rifq / gentleness
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Rifq: Rifq: Toward aToward a
Gentler CommunityGentler CommunityBy Taha Ghayyur
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Master and the She-Camel
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What is Rifq?
•Rifq: Defined as Gentleness, Kindness& Forbearance•Gentleness: Quality of True Character in many traditions•Opposite of Anger, Rudeness & Aggression•Aristotle: “Justified and properly focused anger is named mildness or gentleness”•In medieval times, Gentleness was associated with higher social classes: hence the terms gentleman, gentlewoman and gentry.
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What is Rifq?
•Rifq can also be described in Arabic as Hilm (Clemency) & Anaah (Tolerance)
•Ra-Fa-Qa Rifq (Gentleness) Yarfuqu or Rifqan (to be useful) Raafaqa or Murafaqa (to accompany) Rafeeq (companion) Murtafiqan (resting place) Mirfaq (elbow)
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What is Rifq?
Rahmah(Mercy)
Sabr (Patienc
e)
Rifq(Gentlenes
s)
Rifq(Gentlenes
s)
Weakness in Standing
up for Truth
Rifq(Gentlenes
s)Lack of
Confidence
Rifq(Gentlenes
s)
Anti-Social
Behaviour
Ikhlas(Sincerit
y)
Rifq(Gentlenes
s)
Naivety or
Foolishness
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Why Rifq Matters?
1. Allah is Ar-Rafiq: Divine Quality
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Why Rifq Matters?
2. Allah Reminds the Prophet to be
Gentle & Forgiving (at a Critical Time)
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Why Rifq Matters?
3. Allah & the Prophet Spoke Highly of Those Who Repress Anger
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Why Rifq Matters?
4. Two Qualities Beloved to God
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Why Rifq Matters?
5. Allah Loves Rifq, Only Rewards Rifq & Doesn’t Reward Harshness
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Why Rifq Matters?
6. Gentleness Beautifies, Harshness Leaves Ugliness & Defect
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Why Rifq Matters?
7. Gentleness at Home – Gift from Allah!
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Why Rifq Matters?
8. No Gentleness, No Goodness!
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Why Rifq Matters?
9. Hellfire Forbidden for the Accessible, Gentle & Easy-Going
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Why Rifq Matters?
10. Make it Easy, Not HardWelcome, Not Repel
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Why Rifq Matters?
11. Gentleness is a Universal Language
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Why Rifq Matters?
12. Gentleness = Strength
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Why Rifq Matters?
13. Gentleness & Compassion are Like Muscles that can be Trained - Study
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Why Rifq Matters?
14. Gentleness is Contagious: 3-Way Positive Effect - Study
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Why Rifq Matters?
15. Kindness & Health Benefits•Children & Kindness: Happier; Increased Popularity; More Friends; Better Academic Performance; Positive Behaviour; Less Bullying•Random Acts of Kindness Help Mental Health•Gentleness and Random Acts of Kindness can Release the Stress•“Pay it Forward” Pays Off
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What Happens When Rifq is Missing?
• Negativity • Mental Stress• Harshness &
Rudeness• Insensitivity• Spiritual
Weakness• Lack of Empathy• Lack of
Compassion• Uncontrolled
Anger• Aggression• Ego• Racism
• Disrespect• Name-calling• Sarcasm / Taunt• Divorce• Disunity• Violence• Domestic Abuse• Bullying• Crime• War• Terrorism
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Why is Rifq Diminishing Today?
• “Busy” Lifestyle• Cut-Throat
Competition• Culture of Instant
Gratification• Video Games • Negative News• Violence in
Movies & Cartoons
• Lack of Humility• Lack of Sincerity
• Minimal Connection with Humans
• Minimal Connection with Nature
• Minimal Connection with Disadvantaged
• “Me, Myself & I” Culture – Youtube, Facebook & Selfies
• Schooling• Parenting
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How to Become a Gentler Community
1. Study & Emulate the Exemplar of Rifq
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How to Become a Gentler Community
2. Smile: It’s a Sunnah, Free & Irresistible!
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How to Become a Gentler Community
3. Be Positive: Thought, Language, Tone & Gestures
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How to Become a Gentler Community
4. Soften Your Heart with Dhikr (Remembrance) & Sadaqa (Giving)
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How to Become a Gentler Community
5. Practice Random Acts of Kindness
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How to Become a Gentler Community
6. Encourage, Appreciate & Reward Gentleness at Home, School, Work...etc.
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How to Become a Gentler Community
7. Have Zero-Tolerance for Disrespect, Mocking, Rudeness & Hurt to ANYONE
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How to Become a Gentler Community
8. Spend More Quality Time with Humans & Nature
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How to Become a Gentler Community
9. Reduce Time with Digital Gadgets & News – Screen Time Rude Behaviour
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How to Become a Gentler Community
10. Remember: Allah’s Mercy Partly Depends on Your Gentleness & Compassion