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Page 1: Ed Batista, Interpersonal Dynamics (aka Touchy Feely) @StanfordBiz, Class 3: SELF-DISCLOSURE & AUTHENTICITY

Interpersonal

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DynamicsEd BatistaClass 3:

SELF-DISCLOSURE & AUTHENTICITY

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First 35 mins here • Brief discussions • Set up exerciseRemaining 2 hours • Exercise in T-group roomsT-group tonight

Today’s agenda

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A cautionary tale

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Discuss with your

What are the implications of this for me?

partner

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Safety & trust

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Negativity bias

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Negativity biasEssential for our safetyBut is safety always our top priority?Must balance risks with opportunity costs

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A paradox

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A paradoxBradford & HuckabayGoffee & JonesPfefferIbarra

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Discuss with your

How do I rationalize these views?

partner

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Self-monitoring

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Self-monitoringAt what point does it render us inauthentic?

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Is our authentic

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self…uncovered?

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…or is it created?

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A propositionWe create our authentic selvesActive experimentation is essentialIntention & forethought ≠ Inauthenticity

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Consciouscompetence

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Consciousness

Competence

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Consciousness

Competence

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Consciousness

Competence

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2 3

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Consciousness

Competence

We’re blind.We need feedback.

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Consciousness

Competence

We’re unskilled.We need guidance.

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2 3

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Consciousness

Competence

We’re self-conscious.

We need practice.

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2 3

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Consciousness

Competence

We’re in the flow.We need new

challenges.

Page 24: Ed Batista, Interpersonal Dynamics (aka Touchy Feely) @StanfordBiz, Class 3: SELF-DISCLOSURE & AUTHENTICITY

Next stepsExercise until 5:50pm & T-group tonightWeek 3 Post-Group Assignment due Thurs @ NoonWeek 4 Readings & Class Notes on CanvasWeek 4 Pre-Class Assignment due Mon @ NoonNext class Tues Jan 31, 3pm here

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T-group visitsStarting next week, I’ll visit each groupWill join for the evening sessionWeek 4: Group 3Week 5: Group 2Week 6: Group 1

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5 levels

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Richard FranciscoIn what ways do we communicate?Increasing levels of difficulty, risk & learning

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5 levels

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1: Ritual2: Extended Ritual3: Content4: Feelings About Content

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5 levels

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1: Ritual2: Extended Ritual3: Content4: Feelings About Content

5: Feelings About Each Other

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5 levels

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5: Feelings About Each Other

HardestRiskiest

Most powerful for feedback

Page 30: Ed Batista, Interpersonal Dynamics (aka Touchy Feely) @StanfordBiz, Class 3: SELF-DISCLOSURE & AUTHENTICITY

Self-disclosureCan occur on all levelsSharing stories (Level 3)Our feelings about the story (Level 4)Our feelings about the storyteller (Level 5)

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An exercise

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Page 32: Ed Batista, Interpersonal Dynamics (aka Touchy Feely) @StanfordBiz, Class 3: SELF-DISCLOSURE & AUTHENTICITY

An exerciseToday’s Pre-Class AssignmentReflect on 2 types of experiences: 1) Acted authentically, didn’t get desired results 2) Acted inauthentically, did get desired resultsBe prepared to tell a 4-minute story

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An exerciseFishbowlsIn your T-group breakout room1/2 the group forms an inner circle1/2 the group observes from an outer circleWith your partner, decide who’s in the 1st group

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An exerciseYou have a set of instructions& your facilitators will answer any questions

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To your T-group

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rooms

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Dynamics InterpersonalFor more:www.edbatista.com/interpersonal-dynamics.html