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‘Aha’ moments for Women Of A Certain Age
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Transitions includeThe nice ones:• Graduation• Leaving home• Getting married• Buying a home• Starting a family• Getting a promotion• Starting a business• Achieving a dream
The nasty ones:• Adolescence• Divorce• Redundancy• Bereavement• Mid life crisis*• Serious illness
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And the ambivalent ones…These are the transitions where you might have expected
to have felt really positive, but leave you feeling confused…
Motherhood Job promotion Relocation to new home Marriage Your youngest child leaving home Success Retirement
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•The person we thought we were has changed•The situation that we were familiar with has changed•We are not sure what will happen next•We don’t know what to do next•We don’t know what we want
…we just don’t know any more!
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Ending
Ending
Beginning…
Ending
“The fog”
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“Are the first phase of the transition process and a precondition of self –renewal.”
William Bridges – Making sense of Life’s Changes
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Kubler-Ross 5 stage grief model
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Endings come in stages too:
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Losing your identity
The disidentification stage may involve: Loss of a role that previously guided your behavior Lack of a ‘label’ for yourself Not sure who you are or who you want to become
“What am I? Who am I?”
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The key activities that I encourage my clients to do include:•Journaling•Nurturing themselves•Time alone•Identifying core values
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Obstacles you will probably face…•Your own inner resistance at taking the steps forward•Fear of the unknown•Your inner critic•Procrastination
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Some small steps you can take…•Keep in mind that when you are ready to make the new beginning, the opportunity will present itself•Listen to your emotional signals•Begin to identify with the final result – what will it look and feel like•Do something everyday, however small, that moves you forward•Remember that this is part of a journey, never the end destination
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…the laundry(Zen proverb)
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