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55N E W S + T A S T E + M U S I C + S C R E E N + A R T S + E V E N T S + C L A S S I F I E D S
he, him, his!
ze, hir, hirs
yea! there's NO WAY to make an ASSUMPTION and
KNOW that you’ll be correct.
my pronouns are THEY, THEM and THEIR, but
you can use HE, HIM and HIS while you’re
LEARNING.
cavanaugh quick, 24, is a program manager at DREAMS OF HOPE, a queer youth arts organization.
quick teaches workshops on GENDER PRONOUNS.
i identify as a TRANSGENDER
MAN.
‘traditional’ MALE and FEMALE gender identities are set up as OPPOSITES ...
*google GENDER IDENTITY, folks!
she, her, hers!
they, them, theirs
pronounced ZEE, HEER,
HEERS
WAIT, i can ’t ASSUME you are a SHE or HE, based on what you LOOK LIKE
or how your VOICE SOUNDS?
i always just say, ‘what are the WORDS that i should use to
REFER TO YOU? ’
in any situation ... in fact, i haven't asked
YOU that!
what WORDS would i use to
refer to you in the THIRD PERSON?
while I ’M LEARNING?
it ’s not that i'm offering you a
CHOICE,
i'm giving you the BUILDING BLOCKS that you need to get to my IDEAL, which is what i believe you should be STRIVING FOR.
she, her.
the people that HOLD those gender identities have pronouns that
RESONATE with them.
“it took me 25
years to
understand
WHO I WAS, and
be OK with it,
and then
prepare myself
to SHARE THAT
PERSON with
the world ...
which brings us to ASKING THE QUESTION ...
it ’s hard to think that something as QUOTE SIMPLE could make me
feel INVALIDATED.
apologize, use the correct pronoun
and MOVE ON.
you just used the words,
INVALIDATING MY ENTIRE EXISTENCE. that ’s huge.
what if people MESS UP, and use the
wrong pronoun?
FOR ME ...
?
“that ’s why it ’s SO IMPORTANT for me to help people under-stand NORMALIZING
asking for pronouns.”
ask EVERY-ONE for
their pronouns.
otherwise, it will seem like you’re ONLY asking
because you think there’s something
DIFFERENT about them.
create a question that ’s COMFORTABLE
for you.
but avoid asking INVASIVE questions about their appearance, voice or
mannerisms.
a few final TIPS:
it feels weird to ASK SOMEONE what their PRONOUNS are, but there was a point in time when it felt weird to ask a WOMAN what her
name was ...
so it ’s FINE that it FEELS WEIRD, but that ’s not a reason not to do it, because it ’s just
part of changing, living breathing SOCIAL CONTRACTS
with one another!
and remember, mistakes WILL
HAPPEN.
it could mean that you are really messing with my MENTAL
HEALTH in that moment.
it could feel like you are INVALIDATING my ENTIRE EXISTENCE.
“ ... and then ask the
world to ALSO
UNDERSTAND, and to
be OK with it.”
but some people identify as NON-BINARY, GENDERQUEER, or
AGENDER.*
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