO IMPROVE THINGS in the future and
present Blame is looking backwards
I written some posts on this re business at httpwork911comarticlesbl and Blaming Is A
Losing Game at httpwork911comcommunicati Also Blame Doesnt Improve Customer
Robert Bacal hellip Author consultant trainer on performance management customer se
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transparency improves self-esteem increases learning and solves problems Its as close as Ive
ever seen to a panacea
Contrary to what you may feel in the moment taking the blame is the power move strengthening
your position not weakening it First of all because once youve taken responsibility for something
you can do something about it which gives you strength
But also because it takes courage to own your blame and that shows strength It immediately
silences anyone who might try to blame you mdash whats the point if youve already taken the blame
The blame you conversation is over Now you can focus on solving problems
Being defensive makes you slippery Taking responsibility makes you t rustworthy You might think it
puts you at risk because others may see an opening and jump on you But thats not what usually
happens
I was running a strategy offsite at a high technology company with a CEO and his direct reports We
were looking at some problematic numbers from the previous quarter One by one each leader was
trying to argue that he or she was not ultimately responsible for the issues pointing to the other
areas that contributed
Then Dave the head of sales spoke up He proceeded to list the mistakes he felt he personally
made and what he wanted to do differently in the future
His colleagues didnt pile on In fact they did the opposite They began to say things to dilute his
blame One by one they started taking responsibility for their role in the challenges the company
was facing
Taking the blame serves as an example When you take the blame others get embarrassed about
not taking the blame themselves When they see you dont get shot they feel emboldened to take
the risk
And even if they dont you will now be able to avoid making the mistakes youve made in the past
which ultimately is the key to your success
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By taking the blame Dave changed the course of that meeting and as it turns out the course of the
company He also got promoted
There is one tricky part of this To take the blame you need to have confidence in yourself and your
capability You need the personal strength to accept failure You need enough self-esteem to believe
you can learn from your mistakes and succeed another day You need to accept failure as part of life
and not a final sentence on who you are as a person
In other words its OK to step on a dog It happens Just dont blame the dog
Names have been changed
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Well done - what an attention grabber that headline is Of course things
are a bit more nuanced than that as Peters blog and everyones comm ents clarify I cant speak
so
much about the CEO and corporate leadership world but as an addiction specialis t working
clinically Ill pipe in about personal relations hips that leaks into the work worldLets say Person A
socializes failure and personalizes success (If theres problems its your fault or look what you
did if theres success I made it happen or look what I did) Person B personalizes failure and
socializes success (if theres problems its my fault or I played a role in this problem if theres
success we did it together or I did it with your help)When both parties place blame for problems
on one of them even when success es can be s hared it creates a power differential that few
relationships can sus tain We have terms for these relationship patterns Abuse Bullying
Domes tic Violence Sexual HarassmentFar better to shift away from the Blam e Game al together
What Peter is really talking about is what I call The Respons ibility Game
httpwwwhabitsintohealthco each can play a role in changing our world by socializing ANDpersonalizing failure (When things go wrong lets solve this together I take ownership of my role
and I expect the sam e from you when things go well lets each take ownersh ip together and
celebrate our success)
Michael Anne Conley
Like ReplyToday 0415 PM
I fully agree I work and live in Italy and my most of my colleagues are only able to blame the other
ones instead of assuming their responsibilities This behavior is really time consuming and
leads now where They only wait to see what the other ones are doing instead of m oving forward
working towards the objectives of the company
Francesca Evangelisti
Like ReplyToday 0308 PM
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Great post The world will be a better place when more people start to take responsibility for
themselves Personal ly I cant make anyone els e do anything but I can do y best to take my
respons ibility up a notch including owning and learning from my mis takes
David Kais er PhD
Executive Coach
wwwdarkmatterconsultingcom
Like ReplyToday 0300 PM
Great comm ent People are not able anymore to look ins ide thems elves and doubt about
what they are doing and saying Indeed you need courage to do it but when you do it you
respect yourself much more and you will receive more respect
Francesca Evangelisti
Like ReplyToday 0324 PM in reply to David Kaiser
Thank you Peter for this phenom enal writting Now I know that to take the blame m eans to be
respons ible In addition to take the blame serves as a point of departure to a solution
Erick Sithole
Like ReplyToday 0240 PM 1 Like
Just make sure you dont work in such a risk adverse environment that you get reprimanded for taking responsibi lity Some organizations (consulting) are so toxic and risk adverse that they dont
want to show anything that could poss ibly end up with the firm being responsible
And so the blam e keeps going round and round as s tandard operating procedures unti l the firm
can find just the right person to disposition These firms don t want their employees to take
respons ibility and so the cycle continues
guest
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Outstanding Highly relevant to my work managing school based teams and coaching principals
Pleleith White
Like ReplyToday 0152 PM
I needed to hear this today - too bad I didnt see it about 2 hours earlier
It reminds m e of a goalie coachs advice to my son - the goalie needs to take the blame for every
goal scored because ultim ately its hisher res ponsibil ity to stop the puck It doesnt matter that 5
other players let a s hooter get in position its on him Only by taking the heat for every goal scored
can you get the 5 other players to see their own role in the play After all a loss is a loss no matter
whos at fault
Yvonne Moncovich
Like ReplyToday 0124 PM
Peter youre right on target - if people wont acknowledge what they did wrong theyll keep on doing
it Applies equally well to our personal lives Ron
Rongentile
Like ReplyToday 0107 PM 1 Like
Its a good mess age to encourage people to convert blame game into problem-sharing and
problem-solving
Marianne McLaughlin
Like ReplyToday 0104 PM 1 Like
I agree with CS King in that I als o learned in the m ilitary how to be an honest and e ffective leader
JJ
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who accepts responsibility and makes oneself accountable That real approach does work in the
mili tary subculture-almos t every time and there are reasons for this which are not really relevant
here
Not so m uch in the corporate culture My corporate experience (30 years) is chock full of blamers
liars cheats and thieves People who are smaller than the positions which they hold and less
than up to the challenge of facing reality in favor of protecting their own reputations and res umes
But they are that way for a good reason They are taught to be that way by the manner in which
they are treated by their organizations Corporations tend to favor leaders who can circumvent
getting stink on them by any means poss ible that includes blaming their fellow team m embers
and subordinates We all know many examples of this type behavior-make next quarters
numbers look good no matter what
Like ReplyToday 0103 PM 1 Like
I agree with the point that language is a powerful driver of behavior and response Regardless of
where you stand on the notion of taking owners hip and res ponsibi lity for your actions (good bador indifferent) it is a powerful act I think you did a great job of highlighting that power Peter Time
and again where there is deficiency in the respons iveness of the senior teams I work with it is
usually because no one is choos ing to be accountable for their actions Taking the blame is but
one step in bui lding a healthy regard for the risk-taking resilience and res ponsiveness that is
required for our organizations to be successful
Thanks for such a thought-providing pos t
Andrew Marshall
Like ReplyToday 1256 PM 2 Likes
I agree with the comment about shi fiting away from the term blame as it does have a very
negative connotation I think it is better to step up and take responsib ility for our actions and learn
what we did well and then also examine what we will do different next time Basic s elf-coaching
approach to any situation In my experience when you take this approach i t encourages others to
examine what they will do different the next time but als o reinforces the positives that they want to
continue to do in the future
D Amstutz Sr Director PMO Sage North American RampD
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Robert I agree with framing things out positively But learning involves experience which
obviously requires looking back I think Peter nailed it by focusing on respons ibility
learninggrowth and leading If more people viewed things this way wed have a much s tronger
sense of mutual respect and in all probability a heckuva lot more s uccess
Rcalvanico
Like ReplyToday 1221 PM 1 Like
This is a subject near and dear to m y heart I learned in the military that the leader of any group is
the one who takes respons ibility for the si tuation and actively works to solve the present problem
whether the fault or failure lay with them or not The ability to see that changes must be m ade and
actions taken and the willingness to take respons ibility for the action and the outcome is an
essential ingredient for leadership
Failure is also an ess ential ingredient It is where the greatest learning comes from We have
become s o focused on success that many people fear failure or fear admitting it The wave of
positive thinking seeks to avoid the impact of failure but I believe it is best em braced I believe
this is an advantage many creatives have The creative process is one of exploration adventure
and experimentation Things are bound to fail and m any creatives know that success is the
exception and not the norm but often the best and mos t beautiful things com e from mis steps
That is one of the reasons why this Wins ton Churchill quote has always been important to me
Success is not final Failure is not fatal It is the courage to carry on which counts Humanbeings are s o remarkable because we cons istently pick up the pieces and carry on regardless
C S King
Like ReplyToday 1210 PM 2 Likes
This is a subject near and dear to m y heart I learned in the military that the leader of any group is
the one who takes respons ibility for the si tuation and actively works to solve the present problem
C S King
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whether the fault or failure lay with them or not The ability to see that changes must be m ade and
actions taken and the willingness to take respons ibility for the action and the outcome is an
essential ingredient for leadership
Failure is also an ess ential ingredient It is where the greatest learning comes from We have
become s o focused on success that many people fear failure or fear admitting it The wave of
positive thinking seeks to avoid the impact of failure but I believe it is best em braced I believe
this is an advantage many creatives have The creative process is one of exploration adventure
and experimentation Things are bound to fail and m any creatives know that success is the
exception and not the norm but often the best and mos t beautiful things com e from mis steps
That is one of the reasons why this Wins ton Churchill quote has always been important to me
Success is not final Failure is not fatal It is the courage to carry on which counts Human
beings are s o remarkable because we cons istently pick up the pieces and carry on regardless
Like ReplyToday 1209 PM
Great post Peter While I do agree with Robert that blame is a loaded term I think preciselybecause its such a trigger point its im portant to use i t Otherwise its too easy to sidestep I also
like how you frame accepting blame as a power m ove I agree completely It takes a high degree
of personal power to accept respons ibility and to see what one can do to turn around a situation
The sad fact is as you point out no matter how high our positional power is creating radical
change comes down to personal power
Julie Diamond Leadership development consultant coach and trainer
Like ReplyToday 1156 AM 1 Like
I agree with your point here but my view is a bit different Whether its in personal life or in the
busines s world whe ther were talking about customer service performance reviews etc we need
to shift away from blame totally because the term has a high emotional im pact I prefer to think
about personal responsibility and accountability and HOW TO IMPROVE THINGS in the future and
present Blame is looking backwards
I written some posts on this re business at httpwork911comarticlesbl and Blaming Is A
Losing Game at httpwork911comcommunicati Also Blame Doesnt Improve Customer
Robert Bacal hellip Author consultant trainer on performance management customer se
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PREVIOUSHow to Us e Temptation to Strengthen Your Willpower
Like
By taking the blame Dave changed the course of that meeting and as it turns out the course of the
company He also got promoted
There is one tricky part of this To take the blame you need to have confidence in yourself and your
capability You need the personal strength to accept failure You need enough self-esteem to believe
you can learn from your mistakes and succeed another day You need to accept failure as part of life
and not a final sentence on who you are as a person
In other words its OK to step on a dog It happens Just dont blame the dog
Names have been changed
More blog posts by Peter Bregman
More on Leadership Managing yourself
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Well done - what an attention grabber that headline is Of course things
are a bit more nuanced than that as Peters blog and everyones comm ents clarify I cant speak
so
much about the CEO and corporate leadership world but as an addiction specialis t working
clinically Ill pipe in about personal relations hips that leaks into the work worldLets say Person A
socializes failure and personalizes success (If theres problems its your fault or look what you
did if theres success I made it happen or look what I did) Person B personalizes failure and
socializes success (if theres problems its my fault or I played a role in this problem if theres
success we did it together or I did it with your help)When both parties place blame for problems
on one of them even when success es can be s hared it creates a power differential that few
relationships can sus tain We have terms for these relationship patterns Abuse Bullying
Domes tic Violence Sexual HarassmentFar better to shift away from the Blam e Game al together
What Peter is really talking about is what I call The Respons ibility Game
httpwwwhabitsintohealthco each can play a role in changing our world by socializing ANDpersonalizing failure (When things go wrong lets solve this together I take ownership of my role
and I expect the sam e from you when things go well lets each take ownersh ip together and
celebrate our success)
Michael Anne Conley
Like ReplyToday 0415 PM
I fully agree I work and live in Italy and my most of my colleagues are only able to blame the other
ones instead of assuming their responsibilities This behavior is really time consuming and
leads now where They only wait to see what the other ones are doing instead of m oving forward
working towards the objectives of the company
Francesca Evangelisti
Like ReplyToday 0308 PM
David Kaiser Executive Coach Workshop Facilitator Tarot Enthusiast
7282019 Why you should take the blame
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Great post The world will be a better place when more people start to take responsibility for
themselves Personal ly I cant make anyone els e do anything but I can do y best to take my
respons ibility up a notch including owning and learning from my mis takes
David Kais er PhD
Executive Coach
wwwdarkmatterconsultingcom
Like ReplyToday 0300 PM
Great comm ent People are not able anymore to look ins ide thems elves and doubt about
what they are doing and saying Indeed you need courage to do it but when you do it you
respect yourself much more and you will receive more respect
Francesca Evangelisti
Like ReplyToday 0324 PM in reply to David Kaiser
Thank you Peter for this phenom enal writting Now I know that to take the blame m eans to be
respons ible In addition to take the blame serves as a point of departure to a solution
Erick Sithole
Like ReplyToday 0240 PM 1 Like
Just make sure you dont work in such a risk adverse environment that you get reprimanded for taking responsibi lity Some organizations (consulting) are so toxic and risk adverse that they dont
want to show anything that could poss ibly end up with the firm being responsible
And so the blam e keeps going round and round as s tandard operating procedures unti l the firm
can find just the right person to disposition These firms don t want their employees to take
respons ibility and so the cycle continues
guest
Like ReplyToday 0158 PM
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Outstanding Highly relevant to my work managing school based teams and coaching principals
Pleleith White
Like ReplyToday 0152 PM
I needed to hear this today - too bad I didnt see it about 2 hours earlier
It reminds m e of a goalie coachs advice to my son - the goalie needs to take the blame for every
goal scored because ultim ately its hisher res ponsibil ity to stop the puck It doesnt matter that 5
other players let a s hooter get in position its on him Only by taking the heat for every goal scored
can you get the 5 other players to see their own role in the play After all a loss is a loss no matter
whos at fault
Yvonne Moncovich
Like ReplyToday 0124 PM
Peter youre right on target - if people wont acknowledge what they did wrong theyll keep on doing
it Applies equally well to our personal lives Ron
Rongentile
Like ReplyToday 0107 PM 1 Like
Its a good mess age to encourage people to convert blame game into problem-sharing and
problem-solving
Marianne McLaughlin
Like ReplyToday 0104 PM 1 Like
I agree with CS King in that I als o learned in the m ilitary how to be an honest and e ffective leader
JJ
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who accepts responsibility and makes oneself accountable That real approach does work in the
mili tary subculture-almos t every time and there are reasons for this which are not really relevant
here
Not so m uch in the corporate culture My corporate experience (30 years) is chock full of blamers
liars cheats and thieves People who are smaller than the positions which they hold and less
than up to the challenge of facing reality in favor of protecting their own reputations and res umes
But they are that way for a good reason They are taught to be that way by the manner in which
they are treated by their organizations Corporations tend to favor leaders who can circumvent
getting stink on them by any means poss ible that includes blaming their fellow team m embers
and subordinates We all know many examples of this type behavior-make next quarters
numbers look good no matter what
Like ReplyToday 0103 PM 1 Like
I agree with the point that language is a powerful driver of behavior and response Regardless of
where you stand on the notion of taking owners hip and res ponsibi lity for your actions (good bador indifferent) it is a powerful act I think you did a great job of highlighting that power Peter Time
and again where there is deficiency in the respons iveness of the senior teams I work with it is
usually because no one is choos ing to be accountable for their actions Taking the blame is but
one step in bui lding a healthy regard for the risk-taking resilience and res ponsiveness that is
required for our organizations to be successful
Thanks for such a thought-providing pos t
Andrew Marshall
Like ReplyToday 1256 PM 2 Likes
I agree with the comment about shi fiting away from the term blame as it does have a very
negative connotation I think it is better to step up and take responsib ility for our actions and learn
what we did well and then also examine what we will do different next time Basic s elf-coaching
approach to any situation In my experience when you take this approach i t encourages others to
examine what they will do different the next time but als o reinforces the positives that they want to
continue to do in the future
D Amstutz Sr Director PMO Sage North American RampD
7282019 Why you should take the blame
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Like ReplyToday 1254 PM 2 Likes
Robert I agree with framing things out positively But learning involves experience which
obviously requires looking back I think Peter nailed it by focusing on respons ibility
learninggrowth and leading If more people viewed things this way wed have a much s tronger
sense of mutual respect and in all probability a heckuva lot more s uccess
Rcalvanico
Like ReplyToday 1221 PM 1 Like
This is a subject near and dear to m y heart I learned in the military that the leader of any group is
the one who takes respons ibility for the si tuation and actively works to solve the present problem
whether the fault or failure lay with them or not The ability to see that changes must be m ade and
actions taken and the willingness to take respons ibility for the action and the outcome is an
essential ingredient for leadership
Failure is also an ess ential ingredient It is where the greatest learning comes from We have
become s o focused on success that many people fear failure or fear admitting it The wave of
positive thinking seeks to avoid the impact of failure but I believe it is best em braced I believe
this is an advantage many creatives have The creative process is one of exploration adventure
and experimentation Things are bound to fail and m any creatives know that success is the
exception and not the norm but often the best and mos t beautiful things com e from mis steps
That is one of the reasons why this Wins ton Churchill quote has always been important to me
Success is not final Failure is not fatal It is the courage to carry on which counts Humanbeings are s o remarkable because we cons istently pick up the pieces and carry on regardless
C S King
Like ReplyToday 1210 PM 2 Likes
This is a subject near and dear to m y heart I learned in the military that the leader of any group is
the one who takes respons ibility for the si tuation and actively works to solve the present problem
C S King
7282019 Why you should take the blame
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df di b PRO i A d l T t th HTML t PDF API
whether the fault or failure lay with them or not The ability to see that changes must be m ade and
actions taken and the willingness to take respons ibility for the action and the outcome is an
essential ingredient for leadership
Failure is also an ess ential ingredient It is where the greatest learning comes from We have
become s o focused on success that many people fear failure or fear admitting it The wave of
positive thinking seeks to avoid the impact of failure but I believe it is best em braced I believe
this is an advantage many creatives have The creative process is one of exploration adventure
and experimentation Things are bound to fail and m any creatives know that success is the
exception and not the norm but often the best and mos t beautiful things com e from mis steps
That is one of the reasons why this Wins ton Churchill quote has always been important to me
Success is not final Failure is not fatal It is the courage to carry on which counts Human
beings are s o remarkable because we cons istently pick up the pieces and carry on regardless
Like ReplyToday 1209 PM
Great post Peter While I do agree with Robert that blame is a loaded term I think preciselybecause its such a trigger point its im portant to use i t Otherwise its too easy to sidestep I also
like how you frame accepting blame as a power m ove I agree completely It takes a high degree
of personal power to accept respons ibility and to see what one can do to turn around a situation
The sad fact is as you point out no matter how high our positional power is creating radical
change comes down to personal power
Julie Diamond Leadership development consultant coach and trainer
Like ReplyToday 1156 AM 1 Like
I agree with your point here but my view is a bit different Whether its in personal life or in the
busines s world whe ther were talking about customer service performance reviews etc we need
to shift away from blame totally because the term has a high emotional im pact I prefer to think
about personal responsibility and accountability and HOW TO IMPROVE THINGS in the future and
present Blame is looking backwards
I written some posts on this re business at httpwork911comarticlesbl and Blaming Is A
Losing Game at httpwork911comcommunicati Also Blame Doesnt Improve Customer
Robert Bacal hellip Author consultant trainer on performance management customer se
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Well done - what an attention grabber that headline is Of course things
are a bit more nuanced than that as Peters blog and everyones comm ents clarify I cant speak
so
much about the CEO and corporate leadership world but as an addiction specialis t working
clinically Ill pipe in about personal relations hips that leaks into the work worldLets say Person A
socializes failure and personalizes success (If theres problems its your fault or look what you
did if theres success I made it happen or look what I did) Person B personalizes failure and
socializes success (if theres problems its my fault or I played a role in this problem if theres
success we did it together or I did it with your help)When both parties place blame for problems
on one of them even when success es can be s hared it creates a power differential that few
relationships can sus tain We have terms for these relationship patterns Abuse Bullying
Domes tic Violence Sexual HarassmentFar better to shift away from the Blam e Game al together
What Peter is really talking about is what I call The Respons ibility Game
httpwwwhabitsintohealthco each can play a role in changing our world by socializing ANDpersonalizing failure (When things go wrong lets solve this together I take ownership of my role
and I expect the sam e from you when things go well lets each take ownersh ip together and
celebrate our success)
Michael Anne Conley
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I fully agree I work and live in Italy and my most of my colleagues are only able to blame the other
ones instead of assuming their responsibilities This behavior is really time consuming and
leads now where They only wait to see what the other ones are doing instead of m oving forward
working towards the objectives of the company
Francesca Evangelisti
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Great post The world will be a better place when more people start to take responsibility for
themselves Personal ly I cant make anyone els e do anything but I can do y best to take my
respons ibility up a notch including owning and learning from my mis takes
David Kais er PhD
Executive Coach
wwwdarkmatterconsultingcom
Like ReplyToday 0300 PM
Great comm ent People are not able anymore to look ins ide thems elves and doubt about
what they are doing and saying Indeed you need courage to do it but when you do it you
respect yourself much more and you will receive more respect
Francesca Evangelisti
Like ReplyToday 0324 PM in reply to David Kaiser
Thank you Peter for this phenom enal writting Now I know that to take the blame m eans to be
respons ible In addition to take the blame serves as a point of departure to a solution
Erick Sithole
Like ReplyToday 0240 PM 1 Like
Just make sure you dont work in such a risk adverse environment that you get reprimanded for taking responsibi lity Some organizations (consulting) are so toxic and risk adverse that they dont
want to show anything that could poss ibly end up with the firm being responsible
And so the blam e keeps going round and round as s tandard operating procedures unti l the firm
can find just the right person to disposition These firms don t want their employees to take
respons ibility and so the cycle continues
guest
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Pleleith White
Like ReplyToday 0152 PM
I needed to hear this today - too bad I didnt see it about 2 hours earlier
It reminds m e of a goalie coachs advice to my son - the goalie needs to take the blame for every
goal scored because ultim ately its hisher res ponsibil ity to stop the puck It doesnt matter that 5
other players let a s hooter get in position its on him Only by taking the heat for every goal scored
can you get the 5 other players to see their own role in the play After all a loss is a loss no matter
whos at fault
Yvonne Moncovich
Like ReplyToday 0124 PM
Peter youre right on target - if people wont acknowledge what they did wrong theyll keep on doing
it Applies equally well to our personal lives Ron
Rongentile
Like ReplyToday 0107 PM 1 Like
Its a good mess age to encourage people to convert blame game into problem-sharing and
problem-solving
Marianne McLaughlin
Like ReplyToday 0104 PM 1 Like
I agree with CS King in that I als o learned in the m ilitary how to be an honest and e ffective leader
JJ
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who accepts responsibility and makes oneself accountable That real approach does work in the
mili tary subculture-almos t every time and there are reasons for this which are not really relevant
here
Not so m uch in the corporate culture My corporate experience (30 years) is chock full of blamers
liars cheats and thieves People who are smaller than the positions which they hold and less
than up to the challenge of facing reality in favor of protecting their own reputations and res umes
But they are that way for a good reason They are taught to be that way by the manner in which
they are treated by their organizations Corporations tend to favor leaders who can circumvent
getting stink on them by any means poss ible that includes blaming their fellow team m embers
and subordinates We all know many examples of this type behavior-make next quarters
numbers look good no matter what
Like ReplyToday 0103 PM 1 Like
I agree with the point that language is a powerful driver of behavior and response Regardless of
where you stand on the notion of taking owners hip and res ponsibi lity for your actions (good bador indifferent) it is a powerful act I think you did a great job of highlighting that power Peter Time
and again where there is deficiency in the respons iveness of the senior teams I work with it is
usually because no one is choos ing to be accountable for their actions Taking the blame is but
one step in bui lding a healthy regard for the risk-taking resilience and res ponsiveness that is
required for our organizations to be successful
Thanks for such a thought-providing pos t
Andrew Marshall
Like ReplyToday 1256 PM 2 Likes
I agree with the comment about shi fiting away from the term blame as it does have a very
negative connotation I think it is better to step up and take responsib ility for our actions and learn
what we did well and then also examine what we will do different next time Basic s elf-coaching
approach to any situation In my experience when you take this approach i t encourages others to
examine what they will do different the next time but als o reinforces the positives that they want to
continue to do in the future
D Amstutz Sr Director PMO Sage North American RampD
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Robert I agree with framing things out positively But learning involves experience which
obviously requires looking back I think Peter nailed it by focusing on respons ibility
learninggrowth and leading If more people viewed things this way wed have a much s tronger
sense of mutual respect and in all probability a heckuva lot more s uccess
Rcalvanico
Like ReplyToday 1221 PM 1 Like
This is a subject near and dear to m y heart I learned in the military that the leader of any group is
the one who takes respons ibility for the si tuation and actively works to solve the present problem
whether the fault or failure lay with them or not The ability to see that changes must be m ade and
actions taken and the willingness to take respons ibility for the action and the outcome is an
essential ingredient for leadership
Failure is also an ess ential ingredient It is where the greatest learning comes from We have
become s o focused on success that many people fear failure or fear admitting it The wave of
positive thinking seeks to avoid the impact of failure but I believe it is best em braced I believe
this is an advantage many creatives have The creative process is one of exploration adventure
and experimentation Things are bound to fail and m any creatives know that success is the
exception and not the norm but often the best and mos t beautiful things com e from mis steps
That is one of the reasons why this Wins ton Churchill quote has always been important to me
Success is not final Failure is not fatal It is the courage to carry on which counts Humanbeings are s o remarkable because we cons istently pick up the pieces and carry on regardless
C S King
Like ReplyToday 1210 PM 2 Likes
This is a subject near and dear to m y heart I learned in the military that the leader of any group is
the one who takes respons ibility for the si tuation and actively works to solve the present problem
C S King
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whether the fault or failure lay with them or not The ability to see that changes must be m ade and
actions taken and the willingness to take respons ibility for the action and the outcome is an
essential ingredient for leadership
Failure is also an ess ential ingredient It is where the greatest learning comes from We have
become s o focused on success that many people fear failure or fear admitting it The wave of
positive thinking seeks to avoid the impact of failure but I believe it is best em braced I believe
this is an advantage many creatives have The creative process is one of exploration adventure
and experimentation Things are bound to fail and m any creatives know that success is the
exception and not the norm but often the best and mos t beautiful things com e from mis steps
That is one of the reasons why this Wins ton Churchill quote has always been important to me
Success is not final Failure is not fatal It is the courage to carry on which counts Human
beings are s o remarkable because we cons istently pick up the pieces and carry on regardless
Like ReplyToday 1209 PM
Great post Peter While I do agree with Robert that blame is a loaded term I think preciselybecause its such a trigger point its im portant to use i t Otherwise its too easy to sidestep I also
like how you frame accepting blame as a power m ove I agree completely It takes a high degree
of personal power to accept respons ibility and to see what one can do to turn around a situation
The sad fact is as you point out no matter how high our positional power is creating radical
change comes down to personal power
Julie Diamond Leadership development consultant coach and trainer
Like ReplyToday 1156 AM 1 Like
I agree with your point here but my view is a bit different Whether its in personal life or in the
busines s world whe ther were talking about customer service performance reviews etc we need
to shift away from blame totally because the term has a high emotional im pact I prefer to think
about personal responsibility and accountability and HOW TO IMPROVE THINGS in the future and
present Blame is looking backwards
I written some posts on this re business at httpwork911comarticlesbl and Blaming Is A
Losing Game at httpwork911comcommunicati Also Blame Doesnt Improve Customer
Robert Bacal hellip Author consultant trainer on performance management customer se
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Great post The world will be a better place when more people start to take responsibility for
themselves Personal ly I cant make anyone els e do anything but I can do y best to take my
respons ibility up a notch including owning and learning from my mis takes
David Kais er PhD
Executive Coach
wwwdarkmatterconsultingcom
Like ReplyToday 0300 PM
Great comm ent People are not able anymore to look ins ide thems elves and doubt about
what they are doing and saying Indeed you need courage to do it but when you do it you
respect yourself much more and you will receive more respect
Francesca Evangelisti
Like ReplyToday 0324 PM in reply to David Kaiser
Thank you Peter for this phenom enal writting Now I know that to take the blame m eans to be
respons ible In addition to take the blame serves as a point of departure to a solution
Erick Sithole
Like ReplyToday 0240 PM 1 Like
Just make sure you dont work in such a risk adverse environment that you get reprimanded for taking responsibi lity Some organizations (consulting) are so toxic and risk adverse that they dont
want to show anything that could poss ibly end up with the firm being responsible
And so the blam e keeps going round and round as s tandard operating procedures unti l the firm
can find just the right person to disposition These firms don t want their employees to take
respons ibility and so the cycle continues
guest
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Outstanding Highly relevant to my work managing school based teams and coaching principals
Pleleith White
Like ReplyToday 0152 PM
I needed to hear this today - too bad I didnt see it about 2 hours earlier
It reminds m e of a goalie coachs advice to my son - the goalie needs to take the blame for every
goal scored because ultim ately its hisher res ponsibil ity to stop the puck It doesnt matter that 5
other players let a s hooter get in position its on him Only by taking the heat for every goal scored
can you get the 5 other players to see their own role in the play After all a loss is a loss no matter
whos at fault
Yvonne Moncovich
Like ReplyToday 0124 PM
Peter youre right on target - if people wont acknowledge what they did wrong theyll keep on doing
it Applies equally well to our personal lives Ron
Rongentile
Like ReplyToday 0107 PM 1 Like
Its a good mess age to encourage people to convert blame game into problem-sharing and
problem-solving
Marianne McLaughlin
Like ReplyToday 0104 PM 1 Like
I agree with CS King in that I als o learned in the m ilitary how to be an honest and e ffective leader
JJ
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who accepts responsibility and makes oneself accountable That real approach does work in the
mili tary subculture-almos t every time and there are reasons for this which are not really relevant
here
Not so m uch in the corporate culture My corporate experience (30 years) is chock full of blamers
liars cheats and thieves People who are smaller than the positions which they hold and less
than up to the challenge of facing reality in favor of protecting their own reputations and res umes
But they are that way for a good reason They are taught to be that way by the manner in which
they are treated by their organizations Corporations tend to favor leaders who can circumvent
getting stink on them by any means poss ible that includes blaming their fellow team m embers
and subordinates We all know many examples of this type behavior-make next quarters
numbers look good no matter what
Like ReplyToday 0103 PM 1 Like
I agree with the point that language is a powerful driver of behavior and response Regardless of
where you stand on the notion of taking owners hip and res ponsibi lity for your actions (good bador indifferent) it is a powerful act I think you did a great job of highlighting that power Peter Time
and again where there is deficiency in the respons iveness of the senior teams I work with it is
usually because no one is choos ing to be accountable for their actions Taking the blame is but
one step in bui lding a healthy regard for the risk-taking resilience and res ponsiveness that is
required for our organizations to be successful
Thanks for such a thought-providing pos t
Andrew Marshall
Like ReplyToday 1256 PM 2 Likes
I agree with the comment about shi fiting away from the term blame as it does have a very
negative connotation I think it is better to step up and take responsib ility for our actions and learn
what we did well and then also examine what we will do different next time Basic s elf-coaching
approach to any situation In my experience when you take this approach i t encourages others to
examine what they will do different the next time but als o reinforces the positives that they want to
continue to do in the future
D Amstutz Sr Director PMO Sage North American RampD
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Robert I agree with framing things out positively But learning involves experience which
obviously requires looking back I think Peter nailed it by focusing on respons ibility
learninggrowth and leading If more people viewed things this way wed have a much s tronger
sense of mutual respect and in all probability a heckuva lot more s uccess
Rcalvanico
Like ReplyToday 1221 PM 1 Like
This is a subject near and dear to m y heart I learned in the military that the leader of any group is
the one who takes respons ibility for the si tuation and actively works to solve the present problem
whether the fault or failure lay with them or not The ability to see that changes must be m ade and
actions taken and the willingness to take respons ibility for the action and the outcome is an
essential ingredient for leadership
Failure is also an ess ential ingredient It is where the greatest learning comes from We have
become s o focused on success that many people fear failure or fear admitting it The wave of
positive thinking seeks to avoid the impact of failure but I believe it is best em braced I believe
this is an advantage many creatives have The creative process is one of exploration adventure
and experimentation Things are bound to fail and m any creatives know that success is the
exception and not the norm but often the best and mos t beautiful things com e from mis steps
That is one of the reasons why this Wins ton Churchill quote has always been important to me
Success is not final Failure is not fatal It is the courage to carry on which counts Humanbeings are s o remarkable because we cons istently pick up the pieces and carry on regardless
C S King
Like ReplyToday 1210 PM 2 Likes
This is a subject near and dear to m y heart I learned in the military that the leader of any group is
the one who takes respons ibility for the si tuation and actively works to solve the present problem
C S King
7282019 Why you should take the blame
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whether the fault or failure lay with them or not The ability to see that changes must be m ade and
actions taken and the willingness to take respons ibility for the action and the outcome is an
essential ingredient for leadership
Failure is also an ess ential ingredient It is where the greatest learning comes from We have
become s o focused on success that many people fear failure or fear admitting it The wave of
positive thinking seeks to avoid the impact of failure but I believe it is best em braced I believe
this is an advantage many creatives have The creative process is one of exploration adventure
and experimentation Things are bound to fail and m any creatives know that success is the
exception and not the norm but often the best and mos t beautiful things com e from mis steps
That is one of the reasons why this Wins ton Churchill quote has always been important to me
Success is not final Failure is not fatal It is the courage to carry on which counts Human
beings are s o remarkable because we cons istently pick up the pieces and carry on regardless
Like ReplyToday 1209 PM
Great post Peter While I do agree with Robert that blame is a loaded term I think preciselybecause its such a trigger point its im portant to use i t Otherwise its too easy to sidestep I also
like how you frame accepting blame as a power m ove I agree completely It takes a high degree
of personal power to accept respons ibility and to see what one can do to turn around a situation
The sad fact is as you point out no matter how high our positional power is creating radical
change comes down to personal power
Julie Diamond Leadership development consultant coach and trainer
Like ReplyToday 1156 AM 1 Like
I agree with your point here but my view is a bit different Whether its in personal life or in the
busines s world whe ther were talking about customer service performance reviews etc we need
to shift away from blame totally because the term has a high emotional im pact I prefer to think
about personal responsibility and accountability and HOW TO IMPROVE THINGS in the future and
present Blame is looking backwards
I written some posts on this re business at httpwork911comarticlesbl and Blaming Is A
Losing Game at httpwork911comcommunicati Also Blame Doesnt Improve Customer
Robert Bacal hellip Author consultant trainer on performance management customer se
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Outstanding Highly relevant to my work managing school based teams and coaching principals
Pleleith White
Like ReplyToday 0152 PM
I needed to hear this today - too bad I didnt see it about 2 hours earlier
It reminds m e of a goalie coachs advice to my son - the goalie needs to take the blame for every
goal scored because ultim ately its hisher res ponsibil ity to stop the puck It doesnt matter that 5
other players let a s hooter get in position its on him Only by taking the heat for every goal scored
can you get the 5 other players to see their own role in the play After all a loss is a loss no matter
whos at fault
Yvonne Moncovich
Like ReplyToday 0124 PM
Peter youre right on target - if people wont acknowledge what they did wrong theyll keep on doing
it Applies equally well to our personal lives Ron
Rongentile
Like ReplyToday 0107 PM 1 Like
Its a good mess age to encourage people to convert blame game into problem-sharing and
problem-solving
Marianne McLaughlin
Like ReplyToday 0104 PM 1 Like
I agree with CS King in that I als o learned in the m ilitary how to be an honest and e ffective leader
JJ
7282019 Why you should take the blame
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who accepts responsibility and makes oneself accountable That real approach does work in the
mili tary subculture-almos t every time and there are reasons for this which are not really relevant
here
Not so m uch in the corporate culture My corporate experience (30 years) is chock full of blamers
liars cheats and thieves People who are smaller than the positions which they hold and less
than up to the challenge of facing reality in favor of protecting their own reputations and res umes
But they are that way for a good reason They are taught to be that way by the manner in which
they are treated by their organizations Corporations tend to favor leaders who can circumvent
getting stink on them by any means poss ible that includes blaming their fellow team m embers
and subordinates We all know many examples of this type behavior-make next quarters
numbers look good no matter what
Like ReplyToday 0103 PM 1 Like
I agree with the point that language is a powerful driver of behavior and response Regardless of
where you stand on the notion of taking owners hip and res ponsibi lity for your actions (good bador indifferent) it is a powerful act I think you did a great job of highlighting that power Peter Time
and again where there is deficiency in the respons iveness of the senior teams I work with it is
usually because no one is choos ing to be accountable for their actions Taking the blame is but
one step in bui lding a healthy regard for the risk-taking resilience and res ponsiveness that is
required for our organizations to be successful
Thanks for such a thought-providing pos t
Andrew Marshall
Like ReplyToday 1256 PM 2 Likes
I agree with the comment about shi fiting away from the term blame as it does have a very
negative connotation I think it is better to step up and take responsib ility for our actions and learn
what we did well and then also examine what we will do different next time Basic s elf-coaching
approach to any situation In my experience when you take this approach i t encourages others to
examine what they will do different the next time but als o reinforces the positives that they want to
continue to do in the future
D Amstutz Sr Director PMO Sage North American RampD
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Like ReplyToday 1254 PM 2 Likes
Robert I agree with framing things out positively But learning involves experience which
obviously requires looking back I think Peter nailed it by focusing on respons ibility
learninggrowth and leading If more people viewed things this way wed have a much s tronger
sense of mutual respect and in all probability a heckuva lot more s uccess
Rcalvanico
Like ReplyToday 1221 PM 1 Like
This is a subject near and dear to m y heart I learned in the military that the leader of any group is
the one who takes respons ibility for the si tuation and actively works to solve the present problem
whether the fault or failure lay with them or not The ability to see that changes must be m ade and
actions taken and the willingness to take respons ibility for the action and the outcome is an
essential ingredient for leadership
Failure is also an ess ential ingredient It is where the greatest learning comes from We have
become s o focused on success that many people fear failure or fear admitting it The wave of
positive thinking seeks to avoid the impact of failure but I believe it is best em braced I believe
this is an advantage many creatives have The creative process is one of exploration adventure
and experimentation Things are bound to fail and m any creatives know that success is the
exception and not the norm but often the best and mos t beautiful things com e from mis steps
That is one of the reasons why this Wins ton Churchill quote has always been important to me
Success is not final Failure is not fatal It is the courage to carry on which counts Humanbeings are s o remarkable because we cons istently pick up the pieces and carry on regardless
C S King
Like ReplyToday 1210 PM 2 Likes
This is a subject near and dear to m y heart I learned in the military that the leader of any group is
the one who takes respons ibility for the si tuation and actively works to solve the present problem
C S King
7282019 Why you should take the blame
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whether the fault or failure lay with them or not The ability to see that changes must be m ade and
actions taken and the willingness to take respons ibility for the action and the outcome is an
essential ingredient for leadership
Failure is also an ess ential ingredient It is where the greatest learning comes from We have
become s o focused on success that many people fear failure or fear admitting it The wave of
positive thinking seeks to avoid the impact of failure but I believe it is best em braced I believe
this is an advantage many creatives have The creative process is one of exploration adventure
and experimentation Things are bound to fail and m any creatives know that success is the
exception and not the norm but often the best and mos t beautiful things com e from mis steps
That is one of the reasons why this Wins ton Churchill quote has always been important to me
Success is not final Failure is not fatal It is the courage to carry on which counts Human
beings are s o remarkable because we cons istently pick up the pieces and carry on regardless
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Great post Peter While I do agree with Robert that blame is a loaded term I think preciselybecause its such a trigger point its im portant to use i t Otherwise its too easy to sidestep I also
like how you frame accepting blame as a power m ove I agree completely It takes a high degree
of personal power to accept respons ibility and to see what one can do to turn around a situation
The sad fact is as you point out no matter how high our positional power is creating radical
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about personal responsibility and accountability and HOW TO IMPROVE THINGS in the future and
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who accepts responsibility and makes oneself accountable That real approach does work in the
mili tary subculture-almos t every time and there are reasons for this which are not really relevant
here
Not so m uch in the corporate culture My corporate experience (30 years) is chock full of blamers
liars cheats and thieves People who are smaller than the positions which they hold and less
than up to the challenge of facing reality in favor of protecting their own reputations and res umes
But they are that way for a good reason They are taught to be that way by the manner in which
they are treated by their organizations Corporations tend to favor leaders who can circumvent
getting stink on them by any means poss ible that includes blaming their fellow team m embers
and subordinates We all know many examples of this type behavior-make next quarters
numbers look good no matter what
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I agree with the point that language is a powerful driver of behavior and response Regardless of
where you stand on the notion of taking owners hip and res ponsibi lity for your actions (good bador indifferent) it is a powerful act I think you did a great job of highlighting that power Peter Time
and again where there is deficiency in the respons iveness of the senior teams I work with it is
usually because no one is choos ing to be accountable for their actions Taking the blame is but
one step in bui lding a healthy regard for the risk-taking resilience and res ponsiveness that is
required for our organizations to be successful
Thanks for such a thought-providing pos t
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negative connotation I think it is better to step up and take responsib ility for our actions and learn
what we did well and then also examine what we will do different next time Basic s elf-coaching
approach to any situation In my experience when you take this approach i t encourages others to
examine what they will do different the next time but als o reinforces the positives that they want to
continue to do in the future
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Robert I agree with framing things out positively But learning involves experience which
obviously requires looking back I think Peter nailed it by focusing on respons ibility
learninggrowth and leading If more people viewed things this way wed have a much s tronger
sense of mutual respect and in all probability a heckuva lot more s uccess
Rcalvanico
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This is a subject near and dear to m y heart I learned in the military that the leader of any group is
the one who takes respons ibility for the si tuation and actively works to solve the present problem
whether the fault or failure lay with them or not The ability to see that changes must be m ade and
actions taken and the willingness to take respons ibility for the action and the outcome is an
essential ingredient for leadership
Failure is also an ess ential ingredient It is where the greatest learning comes from We have
become s o focused on success that many people fear failure or fear admitting it The wave of
positive thinking seeks to avoid the impact of failure but I believe it is best em braced I believe
this is an advantage many creatives have The creative process is one of exploration adventure
and experimentation Things are bound to fail and m any creatives know that success is the
exception and not the norm but often the best and mos t beautiful things com e from mis steps
That is one of the reasons why this Wins ton Churchill quote has always been important to me
Success is not final Failure is not fatal It is the courage to carry on which counts Humanbeings are s o remarkable because we cons istently pick up the pieces and carry on regardless
C S King
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the one who takes respons ibility for the si tuation and actively works to solve the present problem
C S King
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whether the fault or failure lay with them or not The ability to see that changes must be m ade and
actions taken and the willingness to take respons ibility for the action and the outcome is an
essential ingredient for leadership
Failure is also an ess ential ingredient It is where the greatest learning comes from We have
become s o focused on success that many people fear failure or fear admitting it The wave of
positive thinking seeks to avoid the impact of failure but I believe it is best em braced I believe
this is an advantage many creatives have The creative process is one of exploration adventure
and experimentation Things are bound to fail and m any creatives know that success is the
exception and not the norm but often the best and mos t beautiful things com e from mis steps
That is one of the reasons why this Wins ton Churchill quote has always been important to me
Success is not final Failure is not fatal It is the courage to carry on which counts Human
beings are s o remarkable because we cons istently pick up the pieces and carry on regardless
Like ReplyToday 1209 PM
Great post Peter While I do agree with Robert that blame is a loaded term I think preciselybecause its such a trigger point its im portant to use i t Otherwise its too easy to sidestep I also
like how you frame accepting blame as a power m ove I agree completely It takes a high degree
of personal power to accept respons ibility and to see what one can do to turn around a situation
The sad fact is as you point out no matter how high our positional power is creating radical
change comes down to personal power
Julie Diamond Leadership development consultant coach and trainer
Like ReplyToday 1156 AM 1 Like
I agree with your point here but my view is a bit different Whether its in personal life or in the
busines s world whe ther were talking about customer service performance reviews etc we need
to shift away from blame totally because the term has a high emotional im pact I prefer to think
about personal responsibility and accountability and HOW TO IMPROVE THINGS in the future and
present Blame is looking backwards
I written some posts on this re business at httpwork911comarticlesbl and Blaming Is A
Losing Game at httpwork911comcommunicati Also Blame Doesnt Improve Customer
Robert Bacal hellip Author consultant trainer on performance management customer se
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Robert I agree with framing things out positively But learning involves experience which
obviously requires looking back I think Peter nailed it by focusing on respons ibility
learninggrowth and leading If more people viewed things this way wed have a much s tronger
sense of mutual respect and in all probability a heckuva lot more s uccess
Rcalvanico
Like ReplyToday 1221 PM 1 Like
This is a subject near and dear to m y heart I learned in the military that the leader of any group is
the one who takes respons ibility for the si tuation and actively works to solve the present problem
whether the fault or failure lay with them or not The ability to see that changes must be m ade and
actions taken and the willingness to take respons ibility for the action and the outcome is an
essential ingredient for leadership
Failure is also an ess ential ingredient It is where the greatest learning comes from We have
become s o focused on success that many people fear failure or fear admitting it The wave of
positive thinking seeks to avoid the impact of failure but I believe it is best em braced I believe
this is an advantage many creatives have The creative process is one of exploration adventure
and experimentation Things are bound to fail and m any creatives know that success is the
exception and not the norm but often the best and mos t beautiful things com e from mis steps
That is one of the reasons why this Wins ton Churchill quote has always been important to me
Success is not final Failure is not fatal It is the courage to carry on which counts Humanbeings are s o remarkable because we cons istently pick up the pieces and carry on regardless
C S King
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This is a subject near and dear to m y heart I learned in the military that the leader of any group is
the one who takes respons ibility for the si tuation and actively works to solve the present problem
C S King
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whether the fault or failure lay with them or not The ability to see that changes must be m ade and
actions taken and the willingness to take respons ibility for the action and the outcome is an
essential ingredient for leadership
Failure is also an ess ential ingredient It is where the greatest learning comes from We have
become s o focused on success that many people fear failure or fear admitting it The wave of
positive thinking seeks to avoid the impact of failure but I believe it is best em braced I believe
this is an advantage many creatives have The creative process is one of exploration adventure
and experimentation Things are bound to fail and m any creatives know that success is the
exception and not the norm but often the best and mos t beautiful things com e from mis steps
That is one of the reasons why this Wins ton Churchill quote has always been important to me
Success is not final Failure is not fatal It is the courage to carry on which counts Human
beings are s o remarkable because we cons istently pick up the pieces and carry on regardless
Like ReplyToday 1209 PM
Great post Peter While I do agree with Robert that blame is a loaded term I think preciselybecause its such a trigger point its im portant to use i t Otherwise its too easy to sidestep I also
like how you frame accepting blame as a power m ove I agree completely It takes a high degree
of personal power to accept respons ibility and to see what one can do to turn around a situation
The sad fact is as you point out no matter how high our positional power is creating radical
change comes down to personal power
Julie Diamond Leadership development consultant coach and trainer
Like ReplyToday 1156 AM 1 Like
I agree with your point here but my view is a bit different Whether its in personal life or in the
busines s world whe ther were talking about customer service performance reviews etc we need
to shift away from blame totally because the term has a high emotional im pact I prefer to think
about personal responsibility and accountability and HOW TO IMPROVE THINGS in the future and
present Blame is looking backwards
I written some posts on this re business at httpwork911comarticlesbl and Blaming Is A
Losing Game at httpwork911comcommunicati Also Blame Doesnt Improve Customer
Robert Bacal hellip Author consultant trainer on performance management customer se
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whether the fault or failure lay with them or not The ability to see that changes must be m ade and
actions taken and the willingness to take respons ibility for the action and the outcome is an
essential ingredient for leadership
Failure is also an ess ential ingredient It is where the greatest learning comes from We have
become s o focused on success that many people fear failure or fear admitting it The wave of
positive thinking seeks to avoid the impact of failure but I believe it is best em braced I believe
this is an advantage many creatives have The creative process is one of exploration adventure
and experimentation Things are bound to fail and m any creatives know that success is the
exception and not the norm but often the best and mos t beautiful things com e from mis steps
That is one of the reasons why this Wins ton Churchill quote has always been important to me
Success is not final Failure is not fatal It is the courage to carry on which counts Human
beings are s o remarkable because we cons istently pick up the pieces and carry on regardless
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like how you frame accepting blame as a power m ove I agree completely It takes a high degree
of personal power to accept respons ibility and to see what one can do to turn around a situation
The sad fact is as you point out no matter how high our positional power is creating radical
change comes down to personal power
Julie Diamond Leadership development consultant coach and trainer
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I agree with your point here but my view is a bit different Whether its in personal life or in the
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to shift away from blame totally because the term has a high emotional im pact I prefer to think
about personal responsibility and accountability and HOW TO IMPROVE THINGS in the future and
present Blame is looking backwards
I written some posts on this re business at httpwork911comarticlesbl and Blaming Is A
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Robert Bacal hellip Author consultant trainer on performance management customer se
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