personal effectiveness - kamal

7/30/2019 Personal Effectiveness - Kamal

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Welcome

To the World of Learning Opportunities

Kamal Kumar Shewaramani


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What is life?

A series of two alternating activitiescalled desiring and attempting to

fulfill the desires.

Right from our birth till we breathe our

last, we are constantly desiring andattempting to fulfill those desires.


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What do we desire in life?

Food, Shelter & Safety Love

Money

Security

Trust

Position

Fame

Popularity Satisfaction

Health

Pleasure

HAPPINESS


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Happiness

Depends upon balanced fulfillment ofour concurrent and congruent needs& desires

Effectiveness


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Effectiveness

Ability to achieve goals

Full utilization of potential andresources

Includes growth: continuousimprovement in performance and

ability to perform

Ability to succeed


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Success

Getting whatever we want,through self realization

Not determined by how we do ascompared to others, but to whatwe are capable of doing

Progressive realization of worthygoals


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Areas of Effectiveness

SelfRealization

Growth

Expression

Creativity

Health

VitalityPleasure


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Relations

Parents / Siblings

Spouse / Children

Relatives / Friends


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Society

StatusRecognition

Contribution


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Work

Contribution

RecognitionRemuneration

Relations

Growth


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Money

RequirementAvailability


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Barriers to Effectiveness

What reduces our effectiveness,

success or happiness?


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Barriers to Effectiveness

Shortcomings in personality

Lack of resources

Inability to get support from

environment

beliefs,opinions& values


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Shortcomings in Personality

Lack of Self

Worth & love

Ownership

Belief

Desire

GoalsCommitment

Valuing benefitsover costs & payoffs

Whatever inspires &pulls you in to action


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Lack of StrategyNeedFormulation

Poor Health

Fear ofFailure

EmbarrassmentUnknown

Living in the past


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Lack of Action

Procrastination

No Initiative

No Persistent Effort

No Excellence

No Continuous Improvement

Ability Performance


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Lack of Resources

KnowledgeDirect & Cross Functional

Skills

CommunicationHuman

Organizing

Money

Time


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Knowledge

Availability ofaccessible, retrievable,transferableandrelevantinformation.

Stages: Inquisitiveness, Seeking,Comprehension, Recall (Memory) &Composition

Sources: Formal Education, Training,Coaching, Experience, Association &Observation


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Skills

Human

Communication

Listening

Organizing

Control on Reactions

Ability to apply the knowledge

Acquired through training, perfected by practice


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Human Skills

Sense

Synergy


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Sense

Ability to distinguish between beneficial& harmful and act accordingly

Self Awareness

Creative Imagination

Conscience

Independent Will

IncludesMaturity


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Improving Sense

Self Awareness

CreativeImagination

Conscience

Independent Will

Personal journal

Visualization

Learning &responding

Making & keepingpromises

Integrity


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Synergy

Whole is more than the sum of parts(1+1>2)

Common Goal

Interdependence

Value the difference

Everybody benefits


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Highest Forms of Synergy

Human Body

Birth of a child


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Communication

The ability to make people willinglyaccept our ideas and act uponthem favourably.


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Why do we communicate? To share / seek information

To pass on instructions / give feedback

To teach / learn

To understand others requirements orproblems

To tell others our expectations or dosand donts

To express our feelings / emotions

For entertainment


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Components of Communication

Content

Intent

Transfer (Transmission, Reception

& Feedback)

Effect


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Communication Process

Sender

Thinks

Composes

Encodes

Receiver

Receives

Decodes

Comprehends

Transmission

Feedback

Media


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Why isnt our communication

effective?

Barriers to Communication


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Barriers to Communication

MuddledMessage

Presumptions

Wrong Medium

Language

Speaker focus

Lack of

Feedback

Poor ListeningSkills

Lack of interest

Interruptions

PhysicalDistractions


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Listening

Is not waiting for our turn to speak

Is more than being quiet & hearing

Listening speed is faster than speakingspeed.

We generally listen through filters

Our arrogance makes us communicateonly to be understood


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Blocks to Listening

Culture

Attitude

Values

Beliefs

Prejudices

Morals

Fears

Currentthoughts &

feelings Pressures

Needs

Knowledge

Interest

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Listening Humility helps us focus on what is

right than on who is right. Involves hearing, interpreting,

evaluating and responding

Shows respect to others experiencesand rights

Helps understand & also preparesenvironment to be understood

Empathic listening


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Organizing

Creative Visualization

Assessment of Requirement

Planning

Resource Mobilization

Timely Execution


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Time

Only resource that is available toall in exactly equal quantity.

Whatever we get in life is byinvesting time.

Success and failure are largely

dependent upon the way weinvest our time.


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Time Management

Prioritize

Delegate

Memory

Learn to say no

Let go


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Time Management - Prioritize

Urgent Not Urgent

Important Quadrant ICrisesPressing problems

Deadlines

Quadrant IIPreparationPreventionDevelopmentValues clarificationPlanningRelationship buildingTrue recreationEmpowerment

Not Important Quadrant IIIInterruptionsSome mails / reportsSome meetingsMany proximatematters

Quadrant IVTrivia busy workSome phone callsTime wastersEscape activitiesIrrelevant mailsExcessive TV


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Inability to Get Supportfrom Environment

Opportunities

Image / Projection

Relations

Influence

Uncontrolled Reactions

anger, jealousy, impulsive & over reaction

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For Good Relations Acknowledge their value in your life

Be sensitive to their concerns

Seek first to understand and then to beunderstood

Focus on intentions and not actions

Set clear limits for expectations

Mutual respect, politeness, concern,appreciation & trust

Quality of life contribution

authenticity, integrity& honesty


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To Improve Sour Relations

Change your perspective about thatperson

Take initiative and clear all long held

misunderstandings / grudges

Be authentic, apologize for your mistakes

Be willing to forgive & forget (not thelesson)

Invest necessary time

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Influence

I Integrity with people

N Nurtures other people

F Faith in people

L Listens to people

U Understands people

E Enlarges people

N Navigates other people

C Connects with people

E Empowers people

R Reproduces other influencers

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Control on Reactions

Use your sense

Analyze known responses to various

disturbing impulses

Realize their impact on our life

Identify the ones that need to changed

Coach the mind by continuously thinkingabout the desired response and controlbehaviour in times of distress

Reactions are spontaneous actions, chosen by

subconscious mind, in response to the various impulses.


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There is no such thing as human nature

We are the sum product of our choices

P d f Ch i


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Products of Choice

Present

Desired Future

Causes

Price

Payoff

Benefit

Cost

Uncertainty

Choice Commitment Will Power


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Choose a powerful life,a life that you can love.

Live by Choice, Not by Chance


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Wishing You A

Powerful

FulfilledHappy

Memorable

Life of Your Choice


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Thank You

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