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7 Reasons Why You Should NOT Want Your Ex Back

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A LovesAGame Special Publication…

“7 Reasons WhyYou Should NOT

Want Your ExBack”

And 3 Proven Steps You MUST TakeInstead…

(IF You Want To Become Strong, Successful,Confident and Irresistible so That NOBODY WillEver Leave You Again…)

By Eddie Corbano© 2011, All Rights Reserved

www.ExDetoxSystem.com

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Table Of Contents

Introduction .......................................................5A True Little Story ........................................................................5About Getting The Ex Back ..........................................................8

7 Reasons Why You Should NOT Want Your ExBack .................................................................11

Reason 1: It Will Never Be As It Was Before .............................11Reason 2: There Is A Reason For Everything .............................14Reason 3: Your Motives Might Be False ....................................17Reason 4: Your Ex Probably Moved On .....................................20Reason 5: There Will Be Pain.....................................................22Reason 6: Acceptance Is The First Step To Recovery ................24Reason 7: It's An Opportunity To Grow.....................................26The 3 Proven Steps To Start Healing Right Away.......................28

3 Proven Steps To Start Getting Over Your ExRight NOW .......................................................30

Step 1: Cut off all contact with your Ex for at least 60 days. .....30Step 2: Purge your place of all the thingsthat remind you about your Ex..................................................31Step 3: Overcome the urge to over-analyze and stop thinking aboutyour Ex .......................................................................................31

Conclusion........................................................34About The Author.............................................37

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Introduction

A True Little Story

(September 2000)

I was shattered. Destroyed.

There is no word to describe how devastated I felt.

My fiancée dumped me only two weeks before our wedding,completely out of the blue.

With the blink of an eye, my life was left upside down.

I couldn't function at all - I couldn’t eat, sleep, work or doanything productive except for lying around and torturingmyself with self-destructive thoughts. My head was like amachine doing heavy work 24/7.

My life as I knew it was no more.

What was there left worth living for?

So I asked myself.

After a delirious month in horrible pain and suffering, ofwhich I have a very vague recollection, my brother felt theneed to help me and picked me up one day about a monthafter the initial "incident".

"Where are we headed?" I asked.

"Don't worry, we are going to see someone" he replied.

OK, I thought, now I'm really worried.

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Two hours later we parked in front of a small white housewith big metal fences in front of it.

The next thing I knew was that I found myself in a curioussmall room, sitting in front of a very old man with a whitebeard and sharp blue eyes.

Apparently he was some kind of a religious leader withpsychic powers, (at least he looked that way to me).

The old man took my hands and looked into my eyes for anuncomfortably long time. He looked at me in a way as thoughhe would examine the furthest corners of my entire soul,knowing my complete past and future without asking me athing.

An eternity seem to have past. Finally he said:

"Do not worry. Everything will be fine".

He spoke with a foreign accent and his voice was calming andrelaxing.

"I only have to ask you one small question" he continued.

"Yes" I replied, more afraid than curious.

The question hit me like a bullet:

"Do you want her back?"

Everything about him implied that he was a powerful man, aman with certain abilities. How did he know about mysituation, and did he really have the power to bring her backto me?

At that time I had no doubt that he could, I only had to say

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so. I never believed in such things - never - but back then,trust me, I BELIEVED.

It was a terrible question, and a terrible decision.

She destroyed me by walking away, and now I had thepossibility to wipe all of this away, to get my life back withjust with one answer.

I hesitated for a long time – an eternity so it seemed – then Igave him my final answer.

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About Getting The Ex Back

Everyone, and I really mean everyone, who has ever sufferedfrom a break up has one significant need at the verybeginning:

To get the Ex back.

This would be THE ultimate solution to all the problems, theend to suffering and loneliness. This would instantly turnaround the car heading towards the cliff.

The magic pill to feel good again.

But is this really true?

The internet knows your pain, it is full of guides aboutgetting the Ex back:

"Get Him Back Before It's Too Late"

"Get Your Ex Back Now"

"blablabla"

Clever internet marketers observed a desperate need andhave provided those who are suffering with a "solution" - thelazy man’s guide on how to get what you want in a simpleway... and within 24 hours.

The holy grail for all of your problems.

But does it help YOU?

Does it help you, as a person, to grow, to be happy, toadvance in life - let alone does it really get your Ex back?

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Let me ask you a more concrete question:

Would getting your Ex back be the right move if youtake your whole lifetime into account?

It's a difficult question, I know. Perhaps one of the mostdifficult ones you will ever face.

I know your pain. I've been at the exact spot where you arenow. I've gone through every single painful stage of it.

The neglecting yourself, the losing weight, the sudden burstsof tears, the need to tell the story to everyone over and overagain.

I know that you think that your Ex was perfect for you, theonly person who ever understood you, your soulmate, neverto be found in life again.

I know that many of you have begged, chased, stalked andharassed them by either e-mail, phone or Internet Messagingasking them what happened and to come back.

What you feel is perfectly understandable, and as I said, I'vebeen there too.

But there is another way.

This free report has the purpose of showing you another side,a different angle. By considering what is in fact BEST forYOU as a human being.

In other words:

Getting your Ex back is BAD for you, and I'm goingto give you some pretty darn good reasons for it!

I am able to tell you this based on my own experience, as well

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as from coaching hundreds of break up survivors.

I'm going to give you 7 reasons why you should NOT wantyour Ex back, and I'm also going to show you 3 importantsteps you should take in order to achieve the ultimateoutcome:

Getting stronger, independent and successful, sothat something like that will NEVER happen to youagain.

Ever.

Are you ready for it?

Let's go.

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7 Reasons Why You Should NOTWant Your Ex Back

Reason 1: It Will Never Be As It Was Before

"There is only one way to hurt someone whohas lost everything - give him back somethingbroken."— Stephen R. Donaldson

The damage is done. Our partner turned their back on usand walked away, whatever their reasons might be.

As they left us, we experienced a major betrayal ofconfidence.

In this moment something happens to us. Something that isvery, very difficult to undo.

They say that what is broken once cannot be repaired.Unfortunately, this is the bitter truth for most breakups.

It is statistically proven that a big percentage of those whoget back together again split up for a second time within amonth.

I'm sorry, I know this hurts and that it's not what you wantedto hear.

Why is the relationship after reconciliation NOT asit was before?

The reasons for this are various.

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We may enter the second try very optimistically and with thehope that the love we feel would be enough to glue ustogether. The reality is – sorry to say – often somewhatdifferent.

The mutual trust is gone and very difficult to rebuild. Underthe surface, there will always remain this agonizinguncertainty about whether they will leave again. This fearmay be with good cause, as it is easier to leave the secondtime.

Fear of loss will be our constant companion, and he's not funto be with.

Fear and distrust is poison for every relationship.

In addition to this, many of us will discover that our Ex haschanged. Some won't even recognize them.

In many cases they behave more dominant and controlling.

For example, when they asked us before whether it wasalright if they spend an evening with friends, they now leavewithout warning.

They start to moan about things they never mentionedbefore, and criticize us about many things.

We however, accept many things that we would never havebefore out of the fear that we may lose them again. Theycriticize, we give in.

All of this keeps getting worse until no one can go on withoutlosing their mind.

We "re-break up" and the pain is worse than ever.

Is this a horror scenario that must happen in every

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reconciliation?

No, it isn't, but statistically proven to be a high percentage.

Are you willing to take that risk or try the alternative?

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Reason 2: There Is A Reason For Everything

"RECONCILIATION, n. A suspension ofhostilities. An armed truce for the purpose ofdigging up the dead."— Ambrose Bierce

Our Ex didn't leave us just to torture us. There was a reason.

Maybe they told you, maybe not, but what I know almost forsure is that you are most certainly not aware of the reasonsthat led to the break up in the first place.

I also know that most of us think that WE "blew it". I knowthis because I certainly did so back then.

STOP.

Don't do this.

There is never one person alone responsible when arelationship fails. There isn’t a sole thing we could say ordo that would cause a break up.

Breakups do NOT happen overnight, and certainly NOTbecause we didn't think of buying her flowers every otherday, or because we didn't cook him a dinner last month.

Breakups happen because of personal incompatibility, andbecause important needs are not being met over a longperiod of time.

There was a process of detachment our Ex was goingthrough.

Maybe there have been talks and signs, maybe our Ex kept

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them from us - either way, eventually they decide that it'sbetter to split, because they missed something important.

They made that difficult and painful decision, (yes, it'sdifficult for our Ex too), and for them it's definite.

This is NOT your fault. It's simply how things have turnedout.

We have to accept one simple truth in life - not allrelationships are meant to last.

Now, having this in mind, what do you think would happenIF you get back together?

You kiss and hug and everything would be forgotten, back tonormal?

I'm afraid not.

The reasons that led to the break up in the first placeare still there, lurking in the dark to come out eventually.And they will hit you hard, even if you think that it is enoughto love each other.

We will try to work these out, I'm sure we believe we can, butthe reality is that change has to happen on both sides. Ittakes time and effort as well as the willingness.

Is your Ex prepared and willing for that?

And why weren't you able to work the problems out beforethe breakup occurred?

A fulfilling relationship means that both partners are awareof their personal state, and that they can interact with eachother on a mutual level. If one party is not prepared or fit forthat, there will be conflicts.

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Our Ex decided that they didn't want to work on the mutualproblems, so he or she left.

Fighting their decision or talking them back into therelationship doesn't mean that the initial problems will getsolved.

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Reason 3: Your Motives Might Be False

"A great obstacle to happiness is theexpectation of too great a happiness."— Fontenelle

Ask yourself one question:

WHY do you want your Ex back so desperately?

Don't tell me, I know…

Because you LOVE them.

Right?

Everyone is telling me the same reason. I used to say thevery same thing back then.

I believed in this motive, she used to be the very reason I wasliving, the answer to my prayers for years, my dream cometrue.

I deeply and honestly loved her.

So I thought.

I found out in a very painful process that this wasn't reallove, but my projection of the IDEA of love.

I wanted this so desperately that I saw everything throughrose-colored glasses - things appeared as I wanted them tobe. I really talked myself into it every day.

The power of affirmations in action.

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Once that was taken away from me, my world crashed.

So, I'm asking you again -

WHY do you want your Ex back so desperately?

Analyze your concept of love to realize what's behind all ofthis.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that there is no suchthing as love - there is - I'm only saying that most peoplehave a wrong understanding of it. A transfigured romanticand unrealistic view of love.

Another strong – but nonetheless wrong – motive to get theEx back is "because I need him/her".

The strong belief that we need our Ex to survive is very oftenfounded in powerful memories of earlier separation or loss,like early childhood memories.

The most common are experiences of abandonment, like forexample an early death of a close one or the experience ofbeing deserted somewhere when you were supposed to bepicked up as a child.

Others are experiences of rejection, shaming or even mentalor physical abuse.

All of these are strong emotional stressors, butFALSE motivations to cling to your Ex. They lead tofear of loss and other negative feelings which weaken arelationship.

The only way to get over these is by working on ourselves.

Getting back with our Ex wouldn't solve these problems atall, we would have to face them over and over again. They

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won't go away by themselves.

You have to make it clear to yourself what YOU REALLYwant.

By knowing your most important personal needs, you willunderstand what your REAL motives behind your urge to getyour Ex back are - and maybe, this urge will be gone with thisrealization.

One of the most common needs and motives is happiness,but what many do not realize is that you do not need yourEx in order to be happy. Real happiness can only comefrom within, by accepting and loving yourself.

This is one of the most fundamental truths one can discover.

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Reason 4: Your Ex Probably Moved On

"People have a hard time letting go of theirsuffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, theyprefer suffering that is familiar."— Thich Nhat Hanh

What happened in our relationship before the actual breakup?

Our Ex decided by walking away, that they don't want toinvest time and effort in getting the relationship to work.

No counseling, no talking about problems, no investing timeand sweat to get the sparkle back.

They couldn't or they wouldn't.

They told themselves, (and maybe us too), that they "fell outof love".

Their love was gone, they don't know why and they were verysad about it.

"Why was my Ex able to move on so quickly after thebreak up?"

This is a question I'm asked a lot.

The answer is, because they went through the phases ofbreak up recovery long before you actually split.

There were already over you when they broke up with you.

Men especially tend to leapfrog into another relationshipbefore they actually told us that it was over. The new

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relationship gives them strength to pull this off.

Women are usually more determined. Once they have theimpression that the relationship is beyond repair, they splitup very quickly.

It is almost impossible to get an Ex back who hasalready moved on, and it is usually not worth theeffort because it's against "the flow of things".

It would only destroy our self-esteem... what's left of it.

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Reason 5: There Will Be Pain

"Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional."— M. Kathleen Casey

We have to make one thing clear to ourselves - trying to getour Ex back will cause pain.

Maybe more pain than to actually start going through thehealing phases.

Do you have a clue what lies ahead of you?

Most of you will chase your Ex, beg, plead, harass, e-mail andphone several times a day. You will embarrass yourself andyou will hate yourself, even years later, for what you did.

And all for what? For a ridiculous, miniscule chance ofgetting them back and staying together with them?

But the worst of this whole thing is that you give away power.

Your power.

You would have to wait for your Ex and their reactions.Everything depends on them. You are completely out ofcontrol of things.

You are passive, and passiveness is death.

Your self-worth and self-esteem is already badly damagedbecause of the break up, and now it goes completely into thecellar.

I can guarantee you this - after a while of unavailing trying toget your Ex back, you will be completely and utterly

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devastated, and without power.

You will have to start at zero.

Don't do this to yourself.

Start the healing process right away by acceptingand taking the 3 steps I will describe later.

Retake your life into your own hands.

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Reason 6: Acceptance Is The First Step ToRecovery

"Lord grant me the serenity to accept thethings I cannot change, the courage to changethe things I can, and the wisdom to know thedifference."— Saint Francis of Assisi

How can you know that your break up is notsomething that you CAN change?

The simple answer is - you will feel it in your gut.

I am aware that this is very vague, but there are no rules, nodefinite pattern.

The truth is that everyone KNOWS deep down inside if theirown break up is definite or not, we just like to deny ourinstincts.

You WILL know, IF you are able to ignore the constant"storm of thoughts" inside your head telling you that there isno survival without your Ex.

And WHEN you know, there is really no other thing to dothan to accept it because all else causes more pain.

By still wanting your Ex back, there can be no acceptance,and without acceptance there is no healing.

Acceptance IS the first step before anything can getbetter.

If you decide to fight the odds and take the small chance ofgetting them back, you will NEVER be a strong and

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independent person because you will always depend on yourEx.

Your fate will always be in their hands.

Who is responsible for your own happiness if notyourself?

It's time to take back what's yours and decide your own fate.Acceptance is the doorway to that new path.

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Reason 7: It's An Opportunity To Grow

"Depend not on another, but lean instead onthyself... True happiness is born of self-reliance."— The laws of Manu

Let me ask you some questions:

Do you know who you really are?

Do you know how you would react to certaincircumstances and events?

Are you aware of your beliefs, needs and longings?

Our way of modern life with all its advantages anddisadvantages contributes to our departing from our REALself, the person deep inside who we really are.

That is why self-discovery and self-improvement is verypopular at these times, it serves people's desire to reconnectto themselves and to find a purpose.

A break up or divorce, as painful and excruciating as it maybe, is a rare opportunity to face your real self. See that darkand threatening black abyss in front of you and discover whoyou really are.

It works.

Wanting to get back with your Ex is a slap in the face to thisopportunity, and would be a MAJOR step back for yourpersonal development.

All that pain, all that suffering would be for nothing.

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Wasted.

Why not use this breakup or divorce to engage in healing andempowering processes of self-discovery?

There is a reason why some people suffer terribly and othersseem to continue normally with their lives as if nothing hashappened.

Are they better and stronger than us?

Emotionally stronger and aware maybe, but not better.

You too can reach that emotional stability and independence,only by facing the pain and going through all the steps ofhealing.

It's not easy.

I can tell you right away that it's tough. But it's worth theeffort.

What are the alternatives?

To reconnect with your Ex with a tiny chance ofreconciliation, and an even tinier chance of having a fulfillingrelationship, only to eventually break up again with evenmore pain to bare?

The worst thing is - you will get used to giving up, not goingthrough the pain. You will be avoiding it by all costs in thefuture.

Break up, rebound relationship, break up, reboundrelationship… your whole life.

Don't do that. You can stop this right NOW.

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The 3 Proven Steps To Start Healing RightAway

“You gain strength, experience and confidenceby every experience where you really stop tolook fear in the face. You must do the thing youcannot do.”— Eleanor Roosevelt

Is it really over, or is there still a chance?

You will know the answer if you are able to stop yourbabbling mind and listen to your inner voice. That is all youneed to know when asking yourself this question.

What is the alternative, the solution?

Right after a breakup or divorce we find ourselves in a stateof shock and denial. We don’t have a clue what happened orwhy this has happened.

"Am I dreaming? What did I do wrong? Why?"

So many questions we have no answer for.

Maybe the circumstances of our breakup were difficult -cheating, emotional cruelty, lies and being dumped in aheartless way. All of these emphasize the state of shock.

What I recommend at this point is contrary to what otherbreakup coaches say. The following applies only if yourbreakup is fresh, one week ago at a max! (If it’s more thanone week ago, continue with the 3 steps below).

I recommend that for one week you do what youthink you have to do. But only for one week.

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You can call in sick, don't get out of bed, cry - let it all out.You can go through all the good memories, wallow in self-pity, try to find some closure.

At this point I do NOT recommend contacting your Ex, butmany of you will feel the strong urge to ask questions or tosee them for one last time. Do this ONLY if your breakup wasno longer than a week ago, (and never do this if you were inan abusive relationship!)

Let it all out, but limit this to one week only - this isvery important.

Ok, one week's over, what now?

There are 3 proven, very important steps you have to take inorder to start healing right away.

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3 Proven Steps To Start GettingOver Your Ex Right NOW

Step 1: Cut off all contact with your Ex for atleast 60 days.

This is the most important thing. The mother of all post-breakup rules.

This means no physical contact, removing their numbers,email addresses, Facebook contacts, no stalking, drive-by’s,no birthday wishes - nothing!

Inform your friends/family that you don’t want to hearanything about your Ex whatsoever.

Write him/her an email/letter to ask them to not contact youagain. You can use the following template:

Dear [name],

I have come to the conclusion that it’s impossible forme to stay in contact with you AND to recover fromthis breakup at the same time.

I need time and space for myself.

I respectfully ask you to NOT contact me in any waywhatsoever for the time being.

Thank you and take care,[your name]

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Yes, this sounds very harsh, but it gets the message across.

If you like, you can soften up the letter a bit, but I do NOTrecommend that you write how much you loved them andother personal stuff. Keep it business-like. You need time torecover and you do not want to be disturbed during thatperiod.

I know cutting off contact sounds very hard and cruel, but it’sTHE precondition for recovery.

You can read all about the no-contact rule, with its obstaclesand problems on my website, (along with the very supportivecomments by the community).

Step 2: Purge your place of all the thingsthat remind you about your Ex

The more thorough, the better.

Put them all into a big box and move it to a friend’s.

Personal things can be like contact mines, triggering bademotions and memories. You don’t need that right now.

Anything that activates a memory or emotion goes into thatbox. No exceptions allowed.

Step 3: Overcome the urge to over-analyzeand stop thinking about your Ex

This is a big one.

I’m going to share a technique that can really helpyou with No-Contact, and at the same time shorten

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your healing time immensely.

The urge to over-analyze the situation, the looking forreasons - why your Ex did this and say that - the "if only" and"what if" hypothetical mental reasoning is a dangerous trap.

This trap leads to constantly replaying in your head parts ofthe relationship and imagining how things would have beenif you did not behave in a certain way. Although it isimportant to learn from your mistakes, in the beginning thiscontinual mental reasoning can harm you big-time.Comprehension of what happened and the profit you gainfrom it comes later in the healing process. Not now. It isimportant to choke it off right when it begins.

To do this, use this little technique I call “The Mind Ex-Detox”. It’s the best tool I know for stopping unwantedthoughts.

“The Mind Ex-Detox” technique consists of 5 steps:

1. First you have to identify your recurring thoughtpatterns. Write them down. Take your time with this.This could be, for example:o looking for reasonso imagining your Ex with a new partnero reliving the actual breakupo reliving old painful memorieso playing through the

"shoulda/woulda/coulda's"

2. Make a list of 3 of your most pleasant thoughts andpictures ever. It is important that these thoughts andpictures give you pleasure, and have nothing to dowith the unwanted thoughts.This could be:o imagining playing a favorite sport ("Skiing on

fresh powder ... I'm flying")

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o a hobbyo a peaceful or beautiful placeo a special achievement or award

3. Put a rubber-band around your wrist and every timenegative thought patterns rise up, you pull thatrubber-band and shout “STOP” loudly, (or in yourmind if there are people nearby).

4. Immediately switch to one of the written downpositive thoughts. Relive them vividly in your mind.Merge with these positive thoughts and become them.Do this in as much detail as possible, enjoy all thepleasant sights, sounds, tastes, and smells for aboutthirty seconds.

5. Repeat the process as often as required.

The technique takes some conscientious practice, but withtime you can master it.

Stopping your monkey-mind from reprocessing and relivingthe negative thoughts will give you a big advantage overother “Dumpees” who follow the common sense “time-will-heal-all-wounds” breakup survival approach.

You will heal much, much faster and start thehealing process simultaneously.

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Conclusion

These 3 steps I’ve described above are proven in practice,they are NOT just a theoretical concept. These really work!

Follow them religiously. They are important. Theyare the best start to getting over your Ex you canhave.

The key to all this, and to your whole healing process, isfollowing the No-Contact Rule.

It will most certainly be the hardest thing you've ever done inyour life.

But it will free you.

I did the same when the strange, wise old man askedme whether I wanted to have my Ex back or not.

Guess what I answered.

I said "No!".

Because deep inside I felt that it was definitely over, and itwas far better for me to face the cruel consequences - thepain, the missing, the anger, the loneliness.

This wasn't my first break up, and maybe it wouldn't be mylast, but it would definitely be the last one that destroyed anddevastated me that much.

I would never again allow myself to give away all ofmy power and tie all my happiness to one person.

I used this experience to make myself better and more aware

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of the person that I am, and I was sure that this realizationwould help me to have happier and more fulfilledrelationships in the future.

I wasn't fully aware of all of this when I said that "No!", but Ifelt that strong urge to go this way.

I was sure that I didn't want her back, even if she would comecrawling back to me.

I understand how difficult this is.

I know how desperately you wish that everything could be asit was before. But you have to make it clear to yourself thatthis part of your life is over, and believe me - I know how thisthought hurts.

Your Ex decided to leave and to not make your relationshipwork. You cannot force them into doing so. They did whatthey thought was best for them.

You have to respect that.

The best you can do now is to move on and followthe 3 Steps.

Go through all the seven reasons I gave you one more time,and you WILL come to the same conclusion.

Maybe not immediately, maybe you will have to go throughyour negative experiences first, but eventually you will cometo that conclusion.

I know it doesn't feel right, I know it hurts like hell, but it'sthe best for you.

I've developed a proven and tested system to break your Ex-Addition and shorten your healing time.

7 Reasons Why You Should NOT Want Your Ex Back

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I call it the "Ex-Detox System" and it consists of two mainparts:

1. a step-by-step ebook2. a self-hypnotic audio tape I call "Breakup Recovery

on Autopilot"

It will help you to go through the phases of your break upsuperfast, AND at the same time turn you into the strong,independent person you've always wanted to be.

You don't have to do this alone, I'm there for you.

All the best and take care of yourself!

Your friend,

7 Reasons Why You Should NOT Want Your Ex Back

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About The Author

Eddie Corbano experienced adevastating break up in 1998. Hemanaged to use this mostexcruciating experience in his life asa catalyst to identify and overcomethe issues he was carrying with himall his life.

He not only got over his break up, heimproved himself and became astrong, independent and successful

person.

He has developed a proven training program which teachespeople who suffer from breakups or divorces to get over it ina record time and to use this experience to became theperson they've always wanted to be: emotionally independentand successful.

His proven and tested break-up recovery system:

www.ExDetoxSystem.com

His blog about breakup recovery and relationships:

www.LovesAGame.com

Read more about Eddie and his experience here:

About Eddie Corbano

My Way Back Into Life - A Personal Story

The Secret How To Get Over A Break Up

7 Reasons Why You Should NOT Want Your Ex Back

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