hacking emotional intelligence: a psychologist's guide
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Hacking Emotional Intelligence:
Psychologist’s guide to EQ
Patrycja Slawuta, M.A., PhD(c) Psych
SelfHackathon
@Patrycja_NYC
Hello Human
Human = social animal
(Aronson)
Brain = wired to connect
(Lieberman)
Body = wired to connect
(Levine)
Fundamental human need
TO BE:
• Seen
• Accepted/Belong
• Felt
• Heard
When soul hurts
Human Connection
• Fear Most
• Desire Most
• Shame
• Humiliation
• Loneliness
• Disconnect
• Depression
My research:
When fear > connection
• 7 MindHacks
How do we connect?
Emotional Intelligence
• Recognize emotions in self & other
• Regulate
• Motivate
MindHack #1
Name it to tame it
MindHack #2
MindHack #3
Never eat alone
MindHack #4
Circle of Safety
MindHack #5
Get curious
36 Questions
MindHack #6
Emotions are contagious
Show up in:
Your Dark
Your Light
“wonderful people are
made, ….not born”
Practice
MindHack #7
The trust equity
“Attention is the rarest and
purest form of generosity.”
Simone Weil
World Happiness Report
2014
Two biggest factors of happiness &
wellbeing:
*Social Support
*Generosity
