god is not surprised by it it’s part of every healthy relationship the goal is not to avoid it...
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Healthy Conflict Managementlearning how to fight fair
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Conflict is an inevitable part of life
God is not surprised by it
It’s part of every healthy relationship
The goal is NOT to avoid it but to embrace it
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3 main causes
We are sinful
We are different
Satan engineers it
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Common Reactions
Note: Conflict itself isn’t a sin, but how we react to it can be and often is.
“In your conflict do not sin…”
THE “FIGHT” REACTION
THE “FLIGHT” REACTION
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God is serious about conflict
So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.
- Matthew 5:23-24
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PRACTICAL TIPS FOR DEALING WITH
CONFLICT
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Go to God first
God is bigger than the problem Seek His heart for the situation AND
the person. Self-Examination (Matthew 7:3)
▪ Anger, insecurity, pride, offense. It keeps us from acting impulsively
(gossip, harsh words, etc.) Don’t wait on the other person to
experience the freedom that comes from forgiving.
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Go to the Person (Mattt 18:15)
Go alone (Mt 18:15)
Go quickly (Keep short accounts)
Seek Understanding, not victory
Assume the best about people
Assume there’s more to the story
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Communication is everything
Learn to share your feelings appropriately
Watch your tongue
Speak the truth in love (Eph 4:15)
Attack the problem not the person
Don’t over-spiritualize
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Application
What has God made you aware of in yourself that you need to put into practice in dealing with conflict?
Is there a person or a situation that you need to deal with today? Or as soon as you get home?
The stakes are TOO high to continue avoiding or handling it poorly.