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Andrew John Cocks

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Dedication

This book is dedicated to all of my friends,family, associates and mentors withgratitude for the insights, coaching, adviceand support youve given me all these yearsthat has helped me reach my goals.

This book is also dedicated to every singleperson who has a burning desire to be, do

or have more in their life.

Andrew John Cocks

Author, Your Million Dollar LifestyleCertified Life Success ConsultantSales Representative, Bowes & CocksLimited, Brokerage



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Foreword

There really is a formula for

abundance. You simply need to

understand, acquire, embrace, and

apply consistently the now readily

available secrets to acquire Your

Million Dollar Lifestyle.

From Henry Ford, Charles Schwab,Alexander Graham Bell, John D. Rockefeller,

Thomas Edison, to Stephen Jobs, Bill Gates,

Ray Kroc, Sam Walton, Jeff Bezos, Oprah

Winfrey, Donald Trump A roll call of super-

achievers yesterday and today What do

they all have in common? Success. But that

has a few requirements, too, like Self-

discipline. Highly effective personal habits.

Vision. Thought processes that virtually

guarantee the achievement of far-reaching



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goals. They each had or have a personal

understanding of how the universe works,

how to set, tackle, and accomplish goals,

and how to surround themselves with high-

quality people to serve as mentors,

sounding boards, and advisors.

In a world where people live lives

seemingly ruled by the clatter of lack and

futility, increasing crowds are awakening to

the reality theyve been duped. The old

rules of work hard, retire, and die are

being cast away. People want more. They

want more liberty, more from their

relationships, more from their moments on

Earth. They want to have more so that they

can do more, give more, and be more.But how?

Truth is, its very possible to be, do, and

have more. It is not a hap-hazard world we

live in, but one which follows the strict

regimen of cause and effect. Anytime

anyone raises themselves up, that better



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world was earned by them doing something

different in their lives. No matter who you

are or what your present situation may be,

the interdependent pieces of the formula to

riches can be learned, adopted, and

practiced to reliably and predictably rise to

achievement and abundance.

It all begins with your attitude. Take a

close look, because the way you show up

anywhere is the way you show up

everywhere.

The great news is that you have the

power to change. Even though a lot of your

programming happened before you were

even old enough to go to school, its not

written in stone. Your decisions, habits,thoughts, feelings, and actions are all a

matter of choice. But you must understand

the elements of the formula before you can

implementthem.

In Your Million Dollar Lifestyle Andrew

John Cocks has done an exceptional job



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presenting concisely the different elements

and attitudes that go into creating Your

Million Dollar Lifestyle, a world of plenty.

Your Million Dollar Lifestyle serves as a

primer for those who dare to reach for

more. In easy-to-understand language you

find out how you really can have all that you

desire. You learn how to make the simple

adjustments that will make a world of

difference in your results. Maybe a

Quantum leap

Literally, this book could be all thats

standing between you and Your Million

Dollar Lifestyle. So dont just dash off a read

and shelve it. Put it to use. Thats one

genius of this book. Its made to lead you toa more abundant, fulfilling life. Andrew is a

world class life and business success coach.

Hes skilled at his craft. He brings his

practical outlook into this book.

Any coach would ask you to do

something. So you have to do the book to



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really get it. Take some quiet moments to

do the Vision on Demand exercises. Listen

to what you say to yourself. Always

evaluate whether what youre doing now is

helping or harming you as you go for your

dreams.

Engage with the book to discover that

the only thing holding you back from

achieving your goals and dreams,

previously, was you. And, from this point

forward, youll know you can literally create

your life to order.

This is your opportunity to unleash YOUR

Million Dollar Lifestyle.



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Table of Contents

Chapter 1Time for an Attitude Check 15Chapter 2This is No Time to be Undecided

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Vision on Demand ................................................................44

Chapter 3Whats On Your Mind?

57The Seven Laws of the Universe .........................................68

Chapter 4Who on Earth are YOU?80Chapter 5

Better than New Years Resolutions104

List Your Goals ..................................................................109

Give Yourself a Deadline .................................................. 112

Whats in your way? ......................................................... 114

Whats the next step? ........................................................ 115Focus, focus, focus ............................................................. 116

Celebrate! ........................................................................... 119



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Rinse, wash, repeat ............................................................ 120

Chapter 6Become the Master of Your Habits

121Chapter 7Multiple Sources of Income

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Be prepared! .......................................................................155

Professionals You Need to Know ..................................... 172

Mentors ...............................................................................174

MasterMind Groups ..........................................................176

The Success Buddy ............................................................ 184

Your future is in your hands ............................................ 187



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Introduction

Welcome to Your Million Dollar Lifestyle,

and congratulations on taking the first step

toward achieving your fondest dream, your

hearts desire, and the fulfillment of your

potential. You were created according to a

wonderful plan, created to make great

contributions to your world, to put to use all

that you are and all that you have in the

pursuit of excellence. You were created to

dream, to live an abundant life, to fulfill agreat purpose, and to have powerful, loving

relationships along the way.

This book was written to help you create

the life you dream of, to help you live your

best life. As a Certified Life Success

Consultant, Ive compiled the most

important concepts, practices, and tools

that I use with my coaching and consulting

clients into this one book.



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My hope is that youll read it, of course,

but that you wont stop there. I want you to

take responsibility for your own life, to press

onward toward living your best life. You get

one shot at living your life; make sure you

live it on purpose. Dont settle for a life

thats good enough or about as good as

youd expect. Be proactive! Take charge!

Become all you need to be so that you can

live the way you want to live.

Your coach to the core, Im here with you

during the whole journey. I know you can do

it!

Andrew John CocksAuthor, Your Million Dollar LifestyleCertified Life Success Consultant



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Sales Representative, Bowes & CocksLimited Brokerage



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Chapter 1

Time for an Attitude Check

Got an attitude? Is it helping you, or

could it use some work?

Bills sitting in traffic his attitude

stinks, so he feels angry at the other

drivers for being in the way. He wishes

theyd disappear theyre not even

human to him anymore, and he doesnt

remember that theyve got lives,

destinations, concerns, joys, and dreams.He just wants them gone. He knows he

did this to himself, by leaving too late to

account for traffic. He hates being late,

but hes finding himself late more and

more often. But, right before he left, he

grouched at his family, couldnt find his

socks, and then decided he had to take a

quick peek at email. So he left no room

to spare in his drive time. And now heslooking at a sea of brake lights, waiting



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through several turns of the traffic light.

Fuming. He can feel his pulse on his

forehead, a ticking bomb. Finally, he

sees the hold-up an accident. He feels

awful because of his selfish impatience

for a moment.

OR

Tracys sitting in the same traffic jam,

even though she left early. But shes

listening to an audio book, reading when

shes at a standstill, or taking the time to

breathe deeply and meditate. Shes

counting her blessings, taking time to be

grateful for all that she is, has, and hopes

for. She wonders about the other drivers

around her, and notices some reallygrouchy guy in the car to the right. Looks

like he might explode is that his pulse

beating on his forehead? She says a

prayer for him and all the other drivers,

too. She knows that when she finally gets

where shes got to go, shell be able to



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cope with any effects of being late from

the traffic.

There is a world of difference between

these two commutes. And its all because of

attitude. No big surprise, your attitude

affects every area of your life.

The quality of your relationships

The health of your finances

The state of your physical health

Your appearance

How long youll live

How effective youll be in helping

others

How successful youll be in your job or

business

An attitude is made of our thoughts,

feeling, and ultimately, our actions. Its

formed in that order too.


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Notice that thoughts come first. It might

seem strange, because it certainly seemslike our feelings hijack our thoughts and

propel us into actions not the other way

around. But youll see, as we look at how

your mind works, that your thoughts are the

real powerhouse the boss, the launch pad

that sets everything else in motion. Each

thought is powerful for your good or your

harm.

Feelings can be overwhelming,

seemingly uncontrollable, driving you

toward inevitable actions. But youre going

to learn how you can control your feelings

and actions before anythings set in motion.

Either way, for good or for bad results, our

thinking and feeling determine how things

work out in our lives. Our results are just

that the effects of whats going on inside

us. What a relief not to live at the mercy of

emotion! As well see in Chapter 3, learning



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exactly how your mind works and the seven

universal laws will give you the keys to

creating and living a meaningful, abundant

life.

Before you can really get going in the

direction of change, youve got to do an

attitude check first. You can read until your

eyeballs fall out and your fingers get

calloused from turning pages, but without

the right attitude in place, youre wasting

your time. With a poor attitude, theres no

information on Earth that can help you

change your life. Take a look at your

attitude about yourself, your life, the people

in your life, your finances, your health, and

your place in the universe. How does itlook?

You are the only problem you will everhave and you are the only solution.Change is inevitable, personal growth is

always a personal decision. - Bob Proctor



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There are lots of things in life you really

dont have much of a choice about, but your

attitude is not one of them. Your attitude is

completely up to you. I can tell you right

away, that a positive, grateful attitude is

the best way to go. Gratitude - for what

youve already got, for where you live, who

you know, all that you are, and all that

youre not is the place to start. How can

you ever expect to receive more in life, to

be more in life, without first appreciating

how much you already have and are?

Your attitude is a choice. Success is all

about making great choices, and this is the

first one you need to tackle. It might takepractice. It might take reminding yourself. It

might even take a fake it til you make it

stance, but youve got to do it.

So, whats your attitude like right now?

You can probably see others attitudes,

but its a little harder when youre looking



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at your own. Lets take a look, to start off

right, seeing just where we are. Grab a

quiet corner and eavesdrop on your own

thoughts. What do you hear? Jot these

thoughts onto some paper, and then read

them out loud. How do they sound?

Negative? Positive? Friendly? Critical?

Your thoughts are very powerful. They

shape your mood, your attitude, and even

affect your appearance. Your attitude has a

big impact on the people around you as

well. With your attitude, you can bless

people with a sense of being recharged,

revived just from being around you. It

works the other way too, if your attitude

stinks, its going to either drag those aroundyou down or send them scurrying for cover.

Your negative attitude drains the joy out of

the room.

Why is your attitude so powerful? Can

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Sure, you can! Its simple, even if its not

always easy.

Our attitude toward life determineslifes attitude towards us. - EarlNightingale

What do you think about? How do you

look at life? Are you like Woody Allen? Given

the old question about whether a cup is

half-full or half-empty, he said he didnt

even think he had a cup!

You get to choose your focus every

moment of the day. If you choose to look on

the dark side, you cultivate a negative

attitude. Guess what follows?

More negativity, and then negative

results. Its making the proverbial mountain

out of a molehill. You make yourself

miserable, and infect everyone else around

you at the same time. You pretty much ask

for trouble in life, attracting the very things

you despise because youre so focused on



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them. Your problems seem insurmountable

because you feel like you just cant handle

them. You become small. You get a free

license to complain although theres no

guarantee that anyone will stay around to

listen.

The opposite is true, too. Aside from a

great attitude being conducive to living a

healthy life and attracting friends, it also

makes life more enjoyable and less

stressful. You have a sense of being larger

than any problem that comes your way, and

know youve got a great support system to

help if you need it. You feel good about the

future, and are energized enough to work

toward making things happen. You canpicture, with great detail, the life you want

to live. You can confidently design the life

you want, the life youll have.

Everyones heard the computer tech

phrase garbage in, garbage out. But how



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do you prevent the garbage from getting in

in the first place? Take a look around you

the worlds got some problems! Youve got

to be vigilant, aware, and willing to make

some changes.

Your attitude is formed by your thoughts.

But where do your thoughts come from?

You get to choose! What input will you allow

into your mind? Here are a few areas to

consider:

Who do you spend time with?

What do you read?

What do you watch on TV?

What do you do in the car?

How organized are you?

What do you do when youre frustrated?

How do you spend your day?

What do you do before you go to sleep?



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Everyones read the statistics about how

much time people spend watching TV. Its

contributed to a whole host of troubles,

from obesity to bankruptcy. Laziness,

overeating, over-spending, shorter attention

spans, ADHD, divorce, promiscuity,

cancer its all been blamed on TV at some

point!

One things for sure, though. Theres a

lot of junk on TV. Theres a lot of really bad

news, a lot of negativity, a lot of people

treating one another badly. Is it burying

your head in the sand if you choose not to

watch this stuff? No, not at all. There are

many other ways you can stay informed of

whats going on in the world without sittingthrough long stretches of news broadcasts,

and commercials. Most of the news focuses

on people doing things that range from

foolish to downright evil. Its not a call to

action its really more like an opportunity



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to peek. Why would you allow this into your

thoughts?

Did you know that many of the worlds

most successful entrepreneurs launched

their businesses in their spare time? Their

money-making machines were built on their

own time, not at their jobs. How much time

do you waste watching TV that you could

spend doing something productive

something life-changing? Just like any other

habit, TV-watching can be tough to limit or

eliminate at first. But once youve freed

yourself, youll be amazed by the results.

Youll find yourself having more energy, a

more positive outlook, a great attitude.

Youll find time to start a business, learnsomething new, get organized, and create

Your Million Dollar Lifestyle.

Your mental attitude is something you

can control outright and you must use self-discipline until you create a positivemental attitude - your mental attitude



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attracts to you everything that makes youwhat you are. - Napoleon Hill

Be careful about the people you choose

to spend time with. Birds of a feather

right? We dont get to choose everyone

whos in our lives, but there are quite a few

where we do have that privilege. If youve

got negative people in your life, theyre

going to be really puzzled when you start to

change. Some may decide to change, too

and wont that be great! But most are just

going to stay the course. If you explain to

them how youre trying to grow and

improve, theyre not going to get it. Some

of them will try to shoot you down; others

will just move on to find another grump to

hang around.

What about your family? A bit tougher,

right? You dont just get to dump them! But

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going to take this whole family thing in

another direction. There will be no more

negativity allowed! However, you do get to

be an agent of change. What you do, how

you live and think and speak will make a

gradual difference in your home. The best

approach is to demonstrate it rather than to

talk about it. Your family might think youre

nuts if you start quoting motivational

speakers, using strange terms and phrases,

and asking them to read this passage or

that. But, if you start living with a great

attitude in a humble and quiet way, theyll

see the difference and want to be like you.

It can take time, of course, because youve

got some negative patterns to overturn.They might even secretly notice that youre

different, but want to wait for the other

shoe to hit the floor to see whether the

new you sticks. Theyll come around

eventually, and you will have done a great

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If youre a big reader, words have a

strong impact on your thoughts. You

immerse yourself in the pages, so

enthralled that you dont notice the time

passing. If you read fiction, you find that

you feel you know the characters, feel for

them, miss them when youre finished

reading. It can be a great imaginary escape.

Its got its place, for sure. But, you should

also be diligent in reading books that will

add to your development. There are shelves

and shelves full of great books about

achievement, success, business,

entrepreneurship, self-improvement,

memory-improvement, marketing,

investing, wealth creation, and leadership.Just as you meet your nutritional needs by

eating a balanced diet, its important to

feed your brain a good variety of books.

Audio books are an excellent way to kill

two birds with one stone. The time you

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brain-dead robot time to an oasis of self-

improvement and growth. Lots of successful

entrepreneurs refer to their cars as rolling

universities because theyve found a way

to redeem what would otherwise be wasted

time. If you spend your driving time

listening to a good speaker, or quietly

envisioning your goals, youll find that the

time goes by more quickly and pleasantly.

Youll arrive smarter, more pleasant, and

invigorated.

A big challenge to maintaining a good

attitude is stress. One common source of

stress is being disorganized. Disorganization

leads to aggravation, making you late as

you rush around looking for those lost keys,your belt, your wallet. Its a habit, so its

going to take some concerted effort to

change, but you can become much more

organized if you apply yourself. The best

way to get organized is to develop systems

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do, in the same order, in the same way

every time you have a certain situation. You

do it consistently until you can pretty much

do it in your sleep. Its the way you brush

your teeth you probably have a certain

pattern, a certain timing. Its become so

automatic that youre barely aware youve

done it at times. If you can develop a single

system at a time say, first for a routine

youll follow every time you come home. Put

the briefcase here, the keys there, check

the voicemail, etc. Be conscious to do it the

same way every day, and youll be amazed

at how easy it is after a while. Youll be able

to find your keys every morning (unless

gremlins really do come out at night andhide your keys!).

How do you handle yourself when you

get frustrated or disappointed? This is a

biggie. Youve had times when something

didnt go right, and your attitude was off for

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better chance at making it through with a

good attitude intact if you plan ahead. You

can create a system for how you handle

difficulties. Doing so will help you by giving

you a sense of which end is up, keeping you

from reacting rashly, and guard your

attitude from taking a nosedive.

The first key is to stop and think before

you react. Take a deep breath. Focus on

thinking rationally. You can handle this.

Youve got all the resources you need, right

at your fingertips to get through this

difficulty. Take a moment to reflect on that

fact and to be grateful for the help youll

receive. Remind yourself that if youve got

such great help, youre actually much largerthan your problem. Its just a matter of time

before you find a great solution. Be thankful

for all the positive aspects of the situation.

If you have a fender-bender, you can be

thankful that you have a car, that youve

got insurance, that nobody was hurt, that



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youve got an opportunity to demonstrate

grace and mercy. Approaching any situation

from this calm, grateful mindset ensures

that your attitude will help rather than

harm.

How you spend your day greatly affects

your thoughts, which form your attitude. If

youve ever had a day when you were really

busy, in a good way, productive, and

purposeful, you know how good it felt. Your

attitude was great, you treated people well,

you were grateful for every blessing that

came your way, and you slept well at night.

On the other hand, if you spend a day doing

nothing and not nothing like on vacation!

you probably grew a little cross as the daywent by. You were more tempted to

overeat, to watch junk TV, to be crabby. You

went to bed unsatisfied, grumpy, glad the

day was finally over. Its important to plan a

good, meaty day everyday. You need to be

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time alone and time with people. You need

time each day to do something creative.

You need a little challenge every day.

Orchestrating one productive day after

another leads to great results, and leaves

you with a great attitude, which brings even

more results.

Finally, the last 15 20 minutes of each

day are really valuable. Dont waste them.

This is a great time to spend a few minutes

expressing gratitude for the day, for the

people you saw, the things you did, the help

you received. Spend some time reading

words that continue to change your heart

and mind, nurturing your spirit by drawing

you closer to your creator. Use the time toenjoy picturing your goals, fleshing out

every detail before you fall asleep. Your

brain keeps working while you sleep, so

right before bedtime is an excellent time to

give it something great to work on all night.

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a good attitude, and youll wake up inspired

and ready to jump into another great day.



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Chapter 2

This is No Time to be

Undecided

Say you want to make a change in your

life. What do you do?

Will simply deciding to change your life

someday make it happen? Probably not.

Will putting that decision in writing make

it happen? Maybe, but probably not.

To make a significant change in your life,

youve got to go about it the right way, or

else it will fall by the wayside like a wish to

start your own business, stop smoking, or

learn a new language. Theres a world of

difference between a wish and a decision.

The word decision actually means to cut

off all other options. Thats pretty decisive.

For many different reasons, some people

have a really hard time making a decision.

Maybe theyre afraid theyll get themselves

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they fear theyll fail, so they dont even go

for it. Maybe theyre worried about what

other people will say. Even though many

people would certainly say they wish they

could make more money, be happier, get

along better with others, get in shape, or

live in a healthier way, for most people, its

always just a wish. Moving from wish to

decision is crucial for anyone who wants to

make a big change.

We make decisions all the time, whether

were aware of it or not. Some decisions are

made on auto-pilot, and that works well in

some cases, but not in others. When you

engage in a bad habit, youre making a

decision to continue self defeating behavior.When you engage in positive behavior, you

decide to do that, too. We make decisions

based on our thoughts and emotions. Then

our decisions bring about our actions, and

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So how do you do what you need to do?

You start with a committed decision. What

do you want? How do you plan to get it?

Whats involved, whats required of you in

order to move forward toward your goal?

One decision you make stays the same

during the whole journey toward your

dream that decision is your goal, what

youre aiming for, what you want.

On the way there, youve got a host of

decisions to make, too. Each day, you

decide what attitude youll have, what youll

do with your time and energy, how youll

talk and think about your goal, what tactics

youll engage to move forward. Each

decision you make automatically cuts offlots of other options.

Pam decided to start a Network

Marketing business last year. She

decided that within a year, shed be at

the level where shed get paid to drive a

white Mercedes-Benz. She decided that



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shed build her business by building a

team of other motivated consultants. She

decided that shed do whatever it took to

get to her goal, even if it felt

uncomfortable. Shed do it even if it felt

hopeless. Shed do it even if she didnt

feel like it. Each day, as she got ready to

work her business, she knew what to do.

This is because her decision determined

her to do list. Shed cut off her other

options it wasnt an option for her to

spend the day watching reality TV. It

wasnt an option to quit after ten people

in a row said, No thank you. Now, a

year later, shes right on the edge of

qualifying for that car! If shed beenwishy-washy all along, shed probably

have quit.

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Heres the rub most of us struggle to

make decisions because were not used to

fully committing ourselves. We waste a lot

of time using limiting language, language

that leaves us an escape route. We say:

Ill try

Maybe

I wish I could

I might

Making firm, committed decisions takes

practice. Youve got to watch what comes

out of your mouth, making sure to use

language that communicates your certainty,

commitment and unlimited potential. It gets

easier the more often you do it. It also helps

to have someone else who can call your

attention to any limiting language you use.

Of course, this brings up a big question.

What do you want? Its pretty hard to



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decide which route to take if you dont know

where you want to go! If you wanted to take

a driving vacation from Maine to California,

would you just hop in your car, head west,

and hope for the best? No, of course not!

Youd make a series of decisions before you

took action. Youd answer questions like:

Where in California do I want to go?

How long do I want this trip to take?

What would I like to see on the way?

Where will I stay overnight during the

trip?

Can my car get me there?

What preparations do I need to make

before I leave?

What should I pack?

Who will come with me?

How much will this trip cost?

Youd get a good map and plan your

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to see on the way. Youd probably get an

audio book or two to listen to on the way.

Youd pack a suitcase full of everything you

need to bring. Youd pack your cell phone in

case you ran into trouble. Theres a lot of

preparation and its only a vacation!

When it comes to your life, should you

plan less? If you dont actively make

decisions about your life, youre essentially

deciding that its not important enough.

Youll find yourself tossed here and there,

never knowing whether youre succeeding

or failing, relying on old habits and

behaviors, just wishing for something

better.

The first decision youve got to make iswhat you want. Knowing that we live in a

world full of possibilities, as people full of

potential, your options are unlimited. But

youve got to choose a destination, or you

wont know where youre going or how to

get there. Without a clear map, youll be



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blown off track by every passing difficulty

and have no way to right yourself and

proceed onward.

How do you decide what you want? Start

somewhere anywhere. Pick a topic:

Your house

Your business Your health

Your relationships

Your spirituality

Your hobbies

How you help others

Thinking about that one area of your life,

begin to ask yourself detailed questions

about all the particulars. Write them or draw

them, so that youve got as much detail as

possible on paper. The way you translate

your decision into action, then into results,

begins with your mind. Youve got a

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command your mind, and a great

technology to put it to use called Vision on

Demand. But, youve first got to have your

decision firm in your mind. What, exactly,

do you want? Until this is absolutely spelled

out, you give yourself an out youll

never be fully committed to a decision

thats vague. Only when your decision is

detailed enough to become a solemn vow,

can you proceed toward success. Get the

details firmly planted in your mind, and on

paper. Then, its time to roll the film!

Vision on Demand

Just like you may have Video on Demand

as part of your cable or satellite TV service,your brains got something called Vision on

Demand.

What happens when you go to the

movies? You enter the theatre and take a

seat. Its dark so youll look at the screen

rather than your surroundings. Youve got



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to turn off your cell phone so you dont ruin

the sense of suspended reality for the other

moviegoers. You sit, watching. If its a

compelling movie, you feel completely

drawn in. You jump when its startling, you

laugh and cry when the story calls for it

youre pretty much at the mercy of the

people who made this movie. Your emotions

follow suit. You are so into it that it almost

feels jarring when you return back to

reality. A great film impacts you so that you

still feel it after its over, and your mind is

drawn back again and again. You roll the

plot subtleties over in your mind, wonder

what the characters were thinking, replay

the soundtrack until its tattooed on yourbrain, and feel like you could easily run the

dialogue lines with your friends.

Vision on Demand works the same way.

You can use this Vision on Demand

technology to harness the engine of your

imagination to gain a clearer picture of your



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success. By visualizing your peak

performance, your achievement, you

imprint the details on your mind. Create an

image in your mind of your goal. Be as

detailed as you can be, including all your

sensory factors, until its as real to you as if

you were actually living it.

Kates goal is to one day live on

Sanibel Island in Florida. Shes visited

there many, many times, and knows the

place like she knows her hometown.

When she utilizes her Vision on Demand

technology, she closes her eyes and

imagines herself driving across the

causeway in her convertible. She crosses

the bridge, enjoying the view of Ft. Myersto the left, and little islands to the right.

Brown pelicans glide by, as if racing with

her car. She comes to the stop sign at

the end of the bridge and turns right.

Making another quick right, she coasts

down a street lined with live oak trees.



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Theres a wonderful canopy overhead,

and dappled sunshine on the road. She

turns left just before the waterfront, and

sees her home at the end of the road. It

backs onto the Gulf of Mexico, which is

pale green in the sunlight today. There

are date palms and Washington palms

lining the driveway. A white wrought-iron

gate swings open, and her car rolls into

the driveway. She hears a solid thump

when she closes her car door. She can

feel the cool metal of her key as she

unlocks her door, the rush of cool air-

conditioned air as she steps into the

foyer. She sees a large pedestal table.

On it is a gigantic, exotic fresh flowerarrangement, and a note from her

husband. Be back for dinner Ill bring

fresh grouper and a bottle of wine. She

changes into her bathing suit and slips

into the refreshingly cool plunge pool on

her lanai. Ahhhhh she relaxes while



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watching some dolphins swim up the

coastline.

Sounds pretty fabulous, doesnt it?

Are you thinking that the fantasy sounds

good, but the idea of anything productive

coming from spending time imagining is just

plain silly?

Think about this. What happens when

you worry? You focus on a problem youve

got. Your mind plays out all bad outcomes

possible.

Youll be humiliated. Youll be shown to

be a fraud, incompetent. Youll suffer bad

consequences. Others will look down on

you. On and on it goes. Right when your

stomach starts to knot and churn, you pushthe eject button.

Essentially, theres not much difference

in the process between the Florida fantasy

and the headache-inducing dread. Its a

process like rehearsing. Youve conjured up

a synthetic experience it hasnt actually



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happened, but you can feel it all the same.

You can imagine it happening. Youre even

motivated to take action based on what

youve imagined. In the worry model,

youve played out every detail the

feelings, what youll see and hear, how

youll act, what everyone will say its all

unpleasant. In the fantasy model, youve

played out the same details, but its

desirable enough that you want to make it

happen.

As you go about deciding what you want

for your life, spend time using the Vision on

Demand technology for every area. The

more you practice using it, the easier and

more automatic it becomes. You begin to fillin more details each time, and see it more

clearly. In doing this exercise, you imprint

your wishes on your sub-conscious, which

has no choice but to make it so.

Using your Vision on Demand technology

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obstacles on the way to achieving your

dream. Whether or not obstacles stop you

dead in your tracks depends on how

committed you are to start with.

If youve only got some vague idea about

someday maybe living a better life, making

more money, or getting into good shape,

youll be easily distracted. Our attention

span is brief when were not fully vested in

our goal.

Joel wants to lose weight. Hes tired of

feeling sluggish, looking round, and having

to let his belt out on a regular basis. He

decides to do something about it. Hell walk

every day, watch what he eats, and cut

back on the beer. Its a good plan, hethinks, and he wakes up Monday morning

feeling full of purpose.

And then comes Monday Night Football.

His buddies arrive at the door, bearing

pepperoni pizza. Another guy puts a case of

beer into the fridge, chucking the bag of



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carrots and the bottled water out onto the

counter in disgust. Within minutes, Joel has

eaten everything he could get his hands on,

completely forgetting his earlier decision.

Later, he thinks, If only I could get

motivated enough, I could do this. He

throws in the towel until the next time his

waistband feels too tight.

What went wrong? Joels goal was pretty

vague to start with, he had no real plan,

nothing to tie his motivation to action, and

no preparation to deal with the inevitable

challenges hed face. A more richly detailed

image of his goal would have provided him

with a glimpse of success so real he could

feel it. He could have rehearsed what heddo when met with bumps in the road.

Having a detailed image in place is really

helpful because it keeps us focused on and

actively creating the result we decided to

create. It completely revolutionizes our

concept of failure. It makes us brave



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enough to try something we or others

havent done before, or something weve

tried before without success.

Winners in life are not people whove

never failed. They are people whove

probably failed more than other people

have ever even tried new things. What

separates winners from the rest is that

theyve learned how to move past failure,

keeping their goals in sight all along the

way. It takes courage. It takes commitment.

It takes a clear and detailed dream and a

plan.

If you regularly spend time utilizing the

Vision on Demand technology, you are

consistently imprinting your goal onto yoursubconscious mind. When you choose to

spend time thinking about what you want,

in great detail, you stay motivated.

Imagining your success as if it had already

happened starts a process by which your

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have setbacks along the way, theyre

perceived as small annoyances rather than

insurmountable obstacles. In fact, your

mind doesnt even recognize them as

setbacks at all anymore. Theyre merely

signals to adjust your course so that youre

aimed more directly at success.

Its a lot like flying in a jet plane. Most of

the time, in spite of the pilots expertise,

the navigators excellent skills, and a well-

designed flight plan, your plane is

technically off course. Yet you end up at

your destination without ever knowing that

you were, technically, lost! The planes

systems are programmed to get you from

point A to point B. But lots of little factorsimpact the flight so that slight modifications

must always be made to keep the plane on

course. When you create your vision, its

like filing a flight plan. You know where

youre going, your mind is following your

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destination. As you go forward, you run into

obstacles, challenges, and you find yourself

with a choice. You could just throw in the

towel, abort your trip, come up with a bunch

of excuses, and say, Oh well. I tried, but it

just didnt work. Or, you can course correct

and keep going.

The decisions just the first part. You

commit yourself to following through, to the

path youve chosen no matter what. You

contemplate the obstacles youre likely to

encounter and commit yourself to moving

past them rather than quitting. You cant

curse in the darkness what you decided in

the light. You reflect on your decision often,

reminding yourself of your goal and all theparticulars of your commitment.

The way to develop decisiveness is tostart right where you are, with the verynext question you face. - Napoleon Hill



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And then you act! Any true decision is

followed by action. Taking consistent

actions that youve decided to take in

pursuit of your goal has an almost magical

effect. Action brings results. Results

reinforce your resolve and help you build

momentum. The more momentum youve

got, the easier it is to push past the barriers

that seem to be in your way.

It all starts with your decision. A firm,

well thought-out decision, complete with a

plan and a vision brings you to the point of

making a solemn vow to yourself, a

covenant. Youre not going to back out of

this youre in it for the long haul. Youve

cut off every other option. Youve thoughtabout this so much that you can roll the film

on demand. You can see, hear, taste, touch

and smell it because youve fleshed out

every detail in with your Vision on Demand

technology. Spend time everyday with your

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see it on a screen. Use it to guide and

motivate you, to keep you going when

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Chapter 3

Whats On Your Mind?

Its all in your mind.

Remember, its mind over matter

Change your mind.

A mind is a terrible thing to waste.

Pretty universal slogans by now. But

what exactlyare we talking about? What is

the mind? Obviously its got to do with

thought, so its kind of related to the brain.

And the brains pretty important the bossof your body, sending signals to breathe,

pump the heart, move the muscles, and

function. But the brain and the mind arent

quite the same thing. Animals of all kinds

have some form of brain, but we dont think

of them as having a mind like ours.

Its in the mind that we have creativity,

imagination, goals, hopes, dreams,

empathy for others. Its not all lovely inthere we also have anxiety, confusion,



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conflict, and some pretty mean voices. So

what does this mind-thing look like? Its not

the mass of slimy, squiggly tissue that we

picture when we think brain. Its a concept.

Having a deep and thorough

understanding of your mind, and how it

operates will give you the power to create

every circumstance or result you desire.

Youll learn how to get what you want by

following the laws that govern your mind

and the universe, rather than wishing for

some good luck to come your way.

One trait common to people whove

created great wealth is that their minds are

orderly. You need this quality, too. Your

mind should be characterized by itsorderliness. This order includes your picture

of yourself, of what you want, and of what

you do.

Dr. Thurman Fleet, father of Concept

Therapy, came up with a great illustration in

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devised a figure called The Stickperson. The

Stickperson divides the mind into three

parts: the Conscious, the Subconscious, and

the Body. Weve got to have some sort of

image to look at to understand how the

mind works. While this graphic is simple, it

unlocks concepts that can be hard to grasp

otherwise.

A close examination of The Stickperson

will bring you a solid understanding of

where your thoughts and feelings come

from, how they lead to action, and then to

results. Youll also realize that The

Stickperson is a universal concept every

humans mind works the same way. Each

person is governed by the same universallaws. This understanding will benefit you in

every circumstance when you deal with

people in business, at home, and among

friends. Youll begin to see them in a

different way, one in which you understand

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Heres how each part works together

The Conscious Mind

This is the part that thinks. Your

conscious mind makes decisions, reasons,

holds preferences, makes plans, sets goals,

and chooses what to think about all day.

This is the part of your mind that enjoys

free will. You also process what you

experience in your conscious mind. You use

it to imagine and create. You make


BODY

Subconscious

Mind

MIND

BODY

Conscious

Mind


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decisions about what you will and wont do,

will and wont believe, will and wont

concentrate on. You focus on a project or

goal. You reason, weigh options, and find

solutions. You choose the thoughts you

create, or settle for thoughts someone else

gives you. Youve got the power to accept

or reject any idea that comes to your mind.

Nobody and nothing can force you to think

about something you dont want to think

about. Whichever way you go, you imprint

your conscious thoughts onto your

subconscious mind. Its as if your conscious

mind is the king. The king makes his wishes

known, and everyone else jumps into action

to comply.The Subconscious Mind

Your subconscious is fascinating wild,

vast, and mysterious. High achievers have

worked to gain a solid understanding of how

the subconscious mind works. They

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mind how it affects their results in a very

powerful way. The subconscious mind isnt

confined to your brain it lives and works in

every cell of your body. This is the part of

your mind that swings into action at night

when you dream no rules, no logic, no

limits, no impossibilities. When you awaken,

your subconscious mind snaps to attention,

ready to ask how high when your

conscious mind tells it to jump. It is

completely without reason, without the

power to differentiate truth from lies; it

accepts every thought the conscious mind

gives it without question.

Your conscious mind impresses thought

after thought on your subconscious mind,which in turn demonstrates and expresses

these thoughts through your feelings and

actions. Thoughts that are frequent and

repeated burn themselves deeply into the

subconscious mind, becoming a fixture in

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lives of their own, becoming habits and

paradigms. Living these ideas becomes

effortless because of the repetition.

Changing these ideas requires purposeful

effort.

The subconscious mind is the faithful

servant to the king the conscious mind. It

exercises every resource to obey when the

conscious mind makes a statement or

request. It doesnt discriminate between

what seems possible, likely, healthy, good,

or bad.

A huge part of your subconscious minds

job is to make it so. It commands your

body and your senses to do its bidding. You

think, Id like to find a great home-basedbusiness opportunity. Your subconscious

says, Right on it! and commissions you to

look for home-based business opportunities.

Similarly, if you think, Im never going to

fall asleep. Im going to be exhausted

tomorrow, your subconscious mind still



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says, Right on it! and marshals every

thought, anxiety, and obscure song lyric

youve ever heard in order to keep you up

all night and leave you feeling exhausted

the next day.

The subconscious mind is a tireless and

efficient worker. It does whatever it is told,

without question. It accepts every thought

your conscious mind plants there and does

everything possible to obey completely and

immediately.

The Body

Successful people pay close attention to

their bodies, too. They recognize that the

body is just the outward manifestation ofthe inside elements conscious and

subconscious mind. Our bodies, full of

vibration, perform and look the way they do

because of the internal workings that

impact it. In learning to interpret our bodies

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feelings and others as well as other non-

verbal communications between people.

Your body houses your conscious and

sub-conscious mind. It is the tool your mind

uses to enact your thoughts. Your body

brings about the actions and results your

mind directs. Your body is like the fruit on a

tree. It shows what you think about; it does

what you command it to do; it obeys your

subconscious mind in its commission to

fulfill the orders your conscious mind gives.

Rather like a field thats ready to harvest,

your body is a visual demonstration of the

thoughts youve planted and tended. Your

body doesnt think at all it simply serves

as a canvas for your mind it shows on theoutside whatever is going on the inside. It is

a result, not a cause.

When youre going about making

changes in your life, it would be foolish to

start on the outside and work your way

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the appearance and performance of the

outside. So, it only makes sense to focus on

your thoughts first, and watch what

happens through your body.

What we are today comes from ourthoughts of yesterday, and our present

thoughts build our life of tomorrow. Ourlife is the creation of our mind. - Buddha

Dieting is the perfect example of how

this system works. Most dieters hope to lose

weight by focusing on the outside on thephysical components of weight loss. They

decrease their nutritional intake; they deny

themselves; they increase their activity

levels, exercising regularly in hopes of

melting their extra weight. However, most

of them fail because they neglect the inside

arena. The results theyve got now extra

weight came from an interior source

what theyve thought and focused on, how

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following a strict eating and exercise plan

may remove some excess weight for a time,

it doesnt address the source.

The conscious mind must have different

input for the system as a whole to change.

Since we have the privilege of choosing our

thoughts, we must choose thoughts that are

empowering, that are purposeful, that lead

to the results we want. The conscious mind

is able to choose and think these thoughts

at will. The subconscious mind puts it all

into action, summoning every necessary

resource to get the results the conscious

mind has requested. Finally, the body

demonstrates, in living color, what the mind

has done.Understanding how the mind works is

one crucial component for engineering

change and success. Understanding how

the universe works is the other necessary

component. Without a solid understanding

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are without any understanding of how to

succeed. It would be like trying to play a

game without any comprehension of the

rules or the way to win a pointless,

frustrating experience.

The Seven Laws of the UniverseJust as there are physical laws that

govern how the physical world works

gravity, for example, there are also laws

that govern how the universe works.

Understanding these laws is critical to

achieving success learn them and work

with them, not against them.

1. The Law of Perpetual Transmutation

Basically, this law states that what starts

as energy changes into what is physical.

Everything around you everything you

see, hear, smell, touch, or taste began as

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forms what is physical. Everything is in

constant motion, and that motion is

always changing. Energy can not be

created or destroyed, just moved and

changed. Our thoughts make themselves

manifest in the physical world. In other

words, what we think about, we bring

about.

2. The Law of Relativity

The way we perceive any object, thing,

person, or idea is always relative to how

we see another object, thing, person, or

idea. Its the way we gauge what we see

bigger, smaller, good, bad, better,

worse. The whole universe is designed to

work together, with all the lawscorresponding rather than conflicting. All

the laws apply equally to everything in

the universe regardless of their size,

strength, or awareness of the laws.

Everything in the universe has its own

rate of vibration high, low, and in-



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between we can only evaluate the rate

of vibration based on a comparison with

the rates of other things. In your life, you

see this law played out as you compare

yourself to other people. You are

reasonably attractive, right? Now, say

someone enters the room who has

entirely unfortunate looks you feel

simply gorgeous in comparison. But what

if a supermodel enters the room next?

How good-looking are you then? Its all

relative. The core of this law is that

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3. The Law of Vibration

This law says that nothing is at rest in

the universe its all constantly

vibrating. Our awareness of that

vibration is what we call feeling. Our

feelings are determined by vibration, and

we determine our rate of vibration by our

thoughts and the paradigms we use to

look at life. Youve experienced this if

youve ever walked into an office or

house where people were just quarreling.

The tension in the air is thick enough to

cut with a knife, and you instantly know

youve interrupted something

unpleasant.

Our thoughts consist of vibrations wesend out to the universe. When we focus

or concentrate on our thoughts, the

vibrations grow stronger. Thoughts are

the strongest vibration to move through

the universe. The Creator created the

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and invisible from nothing, using

thoughts and words. Humans are the

only creation who share the power of

thought with the Creator, and that makes

us special. This power to think, this gift of

spirit, is what it means to be created in

the image of the Creator. Our thoughts

and prayers are very powerful, affecting

the physical world we live in.

Our awareness of vibration is what we

call our feelings. We see what its like to

be in a negative vibration when we say,

I feel bad today. A positive vibration

shows when we say, I feel great today!

Since vibration originates with our

thoughts, we can control whether we livein a positive or negative vibration

pattern. You use your brain to choose

which thoughts youll entertain it

doesnt choose a vibration itself. Youre

the master of your thoughts, of your

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central nervous system into the vibration

you choose.

Your mind is a storehouse of images

positive and negative, whatever you

allow to take up room there. If you

choose to dredge up, examine, and

review the negative, you will move into a

negative vibration negative feelings will

immediately follow. The reverse is true

positive thoughts lead to positive

vibration and a positive mood.

You become what you think about. -Earl Nightingale

4. The Law of Polarity

Everything has an equal opposite

up/down, good/bad, empty/full. There is

no such thing as a one-sided coin. No

object has only a left side without a right

side. Because everything not only has an

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understand. If you measure the room

and find it is eighteen feet from the wall

to the door, youll find its also eighteen

feet from the door to the wall. Seems

pretty obvious, but the understanding of

this law will really change how you look

at life.

Say something you think is really bad

happens to you according to the Law of

Polarity, there must be something

equally good about it, too.

Mathematically, if something happens to

you that you see as only being a little bit

bad, the flipside is that theres also a

little bit of good in that, too.

Because of the Law of Polarity, you alsoget to choose your thoughts on every

occurrence in life is this a good thing or

a bad thing? In reality, it just is. But you

have the privilege of interpretation you

can choose to view it as a positive or a

negative. From that choice, you set



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vibration in motion, determine your

feelings, and ultimately your actions and

results.

5. The Law of Rhythm

The whole universe moves in a repetitive

rhythm. The tides, the seasons, day andnight we can count on these regular

patterns to stay constant. If anything

moves forward, something else must

move backward; if anything grows

greater, something else shrinks. Every

action causes a reaction, and results in a

rhythmic swinging of vibration.

You see this law at work every day in the

peak and decline of your energy, the ups

and downs that you experience, the way

that our days are sometimes full and

busy and sometimes slow and lazy. Its

helpful to realize that our moods have anatural rhythm of ups and downs, and



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that even in the midst of a relatively

down mood, weve still got control of our

thoughts. Choosing good thoughts, even

when we feel down, propels us into a

positive vibration, evening out our

emotions and keeping us moving toward

our goals.

6. The Law of Cause and Effect

This law states that for every action,

there is an equal and opposite reaction.

What you send out into the universe

comes back. Luck, chance, and accidents

are non-existent. Everything in the

universe is subject to universal laws, and

everything that happens does sobecause it was caused. We see the result

of this law in the physical world in our

health, our bank accounts, and how

people treat us. The way we get results

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behind them. A changed cause must

produce a changed effect.

One way to change your cause is to

focus on it, using positive affirmations to

point you in the direction you wish to go.

In each area of your life, develop positive

statements you can repeat in your mind

regularly. These affirmations should be in

the present tense, carefully crafted to

focus you on what you really want.

7. The Law of Gender

This law describes how every seed has a

gestation period. We see it in nature all

the time you plant carrot seeds, and

can expect to wait about seventy daysbefore the carrot is ready to eat. If you

conceive a child, it takes about forty

weeks for the baby to be born. The same

is true for ideas. They are spiritual seeds,

and take time to become manifest. You

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designed to live, of living in a way that is

fulfilling and proactive.

If youre serious about making changes,

about winning in life, about living up to your

potential and helping everyone around you

to do the same, youll commit yourself to

learning these concepts. Reflect on them,

discuss them, and do all you can to

comprehend them teach them to others,

too. The more aware you are about how it

all works together, the more you can put

these ideas and laws to work for you so that

youll experience more success and less

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Chapter 4

Who on Earth are YOU?

Youve got lots of different ways to

introduce yourself to people:

Im a parent.

Im married.

Im a banker.

Im into boating.

All depends on who youre talking to, right?

But how do you describe yourself to

YOU? What comments do you make aboutyourself as you go through the day? What

do you expect from yourself? Its always

easier to see what our image of other

people is. Were pretty clear about how

much we like or dislike someone else.

Everyones had a less-than-wonderful co-

worker before you know, the one whos

always late, talks with food in her mouth,

wont stop showing pictures of her dogsaround the office. When shes got a big



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project to work on, everyone expects the

same pattern. First shell

boast about how she was the only one the

boss trusted to handle this project. Then

shell pester everyone else for advice on

how to do it, without ever taking their

recommendations. Next, shell huff and puff

around the office, complaining about

working overtime to complete the project.

Finally, shell squeak through at the last

minute with something the client is

miraculously pleased with after all.

Everyone complains about her, wishing

shed move on; nobody wants to be

cornered by her.

But what does she think of herself? Amystery, right? Because if it were you,

youd see how much of a jerk you were

being. Youd try to change. So its hard to

imagine she even gives a thought to her

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Its much harder to see what you think of

yourself. Its not as black and white as

observing someone else and forming an

opinion. When its you, its more complex.

Thats because you see everything you do

from the viewpoint of how you intended it to

go. You see motivations, nuances, history,

and feelings.

Science and psychology have isolatedthe one prime cause for success or failurein life. It is the hidden self-image you haveof yourself. - Bob Proctor

What you think of yourself, or self-image,

is a verdict made up of many different

pieces of evidence. You have, buzzing

around in your mind, input from a huge

number of witnesses:

Your parents

Your childhood friends

Your teachers

Your classmates



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Your spouse

Your co-workers

Your colleagues

Your business partners

Your manager

Your self

Very few people like everything about

himself or herself. We lug around an

invisible sack of feelings about ourselves

secretly fearing that others will see who we

are at our worst. Well be rejected, cast

away. It matters to us how others see us,

and we hope to put our best foot forward,

earning enough good will before any of our

faults leak out.

The weird thing is that while we can see

what we want others to think of us, it can

be hard to really nail down what we think of

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fault? Or, are you the kind of person whos

convinced that youre always right? Or, do

you see yourself as someone with great

potential, great intentions, who often steps

in it, doing and saying things that bother

other people?

So, who are you, anyway? Take a few

minutes and write about yourself make

two lists of words that describe your

character, who you really are positive and

negative. Dont linger too long on each

word, and dont add commentary.

Remember that your attitude inside shows

on the outside both in how you live and in

the results you see.

Now take a look at your list. If youre likemost people, your list probably has more

positives than negatives. Lets deal with the

negatives first so we can move on. Read

them over, then say, You know what? Ive

got room for improvement. Im working on

these faults, and getting better every day.



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Then put them away. Your negatives are

funny things some of them are probably

qualities others wish they had. Just like

everything else, theres a positive side to

those qualities thatll become more obvious

as you grow. Some are built into your being,

and you just need more personal growth to

be able to express them in a positive way.

Others may be habits or learned behaviors

thatll improve as you grow.

Were going to run with the positives,

because those are qualities that are

naturally good in you. Focus on these

positive attributes, and think kindly about

yourself. You need a strong, healthy self-

image to succeed. You need to think aboutyourself positively in order to also think

positively about others, and to treat them

well. When your self-image has to

constantly duck and cover from the darts

you throw your way, its always in defense

mode. Its nearly impossible to treat others



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with generosity when youre in survival

mode.

Relentless, repetitive self-talk is whatchanges our self-image. - Denis Waitley

So how do you go about building a

healthy, positive self-image? Lets talk

about timing first. Some parts of this

reconstruction will move along quickly.

There are habits and practices you can do

(or not do!) thatll help tremendously. Other

parts, though, are pretty deep-seated.

Theyre the result of opinions you made of

yourself long ago from what others told

you, things that disappointed you, things

people said that you accepted without

question. As with everything else you do to

grow and improve, it takes action and

patience to see results.

Here are 4 practical things you can start

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1. Watch what you say to yourself. Its

amazing how well allow ourselves to say

things to ourselves that we would never

tolerate coming from someone else. If

the mean words that come out of your

own mind about yourself came out of the

mouth of a stranger, you might be hurt,

but youd certainly think, This guys

nuts, talking to me like that. If the same

mean words were addressed to your

child or your best friend, youd run to

their defense with a big How dare you?

on your tongue. Well talk soon about

how your mind works, but lets just say

for now that its not discriminating in

what it believes, if it comes from yourown thoughts.



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2. Watch who you hang out with. Negativity

is contagious, and gossip is a hard habit

to shake. Obviously, if you spend time

with people who are critical, who tear

others down, youll catch it too in two

ways. Youre more likely to think and talk

that way about others and yourself, and,

those same people probably talk about

you when youre not around, too.

Surround yourself with positive people,

people who are seeking to grow and

improve. We really do become like the

people we surround ourselves with, so be

particular.



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3. Watch for the positive. Because negative

thinking about ourselves and everything

around us is so habit-forming, it can

really sneak up on us. Make a point of

searching for what is positive, lovely,

perfect, wonderful, timely, gracious, and

good. Do this about the people you

interact with and about yourself. It forms

a new habit building, rather than

destroying.

4. Watch your tongue. Be very careful

about what you say. If you catch yourself

berating yourself, or another person,

stop. Take a moment, turn around in

your tracks, and go the other way. Guard

your heart and your lips negativity.People have enough catch-up work to do

on their self-image from all they heard

about themselves long ago without you

adding to it and that goes for yourself,

too.



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Your self-image has profound consequences

on your outlook. What doors do you see

open to your success? What do you think

youre capable of? What kind of life is open

to you? How differently do you think

someone who lives with a poor self-image

lives from someone with a healthy, positive

self-image?

One area of your self-image deals with

your ideas about wealth. What were you

taught to expect in life, financially? Far

more powerful than the numbers in your

parents bank account, what you were told

about money has been ground into your

self-image. What do you think you should

be? What do you think you should have?What were you told about college, about

business, about risk, about rich people?

Your self-image regarding wealth plays a

huge part in where you are now. Knowing

this, working to become more aware, and

trading unhealthy views for healthy ones,



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will make a huge change in where you go

from here. Starting from here, youve also

got the opportunity to contribute positively

to your own childrens self-image and

thoughts about wealth, opportunity, and

how the universe works.

As a person thinketh in their hearts, soare they.- James Allen

Face the facts - your odds are better for

getting struck by lightening then getting

wealthy.

Who do you think you are?

What makes you think youll succeed?

Heard these before? Said these before?Theyre

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