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Patient Parenting: Overcoming Anger in Your Home

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Anger is your friend and foe.

Anger usually comes from a blocked goal or desire.

Foundational Issues

Anger as a Foe

Sinful anger is in the family tree of murder and serious. (Matt 5:21-22)

Sinful anger needs to be recognized.

Sinful anger is not pleasing to God and will not fix the problem. (Eph 4:30, James 1:20)

Sinful anger can and must be controlled.

Sinful anger that spills out as sin must be repented of and restitution made.

Anger as a Foe

Anger can be used to indicate a problem.

Anger should motivate us to attack the problem not the person.

Anger, as our friend, should motivate us to come up with a plan.

Anger as a Friend

Anger is a prompt to come up with a plan for our heart.

Anger is prompt to come with a plan for our parenting.

Anger is a Prompt

a. Take time to observe the parenting issues you are facing.

b. Take time to come up with a plan. c. Use actions instead of words. d. Reexamine the environment and

freedom you are giving. e. Add margin to your parenting.

Suggestions

f. Forbear. g. Make use of your church community. h. Pray - see James 4:2. i. Keep an anger journal.

Suggestions

1. Record the event. What was the stimulus? 2. What did I say or do? 3. What was I desiring? Is this a sinful desire or a good

desire that became a demand? 4. What does God say about my reactions? 5. What godly responses should I have had in the

moment? How should I have loved, thought, acted? 6. What godly desires should rule me next time? 7. What structural changes should I make? 8. What verses will I use to renew my mind?

Parts of an Anger Journal

Questions?

Patient Parenting: Overcoming Anger in Your Home

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