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What are my Essential Needs?An e-book to help you discover and connect to what your essential needs are!

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Welcome!Thanks for taking the time to download this e-book - What are my Essential Needs?

This book has been put together as a simple and quick guide for you to discover and connect

to what your individual essential needs are. As you will see from the background information,

we all have needs (both essential and non-essential) and it’s important to acknowledge them

and nurture them. Also, please remember these are your basic essential needs (not your

wants, goals or any non-essential needs as they are very different).

As you work your way through the book, I encourage you to be honest with yourself and tell

the truth (as in the end you are only holding back from yourself), trust yourself (and your

responses) and also to take responsibility for the essential needs you identify.

If you have any questions, suggestions or queries, please do not hesitate to contact me on

[email protected]


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Table of Contents

Background Information! 2

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs! 2

20 Quotes to Inspire Self-Love ! 3

Identifying my Essential Needs! 5

What are my essential needs?! 5

Commitment to my Self!! 6

I commit...! 6

Planning and Taking Action! 7

I plan and take action...! 7

Stumbling blocks! 8

What are my stumbling blocks?! 8

Congratulations and Thank you!! 9


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Background InformationMaslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

Abraham Maslow (1908-1970) started his professional career as a behaviourist, however moved on to become a psychoanalyst. In 1943, in a paper titled “A Theory of Human Motivation”, he proposed the psychological theory known as Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. His suggested we had two different types of needs -

•the first four levels of the pyramid and are needs relating to survival and focusing on deficiencies (D-needs)

•the final layer and needs relating to psychological growth and focusing on being ourselves and everything we are capable of becoming (B-needs).

Maslow suggested we focus on the first level of motivation and then once that is met then we can focus on the next level. The needs are as follows -

Reference - Maslow, A.H. (1943). A theory of human motivation. Psychological Review, 50(4), 370-96. Retrieved from http://psychclassics.yorku.ca/Maslow/motivation.htm


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20 Quotes to Inspire Self-LoveFollowing are 20 quotes to inspire you to look after your essential needs -

1. “Something inside you emerges….an innate, indwelling peace, stillness, aliveness. It is the unconditioned, who you are in your essence. It is what you had been looking for in the love object. It is yourself.” - Eckhart Tolle

2. “I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.” - Brene Brown

3. “When a woman becomes her own best friend life is easier.” - Diane Von Furstenberg

4. “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection.” - Buddha

5. “I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself.” - Rita Mae Brown

6. “Find the love you seek, by first finding the love within yourself. Learn to rest in that place within you that is your true home.”- Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

7. “The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.” - C.G. Jung

8. “The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I'm not going to let myself pull me down anymore.” - C. JoyBell C.

9. “There is no mistaking love. You feel it in your heart. It is the common fiber of life, the flame that heats our soul, energizes our spirit, and supplies passion to our lives.” - Elisabeth Kubler Ross

10. “Other than the love of God; the greatest love is self love. You have to love yourself more than you love someone else in order to succeed in a prosperous life.” - Barbara Hart

11. “Don’t sacrifice yourself too much, because if you sacrifice too much there’s nothing else you can give and nobody will care for you.” - Karl Lagerfeld

12. “Love brings you face to face with your self. It's impossible to love another if you cannot love yourself.” - John Pierrakos

13. “The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” - Steve Maraboli


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14. “The most adventurous journey to embark on; is the journey to yourself, the most exciting thing to discover; is who you really are, the most treasured pieces that you can find; are all the pieces of you, the most special portrait you can recognize; is the portrait of your soul.” - C. JoyBell C.

15. “You can’t build joy on a feeling of self-loathing.” - Ram Dass

16. “It's not your job to like me...it's MINE!” - Byron Katie

17. Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. – Rumi

18. “The degree to which you love yourself will determine your ability to love the other person, who will be reflecting back to you many of your own personality traits and qualities.” - Sanaya Roman

19. “Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror.” - Byron Katie

20. “Love is based on our capacity to trust in a reality beyond fear, to trust a timeless truth bigger than all our difficulties.” - Jack Kornfield

Which quote was your favourite?


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Identifying my Essential NeedsWhat are my essential needs?

At the moment, my essential needs are as follows -

NEED PROVIDES ME WITH EXPLANATION OF ACTIVITY

E.g. Sleep Rest and rejuvenation for my body Sleeping with eyes closed!

Water

Exercise

Food


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Commitment to my Self!I commit...

I commit to make sure my essential needs are met as my health and happiness is founded on having these necessities in place -

NEED COMMITMENT - HOW MUCH & HOW OFTEN?

E.g. Sleep I require 8 hours of sleep per each night.

Water

Exercise

Food


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Planning and Taking Action I plan and take action...

I ensure my essential needs are taken care of by planning time (each day, week, month and year or what ever I require) and taking action to look after them -

NEED COMMITMENT - HOW MUCH & HOW OFTEN?

HAVE I PLANNED THIS IN MY DIARY?

HAVE I TAKEN ACTION?

E.g. Sleep I require 8 hours of sleep per

each night.

Water

Exercise

Food


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Stumbling blocksWhat are my stumbling blocks?

What are your stumbling blocks? You know when you make up your mind to do something, however something else gets in the way (i.e. taking care of your needs!). It could be feeling like you don’t have enough time, not being organised, limiting beliefs, or just not being clear about what the challenge really is. Really a stumbling block can be anything!

In the table below, identify your stumbling blocks. Once you have identified them, identify how you are going to remove them. It may be that you put a plan in place to overcome them (or sometimes being aware of them is enough for them to fall away). You may also like to see if you can delegate anything. If you require more boxes - just print this worksheet out again!

STUMBLING BLOCK HOW AM I GOING TO REMOVE OR OVERCOME THIS STUMBLING BLOCK?


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Congratulations and Thank you!Congratulations on making your way through the e-book and identifying your essential needs. Now you have identified your essential needs, enjoy taking action to nurture your well-being! Also, please remember to continue to reflect on your needs as they change over time.

Thank you so much for your support, I really appreciate it. I would love to hear your feedback, so please let me know on [email protected]

Also - if you have any suggestions about other e-books, please let us know. We currently have written the following:

• Where are my Finances at?

• What are my Essential Needs? (which you have just worked your way through).

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