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How would you like to be able to leave an impression on a man so impactful that the thought of you keeps him awake at night?

With the help of this guide, you’ll have exactly what it takes in order to leave an impression of a guy that leaves him head overheels and seeing stars – the way that you can accomplish this iswith the use of something that I like to refer to a “Curiosity Pricks”.

Essentially, a curiosity prick is like little spike of banter that seems silly but serves a highly functional purpose.

It’s little more than just a little sarcastic or ambiguous comment, but when used properly, what you’re left with is an unconventional verbal tactic that helps you make a strong impression by completely breaking the status quo of a typical expectation that a man has of you to say or think.

Most men go about their lives with a certain number of presumptions and expectations about what certain women they meet are going to say to them, and with the power of curiosity pricks, you are essentially going to breaking down the most typical expectations that they have in order to send them into asmall state of shock and silently scramble for an answer that they didn’t know that they would have to reach for.

The basic formula of the curiosity prick is a fair simple thing altogether – all that you have to do take something that initiallyseems good, and then when they’re lulled into a false sense of security, flip whatever that good thing was around into

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something negative – or vice versa!

Depending on what the particular situation is, the sky is the limit when it comes to how you can twist things for the optimal effect.

Ultimately, the effect that you’re going to be looking for with this technique will be to either:

A) Create an immense level of immediate curiosity that makes him seriously want learn more about who you are just to figure you out. Plenty of women only want to be listened to, but they are at a loss for how to make their man see that.

With curiosity pricks, you will be able to have your man listen toyou with an intensity that you may have never even seen in himbefore. When you present your thoughts as an unsolved puzzle that he has to solve, his logically-oriented brain is going to startgetting to work and try to find a way to defog the mystery of your true inner dialog.

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B) Make such a powerful impression that you immediately make your man feel as though he’s got to prove himself to you at the same time that he’s figuring you out.

With the power of a single well-placed curiosity prick, he’s goingto start seriously questioning exactly what it ever was that he ever thought he fully understood about you up until the point you started teasing his curiosity in a brand new way.

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Because of how curiosity pricks compel the man to invest more energy in learning about you, giving him a sense of accomplishment and allowing you to be listened to more thoroughly, it can be called mutually beneficial exercise.

When he starts to think about how he can pass the test that you’ve laid out in front of him, he’s going to be overrun with thoughts about how he can recognize the level of validation from you that he believed that he had before.

When he gets consumed by that validation-seeking, approval-hungry behavior, all of the necessary pieces will have been set perfectly into motion.

Now naturally, the implications of what I’m talking about here can seem just a little bit intimidating when you consider the scope of the results that I’m suggesting.

In order to make this just a little bit easier to understand, I’ve taken the liberty of putting together a couple of examples that can assist you figuring out how to form your own curiosity pricks once you get a firm grasp on the basic structure.

Now it’s important that we specify that there are specially designed types of curiosity pricks that you can use for various, specific and different purposes. If you’re looking to use a curiosity prick that’s dripping in sarcasm, you could say something like:

· “I have a habit of liking a guy early on, but then suddenly something happens after a while, so I don’t trust myself around

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you.”

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· “I want to feel that you are a great lover, but I am getting this intense “friendly” vibe from you.”

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· “For a while now, I’ve been wondering if I am your type, because I like to be challenged.”

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· “I guess that I could end up being too hard to handle for you”.

Now even though they are noticeably differently-worded, each of these different phrases is brimming with the same kind of dryattitude that accomplishes a certain type of effect that all sarcastic curiosity pricks are highly useful for – they’re going to leave the man you use them on definitely confused.

The sarcastic curiosity pricks don’t need to be made to address any one aspect of you or your man specifically, so long as you make sure that it concerns his ability to understand you or handle you.

Knowing how driven men are to be able to stay on top of any and everything, assuming control and security, teasing his ability to handle something is one of the most effective ways to get under his skin.

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He’ll very badly want to assert that he in fact can achieve that next level that you are implying that he’s just out of reach of, but at the same time, he will know deep inside that there’s nothing he can do to convince you aside from showing you in the best way that he can.

He won’t be satisfied until he can provide you with hard, undeniable proof that what your sarcasm indicated wasn’t actually true.

Even better yet, he’ll be driven to do his best to surpass the challenge that you’ve issued to him in order to understand you and show that you’re capable of handling you in the way that you implied.

You see, when you use a phrase like these, you’re directly attacking the man’s sense of security in the belief that he’s basically got you all figured out and in the bag when it comes tothe consolidation of a relationship. He’ll be thinking something to the effect of:

“What do you mean? You were complete fine up until now, whatjust happened?”

When he gets his with a curiosity prick from left field, he’s goingto start wondering about everything that he’s felt secure about regarding the status between he and you up until the point where you threw him for a complete loop out of nowhere.

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Don’t forget how tightly attached so many men are to their precious sense of control. Men love to feel like when they’ve known a woman long enough, they’ve more or less conquered the task of getting to know what she’s all about and no longer have to try as hard when it comes to impressing her.

When the man starts to feel like he’s grown particularly familiar and comfortable with his idea of who and woman is and what he can generally expect from her, it is going to be at this point that he feels like the ball is more or less in his court – with curiosity pricks, you are literally pricking that inflated balloon ofsatisfaction he has and letting him know that he has to put in more effort.

When the man’s control is suddenly whisked away from him with little else than the tactical use of nothing more than some unexpected words, his curiosity is going to swallow him up whole and make him start wondering about what his next play should be in order to keep your interest – or at the very least, some kind of stable idea about exactly who you are and what impresses you.

Note that with these sarcastic phrases, you are not necessarily attacking him out of malice or insulting him. All that you’re doing with the curiosity pricks is taking him a little bit off of his guard, making him second-guess his certainty about you and quashing any assumption he may have had that getting to know you was going to be a relatively effort-free affair.

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To put it simply, you are effectively giving your man a special kind of indicator – the indicator is meant to relay the message that even though he as been doing something right, what he’s done so far is not “everything” that can be done, and it certainly isn’t everything that he could have done either.

It is important to note that when you are using this sarcasm curiosity prick, you ensure that you are not to take your tone sofar that it legitimately seems like you’re ripping the man down and telling him to get lost – that would essentially defeat the whole purpose of going through the trouble to test his level of dedication in getting to know what you’re all about.

If you can help it, you should make an attempt to not use thesephrases with an overly serious tone that could give him the wrong idea. The words themselves should be enlightening enough as to the fact that he’s going to need to work just a little bit harder to fully reach your side of the field, but not so much that it seems like you’re forbidding him from even makingthe attempt.

Be sure in the fact that you are making it clear that he hasn’t yet won the game, but at the same time, see to it that you lighten it up just a little bit so that he can pick up on the fact that you’re issuing a bit of a challenge to him to test his level ofdedication to getting to know you.

You should avoid making any remarks that sound like you’re

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trying to slap him with a label or epithet – there is a big difference between being a tease and just being offensive or cruel. Think of it in terms of a punch, and slap and love-tap.

You don’t want to hit so hard that it does serious damage, like a punch, and you don’t want to say something so bitter that it offends and stings like a slap across the face – you want to be able to make definite contact with your curious prick, with just enough force to be felt but not so much that you end up causing legitimate pain.

He’ll get the sense that you’re just joshing him around a little bit, but it won’t be without the sense that there’s also a legitimate amount of uncertainty about whether or not his chances are actually as good with you as he had initially interpreted.

Ultimately, what you should be doing here is making sure that more of what you say is actually in reference to yourself insteadof teasing your man specifically. If you make sure to focus morewhat you say in regards to your own person instead of making it entirely about him, then you’ll more or less do away with the chance that he thinks you’re explicitly out to insult him and nothing else.

Now, you must also understand that there’s more than only oneway to deliver an effective curiosity barb. You could achieve an equally suitable effect by basing your curiosity barb in a foundation of ambiguity and not just a coat of sarcasm.

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While sarcasm makes the man curious about the sudden unexpected shift in your attitude, there are few things that havethe same potential to confuse and befuddle and the infuriating incompleteness of an unattended loose end.

The beauty of ambiguity is that, unlike the sarcasm barb, you don’t necessarily have to be as inventive in order to come up with something that will drive him crazy from the lack of clarification as to what it is that you’re trying to convey with what you’re saying.

When you’re building curiosity with the art of ambiguous phrases, it’s not a complicated matter to make the technique work as its intended. All that you have to do is carry on the conversation as you normally would, while conveniently (and maddeningly to him), you leave certain aspects of the things you mention either unanswered or any half-answered.

As soon as you begin to express something that could be easily explained if you continued on, all that you have to do is cut it off without actually going all of the way and completing the thought.

Here’s an example of something that you could believably say inorder to capture him in the waves of ambiguity that will toss thepossible answers about in his mind like a sea-storm.

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“I had a great time with your today, but it was both exciting anda little bit odd at the same time. Don’t ask me about the odd part just yet. I’ll definitely tell you when the time is right.”

Basically, what you can see from this example is a multitude of factors that can all come together for none of the than the purpose of making your man as curious as possible.

Just about every aspect of the way that you described things leaves just a little bit to the imagination, which assures that he won’t be walking away from you at the end of the night without a serious amount of questions.

What you can observe here is the principle that we outlined in the very first chapter, which is the concept of taking something that is initially positive and flipping it into something that can be interpreted as possible negative.

At no point of explanation to you fully play your hand and explicitly reveal whether or not your believed that the night wasa success or a disappointment.

With just one little missing nugget of information, you are able to open up the floodgates to potential thousands of different questions in his mind that could explain why you couldn’t just come out with whatever it was that was on your mind.

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He may be wondering about everything from what he dressed to the second thing that he said to you all night, and you will give him nothing.

No matter how much he tries to investigate, you must be steadfast and hold to the mystique of the secret that you can’t give him the satisfaction of knowing just because he wants to find out.

Men are eternal lovers of the chase, and so naturally, he’s goingto be both frustrated and driven a little bit wild by the fact that you don’t immediately volunteer everything that’s on your mind.

In the exact same vein, you could very well actually take something that appears to be initially negative and twist it around to mean something that could be potentially positive all the same.

You could make reference to something in the night that just didn’t quite go as smoothly as had been planned, and yet at thesame time, you can indicate that something else actually went right.

Just the same as the simple negative factor that you would refuse to reveal in the very first example, in the reversed example, you are remaining steadfast in your refusal to reveal that one little saving grace that actually made everything completely worth it in the end.

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Whether the secret is of a positive nature or a negative nature, as long as you make sure that you keep it just out of reach from him at an extremely simply-answered question, he may bedrive to come up with well over a thousand different possible explanations for why you would keep the truth away from him as if it were the most confidential thing on the planet.

The fact that you will be able to guard such an innocuous little secret so completely will cause him to both feel as swirling mixture of consternation and fascination with you.

He will wish that he could reach right into the back of your headand pull out that elusive answer all on his own, but at the sametime, he will have no choice but to respect just how unwaveringyou are in your commitment to not giving any relief to his curiosity.

Now while he’s busy trying to work out the mystery of his life that you were able to create with nothing other than the lack of an explanation, he’ll also be at the mercy of extremely powerfulmagnetism towards you that will be created out of nothing other than the irresistible force of his own morbid curiosity seeking you out in order to bring him that sweet relief of knowing.

Now no matter how much attention he was or wasn’t paying you before you decided to leave him at the mercy of his lack of answers, he will definitely be paying you a lot more attention

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than he used to. His attention will be zeroed in on you like a homing missile. He will be working to fulfill your every need andwant, all in order to get some positive feedback that may take the form of the truth.

If you persistently use different ambiguous lines with your man,he will eventually learn to always expect there to be something about you that he doesn’t quite understand just yet.

Simply by making a habit out of keeping him in the dark, you will be conditioning him to always expect there to be more thanwhat meets the eye when it comes to you

You won’t be doing or saying anything that makes him question your loyalty, but at the same time, you can be that he’ll never feel that he’s got you complete figured out, one hundred percent.

No two people in any couple live forever, but that doesn’t mean that the relationship has to come to the screeching halt as soonas the two of you grow bored with one another.

Here are just some quickly examples of the other ambiguous curiosity pricks that you will be able to use in order to set his mind to working with a feverish pace that he was never prepared for:

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· “Recently, I’ve discovered something really weird about you. But I am not sure if that’s a good or bad thing yet. I’ll let you know when I figure it out.”

· “Sometimes you do this thing that really drives me wild, but, well. I guess I can’t tell you yet, it’s too freaky.”

· “There’s something that has been bugging me for a while now, but strangely, I really like that. I know that you won’t be able to guess what it is, but I can’t tell you either, because it’s asecret.”

· “I recently learned something really shocking about you. I am not sure what it means yet, but I think it’s a good thing.”

· “You know that you’re a really hard guy, to get to know, right? I think I might have to stop trying too hard, because I have learned that I need to try something new. I might tell you what that is later.”

· “Sometimes I find it sexy when you…oh, that’s too dirty to share. Maybe when we are closer I can tell you.”

· “I can’t believe that you told me about ______(here you list something) the other day. It has really got me thinking, andrecently I thought something really shocking about you, but then because you told me about that, I don’t think it’s a good idea to tell you now.”

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So you see, with little more than use of just some strategically unattended loose ends, you will be expertly wielding the awesome power of his completely curiosity.

As the man is a logically-oriented create by nature, obsessed with being able to fix problems, bot being able to actively solve the mystery of your true sentiments will set him into the kind offrustration hard to comprehend.

“Frustration” may not have the best connotation, but you have to keep in mind that this frustration you’re referring to is going to be interspersed with a new level of drive in being able to figure you out as thoroughly as possible.

Remember, there’s one thing that you need to happen above allelse before you can make sure that the curiosity technique has truly worked to the optimal effect – you need to have him ask the exact question about what you intentionally left unanswered, and after that happens, you’re in the clear.

Once you failed to answer the question once, continue to fail answering it and just observe the effects. Just before the truth is about to be revealed, you must make a point to pull away.

When you pull away at the last moment, observe what happensas you keep your distance after refusing to answer the question– chances are that, one he is at a loss for ways to try and get

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you to answer the question, he will attempt to come up with an answer himself.

Remember what we mentioned in the very first section of this chapter about using sarcasm curiosity pricks in order to tease your man about things that he doesn’t know about you?

If you’re able to get under his skin enough with the teasing about how well he knows you, eventually, he’s going to try to meet you at middle grand by actually guessing that the answer to the question is.

When he invests more in more in getting to know you better, hewill more often be able to answer the questions that you leave hanging in the air. As an effect of your curiosity pricks, he will have literally been driven to understand you at a deeper and deeper level in order to crack any additional mysteries that mayarise – that is, of course, until curiosity is reborn.

The Impact of Curiosity Pricks

You must not allow him to ever grow completely complacent in the things that he assumes that he knows about you, which is why it is important to heed that I’ve instructed in previous reports about having your own life, outside of the relationship itself.

You need to be able to have enough things that you invest in and pursue on your own, aside from what the two of you do

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together, so that there is always enough to keep him at bay from knowing absolutely everything.

When you are able to have enough things going on your own to have your own life, you can assure that you aren’t ever occupying the exact same space in miniature snow globe as your partner – it’s a snow globe in which your partner is aware of everything about you that you are aware of about yourself. In the snow globe, there can’t ever be any curiosity or mystery.

Too many men have grown entirely complacent with their female partners that they have inhabited a monotonous snow globe with, never wondering or questioning anything new abouther after years and years spent with one another – these are the types of relationships that are fated to fail from the very beginning, even though the partners are technically as close as can be.

When you assure that you hold onto everything that is yours, without volunteering it to even your man, you will never ever be at a loss of brand new curiosity pricks to keep the veil of mystery and uncertainty will never go down.

You will always have enough different, private elements orbitingaround you to always remain your own woman first. Curiosity pricks honor a certain component of relationships that a lot of couples seem to lose the meaning of somewhere down the line – the component of individuality.

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A lot of people live with the unfortunate misconception that a requisite of being in a relationship is that the concept of individuality, for some reason, must completely evaporate somewhere down the line.

The desire to completely melt into one another, body and soul, is no doubt very easy to romanticize – you can preserve the flame longer if you refrain from doing this, however.

Your curiosity pricks are going to be more than just playful teasing remarks and ambiguous statements about the day or night that you had with one another – they are also indications that the relationship itself is still alive. The fact that a curiosity prick is even still possible in a relationship, especially one that’sbeen going on for more than little while, is reason to celebrate.

You need to show your man not only that there’s more than what they already know to know about you, but also that there’s still some kind of life force still pulsing through the relationship itself.

Imagine just how boring it would be if you had to live through the rest of your life without ever being surprised by anything, ever again. Imagine how extremely boring it would be to constantly repeat the same conversation, with the same person,in the same tone of voice, at the same time of day, until the day that you die.

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In a relationship in which there are no longer any more secrets to be found, you are doomed to forever more dwell in a reality in which there can no longer be anything left to incentivize you to hear something new that your partner has to say.

Now, with the presence of legitimate curiosity phrases, you are allowing your relationship to continue being open to the same zone of wide-eyed wonderment that was possible when the two of you met one another for very first time.

It would be sad if you could never actually see your partner andbe expect to be surprised by something, but when you keep certain aspects of your life your own, your man will always know that within you is the possibility for well over a thousand stories with over ten thousand different beginnings.

The relationship is not only beautiful due to the fact that it brought the two of you together in the first place – the relationship should also be celebrated for the opportunity it offers for the two of you to move through your lives together.

Note the use of lives together, instead saying “life” together. The two of you may very well be committed for what you hope is going to be an indefinite period of time, but if you want to be able to accomplish that without regrets, then you’re going to both need to keep giving each other reasons to look forward to the next day.

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Your two lives, as a couple, may intersect, but they do not haveto be completely broken down and blended into one. You are able to respect one another as individuals more when you two can actually coexist as committed individuals, with your own secrets to keep and stories to tell.

Now we’ve already discussed at length how a man is built from the ground-up to be enchanted by the thrill of the chase – at the core of his DNA is the programming to go off after the lure of the unknown and yet attractive prospect of a potential mate that has caught his interest.

Now when the chase has finished, that doesn’t mean that all of the thrills of getting to know one another has to come to an endright then and there. As long as you two are able to still able to see in one another things that have yet to be discovered, the thrill of getting to invest in a brand new person can be refreshed and enjoyed once more, for a lifetime.

Use curiosity pricks not just to challenge your man, but also to incentivize him. The ability to love and understand takes a real degree of strength, and if that strength isn’t used often enough,then it becomes weaker over time – encouraging your man to be curious about you is testing and re-consolidating his capacityto become invested in you and understand you once again.

Curiosity pricks capitalize upon twisting the negative into the positive, and vice versa, for a good reason. A lot of couples are

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just far too naïve and optimistic about the ebbs and flows of a relationship from the outset and aren’t able to cope with the sudden emergence of a day or situation that isn’t picture perfect.

With the use of curiosity pricks, however, you exhibit that you don’t have any illusions about the tendency of things in a relationship to occasionally fluctuate. Instead of just sweeping things under the carpet, you will have a way to honestly acknowledge the imperfections that can present themselves on any given day of the relationship regardless of your plans.

When you are completely honest about the fact that there are certain aspects of the relationship that you aren’t sure about, inthe form of a curiosity prick, you’ll be illustrating that you can identify an area of uncertainty in your relationship without going into denial or exploding over it.

Now when your man learns to meet you halfway when it comes to understanding the implications of what you mean when you use a curiosity prick, he will gradually come to understand how to read between the lines and meet you halfway at a conclusionthat matches exactly what you’re thinking.

You won’t only be testing his curiosity with these phrases, but also opening the door to a certain kind of communication that can lead to a higher level of cohesiveness between you and your partner in general.

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Now, just to review, we have covered two different kinds of curiosity pricks that you can use in order to test how well your man thinks he understands you – the sarcasm brand, and the ambiguity brand.

Not only are both the sarcasm and the ambiguity able to function as legitimate challenges, but more importantly, they just plain keep things more fun!

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