Understanding Self/Coaching OthersAn Introduction to Human Needs Coaching

Every coach needs to know how to meet their needs in ways that is workable for them, others, and for the larger community

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Anthony Robbins• Human Needs Psychology - for over 30 years Robbins’

unique experience of working with millions of people led him to develop a series of principles and tools called HNP

• Robbins’ one-on-one intervention work with individuals from all walks of life formed the template for modern one-on-one coaching practices.

• Robbins-Madanes Center for Strategic Intervention - since 2002, Robbins & renown family therapist, Cloe Madanes collaborated to develop strategic interventions to the toughest of personal/relational problems.

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Cloe Madanes• Madanes was named one of the top 20

therapists of the 20th Century

• Co-founder of Strategic Family Therapy - provides swift, effective, and lasting solutions to the whole range of human challenges

• The Council for the Human Rights of Children - applying the insights of Strategic Intervention for the protection/healthy upbringing of at-risk children.

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Presentation Outline

• The 6 Human Needs• Human Needs Assessment• Human Needs Intervention and Strategies– Meaning Triad–Physiological state change –Metaphors–Reframing

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The 6 Human Needs

• Certainty• Uncertainty• Significance• Love/Connection

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• Growth• Contribution

Personality Needs

Meaning/Fulfillment Needs

CERTAINTY• Certainty - think of it as the

ability to avoid pain and/or to obtain pleasure

• It is a survival instinct hardwired into us

• Trust / confidence / security / expectation / routine

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The more you allow

The more you try

The more you learn

The more you grow

The more you will feel alive

The quality of your life is in directproportion to the amount of uncertainty

you can comfortably allow

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UNCERTAINTY• Variety is the "spice of life"

• Uncertainty reflects our need for adventure / surprise / novelty

• We long to expand ourselves emotionally/relationally and challenge ourselves

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How reliable / accessible/ deliverable is it?High chasing...

Variety is a change of stateAddictions are powerful ways to change one's state

Certainty Uncertainty/Variety

ADDICTION

People who are certainty drivenend up with very different lives than

people driven by uncertainty

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SIGNIFICANCE• The universal greatest fear

in human experience...

• Significance is measured by uniqueness/distinctions

•Men and women regarding significance

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I don’t feel secure

I don’t feel loved

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I don’t feel secure

I don’t feel loved

I don’t feel appreciated

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LOVE/CONNECTION• Another one of our greatest

fears is not being loved

• Many people settle for simply being connected yet they really want love

• Love/Connection is measured by what people share with each other

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I don’t feel secure

We love youchild

I feel uncertain

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GROWTH• “If we do not grow we die.

Life is never static.”

• Parents grow as they move through the family lifecycle

• Our commitment to grow is reinforced by meeting the first four needs

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I feel secure

I feel disrespected

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CONTRIBUTION• Some people contribute to

others to avoid not being good enough

• Contribution is the pinnacle experience of meaning & purpose

• Contribution can meet all of a person’s six needs and is thus the goal of Human Needs Coaching

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I feel secure

I feel loved

We feel empowered

I feel certain

I feel confident

I feel significant

I feel connected

I see growth

All becauseI contribute…

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THE MEANING TRIADPhysiology(The body experience)

FocusLanguage

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PHYSIOLOGY

Physiology(The body experience)

• Introduce yourself to three other people as if they are taking up your time

• …as if your are deathly afraid of how they are going to react to you

• …as if they are a long lost friend come back into your life

• The link between motion and emotion

• The way we have been taught/conditioned

• Passive thinking versus active engagement

• Energy is contagious!

GROUP EXERCISE

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FOCUS• Meaning determined by our

feelings which in turn is determined by our focus

• Focus determines our feeling state

• What we focus on is determined by what we value the most

• What we value the most is determined by our needs

Focus

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Your needs structure

What you value

What you focus on

What you feel

What meaning you make

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LANGUAGE PATTERNS• How people describe label their

experience affects their physiology and the meanings they make

• Language is like a time capsule

• Language can be used to make powerful decisions

• Thinking is the process of asking and answering questions to oneself.

Language

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LANGUAGE PATTERNS• People use metaphors to

describe their experience

• Change the use of the metaphor by extending the client’s story

• Reframing - shifting the focus of the client by cast their experience in another context

• Reframing gives the client permission to have a different experience of the same event

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