developing close relationships
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Developing Close Relationships. Friendship. A friend…. Often knows how you feel about certain things without being told. Is someone who shares many of your viewpoints, especially on subjects you consider important. Is someone who never talks about you behind your back. - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
FRIENDSHIP
Developing Close Relationships
A friend…
Often knows how you feel about certain things without being told.
Is someone who shares many of your viewpoints, especially on subjects you consider important.
Is someone who never talks about you behind your back.
Is someone you can share your most important secrets with and not worry that anyone else will be told.
Friends…
1. connect you to what is happening around you
2. allow you to share your thoughts, your hopes, and your dreams
Important Qualities of a Friend…
Loyalty
Trust
Affection
Supportiveness
Friends can be important to…
Provide emotional support
Help you believe that are a worthwhile person
Help you to expand your knowledge, ideas, and perspectives
Help you meet your needs and reach your personal goals
Share your hopes, concerns, and ambitions
Friendships…
Are based on people talking to each other and sharing thoughts, feelings, and ideas
Requires communication, and this is the channel that connects you to others
Will understand the need to change and grow without fearing the friend will no longer be your friend (the sign of true friendship is to allow someone to grow)
You will be able to trust each other’s independence
Close friendships with a person of the opposite sex…
Is not uncommon during the teen years
Can be a testing ground for the honesty, truth, respect, and communication that is critical to any lasting male-female relationship
May remain as a very special relationship for your entire life
May also grow into a more serious emotional relationship later on because the basis for mutual understanding has been established
Reasons for dating:
Gender identity
Weaning from family
Social competence
Communication skills
Assessing ego needs
Clarification of life philosophy
Coping with sexual feelings
Relating to other sex
Developing meaningful relationships
Self-understanding
Others?
Dating Patterns
Functions of Dating…
As people date, they not only have fun, they learn more about themselves
Through give-and-take of dating relationships, they also learn how to get along with others
Interpersonal skills are improved as communication skills develop
Encourages good peer relationships and helps you learn to evaluate personalities
Helps you become better able to discover those personality traits that appeal to you and those that do not
Helps make you aware of the demands and restrictions involved in getting along with members of the opposite sex which are likely to be more successful marriage partners
Helps you discover yourself and to learn about other people in a variety of settings
Informal Group Dating…
“Just being with people” rather than having structured dates
More emphasis is put on groups of people than on couples
May also be referred to as ‘hanging out’
Group activities are often planned jointly by males and females, although girls are more likely to initiate plans (or may just meet at popular spot with no actual plans)
These may enjoy doing things in groups that they might not do alone
This may prepare teens for one-to-one relationships
Persons may pair off with different people for different events, without the pressure of dating
These experiences allow you to form your own ideas about people and about life
You can share thoughts and feelings while relating to a person as a friend rather than as a prospective mate
Having a variety of experiences with different people will prepare you for making decisions later in life
Formal Pair Dating
1. You may discover one person you especially like and begin to “see each other” (no long-term commitment)
2. May begin with one date and may end with just one date (called casual dating)
3. You may decide not to date anyone else for a period of time, friends may say “you are going out” or steady dating
4. that becoming a couple
Will allow you to feel that this person really understands you and cares about you
Allows you to be special to someone
Makes you aware that you can have a great time just being together
5. You may notice an increased respect for one another as individuals (dating is a meeting of equals)
6. Couples can share decision making, express feelings honestly, and develop good communication patterns
7. As young people are marring at a later age, this gives time to develop more friendships, then when ready can move from friendship to a caring and committed relationship (ready to offer closeness, loyalty, understanding, open communication, and a special sense of intimacy)
Developing Relationships
Carl Sandburg describes this process when he said
“People are like onions. You uncover them a
layer at a time, and sometimes you cry.”
As boy meets girl and are attracted to one another, They share interests Their personal priorities and goals seem to be similar Their relationship deepens which all appears to be a
magic formula
But developing a lasting relationship between two people is not that easy.