self esteem vs. self confidence

From self confidence to self esteem ( Fra selvtillid til selvværd )

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FROM SELF CONFIDENCE TO SELF ESTEEM

….EMPOWERMENT OF A HIGH ACHIEVER 2


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Talent coach

Leadership coach

Teacher

44 Married 2 boys

Passionate about • Personal development • Travelling • Hockey

Thomas Friisnæs


High achievers

Talent-pools

Primadonna’s

Sports elite

Leaders elite

Primary strength is self confidence

Performance driven by self confidence

Highest wish: more performance

Self confidence is fragile

Self confidence is grounded in self esteem

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True drivers

WHY Burning platforms

Overview– priority – focus - decisiveness

Clear goals


Exercise What have you achieved the past 5 years?

Looking back to April 11th. 2006 and till NOW

Top 3

Positive

Professional – personal

Write it down 4 minutes


Self esteem Self confidence

What I do Your merits

Dine ”bilkort”

What I am

Position Education House Car Clothes Jewelry Watches Network

Results Fitness Friends Seminars Customers Gadgets Purses, bags Shoes Travels Restaurants


American Psycho


DOINGS Your merits

Dine ”bilkort”

BEINGS

Goal (surface) Underlying

Being in the performance Be yourself

Stay in your comfortzone Break your comfortzone (and develop)

External recognition Internal recognition

Pursue others dreams Defines own dreams Constantly towards new goals Present in the now

Always on the move Time for reflection Know best Knows that I can develop

Wants to correct the world Accepts that the world is perfect

Must be perfect Accepts that we do everything we can, with the resources we have



Self esteem

What I can do anything about – I do!

What I can not do anything about – I accept!

Without your own dreams, you accept to become a resource for others – those who have found and live their dreams


Self esteem exercises - I • Accept your present situation (and move on) • Accept your past - your weaknesses – and focus on your strengths • Don’t be too serious, everyone can make a mistake • Love yourself – you’re unique • Praise yourself when you succeed • Visualize your success – rolemodelling • Set your goals – and reward yourself

• Don’t act to please others • Don’t judge others • Show courage • Break your comfort zone, play without limits • Enjoy your own company, love yourself • Admit that you’re vulnerable • Make your own personal mental contract

Self esteem exercises - II • Meet others with a smile, a firm handshake and look the into their eyes • Show gratitude and appreciation, when you’re recognized • Don’t brag • Don’t focus on probems and negativity in your conversations • See mistakes as a tool to improve and learn • Respon to pressure by increasing your activity level

• Focus on your qualities, take a strength test • Strengthen the faith in yourself • Say no – move from respect to self respect • Prioritize time to meditation • Practice your ability to accept • Take chances – it is OK to make mistakes • Practice your self pep-talk • Learn to recognize at be recognized (for what you are, not what you do) • Say it when you disagree • Show your feelings • Think positive thoughts

Exercise What do YOU dream about doing within the next 5 years?

From today and Untill April 11th 2016

Top 3

And WHY – what will it give you (finding the underlying reasons and true motivation)

Write it down 4 minutes


DOINGS BEINGS

OBTAIN insight and consciouness/awareness

USE insight and consciouness/awareness



Exercise

What will YOU do TODAY to get one step closer to your goals?

Specific

Measurable

Attractive

Realistic

Timeframe


More on motivation

Dan Pink – motivation in another perspektive ted.com – approx. 19 minutes

RSA Animate youtube.com – RSA Animate motivation 10 minute cartoon


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Build your self confidence on a basis of self esteem

Slingshot / boost your self confidence

Perform even more

Find insight

Become conscious

Use consciousness

Find the courage to break out of your comfort zone

Concluding



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