The Mentoring RelationshipSESSION 3

“As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another”

Proverbs 27:17

JUNE 2013

Qualities of a Good MentorSession 3

1. A good mentor is a GOOD LISTENER.

2. A good mentor deals with the JUST-IN-TIME moments in life.

3. Good mentors are like MIDWIVES.

4. A good mentor helps a mentee SEE the OPTIONS.

5. A good mentor is an INSPIRER.

6. A good mentor is a CRITICAL THINKER.

What to Avoid

1. Giving advice too freely.

1. Criticizing.

1. Rescuing.

2. Building barriers unnecessarily.

1. Ignoring the “why”

2. Discounting.

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Qualities of a Good Mentee

1. A good mentee is one who takes RESPONSIBILITY for his or her own LEARNING.

2. A good mentee is an ACTIVE LISTENER.

3. A good mentee is a PROACTIVE learner.

4. A good mentee is a LIFELONG learner.

5. A good mentee is TRANSPARENT.

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Qualities of a Bad MenteeSession 3

1. They are overly dependent on their mentors for answers.

2. They don’t take the initiative to identify new areas that need to be covered due to unfolding circumstances in their lives.

3. They discount what their mentors say or suggest.

4. They fail to analyze the present situation and envision where they could be.

Session 3Relational Needs

SPIRITUAL LIFE

FAMILY LIFE MINISTRY

“ME”

Learning NeedsSession 3

KNOWLEDGEKNOWLEDGE

SKILLSKILLUNDERSTANDINGUNDERSTANDING

1. RESPECT: Don‘t belittle.

2. VALUE: Don’t devalue.

3. MODEL: Don’t meddle.

4. AFFIRM: Don’t condemn.

5. ENCOURAGE: Don’t discourage.

6. INSPIRE: Don’t deflate.

7. PRAY: Don’t patronize.

Relational Do’s and Don’t’sSession 3

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1. LISTEN: Don’t talk.

2. ASK: Don’t tell.

3. CLARIFY: Don’t claim.

4. DRAW out: Don’t pour in.

5. Have an AGENDA: Don’t go into a

mentoring session without a plan of action.

Skill-Related Do’s and Don’t’s

6. Give TIME: Don’t take short-cuts.

7. GUIDE: Don’t goad.

8. REVIEW: Don’t fail to reinforce.

9. Be a RESOURCE: Don’t research.

10. Provide PERSPECTIVE: Don’t provide pat answers.

Skill-Related Do’s and Don’t’sSession 3

Mentoring CovenantSession 3

GOD

MENTOR MENTEE