verbal abuse and the narcissist: communication tactics designed to make you crazy! compiled by jeni...

VERBAL ABUSE

AND

THE NARCISSIST

Communication Tactics

Designed to Make You Crazy!!!

Compiled by Jeni Mawter

www.jenimawter.com

The Extreme Narcissist

People with Narcissistic Personality

Disorders have an inflated sense of

their own importance, a strong

sense of entitlement, a deep need

for admiration, yet a lack of

empathy for others.

They use verbal abuse for

power and control.

What is Verbal Abuse?

Verbal abuse occurs

when someone uses

language, either spoken

or written, to cause

harm to an individual.

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Verbal Abuse Definition by Dr Marie Hartwell-Walker

Verbal abuse takes many forms: from

loud rants to quiet comments; from

obvious put-downs to not-so-obvious

remarks that undermine the partner.

What all the methods have in common

is the need to control, to be superior, to

avoid taking personal responsibility,

and to mask or deny failures.http://psychcentral.com/lib/signs-you-are-verbally-abused-part-i/00015267

Verbal Abuse has long-term effects

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Verbal Abusers Target their Victimhttp://www.hoagames.com/thumbs/creative-kill-chamber-

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“How do I

verbally abuse

you?”

Let me count the ways …

Shut Down

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Talk down or Patronize

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Put Downs

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Wear down by going on and on …

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Pretend not to hear

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Pretend to Not Understand

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Name-

Calling

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Labels

• Neurotic

• Hysterical

• Highly strung

• Dysfunctional

• Hypersensitive

• Hypochondriac

• Crazy

• Psycho

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Keep changing the topic

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Gaslighting

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Projection

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Accusing

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Constant Blaming

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Blocking

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Not Paying Attention

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Irrational Thinking

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Constant Criticizing

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Exaggerating

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Twisting what I say …

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Unjust Criticism

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Abuse

Disguised

as a Joke

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Denial

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Silent Treatment

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Non-existence

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Disinterest

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The ‘non’ answer

‘Who?’

‘I’m talking to you.

‘Hi, how are you?’

‘You.’

‘What are you doing?’

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Unavailability

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Excuses

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Slander

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Pathological Lying

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Lies of Omission

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Withhold – expressions of …

• Love

• Admiration

• Gratitude

• Forgiveness

• Empathy

• Endearment

• Respect

• Validationhttp://dianekress.files.wordpress.com/2014/06/withhold-

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Angry Outbursts / Rage

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Provocation

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Continual humiliation,

criticism and negative

comments eventually play

with your head.

Long-term Verbal Abuse can

break people emotionally and

mentally, make them unsure of

themselves, unable to recognize

their true value and unable to

trust anyone or anything.

You feel like

you’re going

crazy!!!

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You lose your sense of ‘Self’

Sticks and stones can

break my bones and

verbal abuse can

steal my soul

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About Jeni MawterJeni Mawter is an

Australian writer who first

encountered Narcissistic

Personality Disorder

whilst researching for her

young adult multi-text

novel, Kiss Kill.

http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00PIAD

CNYKiss+Kill www.jenimawter.com

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