where to start? hesitations/excuses don’t worry about past stuck in a rut just start being a dad...

Championship Fathering

9/15/15

Chapter 1-2

• Where to start?

• Hesitations/Excuses

• Don’t worry about past• Stuck in a rut

• Just start being a dad (don’t over complicate)

Chapter 1, From One Dad to Another…

• Our kids deserve a pattern of consistency from us.


• For many of us, our own father was the best teacher we’ve ever had.


• The key is to understand that learning never stops.


• Becoming a good dad is all about striving to do it better and never quitting.


• Three little words…

• Loving• Coaching• Modeling

• Put your definitions on hold as we read the rest of this book…


• These three factors don’t stand alone. They overlap.


• Our job description is loving, coaching and modeling. None of these parts are optional.


• If you have a child, the question isn’t whether you’re a father. It’s how you’ll do the job you can’t turn down – and whether you’ll allow yourself to enjoy it.


• Fathers have on unavoidable role: They teach. They teach when they’re there, and when they’re not. They even teach when they're never there.


• It’s a father’s privilege and God-given challenge to take the lead in his kids’ lives


• It will always be easier for their hearts to turn to you if they know your heart is filled with love for them.


• Championship Fathering is mostly about time and the basics. You start doing the fundamentals and keep doing them.

Chapter 2, Championship Fathering: What Is It?…

• Sports champions are teams and individuals who practice and perform their fundamentals better and longer than anyone else.


• Loving, coaching and modeling are so basic to fathering that we’ll never outlive learning and practicing them.


• Fathering may seam like a one man job, but works best as a team endeavor.


• Our goal as fathers should not be perfection, but constant improvement.


• We fathers fail at times.

• Sometimes we don’t keep our promises.

• We may correct too harshly or “lose it” over some trivial matter.


• Being humbled is a good thing.

• It reminds us we need help from others, including God.

• Being humbled can teach us that effective fathering isn’t hit or miss, but the result of a plan.


• Championship Fathering also means being a father to your own children first – and then extending that love to others.

• We who sense the responsibilities of fatherhood and are highly committed to our families – need to reach out to kids who need us.


• So how do we become the kind of dads who belong to the Fathering Hall of Fame?

• By being teachable.

• Don’t let a day go by without learning something new and passing something on to your kids.


• How else can we grow and be all God want us to be?

• We have to be teachable – willing to learn from elders, and other dads, from books and speakers, and from people who are different from us.


• God knows better than we do how inadequate we are! Ask him for specific guidance in every situation or trial.


1. What is of primary importance for becoming a Championship Father?

2. Was your father a good or bad role model?

3. Do you allow yourself to enjoy being a father?

4. Do you have (make) time for “other” kids?

5. When is the last time you deliberately learned something new and took the time to pass it on to your kid(s)?

Small Group Questions…

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