positive parenting

PositiveParenting

Part 1- Parent and childrenPart 4- 8 best parenting tips

Part 2- What is your parenting style?

Part 3- Principles ofpositive parenting

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Let's define parenting...

2Part 1- Parent and children

* Parenting is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual developmentof a child from infancy to adulthood.

* Parenting refers to the aspects of raising a child aside from the biological relationship.

* The general pattern of behaviors that a parent uses to raise his or her children.

Stages of child growth

3Part 1- Parent and children

4 different parenting styles

4Part 2- What is your parenting style?

* Democratic, balanced behavior* High love and high limits

* Relies on positive reinforcement and infrequent use of punishment.* Parents are more aware of a child's feelings and capabilities and support the development of a child's autonomy within reasonable limits.* Research shows that this style is most beneficial when parenting children.

Authoritative Authoritarian Permissive Uninvolved

Children of authoritative parents tend to be:


* Happy* Self-confident* Curious* Independent* Likable* Respectful of others* Successful in school




* Low love and high limits

* Parents who practice authoritarian style parenting have a strict set of rules and expectations and require rigid obedience.* If rules are not followed punishment is most often used to ensure obedience.* There is usually no explanation of punishment except that the child is in trouble and should listen accordingly.




Children of authoritarian parents tend to be:

* Unhappy * Anxious* Low in self-confidence* Lacking initiative* Dependent on others* Lacking in social skills and altruistic behaviors* Coercive in dealing with others* Defiant



* High love and low limits

* In these family settings a child's freedomand their autonomy are valued and parentstend to rely mostly on reasoning and explanation.* There tends to be little if any punishment or rules in this style of parenting and children are said to be free from external constraints.




Children of permissive parents tend to be:

* Selfish* Unmotivated* Dependent on others* Demanding of attention* Disobedient* Impulsive



* Uninvolved, close to rejecting, neglecting* Low love and low limits

* An uninvolved parenting style is when parents are often emotionally absent and sometimes even physically absent.* They are not responsive to a child's needs to do not demand anything of them in their behavioral expectations.* Provide everything the child needs for survival with little to no engagement.




Children of uninvolved parents tend to be:

* Disobedient* Demanding* Low in self-control* Low in tolerance for frustration* Lacking long-term goals

What is your parenting styles? Be honest with yourself!How is your parenting style changing throughout the week?

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Core Parenting Skills

13Part 3- Principles of positive parenting

* Promoting positive relationships* Brief quality time, talking to children, affection* Encouraging desirable behaviour* Praise, positive attention, engaging activities* Teaching new skills and behaviours* Modelling, incidental teaching, ask-say-do, behaviour charts* Managing misbehaviour* Ground rules, directed discussion, planned ignoring, clear, calm instructions, logical consequences, quiet time, time-out

Core principles of positive parentingAuthoritative parenting style

for baby and toddlers


* Talk to your baby. It is soothing to hear your voice. * When your baby makes sounds, answer him by repeating and adding words. This will help him learn to use language. * Read to your baby. This helps her develop and understand language and sounds. * Play music. This helps your baby develop a love for music and math. (Sing to Your Baby)* Praise your baby and give him lots of loving attention. * Spend time cuddling and holding your baby. This helps her feel cared for and secure.

Core principles of positive parentingAuthoritative parenting stylefor children and adolescents


* Ensure a safe, engaging environment* Create a positive learning environment* Use assertive discipline* Have realistic expectations* Take care of yourself as a parent

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How to discipline your kids?

16Part 4- 8 best parenting tips

Tip #1: distraction. Distract a misbehaving baby or child. Offer a different activity. Move the attractive, but forbidden, object out of your child's reach.

Tip #2: positive language. Avoid saying "No!" too often. The word will lose its impact. Save it for important times, like when safety is an issue.

Tip #3: consistency. Let him know your limits. Enforce your rules the same way every time. Gain mutual trust through consistent behavior.

How to discipline toddlers and babies?


Tip #4: appreciative inquiry. Appreciate your children feedback, questions and comments. Ask questions to explore and discover.

Tip #5: praise. Honestly praise your children for progress and good behavior. Celebrate small like accomplishments, but do not praise too much

Tip #6: empowerment. Encourage your child to solve problems by themselves. Ask your child specific, open-ended questions. Teach children to focus on the entire situation, not just part of it.

How to discipline toddlers and babies?


Tip #7: model behavior: lead and educate by example, work on your own project, your kid will admire you and copy you

Tip #8: right environment: make sure that your kid have a quiet place to learn, separated from the rest of the house, away from distraction like games and TV. Give him/her with enough school supply, a suitable desk and monitor that he/she has enough time and support to complete daily homework assignments

Positive Parenting Solutions with Amy McCready


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How will evolve your behavior towards a positive parenting style?

20In summary

#1: distraction

#2: positive language

#3: consistency

#4: appreciative inquiry

#5: praise

#6:empowerment

#7: model behavior

#8: right environment

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* wikipedia.com* Parenting style by Cheryl Breck

* Huxley, Ron, LMFT. Hand Tools: Parenting Education: The Four Parenting Styles, 2004* Omrod, Jeanne Ellis, Third Edition. Educational Psychology: Developing Learners. Merrill and imprint of Prentice Hall. Columbus, Ohio, 2000* Cooperrider, D. L., Sorensen, Jr., P.F., Whitney, D., & Yaeger, T. F., Appreciative inquiry: Rethinking human organization toward a positive theory of change. Champaign, IL: Stipes Publishing, 2000* Quinn, R. E. Change the world. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 2000* Watkins, J.M., & Mohr, B.J., Appreciative inquiry: Change at the speed of imagination. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 2001

* www.parentingtoolbox.com/pstyle1.html* www.kidsource.com/better.world.press/parenting.html* www.unt.edu/spe/module1/blk2styl.htm*ourworld.compuserve.com/homepages/hstein/parentin.htm

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