who is in charge here? psalm 145:11-13 #2—the home

Who Is in Charge Here?

Psalm 145:11-13

#2—The Home

The Home

“They shall speak of the glory of Your kingdom, and talk of Your power, to make known to the sons of men His mighty acts, and the glorious majesty of His kingdom. Your kingdom is an everlasting kingdom, and Your dominion endures throughout all generations.” {Psalm 145:11-13}


• Man’s quandary:– Who is in charge?– Who gives orders?– Who has final say?

• When man takes charge: Chaos!

• It’s time we learned that God is in charge:– God is over all things– God ordained the home– God ordained civil government– God ordained the church


God Ordained the Home

• He is a God of order

• God, Christ, angels, man, woman

– “But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.”{1 Corinthians 11:3}

• He is a God of order

• God, Christ, angels, man, woman

– “For this reason the woman ought to have a symbol of authority on her head, because of the angels. Nevertheless, neither is man independent of woman, nor woman independent of man, in the Lord. For as woman came from man, even so man also comes through woman; but all things are from God.”{1 Corinthians 11:10-12}


• God gave roles at the beginning.• Man’s role is to lead; woman’s role is to

support.– Genesis 2:18-25


“And the LORD God said, ‘It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.’ Out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name. So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him.” {Genesis 2:18-20}

The Home

“And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. And Adam said: ‘This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.’ Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.” {Genesis 2:21-25}

The Home

• God gave roles at the beginning.

• He reaffirmed those roles after sin entered the world.

– “To the woman He said: ‘I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; in pain you shall bring forth children; your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you. ” {Genesis 3:16}


• God gave roles at the beginning.• He reaffirmed those roles after sin

entered the world.– “Then to Adam He said, ‘Because you have heeded

the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree of which I commanded you, saying, 'You shall not eat of it': Cursed is the ground for your sake; in toil you shall eat of it all the days of your life. Both thorns and thistles it shall bring forth for you, and you shall eat the herb of the field.’” {Genesis 3:17,18}



• He reaffirmed those roles after sin entered the world.

– “In the sweat of your face you shall eat bread till you return to the ground, for out of it you were taken; for dust you are, and to dust you shall return.” {Genesis 3:19}



• Male’s duties: lead and provide

– Physical and temperamental design

• Female duties: support the male’s lead, bear children, and tend to the household

– Physical and temperamental design


• God gave roles at the beginning.• The roles balance and complement

each other.

– Focus on role is to aid one’s mate; mutual success

• Avoid unbalanced extremes– Man: dictator, henpecked, refuse to aid– Woman: locked in house, afraid to act,

domineering, refuse to aid



• Sexual fidelity: absolutely essential• Nature of the relationship

– “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” {Genesis 2:24}



• Sexual fidelity: absolutely essential

• Part of Israel’s constitution

– “You shall not commit adultery.” {Exodus 20:14}




• Part of Israel’s constitution

• Reinforced by capital punishment

– “If a man is found lying with a woman married to a husband, then both of them shall die-the man that lay with the woman, and the woman; so you shall put away the evil from Israel.” {Deuteronomy 22:22}




• Divorce causes adultery; three souls can be lost! (one exception)– “But I say to you that whoever divorces his

wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.” {Matthew 5:32}


• God gave roles at the beginning.• Sexual fidelity: absolutely essential• Divorce and remarriage leads to bed of

adultery (one exception)– “The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and

saying to Him, ‘s it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?’ And He answered and said to them, ‘Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning made them male and female.’” {Matthew 19:3,4}


Sexual Fidelity

“And said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let not man separate.’” {Matthew 19:5,6}

“They said to Him, "Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away? He said to them, Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.” {Matthew 19:7,8}

Sexual Fidelity

“And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.” {Matthew 19:9}

Sexual Fidelity

• God gave roles at the beginning.• Sexual fidelity: absolutely essential• Sexual union in marriage is pure;

outside of marriage, it results in fiery judgment.– “Marriage is honorable among all, and the

bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.{Hebrews 13:4}



• God rules over the husband-wife relationship.

– Christ and the church illustrate

– Ephesians 5:22-33


Christ and the Church Illustrate

“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.” {Ephesians 5:22-24}Wife:

Submits to husband as head,

protector, provider

Church:Submits to Christ

as head, protector, provider

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.” {Ephesians 5:25-27}

Husband:Leads in love as head, protector,

provider

Christ:Leads in love as head, protector,

provider


“So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” {Ephesians 5:28-31}Husband:United with wife as

one body

Christ:United with church

as one body


“This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” {Ephesians 5:32,33}

God’s Order:Husband loves

wife; wife submits

God’s Order:Christ loves the church; church

submits


• In the beginning, God assigned roles.

• God rules over the parent-child relationship.

– Parents lead children{Ephesians 6:1-4}


Parent-Child Relationship

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment with promise: that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth. And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.” {Ephesians 6:1-4}


• God rules over the parent-child relationship.– Parents lead children by teaching

them God’s word.

– “And that from childhood you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.” {2 Timothy 3:15}



• God rules over the parent-child relationship.

– Parents lead children

– Lead with discipline


“Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; the rod of correction will drive it far from him.”

“Do not withhold correction from a child, for if you beat him with a rod, he will not die. You shall beat him with a rod, and deliver his soul from hell.”

Rod:Stick,reed

Beat:Strike firmly,

punish

Deliverfrom

destruction

Leading with Discipline…Proverbs 22:15; 23:14,15


• God rules over the parent-child relationship.– Children to honor and obey parents

– “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment with promise: that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.”{Ephesians 6:1-3}



• God rules over the parent-child relationship.– Listen, learn, blessed!– “My son, keep your father's command, and do not

forsake the law of your mother. Bind them continually upon your heart; tie them around your neck. When you roam, they will lead you; when you sleep, they will keep you; and when you awake, they will speak with you. For the commandment is a lamp, and the law a light; reproofs of instruction are the way of life.” {Proverbs 6:20-23}



• God rules over the parent-child relationship

– Rebellion: self-destruction!

– “The eye that mocks his father, and scorns obedience to his mother, the ravens of the valley will pick it out, and the young eagles will eat it.” {Proverbs 30:17}


• In the beginning, God assigned roles. • Parental authority weakened.

– “Democratic style?”– It’s okay to get input and share ideas.– Parents must use their God-given

authority.



– “Let child make his own choices.”– Parental authority is the safety net.– Require child to attend worship.– Expect courtesy, cooperation, and chores.– Do not tolerate drugs, alcohol, dancing,

fornication, profanity, porn, tobacco, ungodly music, dressing to fit in, etc.



– “Discipline warps personality.”– Discipline makes one wise.– “The rod and rebuke give wisdom, but a

child left to himself brings shame to his mother.”



– “Spanking teaches violence.”

– Discipline prevents violence!

– “Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; the rod of correction will drive it far from him.”



• Parental authority weakened.

– Impatient, arbitrary, abusive parents

– Sinful parents breed rebellion.

– “Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.” {Colossians 3:21}



• If not God’s order, what order?

– Easy divorce?

– Complications, guilt, scars

– Child suffers deep wounds




– Alternative lifestyles?

– Fornication, adultery, polygamy, homosexual, lesbian, communal sex, incest, pedophilia, bestiality

– Miserable mates, dysfunctional families, broken homes, dreadful diseases, wounded and warped children



• If not God’s order, what order?– Unisex; equal partners?– Equal in value, but distinct roles removed– Alternate in childbearing?


• In the beginning, God assigned roles. • If not God’s order, what order?

– Selfish, overbearing, faultfinding husbands

– Contradicts true love– “Husbands, love your wives and do not be

bitter toward them.” {Colossians 3:19}




– Wife domineers, nags, and complains.

– Multiplied misery

– “Better to dwell in the wilderness, Than with a contentious and angry woman.”{Proverbs 21:19}




– Child usurps parental authority

– Utter chaos!

– “Backbiters, haters of God, violent, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, undiscerning, untrustworthy, unloving, unforgiving, unmerciful.” {Romans 1:30,31}


• Invitation.– God is in charge; always has been; always

will be!– Alien sinner…

“For you are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus. For as many of you as were baptized into Christ have put on Christ.” {Galatians 3:26,27}

Time to Learn—God is in Charge!

• Invitation.– God is in charge; always has been; always

will be!

– Erring saints…

“Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.” {James 5:16}

Time to Learn—God is in Charge!

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