in-house publication of the indian society for applied ...from dean publication and digital...

Here amp Now

Cover credit Paint ink on ivory sheet by Bhawana Maheshwari

In-house Publication

Of the

INDIAN SOCIETY for

APPLIED BEHAVIORAL SCIENCES

httpswwwisabsorg

Vol 33 ndash Dec 2018

Contents hellip (12)

2

Sno Subject Resource Page

1 From Dean Publication and Digital Transformation Ameet Mattoo 4

2 A glimpse of India Applied Behavioral Sciences Summit 2018 Harish Raichandani 5 - 6

3 Pushing Back or Pushing Forward Gauri Nigudkar 7 - 11

4 Art Work Bhawana Maheshwari 11

5 The Fool Jayesh Sampat 11

6 Anaam Gaurav Gupta 12

7 How many lives do we have Ameet Mattoo 13 - 15

8 Anchors of Life Rakhee Samsi 16 - 17

9 Jung Kumud Kalia 17

10 Continuing OD Education (CODE) R Sankarasubramanyan 18 - 21

11 Exiled Emotionshellipmaking a comeback Priya Vasudevan 22

12 Influence of Values and Needs on the Roles we take up in the Group Rahul Thapar 23 - 24

13 When Silence Speaks Sunita Raut 25 - 29

14 Nostalgia Dr Mukta Kamplikar 29

15 Solitary Spaces Dr Mukta Kamplikar 29 - 30

16 Inception ndash Movie Review Dr Mukta Kamplikar 31 - 33

17 The Ship of Theseus Neha Gupta Lehl 33

18 Art Work Bhavisha Lakhiani 33


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19 Seeking without Not within and the Opposite of it Neha Gupta Lehl 34 - 35

20 Inner World Neha Gupta Lehl 36

21 Happiness and Self Shyleswari M Rao 36 - 38

22 Whats the meaning of life Other people Sanjay Dutt 38 - 40

23 Challenges in the Consulting Career Amol Pawar 41 - 44

24 Moments Dr Mukta Kamplikar 44

25 मर फोन म (Mere Phone Mein) Amol Pawar 45

26 खश रहो (Khush Raho) Amol Pawar 45

27 बादल (Baadal) Amol Pawar 45

28 Building a New EQ Exploration Quotient Tarsh Williams and Mukul Joshi 46 - 48

29 A Tryst With Nature Rashi Agarwal 48 - 49

30 Honestly I ask myself Jahnavi Gurjer 50 - 52

31 Reflections Sanah 53 - 55

32 3 Ts in T-Group Cdr Mukund R Joglekar (Retd) 56 - 58

33 qxqx fuekZZk (Yug Nirmaan) Uttam Kumar 58

34 cu tk rw Hkh balku (Ban Jaa Tu Bhi Insaan) Uttam Kumar 58

35 Masculine and Feminine in context of T-group Nikita Yogi Ganatra 59 - 62

36 Credits Editorial Team 63

From Dean Publication and Digital Transformation

Greetings

It is with great pleasure that weannounce the release of the latestedition of the Here amp Now

Earlier this year I took the role ofDean Publication and DigitalTransformation and I am quiteexcited about it

I feel so blessed to be supported bysuch a large and diverse team of ndashAtul Chugh Gauri Nigudkar HemaShekhar Jimmy Dabhi KhirodPattnaik Lalitha Iyer LindaBaptista Meenakshi VijayasimhaRenuka Singh Sanjay Dutt SatyakkiBhattacharjee Surya Mani Singhand Sushma Sharma

The role has been exciting as wellas challenging so farhellip

4

From the Digital Transformationperspective while we did startwith a lot of expectations andhopes we faced lot of challengesthis year primarily in terms oftechnology solution and managingthe vendors to deliver thesolutions to usI still feel hopeful that by mid 2019we would have implemented thesoftware which manages most ofISABS database participant life-cycle as well as functional flow ofour Labs PDP and ODCP

We do seem to be generatingsome buzz on Social Media and weshould soon have a new avatar ofour website

The new editorial team of Here ampNow team did a wonderful job ofputting together this new editionThanks to Jimmy Dabhi TejinderBhogal Hema Shekhar and LindaBaptista ndash the Leader and Anchorof the team which made thishappen so smoothly

Having been part of the lsquoHere andNowrsquo team since last 5 years now(earlier under the leadership ofRajeshwari Lakshmanan and UllhasSupatkar) I know it takes a lot ofeffort energy and most importantlypersistence to make these releasescome edition after edition

My Gratitude to all the authors Yourwilling contributions is what makesthe Here and Now come alive againand again

We should soon come out with aspecial edition around recentlyconcluded ABS Summit For nowHarish has been kind enough to puttogether a quick summaryhellip Read on

ameetmattoogmailcom

A glimpse of India Applied Behavioral Sciences Summit 2018by Harish Raichandani

ISABS took the lead to host the firstever ABS summit with enthusiasticsupport from multiple generationsof ABS professionals Held at IndiaInternational Centre in New Delhion 16 and 17 November 2018 theconference brought together thewho-is-who of human processprofessionals from across thespectrum of ISABS SumedhasAastha and erstwhile ISISD Theseorganizations and participants lenttheir support to this move werethere to present insights and sharetheir wisdom

Attended by over 100 professionalsfrom academia governmentindustry and social sector the twodays presented a rich tapestry of 5

ldquoलगता ह वो हमस लमहो म सददयो कादहसाब माागत हrdquo (itrsquos as if in a fewseconds they wish to hear saga ofcenturies)

experience impact and heart-warming stories and narratives oftransformative journeys impactinglives of individuals communitiesinstitutions and governance Thenetworking bonhomie andprofessional reconnecting after agap of decades only added to theenergy fun and gaiety

The unreadable infographic printedhere is a testimony to the packedtwo days with parallel sessionsputting audience in quandary overwhich lsquorightrsquo to choose

With 50+ speakers who broughttheir life time experience writing aquick report for HampN sounds like hellip

To do justice to this rarecelebration of ABS Practice inIndia we will be sharing in moredetail the contributions impactcreated and lives of luminarieswho graced the occasion through aspecial issue of lsquoHere amp Nowrsquo

Capturing their contributionstransformations and impact of theirinitiatives will help us understandthe significance of ABS The sharingspanned across many themes fromindividual evolution shapingchildren empowering womenchanging communities rejuvenatingenvironment and building thenation

The young 20 somethings and thewise 90 somethings being under thesame roof was not the onlyindicator of diversity in conferenceThe policy makers social activistsschool teachers film and theatrepersonalities corporate honchosstudents passionate parents andmanagement educators were tied inone sutra of Applied BehavioralScience practice Each one waspresent to learn and to shareseeking to enhance individual andhuman well-being in familialorganizational and societal contextsthrough the application of theexisting and emerging knowledgefrom humanities and science 6

A glimpse of India Applied Behavioral Sciences Summit 2018

Many of the speakers submittedtheir papers Until you get to seethe detailed report on conferencein our special issue you couldbrowse these papers athttpswwwabssummit2018compapershtml

On behalf of H amp N readers wecelebrate each of the speakersorganizers and participants

Harish Raichandaniharishpotentiain

One of the annual rituals in ourhousehold during theldquopitrupakshardquo (the 15 days periodbefore Navratri) is to cleanse it allhellip ie not just mind body and spiritbut also the house Here I wascleaning up the cabinets anddrawers when I chanced upon oldphotographs Memories rushed inand typically as it happens incleaning up the task itself wasforgotten I travelled down thememory lane to a time when I wasin Egypt seventeen years ago

The VP must have seen the horroron my face and asked me whathappened I pushed back saying itis ridiculous that a decision is beingmade on toss of a coin Everythingthat unfolded after that is historyBut this incident remains with meas a first when I pushed back thesystem in no uncertain terms

While I call it lsquopush backrsquo inretrospect I think it was actuallypushing the system forward I stillremember the respect that I saw inmy VPrsquos eyes when he heard meask them ldquoWhy canrsquot you makethe decision based on meritrdquo Inthat moment I had demanded thatthe organization also lives by theespoused values of performanceexcellence

7

Pushing Back or Pushing Forward By Gauri Nigudkar

I still remember that day when myboss called me saying we wereneeded in the Vice-Presidentrsquosoffice She marched me and mycolleague to his office immediatelyThe two of them ndash VP and my bossbroke the news to us that therewas an opportunity of gettingposted in Egypt for a 6 monthproject Both me and my colleaguewere thrilled at the prospect Thencame the news that only oneperson can be posted there andthe meeting was about decidingwhich one of us can be posted

So I asked them what the job waslike and what was expected ofwhoever got posted there etc Mycolleague too had some questionsThe VP answered them allpatiently and finally we ran out ofquestions Then came the decisionmaking time and to my horror myboss suggested that the decisionshould be made on a toss of a coin

Everyone everywhere seems to bepushing back to push forwardLeaders and HR professionals oforganizations are pushing back toamplify the organizationalachievements Social activists arepushing back to improve loads ofthings ranging from the livelihoodof less privileged to governanceand policies Fitness gurus arepushing back to improve theoverall fitness around the worldSpiritual gurus are pushing back toinfluence the mindset of peopleand enhance positivity Theatreand Film makers are pushing backto bring forward new thinkingWriters and artisans are pushingold norms of art and craft toreclaim freedom to create

Common men women and othergenders are pushing back for theiridentity their rights and theirfreedom The list is endless Inshort everyone is pushing back topush forward in life

However not every push backmeets with a forward successSometimes it just fails sometimesitrsquos squashed by powers that aremightier and sometimes it justfizzles out What goes into makinga success out of a push back In myopinion some of the successfactors are

Courage to take the riskThe risk of losing it all risk offailing is possibly the biggestdeterrent to people takinginitiative to push back a system Inmy own example stated abovepushing back the system meantlosing an opportunity to getinternational work experience

Pushing Back or Pushing Forward

8

For a young rookie it was a bigthing It could have meant that mycareer was finished But beingsent on a toss of a coin made nosense to me I wanted to be seenfor my calibre and not to belabelled as the lucky one who gotto go to Egypt This gave me thecourage to risk it

Persistence

The most common examples ofpersistence are possibly the onesfrom Social activism The verdict onSection 377 of Indian penal Codewith ref to consensual homosexualsex is the most recent example ofpersistence by the onesdemanding a change I was inschool when I first went on aneducative school trip to look atNarmada Dam under constructionThat was when I saw a handful ofpeople sitting there on the damsite with banners and flags

They were quietly protesting anddemanding the rights of the oneswho were going to be displacedand affected due to the Narmadadam project The fight continuesmore than 3 decades later withhundreds of people taking up thecause along with Medha PatkarThe activists of Narmada BachaoAndolan continue to push thesystem to push forward for thelivelihood of the tribal and ruralcommunity

They have met with small and bigsuccesses They have also seenenough failure to despair themBut they persist and the systemmoves bit by bit to take us forwardas an inclusive and equal societythat is espoused by theConstitution of India

Managing multiple realitiesWhen bringing about change inany system awareness andknowledge of the system is crucial

9


Push backs work when itrsquos doneeffectively and at the right placePushing for the sake of pushingoften gets labelled as counter-dependence or is seen as awayward rebellious process thathas no meaning or focus

It is important to leverage and holdmultiple realities within a systemto be able to push it in a desireddirection This holds true across adiverse diaspora -- from a verypersonal space of knowing yourown body as a system to knowingthe world affairs and its challengeswhile bringing about large systemchanges

Creativity and Innovation

Indian cinemarsquos contribution topushing back the society to look atitself is undeniable From veryearly days of cinema till today filmmakers have pushed us to thinkdifferently and presented a mirrorto the society

Whether it was the bold 1937 filmlsquoDuniya Na Manersquo (by prolific film-maker V Shantaram) about ayoung girlrsquos rebellion on beingmarried to a man her fatherrsquos ageor the most discussed film of 2016lsquoPinkrsquo (by Aniruddha RoyChaowdhury)

Both films sparked loads ofconversations across variousforums and led to people takingconcrete action to push for betterways of being One can neverarrive at a conclusive answer as towhether art imitates fiction or vice-a-versa

When pushing back to stand forsomething the more creative andinnovative one is that much likelyone is to get attention and be ableto influence the system This doesnot mean one has to be makingfilms As kids havenrsquot we all beenhighly creative in getting thingsdone our way

Belief in selfHistory is rich with examples ofpeople who have pushed theirphysical emotional psychologicalintellectual limits to achieveextraordinary results For instanceone could be talking of one of thegreatest theoretical physicist of ourtimes Stephen Hawking whopushed back his rare disease to dophenomenal work in multipleareas Or one could be referring tothe great Indian reformer of 19th

century Mahatma Jyotiba Phulewho pushed back the societytaking up a battle against the castesystem and actively supportedwomenrsquos education

Or one could be discussing amodern day Everester like AparanaPrabhudesai who pushed heremotional and physical limits tosummit Mt Everest after beingtold that she can never walkwithout support again Whatbinds these people through historyis their belief in self and theirpassion to pursue what theybelieved in They truly seemed tohold a dictionary that did not havewords like Impossible Fear andFailure

Words create WorldsCommunication is the key tosuccessful push back Itrsquos notenough to push a system back Itrsquosimportant to announce it to theworld Stories must be told Wordmust be spread Stating yourthoughts feelings and ideasauthentically may sound dauntingbut that is what creates a newworld If you donrsquot express whatyou think and feel you are going toremain in a status quo

There is a lot of research inpositive psychology that tells usabout how language impacts theend result Let me share with youmy experience from the time whenI was in a job My boss used to sayldquoYou didnrsquot do so and so thingsrdquoand I used to feel accused andunacknowledged My energy usedto be downright low after such anencounter In contrast my super-boss used to say ldquoI like what youhave done Also I think you couldadd to it so and so thing What doyou thinkrdquo I used to feel upliftedand energized Both of them werepushing me for improving what Iwas doing Itrsquos just the way inwhich they spoke that made thedifference

10



As I write about pushing back to pushforward the question that comes tomy mind is how do you see theprocess of push back Often pushback pre-supposes aggression andactivism It seems to underwrite arebellion of sorts My experiencesays it doesnrsquot have to be onlyaggression or activism It can simplybe about standing up for onersquos ownvalues and beliefs It could be doneassertively and peacefully Few linesby Tanveer Ghazi come to my mind hellip

त खद की खोज म ननकलत ककस ललए हताश हत चल तर वजद कीसमय को भी तलाश हसमय को भी तलाश ह

Pushing back to Push Forward Itrsquos allabout believing in self trusting selfand standing up for onersquos values LikeTanveer Ghazi says keep walkingTime awaits your glorious self SoPUSH FORWARD now

11

The Foolby Jayesh Sampat

jayeshsampatgmailcom

Art byBhawana Maheshwari

Maheshwaribhawanagmailcom

Vibrant Rajasthan

Simplicity is the keynote of all true elegance

Gauri Nigudkargaurikngmailcom

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agarwalrashirgmailcom

lsquoAnaamrsquo by Gaurav Gupta

इस मासम अनाम बचच क चहरपर आयी मसकराहट का राज तोमझ नह ा पता लककन उसकी यमसकराहट हर पल य ह नह ा बनीरहगी कयोकक य कोई आम बचचानह ा I

इस बचच की तसवीर मन गोरखपररलव पलटफामम क पास ल ह I यऐस बचच ह जो रलव पलटफामम परपदा होत और शायद यह मर भीजात ह न कोई जनमददन परहसन वाला होता ह और न मरनपर रोन वाला I

बड़ी ववचचतर सी होती ह इनकी दननयागगन ह इनका छत ह और रलव काजाल ह इनका घर I कफर भी य कभीरोत या परशान नह ा होत लककनइनका बचपन इनस कब नछन जाताइनह कानो कान खबर नह ा होती I

मरन तक एक चीज इनका कभी पीछानह ा छोड़ती ldquoभखrdquo I इस भख कखानतर कड़ कचर स य कछ उममीदोको उठात ह जो शायद उनकी सट हईपट और पीठ की जगह को कछ वक़तक ललए भर दता ह I यह इनकी जीवनशल ह और शायद आन वाला कल परय बदल सकता ह ndash मर आपक हमारldquoपरयासrdquo स इसक ललए अात म लसफमइतना ह कहना चाहागा कक

सनदर वन ह बहत घनल छाव यहाकी छलना ह

अर पचिक ववशराम कहा ह बहत दरतक चलना ह I

Photography by Gaurav Gupta

How many lives do we have - By Ameet Mattoo

It has been over 2500 years sincehe said this still most of us seemto struggle with this question ndash tolive our dreams or not Eventhough we all have a desire to livea meaningful life by pursuing ourpassions and fulfilling ourpotential there is something thatholds us back

When I speak to many of myfriends and colleagues I see acommon thread in most narratives

While most of them have donewell for themselves in their lives ndashthey are earning well are doingwell professionally or have a wellsettled family life there issomething that still seems amiss

There seems to be a yearning forsomething more somethingmeaningful that would fulfil themsatisfy them and make them livetheir full potential

Internalised Role IdentitiesIn my experience there are manyreasons which impact people notbeing able to live the life theydesire which include a limitingmind-set (fear of failure riskavoidance avoiding ambiguity etc)as well as traps that come withsocial successThere however seems to be onemore reason which is that ofinternalized role identities peoplelive These role identities manifestdifferently for both men andwomen

The role identities men internaliseFor most men the commoninternalized role identity is that ofa provider that they need to makesure they earn enough - so as toafford all that is expected fromthem by their families and asdefined by society around themDuring a conversation with afriend he shared ldquoI cannot affordnot to maintain the life style we areused tordquo even though he had adeep yearning to do somethingelse something different Myinstant response to him was ldquoSoyou are willing to sacrifice your lifefor the life stylerdquo

13

Confucius said ldquoWe all have two lives and the second one starts when we realise we have only onerdquo

ldquoWe seem willing to sacrifice our Life for our Life-Stylerdquo

For some others it is alsoa prestigeself-esteem issue Theyhave a social standing in thepecking order which their jobs andtitles provide and to let go of thatis extremely difficult As aconsequence most men aregripped with a fear of losing whatthey have This fear then manifestsas fear of failure risk aversion andallergy to ambiguity However thepath of living onersquos potential isfilled with taking risks going intounknown unchartered territorieswhich then looks threatening

And the one women assumeFor many women the commoninternalized role identity is that ofa care giver That they need tomake sure that everyone aroundthem especially their childrenparents parents-in-law andspouses are taken care of and in amanner as expected from them bytheir families and as defined bysociety around them

The most common thought is ndash ldquoif Itake care of myself my passion mydesires who will take care of thekids and familyrdquo And this thoughtthen introduces a guilt which theytry to avoid

As a consequence most women then fabricate more and more reasons to tell themselves and people others around them why they canrsquot go out and do what they would have loved to

Spending long years with thesethoughts then develops a lack ofself-belief and self-confidence tothe extent that they start believingthat even if they go out they wonrsquotsucceed

Thus both men and womencommit themselves to a life whichgives them the comfort of safetyand predictability and someamount of joy but leave out awhole lot more that could havegiven a lot more satisfaction

The Inner calling that keeps us awake

While they continue to go about their lives the desire however persists and shows up in niggling ways There are flashes of what seems like a larger self-beckoning A self that despite apparent satisfaction comforts and fulfilment surprisingly asks for more

14

How many lives do we have

There are sleepless nights anddreamy days when there is a deepknowing that something differentis meant for ME I want to dosomething else somethingdifferent is the common quote Ioften hear from people - thoughnot always sure what thatdifferent could be

Many a times people find ways tosubvert these thoughts by creatinga temporary diversion - Running amarathon Road trip to Leh Allboys or all girls trip to Goa Barcelona etc which doprovide a short term exhilaration -not long lasting though

Often the question returns tohaunt If one is willing to giveattention to the thought itrsquosturbulent and scary at times andexhilarating at other times

15

Since the path ahead is full ofunprecedented choices to bemade with no map no compassfew believers even fewer co-travellers and shoestringresources The journey aheadseems hazy It seems fraught withdilemmas that comes withpersonal sacrifices ndash of familyfinances stability status and manyothers It takes courage to get ontosuch a path alone Since not manypeople we know have been seenwilling to get onto this path

The starting point and the wayahead to create a new life forourselves include

bull Coax our passion and dormantpotential

bull Understand the mind-setneeded to be enterprising

bull Arouse our deeperachievement motives andintegrate them with our otherneeds and motives

bull Discover ways of work-life integration

bull Learn to channel angst and guilt to pride creativity and joy

bull Understand our relationship with Risk Failures Ambiguity and Self-doubt

bull Mine the hidden treasures of our environment to be even more resourceful

bull Commit solidly to a tangible design for the future to fulfil the potential

My own journey through this turbulent path had been a roller-coaster and lonely one too However believing deeply in the dream and keeping faith in the universe that it would aid this journey as long as I am authentic and truthful to it has helped


Ameet Mattooameetmattoogmailcom

Have you ever wonderedWhen everything around you is in chaosWhat is it that gives you the strength to face the world with all your mightWell there is a secret recipe we all have Its only a matter of time before you discover this strength

I call it lsquothe anchorrsquoWhich hold our feet firmly on groundAnchor helps us clear the clutter and think clear

16

Anchors of Life by Rakhee Samsi

Anchor helps us come back on track and focus on the larger goalAnchor helps us get centered to counter the negative thoughts that enter our mind

Anchor walks in our life in many shapes and formsIt could be a friend who reminds you to believe in yourself Shows you the mirrors and tells you you are much beyond the current situationThis is not the end but just a bendHe restores your hope and faithGiving you the strength to move onHe is the pillar which you can always fall back upon

Anchor could be an memory or an experienceWhich has had a deep impact on youIt presents itself to you when you are about to give upIts flashes in front of your eye

Reminding you if you conquered it thenyou can do it once againIt energizes you to take the challenge head on

Anchor could be your role model -your parents coach or even a celebrity who your admireSomeone who has been a source of inspiration for you

When you are tired and feel helplessThese stories re-kindle the hopeThey give you the courage to brave the storm

17

माज़ी म धास पाओा खच तो लरखन को उनह ज़मीा कहा स लाऊ इसी कशम-ऐ-कश म िी ज़ज़ादगी मर एक उलझन म िी उलझी ज़ज़नदगी मर किर उठी ददल स आवाज़

खोल पाख भर ल परवाज़

सारा आसमा ह तर पास

रख अपन मन म ववशवास बढ़ा कदम हौसल क साग

दख परराद राग उनक राग

ख़द स लड़नी ह यह जाग

तो कौधी हौसल की तराग दहल ज़ प आ दठठक कदम

ख़ौि न आ दबोचा मरा दम

इतनी महिज़ हो पाऊा गी क हामर जननत औ कायनात ह याहा

ना म ना कर पाऊ गी यह मरत दम

न म न उठा पाऊ गी ऐसा कदम

इस दननया म खो न जाऊ कह ायह खला आसमा मर ललए नह ी कब तक रहोगी इस दननया स डर

बढ़ा कदम यह ज़ज़नदगी ह लसिम तर कोई और नह ी त ख़द को डराती ह

क़वत-ऐ-परवाज़ को ज़ाग लगाती ह कभी हौसला भार तो कभी खौफ तार इस जाग म त कयो हार खल क खल यह पार ददल-ओ-ददमाग़ न ललया फसला तभीइस ख़ौि स पानी होगी राहत अभीलना होगा कदम ख़ौिज़दा होत हए भीपाऊ गी अपना वजद और ज़ज़ादगी तभीकफर ककया ख़द ह स यह अहद मन

खौफज़दा हो कर उठाया कदम मन

ददल धड़का मरा दमका मरा ज़मीर

आसमा ख़द उतर आया बनन ज़मीा

कमद तनहाई

Jung by Kumud Kalia

Anchors are all around youAll it needs is a careful observationEvery time when the thoughts of giving up enters your mindHold on turn and look aroundWho is it that you have admired all along

Recount their strengths Visualize your past successesMeasure the enormity of the current situation You will realize its not as big as it seems

Discuss the situation with your anchor in real or in imaginationYou will emerge more centered after this conversationReady for the next leapfull of zest to be yourself

Anchors are precious in our life cherish them always

Anchors of Life

Rakhee Samsirakheesamsigmailcom

Kumud Kaliakumudkaliagmailcom

Introduction

ISABS started the OrganizationDevelopment Certificate Program(ODCP) in 2005 as a part of itsendeavor to develop professionalswith process based competenciesto undertake organizationaldevelopment activities either asinternal change agents or asexternal consultants

18

There were also many Alumni whoshared the need to get deeperexperience into OD and alsoopportunities for practice for thosewho had difficulty finding ODassignments in their ownorganizations

This was also a logical stepconsidering that OD graduates arealso coming from other sourceslike TISS and there will be a widerpool of participants who will beavailable to deepen their ODknowledge and experience ISABSis ready to cater to the emergingneed

The Process

The first question for the APC wasthe process of constructing thiscourse in an OD way by engagingthe potential client system indesigning the course

Organizational development isbased on applied behavioralscience and this was a logicalextension to ISABS work indeveloping process facilitators forgroups organizations andcommunities

ISABS also collaborated with anNGO in creating a similar programfor the social sector called OCFP(organization change facilitatorsprogram) and later conceived andexecuted a new program for thecommunity level social workerscalled CPFP (Community ProcessFacilitators Program) For moredetails on all these programsplease visit wwwisabsorg

After 10 batches of ODCP we hadover a hundred ODCP alumni theAcademic and Planning Committee(APC) decided to offer a platformfor continuing OD education

Continuing OD Education (CODE) ndash By R Sankarasubramanyan

on behalf of the APC team of ODCP

The advanced OD studies offering from ISABS

A core team of ODCP Alumni wasset up under the leadership ofPriya Vasudevan member of theAPC This core team brainstormedon what we would like to learnand how - thus creating ascaffolding for CODE

The core team collected data fromthe alumni HR leaders in theIndustry few academicians andalso researched OD courses offeredby many universities around theworld The research findings werecollated and a document outliningthe areas of focus course contentstheories and model that needfurther exploration and eventeachers from whom they wouldlike to learn was created by theCore group of Alumni Theypresented the report to the APCThe APC conceptualized thediagnosis through many dialoguesand the model for CODE emergedfrom the same

19

The Model

Generally in any organization ODwork begins with the visible workdomain of an organization ie theldquodoingrdquo of an organization Thesecould be at the level of teamworkchanging a process improvingproductivity engagement and soon

The inputs received from theresearch conducted by the Alumnicore group indicated that thedeeper application of OD is tomove from the ldquodoingrdquo to theldquobeingrdquo of an organization

These applications of OD are moreat the level of organizationalstrategies intervening at a systemslevel and also changing the cultureThe model emerged from thisunderstanding

CODE has four elements CultureSystem Strategy and Self The firstthree are the lenses to view anorganization and the Self is the onewho is wearing those lensesHence there will be three modulesof CODE with Self as a runningtheme across modules

Given below are the perspectivesthrough which we are defining andviewing these three dimensions ofCulture System and Strategy

Culture is the organizationalbackdrop the tapestry based onwhich the organizational lifeevolves

cODe

CULTURE SELF

SYSTEM STRATEGY

Continuing OD Education (CODE)

We learn about culture only whenwe try to change it Culture is thecontext in which the organization issituated This is informed by thenature of the organization (type ofbusiness) the ownershipgeographical location the age ofthe organization and so onStudying the culture helps us tounderstand why things happen in aparticular way in the organization

Organizations are open systemsimpacted from within and outsideUnderstanding the inter-dependencies helps in bringing realchange Organizations are systemswith a purpose They form thecontours of the organizationSystems are informed by the wayof organizing the variouscomponents and their interactionthe inputs throughputs andoutputs of the organization TheSystem is also contextualized bythe shared culture

20

While Culture is the backdrop andSystem is the foreground Strategydrives the organization to live itspurpose and vision OD needs tobe strategic to impact the wholeWhile Shared Culture and Systemdefine the ldquobeingrdquo Strategy is theldquodoingrdquo of the organizationStrategy indicates the choices thatare made the direction of growthand development and thepresence in the environmentStrategy is contextualized by theshared culture and the system

Organization Developmenthappens in the processes ofinteraction between the Self andthe organization Awareness ofonersquos values and competencies isthe touchstone for facilitatingchange The purpose direction andchange in organizations impactindividuals and the reverse is alsotrue Self is the creator andfacilitator of the organizationaleco-system The Self is alsoimpacted by the eco system ithelped to create


21

The lens for understandingorganizations and intervening inthem are based on awareness ofself and the shared culture systemand strategies of the organization

The Design

CODE will have three modules withthe Self as a running theme acrossthe modules The first module willbe Culture OD followed bySystemic OD and Strategic ODParticipants can self pacethemselves and learn thesemodules across years A CODEcertificate will be given oncompletion of each module

The course is blended learningwith three contact modules ofthree days each virtual learningsessions to augment the learningfrom the contact modules and aCapstone project


There is also a unique immersiveexperience created as part of thedesign intended to helpparticipants soak in learn aboutand experiment with theorganizational dimension studiedThe course will be spread over 9months The detailing of thedesign assigning trainers andworking out the logistics are beingundertaken by a sub-group of theAPC headed by Mukul with Priyaand Payal The first batch has 8people signed up and starts fromNovember 23rd 2018

Initially this program will be openonly for ODCP alumni and maybelater extended to our professionalmembers as well as alumni ofother OD programs like TISS

I hope CODE will enhance ISABScontribution to the field of OD andABS in the years to come

R Sankarasubramanyanrsankarayahoocom

In a session on EmotionalIntelligence I asked my students ndashall mid-career executives lsquowhatfeelings do you express at workrsquoThe word lsquofeelingsrsquo led to a pauseand then a cringe Tentativeanswers lsquoexcitementrsquo lsquofunrsquolsquohappinessrsquo After some proddinglsquoaggressionrsquo lsquoangerrsquo and then theytapered off lsquoWhat about sadnessenvy and frustrationrsquo Thestudents looked blank and some ofthem contemplative

Having worked at few world classorganizations my findings aresimilar

Organisations by design permitsupposedly task lsquopromotingrsquoemotions while suppressing orignoring task lsquoinhibitorsrsquo like angerand sadness

Many of us have been witness toor at the receiving end of lsquofiringrsquo bythe boss ndash and in the aftermath theaffected employee puts on a braveface only to go seething and sad topeers feeding the grapevineAggressive bosses are lauded astask masters and while thenurturing ones are dismissed aslsquonice human beingsrsquo

Thus the masculine trumps overthe feminine - the exiled emotionsbuild up as Organizational shadowor baggage ndash deciding to eruptviolently at a most opportune andleast appropriate time

Rare that they may be there areorganizations who are waking upto this disturbing reality

They take up cudgels on behalf ofthe exiled emotions and throughthe D amp I focus ndash encourageemployees to bring their lsquowholeselves to workrsquo Tentativeness andambiguity is accepted flow is anorm than the exception winningis welcome yet notlsquoworshippedrsquohellipshaping a refreshingCorporate narrative

When the mind is without fear andthe head is held highWhere the clear stream of reasonhas not lost its way into the drearydesert sand of dead habitInto that heaven of freedom letmy lsquocorporatersquo awake

22

Exiled Emotionshellipmaking a comeback ndash By Priya Vasudevan

Priya Vasudevanpriyavasudevan1903gmailcom

In the lab I could explore how myneeds and values were impactingmy behaviour and actions Mydeveloped understanding is that Ihave many needs and values but atthe same time I need to be awareof how it is impacting mybehaviour and presence in thegroup How it defines the role I amplaying within the group in hereand now

Few values and needs are alivewithin me To fulfil these I will takesome actions or behave in certainway - unconsciously or consciously

23

It may hinder or pace up othermembers growth and learningprocess in the group

I would like to share a couple of myexperiential examples from the labIn my own need for peace I tendto play lsquothe role of peacemakerrsquowhich leads me to overburdenmyself unnecessarily I foundmyself avoiding conflict which maybe required to resolve some of theexisting issues in the lab Iexperienced that taking up the roleof lsquopeacemakerrsquo was not helpingresolve issues between twowomen in the group I found mylsquopeace-makingrsquo role to be more ofan interruption than of help Atpersonal level while this is one ofmy key values my actions were nothelpful for all situations

While exploring this process therewas an insight that my need forpeace may stop me from takingrisks and taking side of the lsquorightaspectslsquo in the moment In aconflicting situation between twosub groups I was playing thelsquopeace-makerrsquo instead of takingeither side or allowing them toresolve it between themselves

When I see injustice andinequality it definitely impacts meIt evokes irritation and angerwithin me My behaviour patternwas either withdrawn or I exhibitverbal confrontation Probably thehierarchy of values changes itspositions based on the situation Ingroup I would see these values ofequality and justice in various wayslike equal opportunity given topeople or not involvement ofeveryone is there or not etc

Influence of Values and Needs on the Roles we take up in the Groupby Rahul Thapar

Belief is another element whichlies between the needs values andbehaviour For example in lsquopeace-makingrsquo role one may have beliefthat lsquoI can best help to resolveconflict between themrsquo Oncebeing aware of the behaviourbelief and need or value behind itone can consciously examine thebelief system and choose differentbehaviour or action either tosatisfy the same need or someother need

In this exploration there could bepossibilities of new beliefs like twopeople arguing are mature enoughto reach a resolution Am I reallyrequired to intervenelsquoConfrontationrsquo is a process Until Iconfront myself how can I confrontothers

The resulting new behaviourscould be to confront self to takemore risks and be ok with conflict

In human process it becomescritical to look at the roles which 24

Through these examples I want toshare my experiences of mypresence in the lab whichoriginated from certain needs orvalue system The point here is tobe aware of the values and needswe are operating from and the waywe are behave in the group In theprocess we take up various typesof roles in the group which areactually to satisfy onersquos ownneeds or they are also satisfyingsome need of the group

In Non Violent Communication(NVC) Marshal Rosenberg callslsquoactionsrsquo as our strategies to meetour needs or values In a givenmoment there can be one or morelsquoneedsrsquo alive Becoming aware ofthose lsquoneedsrsquo raises ourconsciousness of self or groupUsing this light of awareness onecan look at the action or role one isplaying out in the group Thus wecan say that we adopt a patternwith some action strategies tosatisfy our values needs

Influence of Values and Needs on the Roles we take up in the Group

we take up in the group to satisfyself-need or grouprsquos need Theimpact of taking up these roles canbe larger in terms of impactinggrouprsquos functioning and itsdevelopment Deeper examinationof the type of role one is playing inthe group can help to understandself and the underlying feelingsbeliefs and value system This willalso provide opportunity toexamine the unconscious patternsndash whether one takes up the samerole in various back homesituations (in various groups of dayto day life in family setting workplace friend circle in new groupsetc) Certainly as a consciousindividual with awareness ofbehaviours feelings beliefs andneeds values one can experimentby taking up various type of rolesin the group beyond the fixedpatterns and can experience theexcellence within and in the groupfunctioning

Rahul Thaparthaparrahulgmailcom

When Silence Speaks By Sunita Raut

A big organisational change isexpected or the market share israpidly dwindling or a newauthoritarian manager has justtaken over In any of these casesthe workplace can suddenly becharacterised by silence Oncecannot criticise the organisationnot even internally Loyaltybecomes a watchword and it isnrsquotunusual to have employees sign anon-disclosure contract So even ifthere are good reasons to criticisepeople choose to lie instead

Many of us in the OD field haveworked with what can be calledldquohidden discipliningrdquo The exposureto the stock markets for manycompanies makes this discipliningeven harder and there can be a riskof moving towards obedience

This is where the Four Rooms ofChange Theory comes handywhere one of the Rooms is Self-Censorship It is in fact possible tomeasure the level of Self-Censorship in an organisation It islogical to conclude that silencecensorship fear and an abuse ofthe ldquodemocratic contractrdquo is one ofthe most serious problems of ourtimes

One can believe that such ameasurement can lead to a goodatmosphere eventually sincecensorship is not easy to discoverIt is amazing that evendevelopment-oriented managerscan be blind to how people arefeeling

Sunita Raut is Chief InspirationOfficer of Shunya Spaces andbeliever and evangelist of FourRooms of Change She has workedglobally with OD and Leadershipfor more than 20 years She livesand works between India andSweden

25Adapted from a Swedish article published in SSR- Magazine in Swedish in 1994 by Sunita Raut

During difficult times Censorship increases in our workplaces Creativity decreases and consequently the joy of working and thereby results Sometimes this is obvious Other times it speaks through silences and can be difficult to discover

26

It is easy to conclude that if aworkplace has to transform it mustbe on a base of open fearless co-workers If there is an atmosphere offear no change will be possiblehowever smart the plans andinterventions are

Claes Janssen a Swedishpsychologist researcher and authorpublished his doctoral work in themiddle of the 70s by the nameldquoPersonal Dialecticrdquo which describesthe lsquoCensoredrsquo human being againstthe lsquoOutsiderrsquo The lsquoCensoredrsquo humanbeing is a person who essentiallyprotects his opinions permanentlywho is afraid of changes while thelsquoOutsiderrsquo is constantly questioningthe status-quo Claes Janssendeveloped an Outsider Scale wherean individual through differentquestions can figure out howCensored he or she is The Modelwas appreciated by organisations

Using the same basic view as theindividual- focused Outsider Scalean Organisation Barometer wasdeveloped Through somequestions around life at theworkplace one can assess how thecoworkers judge the mood of theorganisation

The result is that one gets ameasure of the lsquoSilencersquo andtherefore the Inspiration as wellas Contentment in theorganisation In the Four Rooms ofChange Theory and Model theyare the other two Rooms

The Outsider Scale as well as theOrganisation Barometer can beused separately or together sinceit is true the organisation censorsus but then we ourselves also havea tendency to do that irrespectiveof the organisation

The Four Rooms of Change Theoryis based on the understanding thatwe fundamentally have twoperspectives of life ie being alsquoCensorrsquo or a No sayer and beingan lsquoOutsiderrsquo or a Yes sayerDepending on this we will look atourselves others and lifedifferently In an environment thatis working well the No Sayers driveContentment by being happy withhow things are They bringstability However when things arenot OK the same people willactively work at silencing the voiceof dissent thereby driving Self-Censorship or Denial

When Silence Speaks

The Yes Sayers on the other handare constantly challenging howthings are They drive creativityand innovation and offer differentperspectives providing thenecessary Inspiration When thingsare not OK these are the samepeople who will speak theunspeakable thereby drivingConfusion

While in each one of us there is atendency to lean towards one orthe other side it is also true thatboth perspectives exist within eachone and there is a constantdialogue within to resolve theYESNO dialectic before taking anyaction So personally we will movefrom one room to the otherdepending on our perspective andsituation At the same time theorganisation will be in one or theother room in relation to specificissues

27

It is interesting to note that wecan be in different rooms inrelation to different topics at theexact same time This is whatmakes change complex anddynamic

Today there are many reasons forCensorship to increase at theworkplace During unstable timesthere is a tendency for it toincrease and we all know that theVUCA (Volatile UncertainComplex Ambiguous) - world welive in creates its own pressuresOrganisations that live with astrong outside pressure

Many publicly tradedcompanies as well as VentureCapital financed companieshave a bigger risk to censorthemselves One ends upagainst a hostile environmentand starts describing theirworkplace as the best mosteffective safe place in theworld

The result is that today manyorganisations have anatmosphere of having a ldquolid onrdquoBeneath that there can bebullying scapegoatinginsecurity about losing a jobdissatisfaction with onersquosleaders and everything elsewhich is rumoured in corridorsbut not allowed to come upthrough the ordinaryinformation channels Peoplefeel lonely coworkers as well asleaders

When Silence Speaks

Many signals do not come up tothe leaders increasing the risk thattheir knowledge about theworkplace is steadily reducingCreativity reduces people becomedepressive people ldquowear the maskand play the gamerdquo Organisationswith a strong censorship are alsocharacterised by strong territorialculture and silo formations As thedisturbances in the relationshipsincrease the censorship increasesas well Transformations becomeimpossible Try to implement abrilliant strategy in an organisationwith strong censorship and we canpredict what the result will be

So now we want to start adevelopment that leads to an openatmosphere at work The idea is togive the organisation as well asthe people working there anunderstanding of how theorganisation actually is a languageto discuss that and an instrumentfor change

A precondition for this working isthat everyone in the organisationor team participates The methodused is built upon generatingdialogue The basic idea is thateverything holds its opposite Inthe dialogue between theseopposites a change can comeabout

Often organisations approachconsultants when they are stuck ina situation where no change isworking It can be difficult toaccept that they have to find outmore about censorship and itsimpact in the organisationHowever when we see that all ofus have this tendency and that wecan depending on the situationend up being stuck for shorter orlonger periods in Self-CensorshipRoom of Four Rooms it becomeseasy to speak about it It takes acourageous and mature leader towork with censorship in theirorganisation or team

However a leader by themselvescannot take an organisation out ofSelf-Censorship The result of theOrganisation Barometer isconnected to all the coworkers ofthe organisation What can we doabout this The purpose is not tofind someone to blame Insteadthe focus is to arrive at a diagnosistogether which can become a basisfor organisational transformation

An Organisation Barometer leadsto many discussions Thedissatisfaction that has been tillnow swept under the carpet andlives in the lsquocorridor talksrsquo comesup

Despite this it is not unusual forcoworkers to report a sense ofrelief It is like opening the lid of apressure cooker with such finessethat the dal doesnrsquot stick to theroof

28

When Silence Speaks

Nostalgiaby Dr Mukta Kamplikar

Sometimes I wonder whyTo ourselves we lieAnd say that we are moving aheadWhen what we leave unsaidIs that we keep living each day torepeatTo bathe to comb to eatFor want of a reference pointJust to feel the journey to feelaliveWe paint nostalgia to survivehellipWe paint nostalgia to survivehellip

29

The discussions that follow leadto three specific positive effectsin the organisation Firstly itshows that Confusion andConflict are in fact positive

Second it also shows that anychange process must go throughConfusion and it wonrsquot feel greateven if you know the theory

Last but not the least this allows each one of us to become familiar with our own inner Censors and how we can use them judiciously It feels important to present this way of thinking to professionals who work with people and organisations

As OD and Process Professionals we have a possibility to influence Censorship and its opposite forces

When Silence Speaks Solitary SpacesArt by Muktaon this page and the next

I am solitary but I am not alone Justaloof So much so that it allows me astrange recklessness that one couldenvy

Solitary in the sense of a retreat aresting place for a natural healinginfluence for feeling free to speak backto my silence

Solitary to meet beautiful strangers onnew roads to feel unbound limitlesshellipabundantSunita Raut

sunitarautfourroomscom

30

Paintings by Dr Mukta Kamplikar

Solitary Spaces

Leonardo DiCaprio plays thecharacter of a very special agentHe steals something that no oneelse can dreams and ideas Theycall him the idea extractor whichmakes him one of the lsquomostwantedrsquo men in the world ofindustrial espionage

This time round he has a differentassignment lsquoinceptionrsquo notextraction Now he is hired by apowerful billionaire to introduce anidea into a rivals mind and do it sowell that he believes it is his ownThis has never been done beforeour minds are as alert to foreignideas as our immune system is topathogens

The rich man named Saito (KenWatanabe) makes him an offer hecant refuse an offer that wouldend Cobbs forced exile from homeand family Will our beleagueredsci-fi conjurer deliver

Like the hero of that film theviewer of lsquoInceptionrsquo is adrift intime and experience We cannever be sure what therelationship between dream timeand real time is The hero explainsthat you can never remember thebeginning of a dream Dreamsthat seem to cover hours mayonly last a short time Yes but youdont know that when youredreaming What if youre insideanother persons dream Howdoes your dream time synch withtheirs What do you really know

31

He must especially if he wants toreturn home to his two kids andset the demons of his troubledpast at rest

Christopher Nolan might just endup as the most alluring andenigmatic film maker ofcontemporary cinema Inceptionleaves you tortured tormentedticklish and tantalized by its mindplay Too many levels of reality toomany things happening and tooinnovative an idea

If you knew how the movie endedthat would tell you nothing unlessyou knew how it got there Andtelling you how it got there wouldproduce so much bafflement

The movie is all about processabout fighting our way throughenveloping sheets of reality anddream reality within dreams anddreams without reality

Inception ndash Movie Review By Dr Mukta Kamplikar

Cobb needs Ariadne (Ellen Page) abrilliant young architect to create adeceptive maze-space in Fischersdreams so that new thoughts canslip in unperceived Cobb tutorsAriadne on the world of dreaminfiltration the art of controllingdreams and navigating them

So skilled is Nolan that he actuallygot me involved in one of hischases The filmrsquos architecture hasa way of disregarding gravityBuildings tilt Streets coilCharacters float The movie is aperplexing labyrinth without asimple through-line and is sure toinspire truly endless analysis onthe web

Either they are a replay or theyhave been triggering intuitionThey are the interplay betweenthe subconscious and theconscious to me I have beenjournaling researching andinterpreting my dreams more andmore

What I love about inception isthat it is challenging and creativeat the same time I can relate tothe relatedness between dreamsand reality Yes the film playswith your brain (often messeswith it) but the puzzle thelabyrinth is what keeps one going

Philosophically speaking is thatnot what life is all about too Itsurprises you when you leastexpect it It plays with your brainand nerves and you emote Youcreate your own stories andinterpretations and tell those toyourself and others

32

And yet there is an emotionalthread to the film The reasonCobb is motivated to risk thedangers of inception is because ofgrief and guilt involving his wifeMal (Marion Cotillard) and theirtwo children Cotillard beautifullyembodies the wife in an idealizedway Whether we are seeingCobbs memories or his dreams isdifficult to say--even literally inthe last shot But she makes Malfunction as an emotional magnetand the love between the twoprovides an emotional constant inCobbs world which is otherwiseceaselessly shifting

lsquoInceptionrsquo works for the viewerwe are always in the Now Yetmatters of life death and the heartare involved--oh and those multi-national corporations of course

Dreams to me have been deeplyconnected to my real lifeexperiences

Inception ndash Movie Review

lsquoInceptionrsquo is for most of the time astrange confusion between dreamsand reality and the complexity of itall It is mysterious challengingattractive and original like life itselfThe film also focuses on demonswithin and the effort one makes toput them to rest in order to moveforward

lsquoInceptionrsquo evokes the seeker in meeach time I think of it While there isan earthy motive-based feel to thefilm it also triggers movement andtravel while seeking ndash the whole ideaof ndash past present and future theseemingly seamless travel betweendreams and reality ndash and the wholeidea of meaning making and choicetaking

33


I walk onBut Ship of Theseus no moreAll the pieces belong to meOnly i rearrange them differentlyEach timeAnd each time - i grow

I fall downI battleI go into piecesAnd put them back together againEach time i rearrange the piecesTheres a new facet of me that emergesOfcourse not all pieces fitQuite perfectly each timeThese are the scars

I refuse to let the scars make me any less beautiful anymoreThey are my trophiesOf being aliveNot just livingBut alive

The tough path chosenIs exactly that - toughI refuse to make easy choicesAnd remain in a false springThe autumn lives in me tooI want to feel the autumn bloom

The Ship of Theseus ndash By Neha Gupta Lehllehlnehagmailcom

Art work by Bhavisha LakhianiMukta Kampllikar

muktakampllikargmailcom

How often do we hold othersresponsible for our wellbeing forexample parents siblingspartners children friends lovedones even systems andorganisations religion the countryand the world As if they lsquoowersquoyou something or as if becauseyou behaved with them in a certainway you have a lsquorightrsquo to betreated in a particular way Thestories are in our own heads

Apologies if I sound cynical or tooidealistic

Somewhere deep down I suspectwe all know it only its hazy fuzzedout by many layers of beliefs andhanded down patterns popularprototypes and snug conformity

Fact is many of us have a holewithin ourselves the shape sizecolor and placement of it variesWe go on trying to fill this holeexternally from others Withothers it begins as a feel goodfactor and then moves to becomea demand Slowly we need moreand more of it to feel the same Weblame demand play the victimcard when someone from outsidedoesnrsquot fill that hole (as atemporary balm)

It can also be temporary filled withother stuff like pursuit of materialpossessions obsessions and ofcourse substance abuse But it justdoesnrsquot go away it keeps comingback

I donrsquot mean to criticize our waysof seeking temporary relief fromthis hole We do what we must weare wired for survival and takingcare of ourselves in order to dothat It may not be the healthiestbut it has a sound reason whichwe must recognize and becompassionate towards it

The idea of writing this piece isrecognizing the pattern and in facttaking care of ourselves in a morewholesome way or at leastrealistically beginning to slowlymove towards doing that

34

Seeking without Not within and the Opposite of it ndash By Neha Gupta Lehl

And this neednrsquot be absolute infact it cannot be it can onlyhappen in degrees and smallmovements it can regress back tooriginal or more and then take aleap forward it moves in a zig zagand all over not it a linear forwarddirection

Talking of the shift itrsquos almost likea restless seeking energy whichwas outside begins to come backwithin and settle inside which cangive us the impetus and energy forthe process described above

The more we are with itsurprisingly the more joy this timenot pseudo not quick fix butdeeper begins to find its way to usOur ability to connect with othersability to bond exchange energybegins to change because it goestowards building a positive reserveof joy not towards filling a hole

The first step is to acknowledge thepossibility that there may be ahole the fact is ifunacknowledged its shadowlooms far bigger and darker thanits real size and colour

Second to know that itrsquos onlyhuman very very human to haveit that itrsquos not something we choseor created It just is

Third we just begin to be with it incompassion it doesnrsquot needlsquofixingrsquo This is the part I strugglewith too the need and urge to lsquofixrsquoIt cannot be fixed it can only healto an extent and that takes timeItrsquos best to try and become friendswith it and build a relationship oftenderness and understanding itThat is what we owe to ourselvesThat is what we can demand notfrom anyone else but ourselvesThe investment of time space andemotional bandwidth to sit withour hole

Be with it in its fear its disgust itspain its sorrow and itspossibilities without expectationwithout a time limit Itrsquos very hardBut oh itrsquos definitely worth it

The moment we begin to do this aprofound and positive shifthappens

35

Seeking without Not within and the Opposite of it

Neha Lehllehlnehagmailcom

My world is richWith an inner theatreI am the storyThe actorsThe Creatorand the mystery too

What exists outsideExists first within meI didnt choose thisBut neither am I against itThis is the way of lifeThis is how it is

Performances are stagednew scenes createdcharacters weave their way inand slip away surreptitiouslyI may see many facesBut theyre all me

The physical existence may be outsidebut the shapes are within meThe dance may happen in the outer worldBut the strings live inside of me

Its fecundThis inner world of mineA ready stage without boundariesNo constraintsNo limits called realityrsquo

Multi dimensionalFilled with monologuesDialoguesConversationsIntense emotionsNothing too hard to be stagedThere really are no constraintsIts an open fieldThese things I could only dream of

It took me time to realizeThe inner world is as realAs any realityIts as real as I amIts as tangible as life is

36

Inner World ndash By Neha Gupta Lehl

Waiting tired and drained at 915in the night near Nungambakkamsignals I listlessly watched peopleclustered around a tea stall eatinghot bread and eggs The smellwafted and my tummy growled inresponse I saw some talkingendlessly on their mobiles as theycrossed the crowded junction

A radio FM blaring ndash ldquotaxi nee taxildquofrom an Indica Horns blared as theother lane swept into action and Icooled my heels When suddenly aKawasaki bike snugly fits betweenme and the Indica

Happiness and Self by Shyleswari M Rao


37

Happiness and Self

I overhear him talk above the dinHe was yelling appealing almostimploring ldquoIrsquoll do anything to keepyou happy Raji Believe me Rajilistenrdquo And then after a fewmoments I see him tuck his cellphone into his pocket

The green light flashed as I ponderabout him and his relationshipHow often have we been taughtthis myth The myth that we canmake others happy and we oughtto keep our loved ones happy

As kids we kept our parents happyour siblings our teachers friendsour dates spouse kids in lawschildren and their in laws

Adding to the list our customerssuppliers clients bosses andsuperiors Phew Who else Thequestion that strikes me is did wereally make these people happy Isit really possible What makes aperson happy

Perhaps we learned it by firstgiving little gifts then stuff whichwould please someone thenmaterial goods and more andmore along these lines Anywaystuff that did not lsquomakersquo youhappy though I daresay itcertainly made us satisfied

If we were to look at lsquohappinessrsquoclosely we often imagine it to be astate of being that we need toachieve some day ndash itrsquos a kind ofdestination which we will arrive atone day

Bad Luck Such a thing does notexist I mean the lsquodestinationrsquoHappiness does exist Truly ourvery nature of lsquobeingrsquo is happy

When I say ldquoI am happyrdquo itrsquos amood a feeling which I can savoror experience for a span of timethen when I move my mood andfeelings are something else

However the major difficultywould crop up if I did not give thekeys of my happiness to anyoneelse I become the author of myhappiness and not someone elseThus I become the source of myhappiness and therefore I couldsay ldquoI am happinessrdquo

I would glide witness thishappiness and other emotionswith dispassion and the stillnesswould anchor me

My fuel for this inextinguishablehappiness would emerge when Ibelieve that this universe is a safeplace to be in The love I share canmultiply and come home to roostMy happiness gets multiplied as Ishare and it doubles when othersshare theirs as well

37

As I learn to lsquolet gorsquo of paingrudges darts and hurt loss andgrief I am restored to my originallsquoSelfrsquo I slowly learn to acceptemotions and feelings not aswounds and scars but as lifersquossignatures which are needed tolearn Having learnt those lessonsI move on

Remember the Sun shinesregardless of whether I keep mywindows open or closed

38

Happiness and Self Whats the meaning of life Other people ndash By Sanjay Dutt

The above quote by author JohnGreen captures the essence ofwhat stands in front of me and islooking me squarely in the eye

A year-end holiday at a friendshome in Kodaikanal has been asource of some unprecedentedinsights The holiday graduallyturned into visiting holiday homesof others who had also retreatedto Kodai for a wind-down fromtheir busy lives My friend receivedinvites spontaneously and we weregraciously included in the plans

Over these 4 days we were invitedto families who are largely fromTamil Nadu and have Kodai homesas get-aways We met such diversepeople - a MampA head a teacher ata global school a retired globalleader who runs grassroots NGOsin the area now an art collector acartoonist an art gallery ownerIam grateful for their hospitalityand grace What I am graced bythem is visbilizing somethingthat they possibly take as normalfor them but stands out in starkcontrast for me

The one thing common that keptcoming across in all these visitswas how intricately inter-weavedall the people were in pursuingtheir passions and interestsAlmost all of them have rootswithin the rich milieu of Tamiltraditions and families that havenurtured them for generations

Shyleswari M Rao shylahrdgmailcom

39

Whats the meaning of life Other people

They live a life that extends to somany and makes a difference to somany more Stories seamlesslyflowed of traditions at temples200-year old legends diversefamily rituals personal stories ofmaking a difference tocommunities and people and ofrecent Chennai arts and culturescene It was a breathtakingmedley across generations andfirm rootedness as much in thehistory and geography of the stateas the personal family historiesThe richness across time and spacewas so enabling and empoweringfor them A virtual and virtuousweb that makes their search andexpression of meaning so vigorous

It made me sad angry andenvious to start with It broughthome the fact that as a grand childof a refugee family from Pakistanour familys pre occupation withsurvival deprived us of stableroots resources and suchrelationships

Meaningfulness of life went so faras to gain skills apply them to ekea living make a family and basicallyaccept that this is all that lifescards dealt to us are about Azealous protection of own tribeand its enrichment has been thepre-occupation Reveringmodernity and its materialbenefits have been the tools forenrichment There is little sense ofwisdom or guidance from the past

Any sense of culture traditions orancestry has been largely presentas rituals to bargain with a higherpower for further protection andenrichment This at best has beena coping mechanism for those inthe family who have had nothingelse to hang on to At its worst ithas been for many in the family(like me) a way to express myindependence by rejecting therituals The first created adebilitating trap of angrydependence and victimhood

The latter created an illusion ofpersonal progress and agencywhile feeling deep insecuritiesabout a place and people to belongto In both the lsquomy-nessrsquo has beencentral Any quest to make adifference to lives beyond theimmediate extended family hasbeen a secondary and incidentalprocess - if present at all Lastdecade has been a strugglepersonally for me to make thatprimary through my professionalchoiceshellipmostly a failing one

I have since all this reflectionbeen compelled to question ldquoIsthe meaning of life to be madefrom peeling layers of lsquomy-nessrsquo oris there another way to see liferdquo

Perhaps there is a way where theseparateness I feel from my ownself and from the larger world isnot based on the lingering shamedisappointment inadequacy I feelof and for the systemcircumstances I was born in

A way where life becomes less ofme living my dreams (perhapsproxy for holes in my own soul)and more of understanding howmy life is not my own - but onethat comes from generations ofdeeply embedded cultural andsocial threads I am but a littlenode in their weave - meant tofurther perpetuate plans of thislarger web of life In thatperpetuation I need to understandothers go beyond my own circle ofneeds and obligations to nurturenetworks for the larger worldNetworks that are not based on myunderstanding of my layers onlybut also how my-ness isbequeathed by unseen andcontinuous threads of myancestors 40


Networks that I have to trustmyself with as they form a largerweb of life In all of this mydreams will then be not mine Ibecome custodian of the largerdreams of the the web That webthen also takes care of me and myneeds

Of course all of this requires hugeamounts of trust in life and peopleI am in touch with my obsessionwith MY injuries and inadequaciesso far in life Now I am trying to seeif I can approach myself fromoutside-in where I am but aproduct of a larger web of lifeThen it becomes about having thetrust humility and courage toaccept my place in the web andplay an active part in thislargeness

Somehow when I zoom out likethat to the vastness of my historyand the future of communities Imust inhabit all the separatenessmy-ness starts looking ridiculouslysmall My desires and dreams alsostart looking like my addictionsThe real purpose of my existence isreally then in hands hearts andheads of so many in my pastpresent and future

Our sufferings are not ours aloneIn that recognition lies thepossibility of letting go of burdenswe carry for those injured beforeus so that those after us donthave to carry them unconsciouslyas we have done In it also lies theresponsibility to do our part inlessening the burdens of so manywho are in and beyond ourimmediate circles There is nopersonal redemption onlycollective healing As the new yearunfolds this troubling gift is mineto unwrap and own up in 2018

Sanjay Duttsanjayduttsnet

Challenges in the Consulting Career by Amol Pawar

Being Your Own BossThe first time around I had thisromantic idea about being on myown and unrealistic expectationsfrom both self and others I hadthis imaginary confidence in myability to do anything andeverything while reposing the trustin the ldquouniverserdquo to just magicallyproduce stuff that I would love toengage with and also at the price Iwant

This time around I had set somerealistic expectations about what Ican and cannot do However justlike last time I ventured into someunchartered territories like writingand blogging So far it has broughtme immense joy and somecommercial benefit I guess itrsquosdifficult for me and maybe formany of us to take the lsquoromancersquoout of this idea of being on yourown I connect this to thelsquoliberationrsquo of self Since birth I wastold what and how I should do it

41

I have been on my ldquoownrdquo for awhile now In fact this is thesecond time The first time wasabout ten years ago Just like youlearn more about yourself and theworld as you grow this timearound itrsquos different in some senseand same in others

The LonelinessMost corporate senior executivesare lonely as there is immensecompetition for their job and atthe same time they have tocompete for the next level Theindependent consultant is nodifferent

The key difference however is ifyou are the middle or senior levelcorporate executive you have ateam and sense of belongingnessto the cause or the organization orboth When you are engaging withthe client system both you and theclient system struggle to find thislsquosense of belongingnessrsquo leaving asneither a complete outsider nor acomplete insider

The truth is when you are anindependent consultant you arelonelier than you were in yourcorporate job and trust menothing like nothing prepares youfor this In most cases this aspectdoes not even figure in yourconsideration when you weredeciding to be on your own

42

I was rewarded and punishedaccordingly until it became secondnature and forgot my true selfSomething happened in mypersonal and professional life and Iwoke up from this self imposedslumber

Let me clarify here that I am notstating that everyone who worksfor themselves does that out ofpure love for the craft neither am Istating that everyone who worksfor someone else is sleep walking Iguess you are smart enough tomake this distinction of who is inwhich box

Finding Your Feet

The first few weeks months ormay be even years are spent inrecognizing acknowledgingaccepting and growing with thisnew self Itrsquos an excruciatingprocess for you and people aroundyou too

I guess the notion that people whoare extremely good in their craftbe it sport art or science arereclusive and unreasonable of selfand others probably comes fromthis unwavering focus thisindividual would have about his orher craft

This process has its beginning inthe romance of the craft and forthose of us who are used to be onthe regular lsquofixrsquo of lsquosalaryrsquo itrsquos anextremely painful process to detoxfrom it

Well some of us donrsquot reallyrecover while in the self-imposedrehab and chose to go back to thesafe heaven

The Glamour Vs the Reality

This is where the glamour of theexternal independent consultantmeets with reality Only when youare in the shoe of an independentconsultant is when you realize thepain The fact that you would haveto do business development everywaking hour and minute the factthat you would have to read morethan you read ever earlier the factthat you would have to negotiateyour pay every month and notevery year the list goes on

I have some friends who are artistsand actors and when I realized thepattern of how they earn money Irealized how lucky all of us are whoreceive a monthly pay checkImagine being an artist or an actoryou would be competing for workndash fierce competition and once youare lucky to land some assignmentyou lsquomayrsquo get paid ndash if at all and ontime

Challenges in the Consulting Career

So when you receive any paymentyou would have to figure out howto make best use of this money tillthe next one hits the bank becauseyou donrsquot know when thatrsquos goingto happen And mind you I am nottalking about people who have justentered the industry I am talkingabout people who have been inthe ldquobusinessrdquo for a minimum of10 years

I honestly think no lsquoindependentrsquoconsultant loves their craft asmuch as these artists do

Down the Trodden Path

In the current context to stayrelevant and lsquoemployablersquo in anylsquoart formrsquo you have to continue toreinvent yourself Thanks to theexplosion of information most ofus have ready access toinformation and can posefundamental questions ndash at least atsurface level on most things

This means that if you are anindependent consultant you havethis pressure to be the lsquosmartestrsquoperson in the room or someone whoknows more than the collective Thisexpectation from the client system iseither explicitly mentioned or manytimes just expected This one stemsfrom the fundamental belief that theteacher would know more than thestudents

The notion of the teacher and thestudent co discovering certainknowledge is not very popular as ofnow neither in education nor inbusiness Your ldquovalue propositionrdquohas to be crystal clear as you wouldget repeatedly questioned ldquoWhatexactly would you deliver for thismoney that I will pay yourdquo

43

If your answer is lsquowhatever youask my Lordrdquo or ldquoWe will figurethat out as we go alongrdquo beprepared for skepticism andrejection and hardnosednegotiation

Just imagine you are giving one jobinterview every day and yourprobability of success is in singledigit You need some routine tokick-start yourself everyday andhave the discipline to be in theroutine to ensure that you stay thecourse For the record I havenrsquotquite figured my routine out as yetand so I experiment with differentroutines at different times

Light at the End of the Tunnel

So am I persuading you to stay inyour job and not pursueindependent consulting


Well I was younger when I did itfirst time around and I can tell youitrsquos equally difficult for a 20 yearold vs a 30 year old and even a 40year old Each one at that stage isfighting a different battle

So if you have read it this far andare wondering lsquowhatrsquos the pointyou are trying to make dudersquoThen let me put it simply ndash if youare considering being on your ownndash give it a good thought ndash considerdoing a side gig before jumpingstraight in ndash make friends ormentors with some senior folks inthe business And yes do call mefor a free 30 minute chat on thistopic

After all if one goes by predictionsof some world famouslsquoconsultantsrsquo the lsquoGigrsquo economy isalready upon us and so we betterbe prepared

44

Well if I succeed at least there willbe less competition ndash but the factis I am sharing my experiencedilemmas and struggles with youNot necessarily you experience allof them with the same intensity orsequence

If I am painting this scary picturethen why am I still in the game Itrsquospartly because I love the game andpartly because I am learning toreplace fear with hope Itrsquos likestarting a business You have to beprepared to give it time ndash typicallyup to 3 years for it settle down

I grew impatient by the end of 2years last time Armed with thatexperience I am hopefully betterprepared For those of you who areinterested I will let you know if Isurvive this time beyond 3 yearsThere is also a notion that if youstart younger then itrsquos easier

Challenges in the Consulting Career MomentsBy Dr Mukta Kamplikar

As I remembered an old vague dreamA dusky dawn it would seemFrom a place that was a faraway landFaraway from anywherefrom between the river and sandFrom that place I drifted for a whileWhen I saw you smileAnd I wished I could hold thatungraspable momenton my palm didnrsquot know howThe truth the sensation the presentThe present that is memory by nowAnd gather in my armsThe limitless accumulation ofmomentsThose bright and those beautifullydimSometimes you fill me to the brimWith immeasurable emptiness

Amol Pawaramolpawarnuestcoin

मर फोन म खश रहो

बादलो म भी एक शहर बसा ह शायदउनम भी कोई बवाल मचा ह शायद

कयो बबजललयाा बरसा रह होग वह लोगकयो धरती को अपन आसओास सीाच रहह वो

कया उनम भी कोई मजहब बना ह

उनम भी कोई बवाल मचा ह शायदबादलो म भी एक शहर बसा ह शायद

कया उनम भी ह बनी द वारकया उनम भी खीाच द ककसीन लकीरकया उनम भी आज बटवार का काकफलाचला हकया बादलो म भी एक शहर बसा ह

45

मर फोन म कछ लोग रहत हमझस वो हर रोज बात करत ह

हम एक दसर को जानत हरोज बदलत status को update करत ह

हम like share और comment भी करत हInternet क शोरगल म अपनी आवाज ढाढत हमर फोन म कछ लोग रहत ह

हम एक दसर को रोज दखत हलककन सामन लमलन स कतरात हगर जररत पड़ तो message सदहममत बढ़ात हमर फोन म कछ लोग रहत ह

अब फोन नह ा य दननया ह मर इस क बबना ज़जादगी अधर ह मर बचचा गर खो जाए इस कदर घबराता हाफोन गर कछ हो जाए तो सहम सा जाता हाअपन अब पीछ छट चक लककनअपन फोन स ह अब बनतयाता हा


खश रहोआज भी तम ज़ज़ादा हो

खश रहोतमहार अपन आज भी तमहार अपन ह

खश रहोतमहार सर प एक छत ह

खश रहोआज तमहार घर प 2 बार रोट बनायीा िी

खश रहोआज तमहार बट न रोई िी

खश रहोआज भी तमहार हािो को काम ह

खश रहोआज भी तमहारा हनर कमाल ह

खश रहोतमहार आखो म आज भी नीाद बरक़रार ह

खश रहोतमहार महबब की मोहबबत आज भी तमहार

ललए जवाा हखश रहो

आज तम कछ भल नह ा और य भी तमहयाद ह

खश रहोखश रहो

बादल


46

Building a New EQ Exploration Quotient by Tarsh Williams and Mukul Joshi

rdquoWhat is our schedule tomorrowrdquondash one of the participants ask

I usually have a smile on my facewhen I hear this question I knowwhat is behind that question It isevening around 745 pm close toend of 2nd day Participants havegone through a rigorousemotionally as well as intellectuallydraining experience They are deepinto realizing what got them here isnot good enough to take themfurther They usually haveexhausted by the 2nd day all theirresources and are reaching the deepend of resourcefulness

And few start realizing that theway to win through the VUCA is tosurrender to the flow of the eventsand let go of the need to holdcontrol Others are grappling withwhat this leadership program isoffering them

They have already gone through apowerful activity - Trust Walkwhere participants are put in anemergent situation while on a hikeby gagging or blindfolding themThey continue the hike Observedfunctional behaviours range frombeing protecting team matesmaking small groups to leadblindfolded members using thefaculties of touch and sound asmedium of communicationDysfunctional behaviours areabandoning members playingmischief on the blindfoldedmembers stalling the teamunresponsively

While processing the behavioursduring the activity participants arein acceptance of the undeniabledata they generated Participantsbecome reflective owningbehaviours and connecting it backhome with an lsquoAharsquo momentReflective learning is also vicariousAs the mulling is vulnerableparticipants tend to stay with theiremotional vulnerability

The truth is Exploration is theneed Survival is the want Wehumans are holding onto ouranimalistic tendencies to merelysurvive making it our need

The following topics are addressedin the out-of-comfort zone withprocess facilitation This helpsparticipants internalize thelearning

bull Think it --gt Do it bull Listening to myself bull Trust myself bull Passion is the new

pragmatism Fail Fast bull Risk bull Letting go bull Awareness bull Mindfulness bull Peak Learning vs

Misadventurebull Process Improvement bull What got you here will not get

you further bull Self as an instrument of

change Leadership is not a one-time affair but continued deliberate investment

bull Role vis-agrave-vis person bull Adaptive Leadership bull Systems thinking

Such experiential learning activitiesin the wilderness provide therelevant out-of-comfort zoneWhen done with fun the recalllasts for a lot longer (which is whywe are sure you are able to recallthe nursery rhyme a lot easily thanthe Pythagoras Theorem)

With optimum challenge comesequivalent learning And challengeaka learning is by choice Toexercise choice is to explore

More than often all participantsmake it for the 545 AM barefootsilent sunrise hike and meditationEach participant chooses a spot tosit all alone in the jungle or atoprocks and spends 30 minutes awayfrom the sight and sounds of eachother

They come back with bountifulexpressions of calmness peaceand tranquillity

47

We explore the evolved animal inus That is the purpose Holding onand not letting go our survivalprocesses is indicated through ourfeelings Feelings left unattendedbecome manifestations thatrequire surgical interventions

I look at my colleague and partner-in-crime Tarsh Williams with anexpectation that he will take overfrom here He says we will meet at545 am in the morning here Wecarry our water bottles and speaknothing on our trek This is a shorttrek with a focus to deepen ourfocus and reflection

We disperse for the night therefore exploration is higherliving relatively speaking

Building a New EQ Exploration Quotient

The energy generated is used toset their intentions for the dayActivities for the day now havemoved from Self -gt Self in a Role -gtRole in the Organisation Businessleads and organizations have foundthis model effective to impart thedesired behavioural soft-skills theymandate ROI is recovered Wehave been helping organizationsand leaders find insights whileexploring potential andpossibilitiesParticipants have moved to findingExploration has paid off

We have gotten to think beyond just themselves with an incandescent new light and kaleidoscopic lens Same is the case with this group of leaders as well

Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and right doing

There is a field Ill meet you there - Rumi

Exploration is the new survival We are natural born explorers Else we wouldnrsquot have been born at all let alone reading this article

I was never born a lover of Natureor as an ardent admirer of flauraand fauna around me Though Idid appreciate the trees andanimals Until I attended a NatureCamp right after my tenth gradeWe spent a month living in thecore area of a forest Myexperience at this camp movedsomething within me From being apassive observer of nature Ibecame a crazy lover of forestswildlife and everything around meThe experience of living amidsttrees with the jungle around hasshaped my personality for thebetter 48

Building a New EQ Exploration Quotient A Tryst With Nature by Rashi Agarwal

Tarsh Williamstarshtruenaturein

Mukul Joshimukulalokgmailcom

A Tryst With Nature

The mere sight of the rains actuallycoming towards us still leaves meat a loss for words Never beforehad I actually seen the rains movefrom one direction to the otherBut here in this moment I realizedthe power and beauty of natureThe way the sky changed its huesand gave life to every dry leafaround me was surreal

It was nothing like how Iexperience the monsoons inMumbai Here one could hear theraindrops hitting the leaves andthe music being produced by thewinds in the rains This followed bythe simultaneous singing of birdsand animals that seemed to bewelcoming the rains

This experience along with othersmade me realize how small wewere in this entire world andnothing human-made could be asbeautiful as Nature

It has taught me to take a pauseevery now and then from the dailychores to appreciate the wildernessaround me be it in natural orcreated beauty Never before had Ithought that a trek or a campwould mold me into a betterperson However now I am alwayslooking forward to exploringplaces especially in the wild tolearn more about myself and theworld around me Try it sometime

49

Though there have been severalbreath-taking experiences fromthis camp and even after it there isone in particular I love toreminiscence

It was afternoon when I along witha friend and our teacher had gonefor our usual treks We decided tosit next to a small pond in theforest for a break As we weresitting quietly we suddenly heardthe thundering clouds in thedistant The next thing I rememberis the rain clouds moving towardsus while we sat there waiting forthem to bless us

Rashi Agarwalagarwalrashirgmailcom

50

Hey gorgeous

The day isnrsquot cold not too warm eithera gentle breeze I heard - attempted to mangle your tressesthe coffeersquos brewed - just perfectno lipsticks stains either on the rim of the ivory cup thankfullyperfect just the way you like itthen why arenrsquot you savoring the moment right here

Is this me you oft wonderedhellipcurious whether it was normal anxious to find resonancedid you then find your answers

lsquowellrsquo he said lsquowe couldnrsquot have made it through without yoursquoyou know he meant it yet you posed nonchalantnot acknowledging it maybe - this is your safety nethe repeated himself patiently seeking your responseyou chose to ignore yet again you wanted morethen why did you hold back

I saw you cry I asked you whyyou said lsquonothingrsquo and brusquely walked awayI saw you cry I asked you whyyou said lsquonothingrsquo but waited for a moment then you walked awaydid walking away stop you cry

that day rather yesterday you heard the accoladesyou sensed them - genuine and deserving specifically when that nasty critic stood up and clapped - thunderous and loud

you felt it - the praises were real your toil was finally recognizedstanding amidst those naysayers you found comfortthe acceptance being one amidst them ndash finally

then why the regret - did it come a tad bit too late

the letters you wrote - seeking resumption of tieschances you craved moments you relived - they were special the siblings the friendssome stayed some departedlike water they all had found their own ways at times the fondness tugged a few even hurtwhen some came back you seemed awkward you felt dirty

did you then outgrow some

Honestly I ask myself - By Jahnavi Gurjer

the dichotomies never ending between right and wrong between should and shouldnrsquot you have become your own slave -like words voluntarily suffocating themselves between the covers of a hard bindstrengthening the stereotype you claim to be different - howyou yearn to belong and yet riot to be liberatedthe anchors you desperately want to lose while you run even closer to them you hold on tight you like being secure yet you relish the distance -whybetween self and others choosing to ignore you prioritize them even more

did you ever realize woman - you arenrsquot getting anywhere near paradise

life can be rough - but you ainrsquotless only sexier

I hear you laugh I hear you whineclaiming to be oppressed staying comfortable in that hellchoices done can be undone I know you know thiswhimsical as you are I have witnessed you otherwise arguments that violate you stories that deceit youvacillating between optimism and pessimism lsquocrazyrsquo should have been your middle name - womanI spot you enjoying this ride -folded at the creases and rough on the edges

then why now are you insanely hunting down that illusion -perfection

51

you nagged tirelessly - of insufficiencies partially affirming a few abundanciesyou swayed frequently - from happy to sad from glad to madwishing you wouldnrsquot but helpless you couldnrsquotyou crucified him and several othersfinding momentary solace - in old wivesrsquo tales and self-help forwardsyou agreed to come to terms you committed to being Zen knowing that you had no choice but to live you swore by wellbeing - you publicly eulogized its benefitsoften compelling yourself to believeyou raised the decibel you altered the tonejustifying perceptions between being moralistic and otherwise

then why now are you still restless

Honestly I ask myself

lsquowhat nextrsquo you ask with tepiddoubtknowing neither joy nor tears willforever stayyou fear for them you cover forthem you live for themI see you sparkle in the night sky Isee you shine through its darknessI believe you know you can

then why now are you living this life of refrain

hey there gorgeous itrsquos time for that coffee againI heard its freshly brewed (the cups come with an anti-lipstick stain finish)once more the breeze I believe will mangle your tressesyou I know can stay insane you I vouch will get confused butyou I know that you have a choiceto remain not unhappy and yet not happy unlesshellip

52

you ask the mirror lsquois this mersquo or lsquowho is shersquostraining to hear the words you already know you think you feel you lose the moment the skeletons - they speaklsquois now the right timersquo I hear you introspectbut who the hell cares - you want to knowlsquohave I been goodrsquo lsquoam I virtuousrsquo lsquohave I done my duties wellrsquothe chaos of your responses - Irsquom deafened by their cacophonynot quite the musical opera you had longed to hear - noisy to the coresuddenly I spot the baton trsquowas -lsquohellrsquo all along in your own hand

did you not feel it I curiously ask or was it too limp to take charge of the mask

you have been irresponsible offlate even I fail to understand youpeals of laughter suddenly burstinto tears - lsquooh good lord letrsquosblame the hormonesrsquo they sayharnessing them in yourbenevolence you say lsquoexpectationsI have nayrsquohowever the slightest inflection intheir tones moves you into totaldisarrayyou scream like a womanpossessed at the slightest chanceof being distressedlsquocome to mersquo you say while subtlyholding them at ransomyou trip over your own feet inyour haste to defeat - why whoI have seen you fall and fail but Ialso have seen riseyou have mysteries secrets untold- keep them safe I sayfor treasures like those are notmeant to banish away


Jahnavi Gurjerjahnavigurjeryahooin

53

The idea of reflections first caughtmy attention in one of our scienceclasses We were learning aboutlight and thatrsquos when I reallynoticed the process of reflectionsThe idea of seeing the same thingtwice brought wonder into mybeing I didnrsquot pay much attentionto these thoughts then butfocused more on its scientificperspective

A reflection is formed when a lightray reflects off any surface

I learnt the laws of reflection andthen left the idea like a line ofthread being cut mid-ways Butnow that I have come back toreflections I have realised thatthere are different ways of lookingat reflections

I remember once when I was reallylittle I was standing in front of amirror amazed ldquoWhat lies behindthat framerdquo I wondered ldquoAnothermerdquo My young mind was shockedThe world was new and my visionwas hazy but that memory hasstayed with me until today leavingme amazed even now Was thatanother world altogether Or justan inverted image of the world weknow Lewis Carrolrsquos books lsquoAlicein Wonderlandrsquo and lsquoAlice throughthe looking-glassrsquo explore thesame ideas Are they differentworlds that he has created

Or just imagined an upside-downimage of the world we know to beours These books commenced myfascination for reflections from thetender age of six But as I pausedand thought about thesequestions I realised that in thepast questions like there wereanswered differently Superstitionsand myths helped people makesense of the world around themJust one of those everyday beliefswas that seeing your ownreflection was a bad omen Thisgave rise to the story of lsquoNarcissnsrsquoa Greek God who fell in love withhis own reflection This wasconsidered bad-luck But the plotof this story made me wonderwhether the reflection is actuallyyou

Also the idea of good and evilstark opposites brought me tothink about the world

Reflections by Sanah - A philosophical voyage through the suncharted seas of reflections

Sanah is a 7th grade student at Tridha a Steiner school in Mumbai She is enthusiastic about most subjects at school because of the way it is taught by her teachers Apart from school Sanah has been learning Hindustani Classical music and Odissi dance She enjoys reading traveling and doing what a thirteen year loves doing - endlessly chatting with friends and being contrarian with her parents

54

If you think about reflections yourealise that a few of the qualities ofreflections are that they are thesame on both sides equalbalanced and yet inverted eitherlaterally or vertically

Just like that good and evil areneeded for the world to bebalanced Man and woman areneeded for the world to be equalThat means that good and evil arereflections of each other men andwomen are reflections of eachother So that brought me to theconclusion that good and evil arenot opposites of each other

They are essentially the same justinverted Just like an object and itsreflection make a complete ideagood and evil make a completeperson nations world anduniverse In a world where balanceis missing and equality is missingreflection is needed

ldquoWho am Irdquo a question thathovers over me from time to timecan be explored through the ideaof reflections The quote ldquoThebeauty you see in me is a reflectionof yourdquo by Rumi gave wings to mythoughts

Until now I had always imaginedmy beauty to belong to me myindividual being only beingperceived by others in differentways But if you look at it fromanother perspective you realisethat from anotherrsquos point of viewhow they perceive you is areflection of themselves

As I am growing older thecomplexities of life are unravellingthemselves before my eyes I ambeginning to find myself amidst aweb of reflections all around meeverything coming back to mebeing a reflections of mysurroundings of the peoplearound me of the places aroundme and my surroundings being areflection of me

This thought is like the sun aroundwhich all the others move

My life is a reflection of my innermost being and my soul is areflection of the outside worldAnd to see the light in times ofdarkness you have to pause andreflect Self-reflection is a journeyinwards into your very being Youare gazing into the depths of yourindividual body and learning toknow yourself better

Reflections

55

You are understanding how torespect yourself as anindependent individual and Ithink the quality to be able toreflect on yourself is very vital tobe able to embrace your bodyopenly

Presently I am going throughchange within my body as well asexternally which is bringing abouta period of unrest and transitionto my mind But being aware ofthe changes taking place in mybody gives me time to reflect onmyself

I have learnt in the past fewyears that change is inevitableBut that doesnrsquot mean that yougive up on life And this learningdawned on me through self-reflectionThe moment you are able to stepout of yourself and look atsituations from a differentperspective realisation dawns onyou like the first showers ofmonsoon This is possible only byreflecting on yourself After allwhat you see is a reflection ofwhat you think

In a book I once read theimportance of the lsquoGolden Rulersquo orthe reciprocity principle wasmentioned After a brief flip of thepage I thought about it Do toothers what you would like themto do to you ldquoIsnrsquot that a form ofreflection as wellrdquo I thoughtThinking about the circumstanceswe are in today this rule doesnrsquotjust apply across space but acrosstime as well Give to the nextgeneration what you would havelike them to give to you had theylived on the planet before us

Again wersquore coming back to thepoint where the idea of reflectionis needed for life on earth to go onAnd bring all the thoughtstogether I realised thatunconsciously the idea ofreflection is in every unimportantthing whether it is clear ordistorted All you have to do isnotice the world around you

Reflections

Art work by Sanah Sanahsanahsurabhigeorgegmailcom

One by one examples areprompted on the screen of onersquosmind This is how even if I havetold myself to remain in the hereand now I have a taken a flight intopast So the very next moment Ihave a different struggle To writedown now itself in the small notepad (which lab admin themselvesprovided me) else I will forget thegift I got in terms of a pattern ofmy behaviour or I catch up in thediscussion which I became blankedto for few seconds

Alright I have decided to bepresent in the lsquohere and nowrsquo anddecided to note down during thebreak I look a little more attentiveand whenever confident in thesituation I engage Then comes alull No one talks and all want thekilling silence to be broken butwho would do that I rest my headon the wall behind me and startscanning from left to right

In parallel Irsquom thinking of a topicto broach The silence continuesno one talks Fatigue takes overpeople change their positionaround the pillows Eye contactsbecome limited Inattention takesover Facilitators also evaluate thesituation as considerable time haspassed in silence wondering whatis appropriate in the lsquohere andnowrsquo to bring out significance tothe moment Tacit smiles areindicative then

Within the boundaries of a labexperience there is a by and largestruggle to locate oneself either inthe lsquohere and nowrsquo or get draggedinto the past

While the lab insists that we asparticipants remain in the presentat that Place lsquoPrsquo and at that verytime lsquoTrsquo something that happensin the discussion which suggeststhat this is not only now in the labbut has been happening with merepeatedly in the past which Ididnrsquot see it in that perspective

3 Ts in T-Group - By Cdr Mukund R Joglekar (Retd)

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connecttouchinnerselfcom

There is no solution to beprescribed even if there is one Asthis is more of a reality showHowever contemplationevaluation searching for correctoptions wait and watch policybeyond a point of reasonableponder cannot help one toexperience the feelings Especiallywhen those receptors are putthrough thinking channel calledintellectualization of the feelingsand emotionsThere are 3 Ts which whenadequately examined with respectto participantrsquos context may help inthis struggle Here they are -

TimingWas that the right time if I havebroached the topic which I washolding on like an agenda Or howlong have I been contemplatingAmI missing the here and now in thebargain Am I getting dragged intopast If yes then how long Tickingnature of time does not allowanyone to hold on to time Whydidnrsquot I express when it was theright time

One of the facilitator brings inanalogy of the current situation tofew symbols eg ldquoI see a lion inthe cage moving from left to rightwhile the door is openrdquo Now mymind is moving to and fro aroundthese words lsquoLionrsquo lsquoMovementrsquolsquoCagersquo and lsquoDoorrsquo One of them hascaught my thinking I am back tostruggle between lsquohere and nowrsquoand my past association with someof these words

Well I have almost decided toexpress this time My conscioussubconscious and unconscious (Ithank God that there are onlythree) all minds have told me totalk with a warning that your lungsmight burstWith great difficulty I say ldquoCan I saysomethingrdquo Yes I have actuallysaid something Cheers Nextcomes the CBI inquiry ldquoWhy areyou askingrdquo I didnrsquot even knowthat I was actually asking

Have we not seen this happeningto ourselves and others

TextDo I worry too much about theformation of text Am I changing thetext for someone Is my text influencedby the presence of someone Am Ibeing real or pompous or artificialwhile forming the text If yes then askoneself why am I doing it Who isdoing it Do I express that as well

TargetTo whom am I directing the textWhom do I want to truly speak to Imay express anything to anyone Whodo I want to listen to me The aspectsabove have more value in reflectivemode

Therefore one need not validate whatone want to express in the lab withrespect to above 3 Trsquos as it needs to bea natural process else the very basicpurpose of T group is defeatedWhenever there is a feeling ofrepentance missing out on somethingfeeling of being left out or even feelingof injustice and even happiness the 3Taspects will help in building up self-awareness while reflecting Thatrsquos theessence of labour in the laboratorywhile staying in the lsquoHere and Nowrsquo 57

3 Ts in T-Group

Mukund Joglekarconnecttouchinnerselfcom

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Yug Nirmaan Ban Jaa Tu Bhi Insaan

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Poems by Uttam Kumar

There are various ways in whichhuman character and traits aredefined Often masculinity isdefined as having qualities orappearance traditionallyassociated with men andfemininity is defined as havingqualities or appearancetraditionally associated withwomen lsquoGender stereotypersquotheory suggests that men aregenerally perceived as moremasculine than women whereaswomen are generally perceived asmore feminine than men

Bems original Sex Role Inventoryincluded the items lsquomasculinersquo andlsquofemininersquo in addition to morespecific gender-stereotypicalattributes (Kachel Steffens ampNiedich 2016)

In a review of lsquoMasculinity-femininity an exception to afamous dictumrsquo Constantinopleexplains ldquoWe define lsquotraditionalmasculinityrsquo and lsquotraditionalfemininityrsquo as relatively enduringcharacteristics encompassingtraits appearances interests andbehaviors that have traditionallybeen considered relatively moretypical of men and womenrespectivelyrdquo (Costantinople1973)Basis the general perspective ofwhat is considered as masculineand feminine letrsquos how theseterms are understood and more soin a T-Group learning laboratorycontext

Masculine or feminine is used todescribe the characteristicqualities or traits of a person be ita man or a woman Male andFemale form is a basic physicaldiversity in humans Because menlive or display more masculinequalities and females live ordisplay more feminine qualitiesMasculine and Feminine aremistakenly understood and definedas male and female

Masculine refers to psychologicaltraits or qualities like thinkingactive external directivedominant logical structuredconfident competitive analysisetc present in both man andwoman

Feminine refers to psychologicaltraits or qualities like feelingpassive internal receptiveinclusive creative formless orunstructured soft and humblecollaborative synthesis etc 59

Masculine and Feminine in context of T-group By Nikita Yogi Ganatra

When a T-group begins in myperception usually the designatedfacilitators in order to lead thegroup with the t-group task holdsthe Masculine or I would say theyuse more of their masculine traitsin terms of ndash

bull Basic Roles- ParticipantLearner Facilitator ObserverIntern

bull Boundary- Time Task EthicalPhysical

bull Norms- Here and nowExperiencing and expressingmore feelings less thoughts

bull Task focus- Encouragingexploration by giving value toSensitivity AuthenticitySpontaneity

bull Looking at process- Intra intergroup (whatrsquos below thebehavior in group context)

bull Contains the idea of group asan entity

Both men and women have all theabove listed and many moremasculine and feminine traitsHowever they displayuse it indiffering proportions

In T-Group context masculine andfeminine bifurcation can be doneas in the table below ndash

The integration of masculine andfeminine facilitates the awarenessof wholistic self and provides roomfor expanding and deepening ourunderstanding of Self

T-Group is not merely learningabout Self but it is learning aboutldquoSelf in a Group contextrdquo

Once an individual gets into agroup space she representssomething in the group all thetime and this representationkeeps changing

To be able to see whatrsquos below thisrepresentation of self in context ofa particular group and to see whatit is for the group and where ittakes the group is the Primary taskin T-Group work

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Masculine and Feminine in context of T-group and group development

Masculine FeminineContainergroup as an entity Containedparticipants

Process (intra inter group)-in group

context

Content Behavior

Task (learning through exploration) Person (here and now experience)

Abstract Conceptualization Active

Experimentation

Concrete Experience Reflective

Observation

Structure Unstructured Free Flow

Role Boundaries Norms Authority

(designated or personal)

Power to Be (Autonomy)

Analysis Reasoning and Understanding Emotions and Feelings

Ego Super-Ego (parts of personality) ID Super-Ego (parts of personality)

Action Energy (doing) Life Energy (authentic being)

Because the task clarity is with thefacilitator and not with theparticipants it makes theparticipants dependent on thedesignated facilitators So theirmasculine gets projected outside

As the group members startexperiencing self and others or inother words get in touch with thefeminine aspect it is veryimportant for the facilitators tokeep bringing in the masculinelooking at processes (intra inter)in context of the present group

The words ldquocontext of presentgrouprdquo is of prime importancehere When an individual or aninterpersonal experience comesalive in a group it is always a partof the Grouprsquos (includingfacilitators) conscious orunconscious process and not justbelong to that individual or pairwhich needs any fixing or sortingout

An exploration of what a particularbehavior andor experience meansin context of the groupautomatically leads to awarenessof knownunknown understandingof self and others

It is important that the facilitator intheir interventions at every stageconsciously keep giving power andauthority to the group as an entityand this is when masculine shiftsfrom the facilitator to the groupentity Gradually members claimtheir personal authority personalpower and move on with the taskthemselves The group decides itsown Norms Boundaries Roles ofIndividuals etc Members learn tolook at behavior patterns buildhypothesis test hypothesisexperiment with new behaviorthemselves

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A group will have difficulty todevelop or move ahead on its ownwith the T-group task till themasculine is strongly consciouslyunconsciously held by theFacilitators and the dependencyissue is unresolved The t-grouptask and facilitation both involvethe masculine and femininemoving in continuum

If the group as an entity isforgotten or not given primaryimportance and individualsbecome the primary focus thegroups masculine power willcontinue to remain with thefacilitator and group members willcontinue to engage in intraprocesses taking the role of victimprosecutor rescuer or a child (allpowerless) and inter processes bybeing extra loving or competitiveor fighting (again all powerless)with no common group focus orgoal and operate as any of theBasic Assumption groups and notthe task group

Power struggle will continue to bethe theme of such a group asultimate power is placed therewith the designated authority

This can turn the group into what Icall a lsquofalse performing grouprsquowhere manufacturing of feelingshappens or it may turn into aclassroom lab or a therapy labwhere no real learning takes place

In many T-groups I have seen andexperienced myself that in processof evoking the feminine themasculine gets rejected stronglyand also wounded badly at times

Such people when they move outof the lab having only claimed andcarried their feminine power(ability to experience and expresshere and now feelings) with themmay become hugely inappropriateand dysfunctional in the groupsthey then become a part of

Also such an individual notknowing what to do of all that hefeels carries a risk of findinghimself an unfit for the structureheshe belongs to or society atlarge and may get into isolationandor extreme self-indulgence

T-Group work (for individual aswell as group) begins withprimarily claiming acknowledgingbecoming aware of the feminineand then integrating the masculinein the group itself (not after lab) Ihave many a times seen andexperienced in T-Groups that themasculine held by any othermember other than the facilitatorthemselves is marginalized orcompletely sabotaged as a grouprsquosunconscious process (and this isbecause the methodology is largelyand mistakenly understood andpracticed as femininedominantunstructured in whichthe facilitator is seen as a masterwho can lead and none other)

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A facilitator who is unaware of hisown power needs in the group willunconsciously collude in this groupprocess

I see this as relevant even in ourlarger society and howgroupsorganizations develop andfunction Power is the keyeverywhere The question is whichpower is given more value in aparticular context is it themasculine power or the femininepower or the integration and whichone dose the leader hold moredominantly And what is theleaderrsquos intention wish andstrategy in taking the groupforward Does she believe inOverpowering Patronizing orEmpowering As that is how thegroup will develop and move

Nikita Yogi Ganatranikitadarshangmailcom

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1 From Dean Publication and Digital Transformation Ameet Mattoo 4

2 A glimpse of India Applied Behavioral Sciences Summit 2018 Harish Raichandani 5 - 6

3 Pushing Back or Pushing Forward Gauri Nigudkar 7 - 11

4 Art Work Bhawana Maheshwari 11

5 The Fool Jayesh Sampat 11

6 Anaam Gaurav Gupta 12

7 How many lives do we have Ameet Mattoo 13 - 15

8 Anchors of Life Rakhee Samsi 16 - 17

9 Jung Kumud Kalia 17

10 Continuing OD Education (CODE) R Sankarasubramanyan 18 - 21

11 Exiled Emotionshellipmaking a comeback Priya Vasudevan 22

12 Influence of Values and Needs on the Roles we take up in the Group Rahul Thapar 23 - 24

13 When Silence Speaks Sunita Raut 25 - 29

14 Nostalgia Dr Mukta Kamplikar 29

15 Solitary Spaces Dr Mukta Kamplikar 29 - 30

16 Inception ndash Movie Review Dr Mukta Kamplikar 31 - 33

17 The Ship of Theseus Neha Gupta Lehl 33

18 Art Work Bhavisha Lakhiani 33


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