wydner coaches rdcl unlearn, learn gourmet food for the brain samir elias zehil member of the...
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RDCL
Unlearn, LearnGourmet food for the brain
Samir Elias ZehilMember of the Worldwide Association of Business Coaches (WABC)
Member of the International Coach Federation (ICF)
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TWO INDICATORS FOR A PERSON’S GOOD CHARACTER
HOW HE DEALS WITH PEOPLE WHO CANNOT FIGHT BACK
&HOW HE DEALS WITH PEOPLE
WHO CANNOT DO HIM ANY GOODABIGAIL VAN BEUREN
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3 MEASURES FOR A HEALTHY PERSONALITY
1. YOUR PERSONALITY IS HEALTHY TO THE DEGREE TO WHICH YOU SEE THE GOOD IN EVERY SITUATION AND PERSON
2. YOUR PERSONALITY IS HEALTHY TO THE DEGREE TO WHICH YOU CAN FORGIVE
3. YOUR PERSONALITY IS HEALTHY TO THE DEGREE TO WHICH YOU CAN GET ALONG WITH ALL KINDS OF PEOPLE
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WE DON’T TELL A PERSON WHAT SHE DOESN’T KNOW, WE JUST REVEAL TO HER WHAT SHE ALREADY KNOWS
ARISTOTLE
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2 Steps to G-Attitude
• Focus on the Future/ Solution
“What do we do from here?”
• Look for the Good/ Valuable Lesson
“What did we learn?”
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-1- ALWAYS MENTION A POSITIVE
QUALITY OF THE PERSON
protect people’s self esteem before
engaging in any discussion
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- 2 -ATTACK THE PROBLEM NEVER THE
PERSON
Say always “ the way you did that was
wrong”
and use the “ I felt bad when this happened”
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- 3 -BULLET- POINT THE PROBLEM
Say always there are only 2 things that
you must work on, and the rest is
perfect
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- 6 -FINISH THE MEETING WITH A
POSITIVE NOTE
Say “I am sure you will do it right next
time”
(To trigger positive expectations)
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1. Agreeable
2. Acceptance
3. Appreciation
4. Admiration
5. Attention
Boomerang principle
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Energy Sappers• We all have between 60 and 100 small things pending
• Open a file on your phone and name it “Energy Sappers”
• These drain your energy, reducing your ability to attract success
• By simply writing them down, we regain 30% back of our energy
• They’re like the a/c, you don’t realize how loud they are until you turn them off
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CLUTER CONTROL• You CANNOT accept anything new in your life unless you create the
space for it
• Clutter are in Closets, Cars, Houses, & Old Magazines….
• What you have NOT used for the last 6 months, you are NEVER going to use it (unless it its seasonal)
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What Clutter does!• Less Stuff = More Energy
• Clutter make you FAT (Karen Kingston)
• Clutter slows down the attention, focusing and thinking clearly
• Clutter can cause excess fatigue & even depression
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Traits of People who Suffer From Homeostasis
• Late risers
• Unfit, overweight
• Take same road to their work
• Read newspaper, not books
• Never consider changing jobs
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Traits of People who Suffer From Homeostasis
• Sit with same people in the cafeteria
• Hang out with the same group of people
• Never change their eating habits
• Never change their talking habits
• Changing house furniture for them is a nightmare
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Traits of People who Suffer From Homeostasis
• Dog-eat-dog strategy with restructuring
• Fight any new software
• Paralysis through analysis
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Symptoms of Psycho Sclerosis
It is when we are in love with our own ideas…
• We become impatient
• We like to hear and talk about ourselves
• We hate contradictions (B. Ghali)
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