seven habits of highly effective people

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Our life is a series of choices we make We are free to choose the course of action

in the space between stimulus and response

While we have control over the choices we make we have no control over the consequences

Success is not a destination. Success is a journey

Based on Self Awareness Imagination Conscience Independent will

The Character Ethic provides basic principles of effective living Foundation is based on principles of integrity, humility, fidelity,

temperance, courage, justice, patience, industry, modesty With character ethic one can experience true and enduring

success in life.

Personality ethic relies on human and public relations- Positive mental attitude- Communication abilitiesAttitude determines altitudeSmiling wins more friends

You will reap only what you sowYou cannot rush your crop to grow without the necessary work to

plough, till, sow and maintain prior to harvest

Fundamental character strength is required for long lasting success.

What we are communicates more effectively than what we say!

Character Ethic is based on the idea that there are principles that govern human effectiveness

Principles are like light houses They are natural laws that cannot be broken Principles govern human growth and happiness and woven into

the fabric of society

Principle of fairness Integrity, honesty Respect Service to others Principles are guidelines for human conduct Proven to have enduring value

Principle centered, character based, inside-out approach to personal and inter-personal effectiveness

Inside-out means to start with the self, your character and your motives

Internalized principles and patterns of behavior

We are what we repeatedly do, Excellence, then is a not an act, but a habit.

Aristotle

Habits are the intersection of knowledge, skills and desire.

Knowledge – What to do and why to do Skill – how to do Desire – Want to do

Knowledge on interaction, learning the skillsUpward movementWorking on knowledge, skill and desire we can break through new

levels of personal and interpersonal effectiveness.

The Seven Habits are not a piece meal formulaIt is harmony of natural lawsThe Maturity continuum moves from independence to

interdependence Habits 1,2 & 3 – deal with self mastery. Deal with private victories

based on character Habits 4,5 & 6 – public victories of teamwork, cooperation and

communication Habit 7 – Is the habit of renewal. Balanced and regular renewal of

the basic dimensions of life

PRIVATE VICTORY

PUBLIC VICTORY

1. Be Proactive

3. Put first things first

1. Begin with the end in mind

4. Think Win/Win

6.Synergize

5.Seek first to understand then to be understood

7.Sharpen the saw

Seven Habits

For Long term beneficial resultsThere has to be P/PC balance

P – ProductionPC – Production Capability

Habit 1

Be Pro-active

Our conditioning depends on- Genetic determinism- Psychic determinism- Environmental determinism

Our choices are determined by the above 3 conditioning

Habit 1 says “You are the creator. You are in charge”.It is based on imagination, conscience, independent will and self-

awareness.

- In the space between stimulus and response we are free to make a choice. We should not wait for stimuli and then respond. This is reactive behavior.

We need to be pro-active.

- Taking the initiative- It is more than that.- Proactive people do not blame circumstances, conditions or

conditioning for their behavior. The behavior is a product of their own conscious choice , based on values.

Pro-active people carry their own weather with themReactive people are affected by social environment or social

weather.Theryreact to how society treats them

Proactive people are driven by values and not by circumstances

Circle of Concern

Circle of Influence

Reactive people

Pro-active people

Reactive vs. Pro-active people

Act, don’t be acted upon.Drive. Don’t be driven.Taking the initiative is recognizing our responsibility to make things

happen

The best way to predict the future is to create it. Abraham Lincoln

Habit 2

Begin with the end in Mind

All things are created twiceFirst there is the mental creationSecond the physical creation.

Carpenter’s rule – Measure twice, cut once

If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail.

It is first mental creation based on imagination, the ability to envision

On a vacation you plan the routePlan, plan your moves in lifeHabit 1 says you are the creatorHabit 2 is the first creation

What do you want be in 3, 5 10 years in your professional career.

If you don’t know where you are going, you will go nowhere!

Habit 2 is based on the principles of Personal Leadership

Leadership is doing the right things. Management is doing things right.

We need to have a long term vision, a goal.

Create a Personal mission statementWhat do you want to achieve in your personal, professional and

social lives?Your actions will flow from your personal mission statement“To have a quality life at home, to become a VP with the next 12

years and to increase my circle of friends to 500+”

To write a personal mission statement we need to start at the center of the Circle of Influence

Here we have our vision and values. We have principles and our paradigms.

At the center we have security, direction, wisdom and the capacity to act.

Identify roles & goalsSon/father/husband, professional/subordinate/boss, friend

Roles and goals give a organized direction to your personal mission

Habit 3

Put first things first.

Habit 3 is the second creation. It is the fulfillment and the actualization of Habits 1 & 2

Habit 3 is effective self –management.

Time management focuses on things and timeSelf management focuses on achieving results or on maintaining the

P/PC balance.

Urgent Not Urgent

IACTIVITIESCrisesPressing problemsDeadlines

IIACTIVITIESPrevention, PC activitiesRebuilding relationshipsRecognizing new opportunitiesPlanning, recreation

IIIACTIVITIESInterruptions, some callsSome mail, Some MeetingsPopular activitis

IVACTIVITIESTrivia, busy workSome mailSome phone callsTime wasters

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Quadrant I – Stress, burnout Quadrant III – Short term focus, crisis management Quadrant IV – Irresponsible Quadrant II – where we should spend a large time of our life –

Planning, exercising, focus on opportunities, maintain P/PC balance

Learn to put “first things first” Learn to say no Learn to manage yourself effectively

To manage our time effectivelyCoherence – Balance between roles & goalsPriorities and plansDesire and your disciplineBringing focus to your life. On prevention rather than crises

management.

Personal Family Professional Social

Mission Statement

Roles Goals

Roles Goals Plans

Long term organizing

Weekly term organizing

The first 3 habits are towards achieving a private victory, or achieving a personal independence

Habits 4,5,6 are focused on interdependence

PRIVATE VICTORY

PUBLIC VICTORY

1. Be Proactive

3. Put first things first

1. Begin with the end in mind

4. Think Win/Win

6.Synergize

5.Seek first to understand then to be understood

7.Sharpen the saw

Seven Habits

Emotional bank account determines the amount of trust in a relationship

- Deposits in the Emotional account of kindness, courtesy, commitment we build a reserve

Understand the individual Attending to little things Keeping commitments Clarifying expectations Showing personal integrity Apologizing sincerely

Habit 4

Think Win - Win.

Win-Win is based on 5 dimensions Character Maturity Abundance mentality Relationships Agreement

In a library there are 2 old- One wants the window open to let in some

fresh air- Another wants it closed to prevent the draft

The librarian’s solution- Open the window in another room

Both men were happy!

Behind opposing positions are common interests.

Focus on interests and not on positions (Getting to Yes

In 1978 Israel occupied Mount Sinai since the 6 day war of 1967

Egypt wanted every bit of Mount Sinai back while Israel insisted on keeping it. It appeared incompatible

Israel was interested in its security Egypt in its sovereignty

Solution – Mount Sinai returned and made a de-militarized zone.

Reconcile interests rather than positions.

Habit 5

Seek first to understand then to be understood.

Empathetic listening – seek to understand We listen with an intent to reply not to understand Empathy is not sympathy. Sympathy is a form of agreement Empathy is fully, deeply understand the person emotionally and

intellectually

Work as a cohesive whole Synergy when there is resonance When the whole is greater than the sum of its parts

Habit 7

Renewal.

Sharpen the saw

Quadrant II activity Improves the P/PC balance

Management is common sense, which is not very common.

Good luck & Thank You !

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