Parenting Style

SanguineThe Popular Parent LETS DO IT THE FUN WAY

Who are they?Being cheerful makes you healthy.. Proverbs 17:22 Recognized by their: constant talking, loud volume and bright eyes Desire: have fun Emotional needs: attention, approval, affection, acceptance, presence of people and activity Motivated by praise

Strengths

Key strengths: ability to talk about anything at any time at any place, bubbling personality, optimism, sense of humor, storytelling ability, enjoyment of people Cute and adorable parent Plays games with children Gets self-worth from the response of those around them

WeaknessesKey weaknesses: disorganized, cant remember details of names, exaggerate, not serious about anything, too gullible and nave

Would like to have the starring role and an eternal position on center stage without being responsible for any of the hard work or details There is no worse punishment for a Sanguine parent than be ignored by the family Could improve if they: get organized, didnt talk so much, learned to tell time

The Powerful Parent (Choleric) LETS DO IT MY WAY

CHOLERIC

Who are they?

Recognized by their: fast-moving approach, quick grab for control, selfconfidence, restless and overpowering attitude Desire: have control Emotional needs: appreciation for all achievements, opportunity for leadership, participation in family decisions, something to control Motivated by achievements

Strengths

Key strengths: ability to take charge of anything instantly and to make quick, correct judgments Strength in motivational and action skills Instantly becomes Commander-in-Chief in any situation Being in charge of the family comes naturally

Weaknesses Key weaknesses: too bossy, domineering, insensitive, impatient, and unwilling to delegate or give credit to others Needs to learn to accept differences and not just insist on own way Could improve if they: allowed others to make decisions, delegated authority, became more patient, didnt expect everyone to produce as they do

MelancholyThe Perfect Parent LETS DO IT THE RIGHT WAY

Who are they?

Recognized by their: serious and sensitive nature, well-mannered approach, self-deprecating comments, well-groomed look Desire: have it right Emotional needs: sense of stability, space, silence, sensitivity, support Motivated by encouragement and observation of how well they have done each task

STRENGTHS

Key strengths: ability to organize and set long-range goals, have high standards and ideals, analyze deeply Takes on the raising of children as a serious lifetime project, that no other personality totally dedicates itself to producing perfect children

WEAKNESSES

Key weaknesses: easily depressed, spend too much time in preparation, too focused on details, remember negatives, suspicious of others Critical, nit-picking parent Melancholic parents need to remember this or risk raising kids that dont fit a perfect mold despite their best efforts Could improve if they: didnt take life quite so seriously, didnt insist others to be perfectionists

Phlegmatic Peaceful Parent (Phlegmatic) LETS DO IT THE EASY WAY

Who are they?

Recognized by their: calm approach, relaxed posture (sitting or leaning when possible) Desire: avoid conflict, keep peace Emotional needs: peace and relaxation, attention, praise, self-worth, loving motivation Motivated by a slow building of a trusting relationship in which they are convinced that they are valued.

Strengths

Key strengths: balance, even disposition, dry sense of humor, pleasing personality Kind, easy to get along with and will do whatever you ask most of the time Sympathetic nature that one finds so agreeable and acceptable in a father or mother Dont argue or fight; Peaceful protector Never irrational or hysterical Easily contented

Weaknesses

Key weaknesses: lack of decisiveness, enthusiasm, and energy; hidden will of iron Needs to develop a set of guidelines for discipline Underneath have a stubborn will, if it happens to be one of their stubborn days, they dont want to change

Elements of Harmonious Relationship with Children

Disciplining Children:

Physical punishment like hitting, slapping and verbal are not effective:

It may get fast results, but in the long term is more harmful;

It can discourage and embarrass children & teens which could lead to low self-esteem;It promotes physical aggression in children & teens.

Positive discipline is to form values and teach our children appropriate behavior for them to develop their selfconfidence and choose safe, healthy positive options:

Our children need to learn what behavior is acceptable and not acceptable and why; As parents, we should stress Dos rather than Don'ts

Parenting Style:1)

The Neglectful

Low on love and low on limits; Their children feel unloved, unwanted, unwelcome; They view their offsprings as an interference in the course of their lives, hindrance to their career and obstacle to their fun; They distance themselves from their children and develop no positive relationships.

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The Permissive

High on love, but low on limits Very loving & very caring, they endeavor to satisfy the many needs of their children; They are so caring - - they tend to be over-protective, making decisions that their children should be taught to make; They offer no clear guidelines of right and wrong.

Parenting Style:3) The Authoritarian

Low on love, but high on limits; Their relationship seems that of master and servant rather than parent and child; Very little dialogue/communication and the childs opinion are neither solicited/respected; They are very strict and tend to be rigid and inflexible; They are insensitive to the needs and feelings of their offspring, and these needs remain unattended.

4) The Authoritative

High on love, and high on limits Their first concern is a loving relationship with their children; They take time to talk and to listen to their children and are sensitive and supportive; They involve their children in decision-making, and teach them to make choices and decisions; They establish clearly defined rules of conduct and they explain the reasons for those standards so that children can obey intelligently.

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