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self-coachingEd BatistaCLASS 5: RESILIENCE

Class 5

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Resilience

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Small groups 40 minsResilience 25 minsA conversation 25 minsFor next time… 5 mins

Agenda

Power

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Resilience

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A resilience storyUse your RQ4 minutesReflect

small groups Debrief in yourWhat was that like?What did you experience?

your partner Debrief withWhat did you learn?What do you want to remember?

Crucible stories

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Crucible stories

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Meaning-makingMental modelsConnections

Resilience

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ResilienceLinda GrahamWhy might we lack resilience?

ResilienceChildhood & insecure attachmentConditioned habitsImplicit memoriesNegativity biasTrauma

ResilienceChildhood & life experiences matter……and change is eminently possibleNeuroplasticity is keySo what can we do?

Mindfulness

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ResilienceOKWe got itWe’ll meditateWhat else can we do?

Resilience

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elements

ResilienceKaren Reivich & Andrew ShattéWhat constitutes resilience?What is resilient behavior?

elements

ResilienceEmotion regulationImpulse controlOptimismCausal analysisEmpathySelf-efficacyReaching out

elements

As always…

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As always… “A map is not the territory it represents.”

~Alford Korzybski

RQ assessmentWhat are my results?

NOT aptitude or proficiencyFrequency of use & comfort level

RQ assessmentAs with mindset & other mental models

Awareness may begin to shift behaviorWhere do we go from there?

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Many paths

Many pathsABCsIcebergsThinking traps(Concepts in Reivich & Shatté from CBT)

Many pathsA common themeIdentify, explore & challenge mental models

Mental models

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Perceptions impact our reality

ABCs

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ABCsAdversity Consequences*

*Emotional & behavioral response

ABCsAdversity Beliefs* Consequences

*Mental models about self & the world

ABCsAdversity Beliefs ConsequencesWhat beliefs influence my resilience?What beliefs affect my view of a situation?

Thinking traps

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Thinking trapsTunnel visionOvergeneralizeJump to conclusionsPersonalize / externalizeMagnify (-) & minimize (+)

Thinking trapsTunnel vision Big pictureOvergeneralizeJump to conclusionsPersonalize / externalizeMagnify (-) & minimize (+)

Thinking trapsTunnel visionOvergeneralize Narrow focusJump to conclusionsPersonalize / externalizeMagnify (-) & minimize (+)

Thinking trapsTunnel visionOvergeneralizeJump to conclusions Slow downPersonalize / externalizeMagnify (-) & minimize (+)

Thinking trapsTunnel vision OvergeneralizeJump to conclusionsPersonalize / externalize Look out / inMagnify (-) & minimize (+)

Thinking trapsTunnel vision OvergeneralizeJump to conclusionsPersonalize / externalizeMagnify (-) & minimize (+) Balance

Icebergs

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IcebergsUnderlying & unexamined beliefsOften in 3 key areasAchievementAcceptanceControl

IcebergsImpact on resilienceInexplicably strong emotionsClashing beliefs yield paralysisBeliefs Consequences disconnect

Single-looplearningAssumptions

& Beliefs ResultsStrategies& Goals

Double-loop

Results

learningAssumptions

& BeliefsStrategies

& Goals

Reframing

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ReframingThe meanings we assign Emotional responseRe-interpret a situation Shift our emotionsOur mental models shape our experiences

Remember me?

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EmotionNot rocket scienceHard to do under stressGet MESSy to build capacity

management

Putting it together

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Putting it togetherOf these concepts…

…which ones work for you now?…which ones would you like to try?Reflect

To sum up

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Resilience is dynamic & multi-dimensionalWe can employ our unique strengths……& address our weaknessesMental models are keyMany paths to success

For next time…

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Vulnerability

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VulnerabilityRead Brené Brown & my post2 videos in the post

TEDx on Vulnerability (20 mins)Shame & Empathy (8 mins)

Then an assignment…

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Another story…

Another story…Experiences that involve feelings of

vulnerabilityEmbarrassment, remorse, guilt, shameUse the sheet to identify 5 storiesYou’ll decide which one to tellYou’ll have 4 minutes to tell it

Looking ahead…

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Looking ahead…Vulnerability, Unhappiness, Success

Less research, more applicationLess prescriptive, more subjective