Self Confidence Vs EgoBy Dr.E.S.Maheswr

There is a thin line dividing confidence and ego. Most of the time we get confused and fail to decide whether we are on the spiritual track or our ego is dominating in the guise of confidence. When ego dominates, every success turns into failure. One has to be very careful about it. How do we distinguish between confidence and ego?

A man of confidence says that he can do the work and others can also do it; whereas a man of ego says that he alone can do it and nobody else can.

A man of confidence always try to encourage and help others in building their confidence, whereas a man of ego tries to curb and discourage others when they try to come up in life.

A man of confidence always attracts people. Even the weak feel confident and elevated in his company. Whereas an egoistic person creates repulsion in the minds of people who try to avoid him because of his boastful nature.

A man of confidence appreciates the success of others and shares happiness with them. Whereas a man of ego discourages and humiliates others and feels jealous of the success of others.

There is a joy in working with people of confidence because they are always cheerful and can mix with everybody. In the presence of egoistic people, even the man of confidence, feel an inferiority complex; feel nervous to work.

A man of confidence always commands love and respect whereas a man of ego always demands and expects love and respect.

Confident people are always successful in every field of life because they can conquer the hearts of all by putting their faith and confidence in others and receive all help and cooperation from colleagues and friends. A man of ego always suffers setbacks and failures loosing men and power because of his arrogant approach which adds only to his worries and tensions.

In one word a man of self confidence puts his faith in the inner most Divine self, the source of all power and energy and also feels presence of Divine in everyone while dealing with them, whereas the ego centric person puts his faith only in his mental and intellectual abilities and skills, forgetting the Divine, which operates through mind and intellect, out of ignorance. He applies the same standards while dealing with others. He is only aware of the weaknesses and drawbacks and never realizes that the perfect Divine is hidden behind these superficial appearances, which can be awakened by constant training and positive approach.

The Hurting Of The Ego

Almost everyday we come across a situation when someone says something to us which is not very pleasurable or we chose to perceive it to be so. In either case, we feel insulted and get upset as a result. In some cases we react and display our feelings. In some, we don't. In either case, the result is a depreciation (decrease) in our happiness index. Why does this happen? It is because you have created, attached to and identified with an image of yourself in your mind that does not match with how the other sees or perceives you, as a result of which you believe you have been insulted and you get upset.

As long as people's perception of you matches the image that you have created inside your mind of yourself, you are content with them, but as soon as the opposite happens, even if it’s to a very small extent, you become disturbed, because you are attached to that image. The more the attachment, the greater is the hurt, the disturbance or reaction. You could examine this phenomenon very closely, taking place inside yourself everyday. This kind of attachment mentioned above is called ego. That's why the phenomenon explained above is called in common language 'the hurting of the ego'.

The ego is the claimant within you. Your ego claims the body-mind-intellect and their respective functions and objects. EGO claims your worldly possessions. My wealth, my family, my house, my children, my reputation, my image etc. These assertions and arrogations are made by the EGO. It claims ‘it is my perception’, ‘my action’ or ‘I am the actor’, my feeling’, my thinking’, my point of view’, and ‘my ideas’. These assertions and arrogations of your EGO need to be governed and controlled.

The ego is often misunderstood to be something The ego is often misunderstood to be something negative, something detrimental. The truth is negative, something detrimental. The truth is that the ego, by itself, is not detrimental. On the that the ego, by itself, is not detrimental. On the contrary, it is a potent, benevolent entity within contrary, it is a potent, benevolent entity within you, provided you know the technique of using you, provided you know the technique of using it. Lack of control over the ego, your inability to it. Lack of control over the ego, your inability to use the ego rightly, renders the ego detrimental. use the ego rightly, renders the ego detrimental. An uncontrolled, undisciplined ego is harmful. It An uncontrolled, undisciplined ego is harmful. It develops arrogance in you. On the contrary a develops arrogance in you. On the contrary a controlled, disciplined use of the ego is controlled, disciplined use of the ego is beneficial. It develops self-esteemed self worth beneficial. It develops self-esteemed self worth in you. Self-esteem is an essential ingredient of in you. Self-esteem is an essential ingredient of success and progress. The ego in you, if not success and progress. The ego in you, if not supervised, causes devastation and destruction supervised, causes devastation and destruction of human harmony within as well as without. of human harmony within as well as without. Uncontrolled and undisciplined ego is a Uncontrolled and undisciplined ego is a saboteur. It sabotages your career, your saboteur. It sabotages your career, your relationship, your peace of mind and your goal.relationship, your peace of mind and your goal.

Though all of us know the subject, this is being sent as a small reminder. It is applicable to all human beings, irrespective of religion, caste or creed. We sincerely wish all of us live the GOD gifted short life fully.

With lots of love and regardss. muralimuscat

Ego versus Soul Ego versus Soul by Aine Beltonby Aine Belton

Do you know when you're in ego?Do you know when you're in ego?

And want to know how to move And want to know how to move from ego to love?

  Recognition can be the ignition for change.Recognition can be the ignition for change.

  Are you in the grip of yourAre you in the grip of your lower mind lower mind, rather , rather than the love and wisdom of your Higher Mind than the love and wisdom of your Higher Mind and Soul?and Soul?

  Want to dissolve the limitations, negativity and Want to dissolve the limitations, negativity and sabotage of ego agendas?sabotage of ego agendas?

Don’t fall into the trap of judging yourself or Don’t fall into the trap of judging yourself or feeling guilty about your ego traits, that’ll be feeling guilty about your ego traits, that’ll be your ego your ego

Your ego is as invested in making your feel ‘less Your ego is as invested in making your feel ‘less than’ as it is in making your feel ‘better than’ – than’ as it is in making your feel ‘better than’ – anything to keep you from love and the anything to keep you from love and the wholeness and acceptance it grants. Love wholeness and acceptance it grants. Love essentially equals death of the ego, so essentially equals death of the ego, so understandably, the ego resists it.understandably, the ego resists it.

Below are the 9 Ego versus Soul traits followedBelow are the 9 Ego versus Soul traits followedby the 9 Graces of Consciousness that can help by the 9 Graces of Consciousness that can help you move from ego to love. “You are loved, you move from ego to love. “You are loved, loving and loveable, ever and always.”loving and loveable, ever and always.”

Judgment ~ Love and compassion (for self and others)

JoiningSeparation ~

Blame/victimhood ~ Responsibility

Compassion and understandingCriticism ~

Resentment ~ Forgiveness

Ego versus Soul

Control ~ Love, trust, receiving/allowing

Self-Love, self-acceptance and value

Jealousy ~

Feeling ‘better than’ or ‘less than’ ~ Self-Love and

acceptance

Love and trustFear ~

Nine Graces of ConsciousnessNine Graces of Consciousness

1) Love, an obvious first, will always disengage 1) Love, an obvious first, will always disengage ego. Judgment, guilt, control, etc., cannot exist ego. Judgment, guilt, control, etc., cannot exist when you are immersed in the energy of love. when you are immersed in the energy of love. The reason the other below 8 ‘graces’ work also The reason the other below 8 ‘graces’ work also is because they are catalysts for opening to love is because they are catalysts for opening to love or help you let go of what is standing in the way or help you let go of what is standing in the way of that love.of that love.

The answer is always love; love for yourself, The answer is always love; love for yourself, others and the world.”others and the world.”

2) Gratitude opens your heart, raises your 2) Gratitude opens your heart, raises your energy, and focuses your attention on what you energy, and focuses your attention on what you love and appreciate in your life. This melts away love and appreciate in your life. This melts away ego perspectives and invites in love. ego perspectives and invites in love.

Gratitude is the sweet fragrance of an opening Gratitude is the sweet fragrance of an opening heart.”heart.”

3) Forgiveness of self and others (which are 3) Forgiveness of self and others (which are always related, and outer projected judgments always related, and outer projected judgments can be your hidden denied self-judgments), will can be your hidden denied self-judgments), will free you from darker emotions and thoughts free you from darker emotions and thoughts such as many in the ego versus soul list below, such as many in the ego versus soul list below, and relinquishes ego agendas like judgment, and relinquishes ego agendas like judgment, blame, resentment, etc., returning you to love.blame, resentment, etc., returning you to love.

Forgiveness sets you free, and opens the door Forgiveness sets you free, and opens the door to love’s eternity.”to love’s eternity.”

4) Joy is an instant and effortless energy up-4) Joy is an instant and effortless energy up-lifter, brings you fully into the present, and lifter, brings you fully into the present, and connects you with the inherent goodness of connects you with the inherent goodness of you, others and life. The ego cannot exist in you, others and life. The ego cannot exist in laughter, for example. It simply has no foothold laughter, for example. It simply has no foothold in that space of high energy. Light-heartedness in that space of high energy. Light-heartedness and seeing the funny side of life, people, and seeing the funny side of life, people, situations and yourself can help to move from situations and yourself can help to move from ego to your true joyful self. After a good laugh ego to your true joyful self. After a good laugh problems can disappear, you can wonder why problems can disappear, you can wonder why certain things ever bothered you, and you are certain things ever bothered you, and you are filled again with just how wonderful life is.filled again with just how wonderful life is.

Today is always the best day for having fun!”Today is always the best day for having fun!”

5) Meditation positively transforms your state of 5) Meditation positively transforms your state of being and quells the ego through calming the being and quells the ego through calming the ‘monkey mind’ and looping repetitive thoughts, ‘monkey mind’ and looping repetitive thoughts, and creating the space for higher energy and and creating the space for higher energy and perspectives to dawn, your heart to open and perspectives to dawn, your heart to open and your soul to connect more closely with you. It your soul to connect more closely with you. It will literally alter your brain frequencies will literally alter your brain frequencies physiologically that enable deeper states which physiologically that enable deeper states which are more receptive and aligned to your Higher are more receptive and aligned to your Higher Self. There are a lot of different kinds of Self. There are a lot of different kinds of meditation practices, choose any you most meditation practices, choose any you most enjoy or resonate with. Even just some enjoy or resonate with. Even just some moments in quiet stillness can be of help, moments in quiet stillness can be of help, perhaps slowing your breathing, listening to perhaps slowing your breathing, listening to relaxing music, spending time in nature, etc.relaxing music, spending time in nature, etc.

When you feel the rapture of bliss, you are When you feel the rapture of bliss, you are deeply connected to your highest self.”deeply connected to your highest self.”

6) Acceptance of self/others and life is like 6) Acceptance of self/others and life is like taking a huge releasing sigh, and a powerful taking a huge releasing sigh, and a powerful step in letting go of any ego state and step in letting go of any ego state and challenging life situations.challenging life situations.

Take a moment to accept yourself, life and Take a moment to accept yourself, life and others, just as you/it/they are.”others, just as you/it/they are.”

7) Feeling your feelings helps you to release 7) Feeling your feelings helps you to release them and is a way of being honest, honoring them and is a way of being honest, honoring and intimate with yourself. I’m not talking about and intimate with yourself. I’m not talking about wallowing or over-indulging in negative states wallowing or over-indulging in negative states (i.e. nip that pity in the bud), but more allowing (i.e. nip that pity in the bud), but more allowing your emotions to be felt and in that expressed, your emotions to be felt and in that expressed, so they can move through rather than get so they can move through rather than get repressed. The ego can use emotions like anger, repressed. The ego can use emotions like anger, pain, jealousy, hurt, to loop dark stories in your pain, jealousy, hurt, to loop dark stories in your mind that keep you from the truth, feeding lies mind that keep you from the truth, feeding lies about yourself, others, and life in a way that about yourself, others, and life in a way that keeps you from love. Constricting emotions can keeps you from love. Constricting emotions can in themselves cloud and separate you from in themselves cloud and separate you from love’s presence.love’s presence.

Give yourself permission to feel, feelings are Give yourself permission to feel, feelings are what make you real.”what make you real.”

8) Oneness perspectives and an awareness that 8) Oneness perspectives and an awareness that at a fundamental level we are all connected/One at a fundamental level we are all connected/One can do wonders for helping us move from ego can do wonders for helping us move from ego to love. to love.

You are both the sky and the one who looks at You are both the sky and the one who looks at the sky.”the sky.”

9) Empathy and compassion, putting yourself in 9) Empathy and compassion, putting yourself in another’s shoes, engaging your care and another’s shoes, engaging your care and seeking understanding help to move you from seeking understanding help to move you from ego to your love in empowering ways, and ego to your love in empowering ways, and dissolves traps like blame, judgment, fear, dissolves traps like blame, judgment, fear, defensiveness, etc.defensiveness, etc.

Behind everyone’s eyes there’s a child Behind everyone’s eyes there’s a child somewhere inside, always be kind.”somewhere inside, always be kind.”