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DR JOHN GRAYDARREN STEPHENSInternationally acclaimed bestselling authors having soldover 40 million books worldwide

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A message from Darren Stephens

Creating success in our lives is something that drives us all. What success means to us and what we want from life is different for all of us – but we all strive to achieve happiness and success in some form.

In today’s world it is all too easy to let the demands of modern life overwhelm us and not focus on achieving our goals.

Over decades of coaching and speaking to thousands of people, I have discovered several keys to improving success that apply to all of us. One of the keys to my own personal success has always been to have a great coach who can guide me towards success and keep me accountable to my goals.

To help you improve your personal success and achieve your goals, Dr John Gray and I have put the keys to success that we have discovered together in this booklet. This is a taste of the mental and emotional changes you need to make and actions you need to take to truly achieve what you want in life.

I know that reading this information will inspire you to achieve even greater things in life and I wish you all the very best success!

Warm regards,

Darren StephensInternational ChairmanMars Venus Coaching Pty Ltd

Principle 1

GET YOURSELF A COACH!

Getting yourself a great coach is the most powerful way I know to improve your personal success. A coach will guide you to unlock your full potential and take you from where you are now to where you want to be.

1. Coaching can help you …

2. Set and achieve lifetime goals

3. Improve male and female relationships

4. Achieve a happier healthier lifestyle

5. Improve your professional success and productivity

6. Improve time and stress management

7. Reduce workplace confl ict

8. Increase business profi ts

And much more!


Principle 1 (cont.)

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Principle 2

There are four key steps to achieving greater success in your life. These are the fi rst four ways to improve your personal success

Set your intention

Recognise where you are now and clearly see where you need to go in order to achieve the right balance of inner and outer success for you.

No matter how hard you try, if you are going in the wrong direction, all you will meet in life is resistance, and you will never reach where you want to go.

By acting in harmony with your soul’s desire, and not just the desires of your mind, heart and senses, you will be well prepared for both inner and outer success.

To truly set your intention or your goals in your mind, you need to write them down and then look at them regularly. This sounds like a very basic thing to do, but it is critical to achieving what you want. By writing your goals down and looking at them you activate the reticular activating system in your brain, which vastly increases your chances of achieving your goals.


“Outer success is a direct refl ection of your inner success.”

Darren Stephens

Principle 3

Get what you need

Learn how to get what you need to be true to yourself.

It is not enough to say, “I want to be me”. To know yourself and be true to yourself, you must understand the ten different kinds of love and support that every person needs. With an understanding of what you are missing and how to get it, you will begin to automatically to experience inner success.

A car may work fi ne, but if you don’t fi ll it up with petrol it won’t run. Likewise if you are not getting certain love needs fulfi lled, you cannot fi nd your true self. If we are not getting what we need then we forget our true nature for a while.

Happiness is our true nature. To experience and reconnect with it, we simply need to feel the kind of love and support that we need. Until we open our hearts to receive what we need, we cannot fi nd happiness.


“No man becomes rich unless he enriches others.”

Andrew Carnegie

Principle 4

Get what you want

The secret of personal success is to be true to yourself and to continue to want more. To achieve personal success, it is not enough to be happy. You must also grow in your desire for more.

Passion is power! When you really want more, you will get it. People who don’t have more don’t give themselves permission to want it. In some cases, they might like the idea of having more, but they don’t go all the way and really want it.

To have outer success, we must want it so much that it hurts when we don’t get it. At the same time, we must learn how to release and heal that hurt so that we can experience inner happiness as well.

We must be able to consistently fi nd inner joy, love, confi dence and peace, while dealing with the inevitable waves of frustration, disappointment, worry and other negative emotions that come with the desire for external success.

The secret of all outer success really is desire. You must know what you want, feel it deeply, and believe. When you continue to feel and act on what you want, the universe responds to your will.


“Its in moments of decision that life’s path is shaped.”

Darren Stephens

Principle 5

Remove the blocks to personal success

A huge part of setting our goals and achieving them is identifying what it is that may be holding us back from achieving our goals. These are our blocks and most of have at least one block, if not several, that stand in the way of us achieving fulfi lment.

There are 12 basic blocks that prevent us from achieving personal success. By becoming aware of our blocks we can recognise what is holding us back, work through the blocks to remove them and then point ourselves in the right direction for success.

Learn to release any of the 12 blocks that may be holding you back:

blame depression anxiety

indifference judgement indecision

procrastination perfectionism resentment

self-pity confusion guilt

With this new ability, you will begin to experience that nothing outside yourself is holding you back.


“Life is like a combination lock; your job is to fi nd the right numbers,

in the right order, so you can have anything you want.”

Brian Tracy

Principle 6

Letting Go of Blame

When you blame others for a lack of success, you give up the ability to rebound from failure and unhappiness. Blame prevents you from taking responsibility for your life and affi rms that you are powerless.

When you make others or circumstances beyond your control responsible for how you feel about your past, present or future, you are unable to create the changes you would like. As long as you hold someone else responsible for how you feel, you forfeit the power to change your life.

To let go of blame you must fi nd forgiveness and release blame. Forgiveness is letting go of a tendency to hold others responsible for our plight in this world. As long as we make someone else or circumstances responsible for our lack of success, we block our ability to create that success.

Instead of believing that the past holds you back, use it to fi nd a clearer path to your goals in the future.


“If we all did all the things we are capable of doing, we could literally

astound ourselves.”

Thomas A. Edison

Principle 7

Letting Go of Depression

You become depressed when you have disconnected from your innate ability to recognise, appreciate and enjoy the many blessings in your life.

With depression, you forfeit your ability to feel what you really want and lose your magnetic power to attract what you want in life. You lose your natural ability to enjoy the little things in life.

The major cause of depression in women is feeling isolated, whereas the major cause for men is feeling that they are not needed.

To overcome depression, we need to look in another direction to get what we need or to make a difference. For example, if you are feeling depressed because you feel alone in a relationship then you need to look elsewhere for love. This does not mean you have to leave your partners, it just means that you should not limit yourself by looking for love in only one place.


“You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances,

the seasons or the wind, but you can change yourself.”

Jim Rohn

Principle 8

Letting Go of Anxiety

You experience anxiety when you have disconnected with you innate ability to trust that everything will work out and always does.

When we have not healed certain events in our past, we experience anxiety in the present. Anxiety is almost always directly related to pain in our past that is still unresolved. In most cases, we block the creative energy that is wanting to fl ow through us when we are anxious.

With anxiety, you either forfeit your ability to enjoy your life or you choose to avoid the discomfort of nervousness and live in your comfort zone. If you do not take risks, you cannot grown and your life becomes fl at. You deny your inner desires and limit your power.

It is important to take risks, let the feelings of nervousness come up and then process your negative emotions.

Many successful people experience anxiety. It is in no way a refl ection of actual competence or events to come.


“The greater danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.”

Michelangelo

Principle 9

Letting Go of Indifference

When you become indifferent you are no longer able to feel your soul’s desire. You have disconnected with your innate ability to know what is possible and what you want. You stop trusting that you can get what you want or you stop caring about what you really want. When trusting and caring are blocked, you will continue to suppress your true desires.

When indifference sets in, you forfeit your natural motivation and power to change circumstances to get what you want. Life loses meaning and purpose and becomes devoid of love.

Gradually numbness sets in and you don’t even know what you are missing. Feeling powerless to get what you want, you deny your true feelings and wants and thereby lose access to your intuitive knowledge of how to get what you want.

By not giving in to indifference, but instead taking time to process your emotions and set your intentions, you will be happily surprised to discover that you can get more and more.


“You can be anything you want to be, if only you believe with suffi cient conviction and

act in accordance with your faith; for whatever the mind can conceive and

believe, the mind can achieve.”

Napoleon HillBest selling author of Think and Grow

Principle 10

Letting Go of Judgement

You become judgemental when you disconnect from your ability to see the good in others and circumstances, Finding fault with others and circumstances is and important skill to make positive changes, but it is of little assistance if it prevents you from recognising the good in a situation.

When you are stuck in being judgemental, you feel annoyed and irritated by situations that you cannot change and overlook the miss the positive. Every cloud has a silver lining, but you are unable to see it.

We tend to judge and resist others when we are not looking at our inner feelings about something else. It is usually something else that is bothering us when we are being judgemental so we need to explore what the real cause of our emotions is and then release them.


“Everything you want is just outside your comfort zone”

Robert AllenCo-author, The One Minute Millionaire

Principle 11

Letting Go of Indecision

You become stuck in indecision when you disconnect from your inner ability and strength to fi nd your direction and persist.

When stuck in indecision, you lose your ability to fi nd your way in life or fully commit yourself to a task. You lose touch with your inner guidance and feel lost. You become too dependent on others to make up your mind or know what you want. Your will is too weak to make a decision. You forfeit your soul’s power to follow through. You don’t develop your inner power to make things happen by the power of giving your word or making a promise.

The major cause of indecision is discouragement and disappointments. When we are facing some of life’s more diffi cult challenges, it is hard to make a decision and move forward. This often occurs because we have not successfully faced and dealt with the setbacks in our past. We still have lingering pain regarding mistakes or betrayals in our past. It is essential to process these emotions to work through the block of indecision and to accept that it is better to have failed than not to have tried.


“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s

coming attractions.”

Albert EinsteinWinner, Nobel prize for physics

Principle 12

Letting Go of Procrastination

Procrastination is the result of disconnecting from your innate ability to accomplish what you have decided to do. You put off action because you mistakenly believe that you are not ready or prepared. By doing this you forfeit your ability to overcome life’s challenges. This occurs when courage is weak.

Courage is like a muscle. It cannot grow unless you face a challenge and then push into it. Courage grows by taking risks.

No matter how ready you are, you will always have fears. These fears diminish and go away as you begin. If you wait for them to go away, you will never get started. Nothing can get done if you do not begin. When you put will into action, power can begin to fl ow and your creative juices are once again realised. When you postpone action, you not only suppress your inner powers, gifts and talents, but you suffer.


“I take rejection as someone blowing a bugle in my ear to wake me up and get

going, rather than retreat.”

Sylvester StalloneActor

Principle 13

Letting Go of Perfectionism

Without accepting that life is not and will never be perfect, you get stuck in the desire to be perfect. As a result, you expect too much from yourself and from others. Everything must be perfect, and it never is.

When you expect perfection, you are never happy or content. When everything is measured and compared and nothing is good enough, you cannot freely give and receive. You become too demanding and surrender any grace in your life.

The need to be perfect is a false need that begins in childhood when we try to be perfect for our parents. We make the mistake of believing that we must be perfect to please our parents. Also, if we happen to be gifted or talented in some way this can lead to perfectionism.


“You become like the people you spend the most time with, so pay any price to be in the presence of extraordinary people.”

Darren StephensSelf made millionaire and best selling author

Principle 14

Letting Go of Resentment

When resentment sets in, you are not free to give your love and support. In most cases, you feel you have given more, worked harder and not received what you deserve in return. You withhold your love and support because you feel that something that happened was not fair.

If you close your mind in this way you lose both your feelings of generosity and the power to create what you want. Resentment is a sure sign that you have been giving too much in the wrong direction.

Since we tend to focus on what we did not get with resentment, we miss other opportunities to give and receive. By not forgiving, you continue to live in the past. Although you may seek to punish others, you are really punishing yourself.


“You are a living magnet. What you attract into your life is in

harmony with your unconscious mind’s most dominant thoughts.”

Darren Stephens.”

Principle 15

Letting Go of Self-pity

You experience self-pity when you have disconnected from your innate ability to appreciate and give thanks for the good things and successes in your life.

When you focus on what you are missing, you lose touch with your ability to appreciate what you have and recognise new opportunities.

One of the big problems with self-pity is that we not only miss opportunities for more, but we reject them as well.

Although it is important to feel empathy and compassion for your setbacks and losses, you do not have to give up the inner joy that comes from an attitude of gratitude.

The cause of self-pity is often a lack of attention, especially as a child. To let go of self-pity we need to experience that what we think we are missing on the outside is already within ourselves.

Ultimately the tendency to self-pity is released when you are able to feel your anger with others who have rejected and excluded you and then forgive them


“Where your attention goes, the universe’s energy fl ows.”

Darren Stephens

Principle 16

Letting Go of Confusion

Every positive or negative experience has the potential to teach you something useful that you didn’t know before and to reinforce and strengthen your positive qualities within.

When confused, we feel like something important is missing. Instead of being open to fi nding the answer, we think that we have to have it now. When we think something is missing we focus on feeling like a victim of circumstances. It is then easy to panic and assume the worst.

By looking for and expecting clear and defi nite answers right away, we miss the bigger picture that life is unfolding process of learning. We forfeit our inner confi dence that we are doing the right thing when we require clear and defi nite answers to all our questions.

Life will never be free of challenges, but our ability to meet these challenges will continue to grow. This leaves us able to shift the focus from what is wrong to what you can learn.


“You are the same today as you’ll be in fi ve years except for two things, the books

you read and the people you meet.”

Charlie “Tremendous” Jones

Principle 17

Letting Go of Guilt

When you don’t love yourself and forgive your mistakes, you become stuck in guilt. Feeling different degrees of shame after making a mistake is a good thing, but it is not good when the shame does not go away after you recognise and learn from your mistake.

Lingering guilt will keep you from feeling a healthy sense of worthiness and entitlement. Instead of knowing and acting from what you want, you act too much for others, you accommodate too much, and you do not fel comfortable asking for or asserting your wants and needs. You care too much about what others think about you. You forfeit your self-esteem every time you deny your needs to please others.

To achieve success, we must feel worthy. Without self-love and a sense of worthiness, we can never let our dreams out. When we are able to forgive ourselves we will once again feel worthy of good things.

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