7 habits of highly effective teens adapted from sean covey

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7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens Adapted from Sean Covey

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7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens

Adapted from Sean Covey

Who Am I?

• I am your constant companion. I am your greatest helper or heaviest burden. I will push you onward or drag you down to failure. I am completely at your command. Half the things I do you might just as well turn over to me and I will be able to do them quickly and correctly.

• I am easily managed-you must merely be firm with me. Show me exactly how you want

something done and after a few lessons, I will do it automatically. I am the servant of all

great individuals and, alas, of all failures, as well. Those who are great, I have made great. Those who are failures, I have made failures.

• I am not a machine, though I work with all the precision of a machine plus the intelligence of a human. You may run me for profit or run me

for ruin-it makes no difference to me.

• Take me, train me, be firm with me, and I will place the world at your feet. Be easy with me

and I will destroy you.

Who Am I!

•Habit

What are some habits?

7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens

• Sean Covey

• Dr. Stephen Covey– …Highly Effective People

#1 Be Proactive

• What is proactive?• “People are just about as happy as they make

up their mind to be.”• Abraham Lincoln

• A Can-do attitude vs. No-Can-Do attitude

Can-Do vs. No-Can-Do

Can-Do• Take initiative to make it

happen• Think about solutions and

options• Act

No-Can-Do• Wait for something to

happen to them• Think about problems and

barriers• Are acted upon

#2 Begin with the End in Mind

• Have goals.• Write them down. Why?

• “Control Your Own Destiny or Someone Else Will”

• Sean Covey

#3 Put First Things First

• What are your priorities?– You can tell a person’s priorities by how they

spend their time• Agree or Disagree

• Have a Plan– Make a schedule and identify the MAJOR activities

• Time is precious, you don’t want to lose any of it doing something not worthwhile

Consider this…• To realize the value of one year, Ask a student who failed his or her AP

exams.• To realize the value of one month, Ask a mother who gave birth to a

premature baby.• To realize the value of one week, Ask an editor of a weekly magazine.• To realize the value of one day, Ask a daily wage laborer who has six kids

to feed.• To realize the value of one hour, Ask the lovers who are waiting to meet.• To realize the value of one minute, Ask a person who missed their train.• To realize the value of one second, Ask the person who survived an

accident.• To realize the value f one millisecond, Ask a person who won a silver

medal at the Olympics.

#4 Think Win-Win

• Win-Lose Totem Pole– Someone is always

better than you and someone is better than them and so on…

• Lose – Win Doormat– If someone has to

win, I should lose because I am helping them.

• Lose-Lose The Downward Spiral– If I am going down,

then you are going down with me

• Win-Win: The All-You-Can-Eat Buffet

# 5 Seek First to Understand, then to be Understood

• To be understood is the deepest need of the human heart.

• “Before I can walk in another’s shoes, I must first remove my own.”

• Unknown

• Communication Skills– Listening is more important that talking• You have TWO ears and ONE mouth.

– Argument with parents/siblings/friends

Listening Categories

WordsTone/FeelingBody Language

#6 Synergize

• Synergy Is…– Celebrating differences– Teamwork– Open mindedness– Finding new and better

ways

• Synergy is NOT…– Tolerating Differences– Working independently– Thinking you’re always

right– Compromise

#7 Sharpen the Saw

• “Me time!”• “The time to repair the roof is when the sun is

shining.”– John F. Kennedy

• Take care of yourself:– Body– Brain– Heart– Soul

7 Habits of Highly Defective Teens

1. React2. Begin with No End in Mind3. Put First Things Last4. Think Win-Lose5. Seek First to Talk, Then Pretend to Listen6. Don’t Cooperate7. Wear Yourself Out

How Can These Help You?

• Control your Life• Improve Relationships– Family – Friends– Coworkers

• Make smarter decisions• Overcome addiction• Define values, priorities

How Can These Help You?

• Be more efficient• Increase self confidence• Improve self esteem• Find balance between all of the “stuff”

“You can’t leave footprints on the sands of time by sitting on your butt. And who wants to leave butt prints on the sands of time?”