WELCOME PARENTS, FAMILIES AND FRIENDS

WELCOME PARENTS, FAMILIES AND FRIENDS

Presentation byWilliam A. Erb

DirectorStudent Health Services

Presentation byWilliam A. Erb

DirectorStudent Health Services

Transition To and Through University

Transition To and Through University

Beginning at a University is a time of transition

Transition to a university setting can be viewed as a process in which physical, spiritual, mental, emotional, social and career/occupational changes occur

There are two types of change that face young adults: Rights of Passage and Campus Passages

Beginning at a University is a time of transition

Transition to a university setting can be viewed as a process in which physical, spiritual, mental, emotional, social and career/occupational changes occur

There are two types of change that face young adults: Rights of Passage and Campus Passages

Rights of Passage Rights of Passage

1. Leaving Home 2. Establishing Autonomy and Self-sufficiency 3. Achieving Emotional Independence 4. Handling Personal Freedom 5. Developing An Independent Value System 6. Developing Relationship Skills 7. Establishing a Personal Identity 8. Preparing to Enter the Work World

1. Leaving Home 2. Establishing Autonomy and Self-sufficiency 3. Achieving Emotional Independence 4. Handling Personal Freedom 5. Developing An Independent Value System 6. Developing Relationship Skills 7. Establishing a Personal Identity 8. Preparing to Enter the Work World

Campus PassagesCampus Passages

1. Separating From Home 2. Competing In a New Environment 3. Managing Academic Demands 4. Adjusting To Free Time 5. Developing Healthy Social Relationships 6. Selecting A Major Field Of Study 7. Choosing A Healthy Lifestyle

1. Separating From Home 2. Competing In a New Environment 3. Managing Academic Demands 4. Adjusting To Free Time 5. Developing Healthy Social Relationships 6. Selecting A Major Field Of Study 7. Choosing A Healthy Lifestyle

Parenting 101:Parenting 101:

The fine art of Letting GoThe fine art of Letting Go

REMEMBER THIS IS A TRANSITION FOR BOTH YOU AND YOUR CHILD

REMEMBER THIS IS A TRANSITION FOR BOTH YOU AND YOUR CHILD

Adjusting to ChangesAdjusting to Changes

Things to realize…You’re on a new path, tooYour child needs different things

from you nowThe key is keeping communication

going

Things to realize…You’re on a new path, tooYour child needs different things

from you nowThe key is keeping communication

going

What Families Might Experience

What Families Might Experience

Profound Sense of Loss Extraordinary Sense of Pride Redefined Roles Fear of Failure Joy Trepidation and Worry Resentment Confusion Surprise

Profound Sense of Loss Extraordinary Sense of Pride Redefined Roles Fear of Failure Joy Trepidation and Worry Resentment Confusion Surprise

Conversations You Have to Have

Conversations You Have to Have

Preventing sexual assault Intimacy and self-respect Drinking and drugs Your expectations – academic & otherwise Facebook and MySpace Money Express Unconditional love

Preventing sexual assault Intimacy and self-respect Drinking and drugs Your expectations – academic & otherwise Facebook and MySpace Money Express Unconditional love

MAINTAIN A SUPPORTIVE

RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR CHILD

MAINTAIN A SUPPORTIVE

RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR CHILD

Let your child make mistakes and stay calm

Listen when the complaints come Instead of trying to fix it convey

confidence in their ability

Let your child make mistakes and stay calm

Listen when the complaints come Instead of trying to fix it convey

confidence in their ability

MAINTAIN REGULAR CONTACT WITH YOUR

CHILD BUT ALSO ALLOW SPACE FOR YOUR CHILD

TO APPROACH YOU

MAINTAIN REGULAR CONTACT WITH YOUR

CHILD BUT ALSO ALLOW SPACE FOR YOUR CHILD

TO APPROACH YOU

AVOID “INQUISITOR” MODE QUESTIONS

AVOID “INQUISITOR” MODE QUESTIONS

BE REALISTIC AND SPECIFIC WITH YOUR

CHILD ABOUT FINANCIAL ISSUES

BE REALISTIC AND SPECIFIC WITH YOUR

CHILD ABOUT FINANCIAL ISSUES

BE REALISTIC ABOUT YOUR CHILD’S ACADEMIC

PERFORMANCE

BE REALISTIC ABOUT YOUR CHILD’S ACADEMIC

PERFORMANCE

REFRAIN FROM BURDENING YOUR CHILD WITH PROBLEMS FROM

HOME OVER WHICH THEY HAVE NO CONTROL

REFRAIN FROM BURDENING YOUR CHILD WITH PROBLEMS FROM

HOME OVER WHICH THEY HAVE NO CONTROL

ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILD TO USE THE RESOURCES OF THE UNIVERSITY TO

SOLVE HIS/HER PROBLEMS

ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILD TO USE THE RESOURCES OF THE UNIVERSITY TO

SOLVE HIS/HER PROBLEMS

TRY TO AVOID MAKING MAJOR CHANGES IN THE

HOME ENVIRONMENT DURING THE FIRST YEAR

TRY TO AVOID MAKING MAJOR CHANGES IN THE

HOME ENVIRONMENT DURING THE FIRST YEAR

ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILD TO GET INVOLVED

ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILD TO GET INVOLVED

TRUST YOUR CHILDTRUST YOUR CHILD

MAKING MISTAKES IS

PART OF THE PROCESS

MAKING MISTAKES IS

PART OF THE PROCESS

DO YOUR BEST TO DEVELOP AND MAINTAIN

YOUR OWN SOCIAL SUPPORT

DO YOUR BEST TO DEVELOP AND MAINTAIN

YOUR OWN SOCIAL SUPPORT

Keep On Laughing!Keep On Laughing!

A sense of humor is essentialKeep problems in perspectiveUse humor to defuse conflict and

tensionLaugh with, not at

A sense of humor is essentialKeep problems in perspectiveUse humor to defuse conflict and

tensionLaugh with, not at

Remember:Remember:

These are good problems!Seek support for yourselfGive “just enough” to your childKeep laughing!

These are good problems!Seek support for yourselfGive “just enough” to your childKeep laughing!