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Conflict Resolution
Connections to Independence
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Conflict seems to be a way of life. The fact that conflict exists is not necessarily
a bad thing If conflict is resolved effectively it can lead to
personal growth Conflict resolution can make the difference
between positive and negative outcomes
Conflict Resolution
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Increased Understanding Increased Group Cohesion Improved Self-knowledge
Benefits of Conflict Resolution
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Conflicts not Resolved
If conflict is not handled effectively, the results can be damaging Can turn into personal dislike End up in a downward spiral of negativity and
recrimination
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Two Theories of Conflict Resolution
Thomas Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)
Interest-Based Relational Approach (IBR)
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Theory One
Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI): Five main styles of dealing with conflict Vary in their degree of cooperativeness and
assertiveness People typically have a preferred conflict
resolution style Different styles are most useful in different
situations
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Styles (TKI)
Competitive People who lean toward a competitive style
stand firm, and know what they want. Operate from a position of power. Useful when there is an emergency and a
decision needs to made fast Can leave people feeling bruised, unsatisfied
and resentful
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Styles (TKI)
Collaborative: People tending toward a collaborative style try
to meet the needs of all people involved Highly assertive but cooperate effectively and
acknowledge that everyone is important Useful when you need to bring together a
variety of viewpoints.
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Styles (TKI)
Compromising: People who prefer a compromising style try to
find a solution that will partially satisfy everyone.
Everyone is expected to give up something and the compromiser also expects to relinquish something.
Useful when the cost of conflict is higher than the cost of losing ground
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Styles (TKI)
Accommodating: This style indicates a willingness to meet the needs
of others at the expense of the person’s own needs. Knows when to give in but can be persuaded to
surrender a position even when not warranted. Not assertive but highly cooperative. Useful when peace is more valuable than winning. Overall unlikely to give the best outcomes.
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Styles (TKI)
Avoiding: People tending toward this style seek to evade
the conflict entirely. This style is typified by delegating controversial
decisions, accepting default decisions and not wanting to hurt anyone’s feelings.
Appropriate when controversy is trivial. In many situations this is a weak and ineffective
approach/
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Theory Two
Interest-Based Relational Approach (IBR) This type of conflict resolution respects
individual differences while helping people avoid becoming too entrenched in a fixed position.
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Rules (IBR)
Make sure that good relationships are the first priority. As far as possible treat the other calmly and
try to build mutual respect. Be courteous to one-another and remain constructive under pressure
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Rules (IBR)
Keep people and problems separate Recognize that in many cases the other person
is not “just being difficult” Real and valid differences can lie behind
conflictive positions By separating the problem from the person,
real issues can be debated without damaging relationships
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Rules (IBR)
Pay attention to the interests that are being presented. By listening carefully you’ll most-likely
understand why the person is adopting his or her position
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Rules (IBR)
Listen first; talk second. To solve a problem effectively you have to
understand where the other person is coming from before defending your own position
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Rules (IBR)
Set out the “facts”. Agree and establish the objective,
observational elements that will have an impact on the decision
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Rules (IBR)
Explore options together. Be open to the idea that a third position may
exist, and that you can get to this idea jointly
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Using the Tools
Based on these approaches, a starting point for dealing with conflict is to identify the overriding conflict style employed by yourself.
It’s good to recognize when this style can be used effectively, however make sure you understand that different styles may suit different situations.
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Process: Step One
Set the scene: Make sure that people involved understand
that the conflict may be a mutual problem which may best be resolved through discussion and negotiation rather than raw aggression.
Emphasize that you are presenting your perception of the problem.
Use active listening. Restate, paraphrase, summarize
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Process: Step Two
Gather information Ask for the other person’s viewpoint and confirm that
you respect his or her opinion and need his or her cooperation to solve the problem
Try to understand the other person’s motivations and goals and see how your actions may be affecting these. Listen with empathy Identify issues Use “I” statements Remain flexible Clarify feelings
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Process: Step Three
Agree the Problem Different needs, interests and goals can cause
people to perceive problems very differently. You’ll need to agree the problem that you are
trying to solve before you’ll find a mutually acceptable solution
If you can’t reach a common perception of the problem, then at the very least you need to understand what the other person sees as the problem
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Process: Step Four
Brainstorm Possible Solutions If everyone is going to feel satisfied with the
resolution, it will help if everyone has had fair input in generating solutions.
Brainstorm and be open to all ideas including ones you never considered before
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Process: Step Five
Negotiate a Solution: By this stage in the process, the conflict may
be resolved. Both sides may better understand the position of the other, and a mutually satisfactory solution may be clear to all
You may also have uncovered real differences between your positions and come to an agreement that to some extent satisfies everyone.
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Three Guiding Principles
Be Calm Be Patient Have Respect
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Outcome
Managed in the wrong way, real and legitimate differences between people can spiral out of control, resulting in situations where co-operation breaks down. This is particularly the case where the wrong approaches to conflict resolution are used.
Take a positive approach to conflict resolution where discussion is courteous and non-confrontational, and the focus is on issues rather than individuals.
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Activity
Divide into three groups Using the 5 step process and three guiding
principles resolve the conflict you have been given.
Discuss