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Chapter 10: Building Relationships



You’re About to Discover…You’re About to Discover…You’re About to Discover…You’re About to Discover…

• What emotional intelligence isWhat emotional intelligence is

• How EI relates to leadershipHow EI relates to leadership

• Whether your EI can be improvedWhether your EI can be improved

• How communication is at the center of romantic How communication is at the center of romantic

relationshipsrelationships

• How to improve communication with people you How to improve communication with people you

care aboutcare about

• What constitutes a “danger signal” in a What constitutes a “danger signal” in a

relationshiprelationship


What is Emotional Intelligence? What is Emotional Intelligence? What is Emotional Intelligence? What is Emotional Intelligence?

• EEmotional motional IIntelligence ntelligence impacts college successimpacts college success

• EIEI includes interpersonal includes interpersonal and intrapersonal and intrapersonal intelligences intelligences (p. 59)(p. 59)..

• EI EI is a set of skills that is a set of skills that determine how well you determine how well you cope with the demands cope with the demands

of everyday life.of everyday life.

• EEmotional motional IIntelligence ntelligence impacts college successimpacts college success

• EIEI includes interpersonal includes interpersonal and intrapersonal and intrapersonal intelligences intelligences (p. 59)(p. 59)..

• EI EI is a set of skills that is a set of skills that determine how well you determine how well you cope with the demands cope with the demands

of everyday life.of everyday life.

Chapter ActivityChapter Activityp. 218p. 218



Five Scales of EIFive Scales of EIFive Scales of EIFive Scales of EI

Intrapersonal Skills (Self-Awareness) Interpersonal Skills

(Relating to Others)

General MoodStress Management Skills

Adaptability Skills


Can We Improve Our EI? Can We Improve Our EI? Can We Improve Our EI? Can We Improve Our EI?

• Seek honest input from others.

• Find an EI mentor.

• Complete an assessment tool.

• Work with a counselor to learn more.

• Be patient with yourself.

“ “Our emotions are the driving powers of our lives.”Our emotions are the driving powers of our lives.” Earl Riney, American clergymanEarl Riney, American clergyman


What Is This Thing Called Love? What Is This Thing Called Love? What Is This Thing Called Love? What Is This Thing Called Love?

Love can be thoughts, feelings, and physical reactions.

1. Extreme energy.

2. Imagined betterment.

3. Interfering thoughts.

4. Mood swings.

5. Hypersensitivity.

Love can be thoughts, feelings, and physical reactions.

1. Extreme energy.

2. Imagined betterment.

3. Interfering thoughts.

4. Mood swings.

5. Hypersensitivity.


““Eighty percent of life’s satisfaction Eighty percent of life’s satisfaction comes from meaningful relationships.”comes from meaningful relationships.” Brian Tracy, success authorBrian Tracy, success author


Communicating Communicating in in

Relationships Relationships

Communicating Communicating in in

Relationships Relationships


Crazymakers Crazymakers Crazymakers Crazymakers

The BLAMERThe TRAPPER

The “BENEDICT ARNOLD”

The HIT AND RUN FIGHTER

The GUNNYSACKER

The MINDREADER



Breaking Up Is Hard to Do Breaking Up Is Hard to Do Breaking Up Is Hard to Do Breaking Up Is Hard to Do

““The difference between friendship and love The difference between friendship and love is how much you can hurt each other.”is how much you can hurt each other.” Ashleigh Brilliant, author and cartoonistAshleigh Brilliant, author and cartoonist

Danger signal 1: “All we ever do is fight!” If you spend most of your time in conflict or avoiding conflict, you won’t be able to communicate about much else.

Danger signal 2: “Let’s dig in deeper!” Move relationships to deeper levels of commitment only when you are both satisfied with the ways things are now.

Danger signal 3: “This relationship just isn’t worth it!” If you simply aren’t satisfied with the relationship, despite attempts to improve it, it may be time to think about making a clean break.


Control Your Learning

p. 227


Does Diversity Make a Difference? Does Diversity Make a Difference? Does Diversity Make a Difference? Does Diversity Make a Difference?




Appreciate the American Mosaic Appreciate the American Mosaic Appreciate the American Mosaic Appreciate the American Mosaic

Most of us are a blend of different ethnicities.Did you know the ethnicities of these famous people?

Tiger Woods: Caucasian, Black, Indian, and Asian.

Keanu Reeves: Hawaiian, Chinese, and Caucasian.

Mariah Carey: Black, Venezuelan, and Caucasian

Johnny Depp: Cherokee and Caucasian


Quote: Adela A. Allen

“We should acknowledge

differences, we should

greet differences, until

difference makes no

difference anymore.”

Adela A. Allen Educator

“We should acknowledge

differences, we should

greet differences, until

difference makes no

difference anymore.”

Adela A. Allen Educator


VVAARRKK ActivityActivityVVAARRKK ActivityActivity

Exercise 10.1, p. 233


Chapter 10: Exercises and ActivitiesChapter 10: Exercises and Activities

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C R: How Would You Respond?C R: How Would You Respond?

C R: Intimate Relationships Self-C R: Intimate Relationships Self- Assessment Assessment

C R: Your Views on DiversityC R: Your Views on Diversity

Chapter ActivityChapter Activity

p. 225 p. 225


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Insight Action


How Would You Respond?How Would You Respond?How Would You Respond?How Would You Respond?

p. 218


Intimate Relationships Self-AssessmentIntimate Relationships Self-AssessmentIntimate Relationships Self-AssessmentIntimate Relationships Self-Assessment

p. 225


Your Views on DiversityYour Views on DiversityYour Views on DiversityYour Views on Diversity

p. 230


Insight Action

p. 222

p. 228

p. 232


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FOCUS TV Discussion Questions

1. Our FOCUS correspondent, Greg, seems unaware of his own level of emotional intelligence. Since your intrapersonal skills are part of your emotional intelligence, that makes sense. What are intrapersonal skills? Look back at chapter 11 of FOCUS, if you need to.

2. In her interview, Dr. Catherine Andersen says that EQ is essential to college success. Isn't college more about your IQ than your EQ? Why or why not? What does she mean?

3. Even though Greg’s role in the video is comedy, you may know people with low EQ like him. How would you recommend that Greg begin the process of increasing his EQ?

4. Kia Washington is described in the chapter and the video as someone with high IQ and low EQ. How is this likely to affect her success in college? Do you think she'll be academically successful?

5. If you were asked to assess your own level of emotional intelligence, what would you say? Of the five major components of EI described in the chapter, which is most challenging for you?


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