the power of positive parenting

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The Power of Positive ParentingConducted by[Practitioner Name]

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Today’s Agenda

• Overview of Triple P • Being a parent• Five key principles of positive parenting• Take home messages• Question time

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Overview of Triple P

• Triple P = Positive Parenting Program

• Developed in Australia• 30 years of research• Used in 22 countries• Local program sponsored by

First 5 Santa Cruz County

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Triple P Services

• Seminars: General parenting information– The Power of Positive Parenting– Raising Confident, Competent Children– Raising Resilient Children

• Workshops: Brief help with specific and common parenting issues

• Groups: Brief (4 sessions) or In-depth (8 sessions)

• One on One Consultations : Brief (1-4 sessions) or In-depth (10 sessions)

• Additional Triple P Support

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Our hopes and dreams

• To raise healthy well-adjusted children who have the skills to: – communicate their needs– get on with others– try to do their best – manage their emotions– feel good about themselves

• In a safe, secure, loving and low-conflict environment

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• Parenting can be:– rewarding– enjoyable– demanding– frustrating– exhausting

• We all learn through trial and error• Every parent has to develop their own

goals and approach to discipline

Being a parent

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Employment opportunity

One couple to raise a child. No experience necessary. Applicants must be available 24 hours per day, 7 days a week, and must provide food, shelter, clothing and supervision. No training provided. No salary - applicants pay $180,000 over the next 18 years. Accidental applications accepted. Single people may apply but shouldbe prepared for twice the work.

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Most parents:• are confident in their parenting (77%) • find parenting rewarding (86%)• find parenting fulfilling (89%)

The good news

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The tough part of parenting

Children’s behavior

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The challenge

• Some misbehavior is normal • Some discipline problems are

inevitable• Managing everyday behavior

problems can prevent more serious ones

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Positive parenting

• Promoting children’s development and managing their behavior and emotions in a positive way

• Building strong relationships• Good communication• Emphasizing the positive• Planning ahead to prevent problems• Using everyday situations and creating

opportunities to help children learn

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• Develop skills

• Do better at school

• Build friendships

• Feel good about themselves

• Have fewer behavioral and emotional problems

• Less likely to become involved in drug abuse or delinquent behavior

Benefits for children

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Benefits for parents

• Feelings of confidence and competence in parenting

• Less depression• Less stress• Less conflict with their partner• Less conflict with their children

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Skills children need

• Good communication and social skills

• Ability to manage feelings• Independence skills• Problem solving skills

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5 core principles

1. Creating a safe, interesting environment

2. Having a positive learning environment

3. Using assertive discipline

4. Having realistic expectations

5. Taking care of yourself

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Principle 1Creating a safe, interestingenvironment

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Strategies

• Develop predictable routines• Provide supervision• Have interesting things to do

Tips for safety:• Teach your child road safety rules• Provide safety equipment• Be safety conscious near schools • Teach your child about personal

safety

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Benefits

Children: • feel secure and wanted• are safe• live in a predictable world• have lots of interesting things to do• have opportunities to learn

Parents:• can be more relaxed

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Having a positive learningenvironment

Principle 2

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Strategies

• Spend time with your child• Speak nicely• Chat and listen often• Share your own experiences• Be affectionate• Use descriptive praise• Give your child attention • Use incidental teaching• Get involved in your child’s school

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Promoting Development

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Promoting Self-Control

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Principle 3Using assertive discipline

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How discipline helps

Discipline helps children learn to:• accept necessary rules and limits• develop self-control • consider others• express their feelings in ways that

respect the needs of others• take responsibility for their actions

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Discipline works best when:• children live in a predictable world• children receive plenty of attention for

good behavior• parents have reasonable expectations• parents use fair, predictable

consequences consistently• parents support each other

When discipline works

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Strategies

• Prepare in advance• Arrange activities• Set some ground rules• Praise good behavior• Watch and supervise• Use planned ignoring for minor

misbehavior• Use your voice effectively

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Strategies

• Use directed discussion for rule breaking

• Give clear, calm instructions– start instructions– stop instructions

• Take away a problem activity • Back up instructions with quiet time• Use time-out for serious misbehavior

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Principle 4Having realistic expectations

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Strategies

Consider:• Your expectations of your child

– What do I expect?– Is this rule necessary?– Can my child understand / do this?

• What other parents expect • What your child’s school expects• Your expectations of yourself

– Are my expectations reasonable?

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Principle 5Taking care of yourselfas a parent

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Balancing work and family

• Have realistic expectations of yourself • Reduce unnecessary commitments• Develop good transition time routines• Avoid conflict after work and prepare

for the ‘second shift’• Teach your child to be independent• Organize good, reliable child care

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Negative thinking

Unhelpful thoughts:• He knew I was tired• She did that on

purpose to upset me• He’s never going to

learn • She’s just bad

Helpful thoughts:• We were both tired• Maybe she’s bored

when I’m on the phone• It will take time for him

to learn• Her behavior is

annoying

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• Notice when you are feeling upset with your child

• Identify what negative / unhelpful things you are saying to yourself about the situation, particularly why it is happening

• Try to change negative thoughts to helpful, more rational thoughts

Changing how you think

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Working as a team

• Talk with your partner and other caregivers about daily experiences with your child

• Share the workload fairly• Reach agreement on discipline• Back each other up• Model problem solving skills • Hold regular problem solving

discussions

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Take home messages

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• Make your family a priority• Create a warm, loving, safe environment • Encourage your child’s learning • Use assertive discipline • Have reasonable expectations • Take care of yourself:

– look after your own needs– balance work and family responsibilities– talk back to negative thinking– work as a team

Take home messages

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•Review it with your partner or by yourself.

•Review it this week!

•Choose one strategy you learned today to try at home.

Tip Sheet

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• Attend the next seminar [insert date]

• Contact [insert name] for more services [insert info]

• Contact First 5 Santa Cruz County for more services (831) 465-2217 or sbluford@first5scc.org or visit www.first5scc.org

Next Steps

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Question time

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Positive Parenting…Small changes,Big differences