RED FLAGS TO
NARCISSISTICPERSONALITY
DISORDER (NPD)
COMPILED BY JENI MAWTER
How does a relationship that
feels so right …
… go so wrong?
NPD WARNING SIGNSIGNORE AT YOUR PERIL
NPDS ARE LOOKING FOR ENABLERS WHO GIVE ‘NARCISSISTIC SUPPLY’ ATTENTION +
EMPATHY + ADULATION
YOU ARE SELECTED BY HOW YOU RESPOND TO THE NPDS FOCUS
YOU BECOME THE TARGET FOR LOVE ‘BOMBING’
AN INTENSE FOCUS IS ON YOU
IT FEELS LIKE YOU HAVE BEEN ‘CHOSEN’
YOU ARE SPECIAL
NPDS ARE OFTEN CHARISMATIC
BUT…
NPD INTEREST IN YOU IS A PRETENSE
YOUR ENCOUNTER WILL BE LIKE AN INTERVIEW, NOT A CONVERSATION
NPDS ‘BANK’ OR STORE YOUR EMOTIONS, THOUGHTS AND EXPERIENCES
(EXPOSED WEAKNESSES WILL BE USED AGAINST YOU LATER)
THEIR LOVE IS ALL-CONSUMING
THIS FEELS PERFECT …
UNTIL …
NPDS HAVE AN INFLATED SENSE OF ‘SELF’ SUPERIORITY
THEY EXPECT, AND DEMAND, TO BE WORSHIPPED
THEY HAVE A STRONG SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT
NPDS ARE NEVER RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS OR WORDSTHEY BLAME THE WORLD AND OTHERS
ABUSE STARTS WITHOCCASIONAL SUBTLE PUTDOWNS
EMPATHY IS FEIGNED
WITHOUT AN AUDIENCENPDS HAVE NO EMPATHY
NPDS WEAR TWO FACES
FRIENDLY IN PUBLIC
BACKSTABBING IN PRIVATE
NPDS ARE THEMASTERS OF CAMOUFLAGE
LOVE BOMBING CONTINUES
YOU DROWN IN THIS SEA OF LOVE
BUT… DEVALUING BEGINS
(USUALLY IN PRIVATE)
WHEN WORDS CONTRADICT BEHAVIOUR YOU FEEL CONFUSED
TO THE WORLD
THIS PERSON IS PERFECT
TO THE NPD, YOU ARE NOT PERFECT
YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO AN OPINION
IT’S “MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY”
YOUR VALUE COMES FROM HOW YOU RESPOND TO THE NPD – NOT FROM
WHO YOU ARE
YOU BECOME ISOLATEDLOSE FAMILY, FRIENDS, COLLEAGUES
AND COMMUNITY
ATTEMPTS TO ASSERT YOURSELF LEAD TO ‘NARCISSISTIC RAGE’
YET YOU FEEL SORRY FOR THE NPD
YOUR ROLE IS TO PLEASE THEM
NPDS ARE HYPERSENSITIVE AND PERCEIVE CRITICISM
WHEN NONE IS INTENDED
NARCISSISTIC RAGE ESCALATES (ONLY IN PRIVATE)
MANIPULATION TACTICS USED TO CONTROL YOU
GASLIGHTING DENIAL LYING EXCUSES
I never said that.
You’re imagining things.
You’re crazy.
That never happened.
Can’t you take a joke?
COMMONLY HEARD …
MUCH OF WHAT IS SAID IS A LIE
AS A NPD VICTIM YOU NO LONGER TRUST YOUR OWN
PERCEPTION, MEMORY, OR JUDGEMENT
BLAMING: NPDS ARENEVER RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS
“IT’S ALL YOUR FAULT”
YOU ARE IN A CYCLE OF VALUE AND DISCARD
YOU KEEP TRYING TO RETURN TO YOUR OLD RELATIONSHIP
YET YOU OFTEN WONDER…
YOUR BOUNDARIES WILL NOT BERESPECTED
YOU’RE WALKING ON EGGSHELLS
ENABLERS DO NOT BELIEVE YOUTHEY PROTECT THE NPD
YOU ARE SILENCED
SILENCED
YOUR ABUSER WON’T LET YOU GOTHEY CRY CROCODILE TEARS
WELCOME TO THE CYCLE OF ABUSE
NO, YOU’RE NOT CRAZY!!!
THIS WHOLE SITUATION IS CRAZY MAKING
YOU’VE BEEN ‘NARCISSISED’
AND YOU NEVER KNEW …
UNTIL NOW
FINALLY THE PIECES FIT TOGETHER!
NO MORE RED FLAG CONFUSION
HOW DID SOMETHING
THAT FELT SO RIGHT …
GO SO WRONG?!
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