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PART I
GETTING TO KNOW MARRIAGE
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WHAT IS MARRIAGE
?
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MARRIAGE
Marriage is a specialcontract of permanentunion between a man anda woman entered into inaccordance with law forthe establishment of
conjugal and family life. Itis the foundation of thefamily and an inviolablesocial institution whosenature, consequences, andincidents, are governed bylaw and not subject to
stipulation, except thatmarriage settlements mayfix the property relationsduring the marriage withinthe limits provided by thisCode. (FCP Art. 1.)
For matrimonial consent to
exist, it is necessary that
the contracting parties be
at least not ignorant of the
fact that marriage is a
permanent partnership
between a man and a
woman, ordered to the
procreation of children
through some form of
sexual cooperation. (CCLArt. 1096)
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MARRIAGE
The matrimonial covenant by whicha man and a woman establishesbetween themselves a partnership ofthe whole life, is by its nature orderedtowards the good of the spouses andthe procreation and education ofoffspring this covenant betweenbaptized persons has been raised byChrist the Lord to the dignity of asacrament. (CCC 1601)
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PROFOUND REALITIES OF MARRIAGE
MARRIAGE
A DivineInstitution
Sacred
Reality
A Human
Institution
A State
Human
Secular
Reality
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PROFOUND REALITIES OF MARRIAGE
MARRIAGE
A PersonalAffair A Contract
A Covenant
A Social
Institution
An Event
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IN THE FILIPINO CONTEXT
Most Filipinos today have a deeper appreciation for personalfreedom and the quality of interpersonal relationship withinmarriage
Marriage is an affair not only of two individuals but also betweentwo family groups
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IN THE FILIPINO CONTEXT
Marriage and family then are among our highest cultural values
HOWEVER
there is a growing weakening of the Filipino family and marriagetoday.
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Where does the real problem lie?
Common overstress of romantic love
Personal sexual fulfillment in marriageSecularized modern world
Break down of traditional, moral, and religious values
THERE IS A Gap Between church teachings on marriage and whatappears to be the common practice of many Filipino Catholics
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WHAT IS NEEDED?
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THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE IN CREATION
Stages of Marriage in Human History:
Prefigured
Creation
Adam & Eve
THE PROMISE
Prepared
O.T.
Israelites
- Moses
- Prophet Hosea
By Jesus
THE FULFILLMENT
Instituted
N.T.
Continued
&
Applied
By the CHURCH
THE CODE OF
CANON LAW
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THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE IN CREATION
In the Bible are found two accounts
of the Creation, one is called thePriestly account (Gen. 1:1-31) and
the other is the Yahwist tradition
(Gen. 2:2-25). The two complementeach other and give a more detailed
view of Gods work.[Fr. Lana, OP, et al., 2004, p.9.]
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PRIESTLY
ACCOUNT
Equality
Between
GendersProcreation
Sexes/
Genders
THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE IN CREATION
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YAHWIST
ACCOUNT
Complemen-
tarityOneness/
Unitive
Companion-
ship
THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE IN CREATION
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1. Woman was not taken from the head ofman in order to show that men should not
rule over the woman.
Reasons behind woman being taken from
the rib of man.
2. Woman was not taken from the hands of
man in order to show that men should notuse the women
3. Woman was not taken from the feet of man
to show that men should not trample on
women.
THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE IN CREATION
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4. Instead, woman was taken from the ribs of
the man to show that they should always
walk side by side in mutual support ofeach other.
5. Woman was also taken from the ribs of
man because the ribs are closest to the
heart. This therefore signifies that men
should have women as the closest to their
heart to love and to care for the rest of
their lives.
THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE IN CREATION
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CONCLUSION: Two Purposes of Marriage
in GodsOriginal Plan:
1. Marriage is for Procreation. (Procreative)
2. Marriage is for the union between husband
and wife. (Unitive)
THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE IN CREATION
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CONSEQUENCES OF SIN IN MARRIAGE:
SOURCE: Genesis 3
1. The original communion between man,
woman, the other creatures and God was
destroyed.
- Man & woman hid themselves from God.- Man blamed (God) the woman for the sin.
- The woman in return blamed the snake.
THE ORIGINAL PURPOSE
AS DISTURBED BY SIN
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CONSEQUENCES OF SIN IN MARRIAGE:
2. The mutual attraction between man andwoman was replaced by lust.
- Both of them realized that they were
naked and they felt shame.
THE ORIGINAL PURPOSE
AS DISTURBED BY SIN
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CONSEQUENCES OF SIN IN MARRIAGE:
3. The equality between man and womanwas replaced with sexual hierarchy
(domination of man over woman).
- The woman was regarded as the causeof temptation.
THE ORIGINAL PURPOSE
AS DISTURBED BY SIN
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CONSEQUENCES OF SIN IN MARRIAGE:
These consequences of original sin will have
a lasting effect in marriage as will be
found in mans history.
THE ORIGINAL PURPOSE
AS DISTURBED BY SIN
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The ideals of marriage in Genesis were not
achieved among Godschosen people.
Women were distinctly subordinated to men(second class). Their status was not only determined by their
relation to man (simply as wives, mothers,
sisters). Their primary function was to bear children to
continue the human generation.
Polygamous relationship was allowed.
MARRIAGE REALIZED AMONG
GODS CHOSEN PEOPLE
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The ideals of marriage in Genesis were not
achieved among Godschosen people.
Divorce was also permitted as long as it ison the initiative of the husband.
Barrenness was considered a disgrace. Men
with barren wives were allowed to have a
concubine as a substitute.
The existence of Levirate law.
MARRIAGE REALIZED AMONG
GODS CHOSEN PEOPLE
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The prophets, particularly Hosea, envisioned the
marriage between husband and wife as a
covenant showing the covenant between Godand His chosen people, the Israelites. (Just as
God remained faithful in His love for His
people, so should husbands and wives be faithful
to each other.)
It is faithful.
It is forgiving.
It is forever.
THE PROPHETIC VISION OF MARRIAGE
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MARRIAGE UNFOLDED IN THE N.T.
Christ came as our Redeemer.
He redeemed us from thebondage of sin in all its effects.
He, therefore, also redeemed
marriage and gave back its
original richness.
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1. Christ taught us the deeper meaning of
love.
MARRIAGE UNFOLDED IN THE N.T.
MARRIAGE IN THE TEACHINGS
OF CHRIST
Source: John 15:12-14
Implication:
Christ has made the quality of his love for us as
the standard of true love. That is, love calls for
fidelity, unconditional surrender and forgiveness
in the instance of failure.
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2. Christ taught us the goodness and the
sacredness of marriage.
MARRIAGE UNFOLDED IN THE N.T.
Source: John 2:1ff (The Wedding at Cana)
Implication:
He also confirmed the goodness of
marriage by being present in that
occasion.
He showed that He valued marriage by
doing something wonderful on that day
(His first miracle).
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3. Christ also confirmed the UNITIVE
dimension of marriage (the everlastingunion between husband and wife).
MARRIAGE UNFOLDED IN THE N.T.
Source: Mark 10:1-12 (The Question about Divorce)
Implication:
Christs answer was no to divorce. Here, Jesus
affirmed the original plan of God in marriage:
that man and woman should be one (They are
no longer two but one bodyWhat God has
joined together, man must not put asunder.)
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He exalted the value of MARITAL
ACT/CONJUGAL ACT by referring to it as
THE RIGHT OF BOTH HUSBAND ANDWIFE. He calls this technically as a
MARITAL DEBT.
MARRIAGE UNFOLDED IN THE N.T.
MARRIAGE IN THE TEACHINGS
OF ST. PAUL
Source: 1 Corinthians 7:3-4
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2. He reiterated the UNITIVE aspect of
marriage by linking the union between
husband and wife to the love and everlastingunion between Christ and His spouse, the
Church. Husbands should love their wives
the way Christ loves His Church.
MARRIAGE UNFOLDED IN THE N.T.
MARRIAGE IN THE TEACHINGS
OF ST. PAUL
Source: Ephesians 5:25-27
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MARRIAGECelebration Covenant
Vocation
Contract
CHRISTIAN DIMENSIONS OF MARRIAGE
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CHRISTIAN DIMENSIONS OF MARRIAGE
COMPONENTS
1. It can only be entered into by a MAN & a
WOMAN.
2. It should be freely entered into by both parties
(Marital/Mutual Consent).
3. Although it has been from the freedom of both
spouses, they are subject to the purpose andproperties of marriage as instituted by God.
4. It is irrevocable, i.e., it is indissoluble or
permanent.
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CHRISTIAN DIMENSIONS OF MARRIAGE
ESSENTIAL PROPERTIES
1. It is lasting, forever binding and sacred, as
it were, marriage is the holy alliancebetween MAN, WOMAN and GOD.
2. It mirrors the covenant between God and
His people which have been enriched bythe covenant between Christ and His
Church, which is characterized by
sacr if ice, forgiveness, andfideli ty.
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CHRISTIAN DIMENSIONS OF MARRIAGE
Like the vocation to the priesthood and
single blessedness, marriage is also a
call by God to come to a closerunion with Him.
HOW?- Responsible Parenthood
- By the spouses bringing each other to God
- By their readiness to carry their crosses.
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CHRISTIAN DIMENSIONS OF MARRIAGE
Marriage is a joyous
celebration. And what adds
colors to the celebration is
the ceremony.
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CHRISTIAN DIMENSIONS OF MARRIAGE
The celebration of the
sacraments by the Christian
community is called
LITURGY.
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CHRISTIAN DIMENSIONS OF MARRIAGE
LITURGY In Greek, means publicservice.
It is the public celebration of the meeting of
God and his children through actions and words
along with signs and symbols.
Actions and words expresses the dialogue
between God and the people.
Signs and symbols, these perceptible
realities can become means of expressing
the action of God who sanctifies man and
the action of man who offer worship to God.
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CHRISTIAN DIMENSIONS OF MARRIAGE
LITURGY
Response of faith have to accompany
and make effective to the grace
already given in the celebration. AS
SUCH, required is a conscious, and
active participation among the faithful.
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SACRAMENT
is a saving symbolic act or visible sign
arising from the ministry of Christ andcontinued in, by and for the church, which
when received in faith, fashions us into the
likeness of Christ in His Paschal mystery
through the power of the Holy Spirit.
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CHRISTIAN DIMENSIONS OF MARRIAGE
But it is not something the couple
merely decides to do for themselves. It
is the church which provides thedetails of the basic ritual. In fact, the
church requires that the spouses-to-be
submit to the standard rite which callsfor a set liturgical form, otherwise
their marriage would be invalid.
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CHRISTIAN DIMENSIONS OF MARRIAGE
Wedding celebration marks the
solemn entry of the spouses into abinding commitment before God and
the Christian community. It is a public
declaration of their love-commitmentbefore Christ and the Church.
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CHRISTIAN DIMENSIONS OF MARRIAGE
Sacramental marriage is a liturgical act. It is
therefore appropriate that it should be
celebrated in the public liturgy of the church.Marriage introduces one into an ecclesial order,
and creates rights and duties in the church
between spouses towards children. Since
marriage is necessary (hence the obligation tohave witnesses). The public character of the
consent protects the I do once given, and
helps the spouses to remain faithful to it.[CCC 1631]
Th l i ti l f i th d th b id t
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The ecclesiastical form requires the groom and the bride toexpress freely and publicly their consent to take each other ashusband and wife before the presence of a priest and deacon,
and witnesses in these or similar words:
I take you as my lawful husband (or wife) accordingto the rites of holy Mother the Church.
I give myself to you as your lawful wife (orhusband).
I take you as my lawful husband (or wife).
These words however, may take the form of questions askedby the priest or deacon to which the groom and the bridenormally respond withI do.
Aft th h f th l t th L d
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After the exchange of vows, the couple prays to the Lordtogether:
Grant us, O Lord, to be one heartand one soul from this day forward,for better, for worse, for richer, for
poorer, in sickness and in health,until death do as part.
Since they are the ones who mutually confer upon each otherthe sacrament of matrimony, the husband and the wife arethe ministers of Christsgrace. The priest or the deacon whoassists the celebration receives the consent in the name of thechurch and gives the blessing.
VISIBLE SIGNS OF MATRIMONY
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VISIBLE SIGNS OF MATRIMONY
MATTER
FORMMINISTERS
VISIBLE SIGNS OF MATRIMONY
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VISIBLE SIGNS OF MATRIMONY
M TTERThe church holds the exchange of
consent between the spouses to be theindispensable element that makes
marriage. If consent is lacking there is no
marriage.[CCC 1626]
VISIBLE SIGNS OF MATRIMONY
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VISIBLE SIGNS OF MATRIMONY
Matr imonial consent is an act of will by
which a man and a woman by an irrevocable
covenant mutually give and accept oneanother for the purpose of establishing a
marriage.[CIC 1057, 2]
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VISIBLE SIGNS OF MATRIMONY
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VISIBLE SIGNS OF MATRIMONY
FORMThe sacrament of matrimony consists in
the mutual expression by both contracting
parties of their free consent to take each
other as husband and wife. The exchange of
I DO is the main act in the marriageceremony.[CIC 1057]
VISIBLE SIGNS OF MATRIMONY
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VISIBLE SIGNS OF MATRIMONY
MINISTERSThe ministers of Matrimony are the
contracting parties themselves, the bridegroom
and the bride. The priest stands as the witness
authorized by the church to be present and
bless the union. Hence, the priest becomes the
officiating minister who solemnizes
matrimony.[CIC 1057]
VISIBLE SIGNS OF MATRIMONY B id l P i
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VISIBLE SIGNS OF MATRIMONY Bridal Procession
White Gown
Rings
Candles
Joining of hands
Arrhae
Veil
Cord
SYMBOLS
Other Symbols
used in the
Celberat ion
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PROPERTIES OF MARRIAGE
1. Proles:: Openness to Fertility.
Biological Dimension: The capacity of the
husband and the wife to
procreate offspring through
sexual union.
ISSUE:: How about the infertile spouses?ANSWER: They are still open to fertility by
observing the natural laws and rhythm of
fertility. (Here, contraception is seen as the
tampering of this natural process of fertility.)
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PROPERTIES OF MARRIAGE
2. Fides:: Unity and Fidelity
Couples must unite more intimately in theirrelationship (self-giving_.
It signifies Gods covenant which is
characterized with patience, understanding,
kindness and forgiveness.
To open up ones heart and extend ones
hand to a repentant beloved.
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PROPERTIES OF MARRIAGE
3. Sacramentum:: Indissolubility and
Permanence
The indissolubility of marriage is possible
because God willed it so: Let no one
separate what God has joined.
WHO ARE AUTHORIZED TO SOLEMNIZE MARRIAGES?
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WHO ARE AUTHORIZED TO SOLEMNIZE MARRIAGES?
1. Any incumbent member of the judiciary within the
courtsjurisdiction;
2. Any priest, rabbi, imam, or minister of any church or
religious sect duly authorized by his church or
religious sect and registered with the civil registrargeneral, acting within the limits of the written
authority granted by his church or religious sect and
provided that at least one of the contracting parties
belongs to the solemnizing officers church or
religious sect;
WHO ARE AUTHORIZED TO SOLEMNIZE MARRIAGES?
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WHO ARE AUTHORIZED TO SOLEMNIZE MARRIAGES?
3. Any ship captain or airplane chief only in the case
mentioned in Article 31 of the Family Code;
4. Any military commander of a unit to which a
chaplain is assigned, in the absence of the latter,
during a military operation, likewise only in thecases mentioned in Article 32 of the Family Code;
5. Any consul-general, consul or vice-consul in the
case provided in Article 10 of the Family Code.
WHT ARE THE ESSENTIAL REQUISITES OF MARRIAGE?
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WHT ARE THE ESSENTIAL REQUISITES OF MARRIAGE?
No Marriage shall be valid, unless these essential
requites are present.
1. Legal capacity of the contracting parties who
must be a male and a female; and
2. Consent freely given in the presence of the
solemnizing officer.
WHAT ARE THE FORMAL REQUISITES OF MARRIAGE?
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WHAT ARE THE FORMAL REQUISITES OF MARRIAGE?
The formal requisites of marriage are:
1. Authority of the solemnizing officer
2. A valid marriage license except in the cases where
the same is exempted; and
3. A marriage ceremony which takes place with the
appearance of contracting parties before the
solemnizing officer and their personal declaration
that they take each other as husband and wife inthe presence of not less than two witnesses of
legal age.
HOW OLD MUST I BE TO GET VALIDLY MARRIED?
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HOW OLD MUST I BE TO GET VALIDLY MARRIED?
Any male or female of the age of eighteen years orupwards not under any of the impediments
mentioned in Articles 37 and 38, may contract
marriage.
WHICH MARRIAGES DOES THE LAW CONSIDER VOID
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WHICH MARRIAGES DOES THE LAW CONSIDER VOID
FROM THE VERY BEGINNING?
1. Those contracted by any party below eighteen years ofage even with the consent of parents or guardians;
2. Those solemnized by any person not legally authorized
to perform marriages unless such marriages were
contracted with either or both parties believing in goodfaith that the solemnizing officer had the legal authority
to do so;
3. Those solemnized without license, except those covered
by the preceding Chapter;
4. Those bigamous or polygamous marriages not failing
under Article 41;
WHICH MARRIAGES DOES THE LAW CONSIDER VOID
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WHICH MARRIAGES DOES THE LAW CONSIDER VOID
FROM THE VERY BEGINNING?
5. Those contracted through mistake of one contractingparty as to the identity of the other; and
6. Those subsequent marriages that are void under Article
53.
7. A marriage contracted by any party who, at the time of
celebration, was psychologically incapacitated to comply
with the essential marital obligations of marriage, shall
likewise be void even if such incapacity becomes
manifest only after its solemnization.
8. Between ascendants and descendants of any degree;
and
WHICH MARRIAGES DOES THE LAW CONSIDER VOID
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WHICH MARRIAGES DOES THE LAW CONSIDER VOID
FROM THE VERY BEGINNING?
9. Between brothers and sisters, whether of the full or halfblood.
10. Between collateral blood relatives whether legitimate or
illegitimate, up to the fourth civil degree;.
11. Between step-parents and step-children;
12. Between parents-in-law and children-in-law;
13. Between the adopting parent and the adopted child;14. Between the surviving spouse of the adopted child and
the adopter;
WHICH MARRIAGES DOES THE LAW CONSIDER VOID
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WHICH MARRIAGES DOES THE LAW CONSIDER VOID
FROM THE VERY BEGINNING?
15. Between the surviving spouse of the adopted child andthe adopter;
16. Between an adopted child and a legitimate child of the
adopter;
17. Between adopted children of the same adopter;
18. Between parties where one, with the intention to marry
the other, killed that other personsspouse, or his or her
own spouse.
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CHURCH LAW ON MARRIAGE
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CHURCH LAW ON MARRIAGE
Pre-requisites for the Celebration of Marriage:
4. Banns Announcement either orally or in print in the
parishes of the contracting parties, normally for 3
consecutive Sundays or Holy Days of Obligation
before the wedding takes place..
5. Documents
Baptismal (and Confirmation) Certificates of both
parties
Marriage License
Permission to the Bridesparish priest
Parental consent
ESSENTIAL CHARACTERISTICS OF
CHURCH LAW ON MARRIAGE
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ESSENTIAL CHARACTERISTICS OF
THE CHURCH
Canonical Requirements:1. Permission to get married by the local ordinary.
2. The declaration and promise by the Catholic
party: Catholic party will declare removal of any danger of falling
away from faith;
Promise to do all power to have all the children baptized and
brought up on the Catholic Church.
The non-Catholic party should be informed of this promise.
Both parties are to be instructed about the purposes andessential properties of marriage.
3. The observance of the Canonical Form.
CHURCH LAW ON MARRIAGE
Mixed Marriages & Disparity of Cult:
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PART IIAPPRECIATING GODS DESIGN
FOR THE FAMILY
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The family is a universal and basic
element in society. It is the basic unit
which serves as the link between theindividual and society because every
persons earliest and longest experience
takes place within the family. Nothing
else can replace the family as a center
for the psycho-social development of
people and as the transmitter of culture.
THE FAMILY IN TODAYS REALITIES
DIFFERENT FORMS OF PRESSURES THAT THREATEN THE
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MATERIALISM
SECULARISM
HEDONISM CONSUMERISM
DIFFERENT FORMS OF PRESSURES THAT THREATEN THESTABILITY OF THE FAMILY
RESPONSE OF THE CHURCH: Renewal Movement
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RESPONSE OF THE CHURCH: Renewal Movement
The family and the Church play an important
role in the development of the community.
The family radiates Gods love.
The family is an
instrument of peace.
The family is PRO-LIFE.
(The family proclaims, celebrates, serves and nurtures life.)
The family is an agent of
transformation of civilization.
THE FAMILY AS A COMMUNITY OF LOVE AND LIFE
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THE FAMILY AS A COMMUNITY OF LOVE AND LIFE
CONJUGAL ACT: The Unifying Bond between
Husband and Wife
Fully Human
Total
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PROMOTING PEACE AND JUSTICE IN THE FAMILY
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The family is the smallest social unit, the basic
component, and fundamental to the life of the
society. Likewise, the family is the first school of
humanity where the parents are first and
foremost educators of the child. The homeprepares the individual for the more demanding
relationship outside the family, for the strength of
a nation is parallel to the strength of its humanmembers. Indeed, the family is the first and the
vital cell of the society.
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S CO C O ?
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WHAT IS COMMUNICATION?
It is a Basic Human Desire to express
oneself whatever form it takes. One wants
to be listened to, to be understood, to be
recognized, to feel important to be in goodrelationship with others.
If there is anything that gives man his
special nature among all living things, it ishis ability to communicate. He is the only
living species with the power of speech.
3 STYLES OF COMMUNICATION
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DIALOGUE
DUOLOGUE
MONOLOGUE
TWO WAYS OF COMMUNICATION
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Verbal
Nonverbal
COMMUNICATION
BUILDING FAMILY RELATIONS
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1. Communicating non-verbally A powerful means to affirm ones spouse Ex.: gestures, postures, facial expression
COMMUNICATION: As an Expression of Mans Nature
2. Communicating as adults Intellectual stimulation and newness Ex.: sharing or exchanging ideas gathered
from their work/profession and interests
3. Communicating as children Bringing out the child in them Ex.: playfulness, creativity, wonder, laughter,
adventure
BUILDING FAMILY RELATIONS
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7. Communicating mutual & diverse interests Source of stimulation and growth in
communication
COMMUNICATION: As an Expression of Mans Nature
8. Communicating socially Being-in-and-with-the-world Goes beyond the couples themselves to the
world outside and brings the couples intocommunication with others
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COMMUNICATION
Listening Non-verbal signals Directness Clarity
Husband-Wife Relation
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1. Communication builds up and develops anauthentic relationship between couples: Enables couples to express the love for
each other. Helps them keep in touch & support
their lives together as husband & wife.
Good communication minimizes &recognizes disagreements &differences.
Importance of Communication in Marriage
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2. Communication is a way of creating aclimate of faith, understanding and trustbetween couples:
Itis the breath of lifein marriage. Nomarriage will survive without it.
Good communication is a give and take;
listening and sharing. Open and honest communication putscharity, love , trust and faith intopractice.
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3. Prayer as communication with Godstrengthens the marriage (relationship)and enables one to discern Gods will in
lifesdaily events. In prayer, Godsgrace is also received. Communication with God in prayer is
spending quality time with himpersonally as a family (A family thatprays together, stays together.).
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A PARENTS PRAYER
Lord give me wisdom
to deal with our children as you would,
to see in each of them Your Holy image,
To develop in them a Christ-like love of men
not only a select few,
to nurture in them a divine desire to put in and not simply to
take out
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To teach them to be go givers not go-getters
O, God in training these dear ones
Whom you have entrusted to our charge-help us
To encourage rather than discourage them
To discipline with kindness not softness
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To pray always that they will be close to you,
Not only for the few years of this life but for the endless years ofthe eternity.