7 habits of highly effective teens

Ms Fowler, 2010

EFFECTIVE TEENS

Fiona Fowler 2011

US PDP Jancon 2011

Adjective

1. adequate to accomplish a purpose; producing the intended or expected result: effective teaching methods; effective steps toward peace.

2. actually in operation or in force; functioning: The law becomes effective at midnight.

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7 HABITS OF HIGHLY

EFFECTIVE TEENS

Sean Coveyson of Dr Stephen R. Covey, author

of 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

• Be proactive• Begin with the end in mind• Put first things first• Think win-win• Seek first to understand; then to be

understood• Synergize• Sharpen the saw.

7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE TEENS

Be Proactive

Being proactive is the key to unlocking the other habits. Help teens to take control and responsibility for their own life. Proactive people understand that they are responsible for their own happiness or unhappiness. They don't blame others for their own actions or feelings.


• I’ll try• That’s just the way I

am• There’s nothing I can

do• I have to• I can’t• You ruined my day

• I’ll do it• I can do better than

that• Let’s look at all our

options• I choose to• There’s gotta be a way

Reactive Language Proactive Language

LISTEN TO YOUR LANGUAGE

Takes power away from you and gives it to something or

someone else.

Proactive language puts the control

back in your hands.

Reactive Language Proactive Language

BE PROACTIVE

Proactive people;

• Are not easily offended• Take responsibility for their choices• Think before they act• Bounce back when something bad

happens• Always find a way to make it happen• Focus on things they can do something

about, and don’t worry about the things they can’t.

IT PAYS TO BE PROACTIVE

Begin With the End in Mind

If teens aren't clear about where they want to end up in life, about their values, goals, and what they stand for, they will wander, waste time, and be tossed to and fro by the opinions of others. Each teen needs to create a personal mission statement which will act as a road map and direct and guide his decision-making process.


“Would you tell me please which way I ought to walk form here?”“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat.“I don’t much care where –” said Alice.“Then it doesn’t matter which way to walk,” said the Cat.

From Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland

BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND

“If you don’t set goals for yourself,

you are doomed to work to achieve the goals of someone else.”

Brian Tracy

BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND

http://will.harris.ch/photos/pcd0730/phil-triumphant-14.3.jpg

Put First Things First

This habit helps teens prioritize and manage their time so that they focus on and complete the most important things in their lives. Putting first things first also means learning to overcome fears and being strong during difficult times. It's living life according to what matters most.


We first make our habits, then our habits make us.

English Poet

What effective habits can you be proud of right now?

PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST

Think Win-Win

Teens can learn to foster the belief that it is possible to create an atmosphere of win-win in every relationship. This habit encourages the idea that in any given discussion or situation both parties can arrive at a mutually beneficial solution. Teens will learn to celebrate the accomplishments of others instead of being threatened by them.


What do we live for,If not to make life

less difficult for each other.

George Eliot

Where do you use Win-Win thinkingin your life now?

THINK WIN-WIN

Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood

Because most people don't listen very well, one of the great frustrations in life is that many don't feel understood. This habit will ensure teens learn the most important communication skill there is: active listening.


Which of these poor listening styles do you have the biggest problem with?

Spacing out Pretend listening Selective listening

Word Listening (don’t hear the tone)Self-centred listening (biased by our own

perspective or feelings)

Now try to go for one whole day without doing it.

POOR LISTENING STYLES

See how long you can keep eye contact

with someone while they are talking to you.

GENUINE LISTENING

Synergize

Synergy is achieved when two or more people work together to create something better than either could alone. Through this habit, teens learn it doesn't have to be "your way" or "my way" but rather a better way, a higher way. Synergy allows teens to value differences and better appreciate others.


This week, look around and notice how much synergy

is going on all around you, such as two hands working together,

teamwork, symbiotic relationships in nature,

and creative problem solving.

SYNERGIZE

Sharpen the Saw

Teens should never get too busy living to take time to renew themselves. When a teen "sharpens the saw" they are keeping their personal self sharp so that they can better deal with life. It means regularly renewing and strengthening the four key dimensions of life – body, brain, heart, and soul.


Better keep yourself clean and bright;

you are the window through which you see the world.

George Bernard Shaw

SHARPEN THE SAW

While it's all well and good to tell kids how to live their lives,

"teens watch what you do more than they listen to what you say," Covey

says.

Who are the role models setting examples for you?

What are they doing effectively that you respect?

SEAN COVEY

http://www.seancovey.com/teens.html

This website provides other resources for teachers, parents and students, including the following worksheets.

SEAN COVEY

• Be proactive• Begin with the end in mind• Put first things first• Think win-win• Seek first to understand; then to be

understood• Synergize• Sharpen the saw.


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