The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens

From the Book of Sean Covey

GET IN THE HABIT

HABIT #1 Take responsibility for your life.

HABIT #2 Define your mission and goals in life.

HABIT #3 Prioritize and do the most important things first.

HABIT #4 Have an everyone can win attitude.

HABIT #5 Listen to people sincerely.

HABIT #6 Work together to achieve more.

HABIT #7 Renew yourself regularly.

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HABITS 1,2,3 = “private victory” = Self-mastery

HABITS 4,5,6 = “public victory” = relationships and teamwork

HABIT 7 = “renewal” which feeds the 6 other habits

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The 7 Habits can help you:

Get control of your life

Improve your relationships with your friends

Make smarter decisions

Get along with your parents

Overcome addiction

Define your values and what matters most to you

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Get more done in less time

Increase your self-confidence

Be happy

Find balance between school, work, friends and everything else.

What should be the center of my life?

Principle-Centered: The real thing. They cant be bought or sold, they aren’t religious, they are not for discussion. If you break them, you will fail. If you will live by them, you will excel.

Honesty, service, hard work, respect, gratitude, moderation, fairness, integrity, loyalty and responsibility.

Baby-steps

Show appreciation for someone’s point of view.

When you have nothing to do, what is it that occupies your thoughts? Remember, whatever is most important to you will become your life-center

Begin today to treat others the way you would want them to treat you

The next time you are in a tough situation, ask yourself ”what principle should I apply?” now follow that principle and don’t look back

THE PERSONAL BANK ACCOUNT

I’m starting with the man in the mirror

I’m asking him to change his ways

And no message could have been any clearer

If you wanna make the world a better place

Take a look at yourself and then make a change.

THE PERSONAL BANK ACCOUNT

Symptoms of poor bank account:

You cave in to peer pressure easily

You wrestle with feelings of depression and inferiority

You’re overly concerned about what others think of you

You get jealous easily, esp. when someone close to you succeeds

THE PERSONAL BANK ACCOUNT

Symptoms of healthy bank account:

You stand up for yourself and resist peer pressure

You’re not overly concerned about being popular

You see life as a generally positive experience

You trust yourself

You are goal driven

You are happy for the successes of others

THE PERSONAL BANK ACCOUNT

Deposits

Keep promises to yourself

Do small acts of kindness

Be gentle with yourself

Be honest

Renew yourself

Tap into your talents

THE PERSONAL BANK ACCOUNT

Withdrawals

Break personal promises

Keep to yourself

Beat yourself up

Be dishonest

Wear yourself out

Neglect your talents

PROACTIVE PEOPLE

Are not easily offended

Take responsibility for their choices

Think before they act

Bounce back when something bad happens

Always find a way to make it happen

Focus on things they can do something about, and don’t worry about things they can’t

A PERSONAL MISSION STATEMENT

“Would you tell me please which way I ought to walk from here? “

“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to.” said the Cat

“I don’t much care where-” said Alice.

“Then I doesn’t matter which way to walk,” said the Cat.

From Alice in Wonderland

A PERSONAL MISSION STATEMENT

Qualities for a Relationship/Future Spouse:

1. Respect 7. Fun/good sense of humor

2. Unconditional love 8. Makes me laugh everyday

3. Honesty 9. Will make me feel whole

4. Loyalty 10. Good with children

5. Will support me in my goals in life

6. Righteous 11. Good listener 12. Will want the best for me

Make your life extraordinary

Since your destiny is yet to be determined, why not make it extraordinary and leave a lasting legacy?

Life is a mission, not a career. A career is a profession. A mission is a cause. A career asks “ what is in it for me?” A mission asks, “How can I make a difference?”

“Most of us will never do great things. But we can do small things in a great way.” educator Maren Mouritsen

Baby steps

Review your mission statement everyday for 30 days (that’s how long it takes to develop a habit). Let it guide you in all your decisions.

Would I want to marry someone like me? If not, work to develop your talents, abilities, interests.

Habit 3: Learning to prioritize

Pick up a planner

Plan weekly

Time management plus overcoming fear and peer pressure

Identify your biggest time-wasters

Habit 3: Learning to prioritize

Courage Zone Comfort Zone

Things I am afraid of; things I’ve never tried; hard moments; ultimate potential;Unexplored territory; risk; things that are difficult; opportunity; bravery; higher duty; adventure

Things I enjoy doing; relaxation; safety & security; ease; surety; freedom from risk; things I’m accustomed to

The Relationship Bank Account

“Life’s most urgent question is: What are you doing for others?” Martin Luther King

Deposits Withdrawals

Keep promisesDo small acts of kindnessBe loyalListenSay you’re sorrySet clear expectations

Break promisesKeep to yourselfGossip & break confidencesDon’t listenBe arrogantSet false expectations

The Relationship Bank Account

You see life as a competition and winning as everything when:

Using other people, emotionally or physically, for your own selfish purposes

Trying to get ahead at the expense of another

Spreading rumors about someone else

Always insisting on getting your way without concerning yourself with the feelings of others

Becoming jealous or envious when something good happens to someone close to you

Seek first to Understand, then be

understoodThe deepest need of the human heart is to be understood.

Five Poor Listening Styles:

Spacing out

Pretend listening

Selective listening

Word listening

Self-centered listening

It’s me time

Habit 7 is all about keeping your personal self sharp so that you can better deal with life. It means regularly renewing and strengthening the 4 key dimensions of your life – your body, your brain, your heart and your soul.

It’s me time

BODY – The Physical Dimension

Exercise, eat healthy, sleep well, relax

BRAIN – The Mental Dimension

Read, educate, write, learn new skills

HEART – The Emotional Dimension

Build relationships, give service, laugh

SOUL – The Spiritual Dimension

Meditate, Pray, take in quality media

Caring for your Heart

“Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God’s kindness: kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile.” Mother Teresa