hacking emotional intelligence: a psychologist's guide

Hacking Emotional Intelligence:

Psychologist’s guide to EQ

Patrycja Slawuta, M.A., PhD(c) Psych

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@Patrycja_NYC

Hello Human

Human = social animal

(Aronson)

Brain = wired to connect

(Lieberman)

Body = wired to connect

(Levine)

Fundamental human need

TO BE:

• Seen

• Accepted/Belong

• Felt

• Heard

When soul hurts

Human Connection

• Fear Most

• Desire Most

• Shame

• Humiliation

• Loneliness

• Disconnect

• Depression

My research:

When fear > connection

• 7 MindHacks

How do we connect?

Emotional Intelligence

• Recognize emotions in self & other

• Regulate

• Motivate

MindHack #1

Name it to tame it

MindHack #2

MindHack #3

Never eat alone

MindHack #4

Circle of Safety

MindHack #5

Get curious

36 Questions

MindHack #6

Emotions are contagious

Show up in:

Your Dark

Your Light

“wonderful people are

made, ….not born”

Practice

MindHack #7

The trust equity

“Attention is the rarest and

purest form of generosity.”

Simone Weil

World Happiness Report

2014

Two biggest factors of happiness &

wellbeing:

*Social Support

*Generosity

Thank you!

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