the journey - january 2010

January 2010

Inspiring WomenJane Kendrick & Karen Harris

FashionWeddingt r e n d s

claire brodyinspiring

Young Woman

2010 Wedding Issue

2010 Wedding Issue

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Contents J a n u a r y 2 0 1 0

Your HomeAt Home: cHAndeliers 8

lAndmArks: pines 10

HomesteAd: quick fixes 11

Home tour: stonegAte 12

in tHe kitcHen: bAck to tHe bAsics 14

lAndscAping: fertilizing fActs 16

simple solutions: Advice for mArriAge 17

entertAin in style: wedding sHower ideAs 19

Your communitYHot spot: temple tHeAter 22

business spotligHt: cHick fil A 24

business connections: donnA busler 25

lufkin cHAmber of commerce 26

nAcogdocHes cHAmber of commerce 28

cAlendAr 30

plAces And fAces 32

giving bAck: river of life 38

inspiring young womAn: clAire brody 40

inspiring womAn: kAren HArris 42

Your LifeHAll of fAme Hubbies 46

pretty bAbies 47

girls group: debbie tompkins And lAurA simpson 48

your wAllet: Are you reAdy to rotH 49

weddings 50

relAtionsHips: one flesH 52

educAtion: mrs. sHAron luce 53

Your BodYfitness: getting in sHApe 56

HeAltH: wedding stress 57

fAsHion: 2010 wedding trends 58

beAuty: plAn plAn plAn 59

Your cHiLdAsk tHe doc: dentAl wellness 61

cHilds plAy: Alex And clArA keAtH 63

kids konnect: new yeArs resolutions 65

treAts And eAts: super bowl treAts 66

fAmily support: 67

wHy i love being A mom: cArrie leonArd 68

review 69

Journey mArket 70

pArting Advice 72

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2010…WOW. Isn’t it crazy to think back to all the anxiety and anticipation we had over Y2K? Now, here we are ten years later. As another New Year rolls around, many often start working on their New Year’s Resolutions. I am usually not a resolution maker. But, the other day as I was driving in my car and heard a song by Francesca Battistelli; it really struck a chord with me. There is one line that she repeats in the song, “Who your heart beats for.”

It really got me thinking. By all the resolutions people make- that is what it boils down to… “who does your heart beat for.” This song really made me think of the upcoming year, made me think of each of you, and New Year resolutions. It really answers why we continue to get up every morning, why go through the daily grind- its all those things that our heart beat for. Everyone has a different answer as to what and who your heart beats- the answer is what makes our own lives so special.

As we enter another hectic year, it will be easy to forget and loose track as to why our heart beats. I love to think about that question over and over. It makes me happy inside to know that I have God that loves me unconditionally and because of that I am able to experience the unexplainable, crazy love I have for all of those in my life (especially those crazy little kiddies of mine!).

When you flip through the pages of this issue- you will see that it is our annual wedding issue. When we think of wedding- we think of LOVE! Regardless if we are planning a wedding, planning our day, or just staying at home having to do laundry- it is easy to get lost in the moment and the planning and forget about the big picture. Who does your heart beat for?

Congratulations brides and Happy New Year to all!

Welcome

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News

rodeo queenWe are still accepting applications for the 2010 Angelina County Rodeo Queen. All Rodeo Queen candidates must be a senior in high school, attend school in Angelina County, and complete an application. We are looking for a candidate that is or has been involved in 4H, FFA, and/or High School Rodeo. Applications can be downloaded from The Journey website (www.tjmag.com), and mailed to PO BOX 150537 Lufkin, Texas 75915. All candidates must have their applications postmarked by February 12, 2010.

girls of grace reunion studyLaura Brookshire our March 2009 Inspiring Woman says, “The precious older girls came to show their love and support for the precious new girls! We all had a great time and were all very blessed. I love to hear the older girls giving great advice to the younger girls. It is so fun to see how excited the older girls are to give advice because they remember receiving it!!”

We are so proud of you Girls of Grace!!

Look for the last two issue of East Magazine. This Magazine is for our better halves- the men in our lives. It covers everything from hunting, to fishing, golf, motorcycles, the latest gadgets, and much more! You do not want to miss it! Here are a few places to pick up a copy: Lufkin Fasteners, Tri Lakes Tackle, CMC Recycling, Steel Horses, Bryan’s Smokehouse, Ross Motorsports, Massingill’s Meat Market, Truss & Son’s Plumbing, The Center for Sight, Wulf Outdoor Sports, Pouland’s, and Butcher Boy’s.

Looking for the latest issue? Would you like to have The Journey for a special event? We recently have been contacted by a family hosting wedding family and friend in from out of town and a church hosting a women’s conference- and as always by businesses wanting to be added to our distribution. We would love to supply you with copies of The Journey and EAST Magazine for your next event. Give us a call or email at [email protected]

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Casa Tour of Homes

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Chandeliers aren’t just for grand ballrooms or even formal dining rooms anymore. They come in so many styles and sizes that they can add a touch of drama to just about any room in the house. Size matters when selecting a chandelier, according to Mary Beth Gotti, a lighting expert with GE Consumer & Industrial. She points out there is a simple way to make sure the fixture is not too large or too small for your room. Just measure the length and width of the room, in feet. Add the two numbers together and the sum should equal the diameter of the chandelier, in inches.

In the dining room, however, a chandelier should be scaled to the size of the table, not the room. It should be no greater than the width of the table minus 12 to 20 inches, to prevent anyone from bumping into it. How high off the table should a chandelier be hung? “Typically, you’ll find them 30 to 36 inches above the top of the table, depending on the ceiling height, “notes Gotti.Gotti suggests that lighting from a chandelier that beams directly down on your guests from above can cast unflattering shadows. The heat from bulbs

directly overhead should also be considered. She offers these tips:

• Avoid high wattage bulbs as they will increase the heat and can increase the potential for glare.

• Consider decorative compact fluorescent decorative lamps to reduce watts and extend lamp life.

• Try adding shades to chandelier candelabra bulbs or a wall dimmer to help control the light and set a comfortable mood.

• For extra sparkle, consider installing small recessed downlights on either side of the chandelier.

The right light in the right fixture will create the look you really want. Use decorative bulbs in chandeliers, sconces, bathroom fixtures – anywhere the bulb is visible. With decorative bulbs, the bulb is just as dazzling as the light it creates. Superior halogen technology allows GE bulbs to deliver the highest quality of light that’s long-lasting

and energy-efficient. To bring out colors and patterns that may normally go unnoticed, try GE Reveal light bulbs. They deliver clean, pure light that filters out the dull, yellow rays produced by standard incandescent bulbs.

Clear bulbs can provide glitter, but also can be sources of glare if exposed. Dimming can reduce glare and provide lighting flexibility or “scenes” for various events. Coated bulbs or coated compact fluorescent bulbs provide more diffused light, reducing harsh shadows.

Now that you have the measurement details and proper bulb selection mastered, the biggest challenge will be selecting among the dazzling fixtures available. Whether it’s a Mission style fixture hanging in the den surrounded by quarter-sawn oak bookcases, a chrome fixture with geometric glass elements hanging in a modern master bedroom, or simply a junk-store find adding a splash of whimsy to a shabby chic apartment – chandeliers can be the crowning star of a room’s décor.

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Over 85 years ago, Pines Theater was constructed in downtown Lufkin. The Kurth family was the investor behind the construction of Pines Theater. The Pines was named after the Kurth’s daughter Lynn. After many years of being in operation as the city theater, it eventually closed. The building was later purchased and used as a church called Covenant of Love Outreach.

In 2008, the City of Lufkin purchased the building back from the church. Plans for renovations began to slowly get underway. This single screen theater was at one time the center of downtown Lufkin. It is what light up the dark night in the city. That same ambiance is why it was important to local officials to renovate the landmark. According City Manager Keith Wright the restoration project is very important to the city. “The Pines is important to aid in the revitalization of Lufkin’s downtown area and to promote cultural events,” says Wright. The initial investment of $500,000 provided

funding for the much needed facelift to the front of the building. The entire cost projections of $1.4 million, might take years to fund. The city is currently researching private funding to help capture the excess.

The bright lights have made an impact on First Street. Barbara Thompson, Main Street Director could not agree more. “The Pines

bright lights keep people driving by at night looking and smiling as they reminisce. Downtown is the heart of any town or City because of the

history. And history is made because of places like the theatre.”

No one knows an exact target date when the community can go back inside and enjoy a play, an onscreen movie, or fine art programs. It is amazing to listen to the stories of those who enjoyed going to the Pines Theater on a Friday night. Keith Wright said, “The Pines was constructed as a

vaudeville playhouse. It is my understanding (I can’t prove it) that the Marx Brothers once performed at the Pines.”

“The theatre gives people another place of yesteryears and a sense of holding those old memories in place,” says Barbara Thompson.

Hopefully, the revitalization of the theater will allow a new generation to create fond memories and one day too reminisce of yesteryears.

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homesteAdquicK fixes to save on heating and cooling

The average family spends $1500 a year on energy bills, nearly half of which goes to heating and cooling, according to the Environmental Protection Agency (EPA). A home energy audit and some quick fixes can save some of that hard-earned money.

The EPA estimates that homeowners can typically save up to 20 percent of heating and cooling costs by air sealing their homes and adding insulation in attics, floors over crawl spaces and accessible basement rim joints.

Conduct an energy audit to identify spots where energy is lost through gaps and cracks. Start in your basement and move upwards. Look for both visible gaps and cold or hot spots.

HVAC PenetrationYour air-conditioning system set-up could be doing more than just heating and cooling your house. It could be an air-infiltration culprit. Check the HVAC ducts from your attic and basement into the living space. There may be gaps where the ducts go through the floor above into the ceiling below.

PlumbingWhile plumbing pipes may be hidden behind or under the sink, it doesn’t mean that the pipe

penetrations aren’t allowing unseen bugs and unwanted air into the house. Check for holes under the sink where the pipes enter from the floor or wall in all rooms that have running water (kitchen, bathroom, utility room, and laundry room).

Electrical BoxStand in front of the electrical box of your house and look at where the main electrical exits the box and enters the living space (in the basement look upwards). If there is a hole, seal it.

Electrical OutletsUse a screw driver to remove your outlet cover plates. Homes have holes cut in the walls for the outlets. Check for gaps between the wall and the metal box that houses the electrical socket.

Attic HatchSeal around the attic hatch frame to keep the unconditioned attic air from entering your living space. The EPA recommends sealing these leaks with spray foam, caulk, or weather stripping. Insulating foam sealants, such as GREAT STUFF form an airtight, water-resistant seal. The foam is sandable, paintable, and can be trimmed with a utility knife afterwards and is easy to use for do-it-yourselfers of any skill

level.

Other ways to save on energy• Either installing a timed thermostat or by turning up or down the temperature before heading to work.

• Make sure the fireplace flu is closed and install glass fireplace doors to keep energy from escaping.

• Check to be sure no air vents are being blocked by furniture or drapery.

• Insulate any areas that are not heated and cooled (garage, attic, basement, or crawl space).

For more information on how you can save money by sealing gaps, visit www.dowgreatstuff.com.


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This home boasts 3,016 square feet heated and cooled. The exterior is rock and stone. A gated entrance to a concrete driveway welcomes you home. The appliances are all high end Electrolux appliances. All cabinetry in the house is custom built all wood hickory, granite countertops, hand trailed walls, travertine, and hand scrapped wood flooring throughout the house. There are many prominent interior amenities like installed security system, track lighting, coffered ceilings, wood burning fireplace, and surround sound ready. The outside area is also ready to entertain with an outdoor kitchen and stone fireplace, along with being fully landscaped with irrigation system.

To visit Stonegate, call Gene Caldwell at 936.240.0197

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In the kItchenbacK to the basics of cooKing – staPle ingredients | by anna boles lee

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Let me start off by saying: being a “good cook” doesn’t mean that you have to have chef level culinary skills! Anyone can cook a good and nutritious meal. In my opinion, it all boils down to having a few staple ingredients that you keep in your kitchen at all times. These ingredients are just as important to keep in your kitchen as it is to keep toilet paper in your bathroom. What are these staple ingredients? It all depends on the tastes that you and your family like. Some of my staple ingredients are: bread, Tony Chachere’s Creole Seasoning, garlic powder, bouillon cubes, cheese, Worcestershire sauce, a few types of vegetables, eggs, and some sort of meat and poultry. Of course there are other things that I like to keep in my pantry, but with these ingredients, I can prepare good meals any night of the week.When deciding what staple ingredients you would like in your kitchen, think about flavors that you really enjoy. If you like your foods a little spicy, be

sure to always keep a container of either dried cayenne or red pepper or a seasoning like Tony Chachere’s. If you like an Italian taste, grab a container of Italian seasoning (which includes garlic, oregano, and basil) and garlic powder or garlic cloves. For those days when you don’t feel like cooking anything, it is always a great idea to be sure that you always have sandwich or cereal fixings for a quick and easy meal. Here are a few quick and easy meals made with some of my staple ingredients.

beef goulAsh

1 1/2 cup frozen corn

1 lb. gound beef

1/2 cup tomato sauce or ketchup

1/2 onion, diced

2 cups cooked macaroni

salt and pepper to taste

Place ground beef, salt and pepper in a large skillet. cook meat on

medium-high heat until thoroughly browned. drain meat and place

back in skillet along with the rest of the ingredients. mix ingredients

well and cook over low-medium heat for 15 minutes.

tuesdAy’s chIcken

5 boneless skinless chicken tenders

salt

Pepper

5 red potatoes, washed and cut into cubes

1/2 onion, chopped

1 package onion soup mix

butter

2 tablespoons water

Preheat oven to 375 degrees. spray a small baking dish with non-

stick cooking spray. Place onions and potatoes in dish. Place a few

tiny pats of butter, salt, pepper, water, and half of the soup mix on

top of your vegetables. layer chicken on top of vegetables and cover

with remaining soup mix and a few more tiny pats of butter. cover

dish and place in preheated oven for 35-40 minutes.

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Anna Lee grew up right here in East Texas in the wonderful town of Center. While growing up, she was very much involved in her local 4-H club participating in projects from foods and nutrition, showing chickens in the infamous Poultry Festival, and riding in the Shelby County mounted drill team, played on her High School Golf team, and worked at her parent’s family business, Boles Feed Company. Anna completed a Bachelors degree in Family and Consumer Sciences at SFA, Master’s degree in Family Studies at Texas Woman’s University. Anna and her husband, Justin, live in Nacogdoches. Anna is currently is working at Shelby Savings Bank.

IngredIents for QuIck WrAps or sAndWIches• Sandwich meat, leftover baked or grilled meat, poultry or fish

• Any type of cheese (cheddar, pepper jack, swiss)

• Avacado, mushrooms and olives

• Salsa or BBQ Sauce

• Miracle Whip, mayonaise, mustard or salad dressing

• Fresh vegetables such as lettuce, tomato, onion, and peppers

• Flavored tortillas

lAndscApIngfertilizing facts

Part of keeping a lawn healthy is applying the right fertilizer in the right amount at the right time. But with so many choices available, how do you know what’s best? These facts should help.

Fertilizer analysis. The set of three numbers on each bag of fertilizer is the fertilizer analysis. They show the amount of three key nutrients for grass health, nitrogen (N), phosphorus (P) and potassium (K). So a bag with the numbers 20-10-10 contains 20 percent nitrogen, 10 percent phosphorus and 10 percent potassium. The remaining 60 percent is made up of inert and filler material that helps transmit the nutrients to the plant.

What do those nutrients do? Nitrogen is key to overall plant health, phosphorous is integral in root formation and potassium helps strengthen the plant against disease and drought.

Having soil tested is the best way to determine what ratio your lawn needs. Over-applying nitrogen, in particular, is harmful because excess nitrogen can seep through groundwater, into streams and rivers, causing algae blooms and other environmental problems. Check your local

county extension office – they can do it accurately for a reasonable fee.

Slow vs. fast release. Slow release fertilizers gradually release nitrogen into the soil and feed the plants more evenly. They last longer and require fewer applications than fast release.

Fast release fertilizer gets nitrogen into the soil quickly. It’s usually less expensive and will work even in cold weather.

The Environmental Protection Agency (EPA) recommends slow release in order to reduce nutrient run-off and help produce healthier plants.

Synthetic vs. organic. Synthetic fertilizers are manufactured through chemical processes or from naturally occurring deposits that have been mined and chemically altered. Synthetics typically have more nitrogen and usually work quickly to generate fast growth and “green up.” Concerns about synthetic fertilizers include potential health risks due to exposure, environmental consequences of run-off and of their production processes.

Organic fertilizers are usually derived from plant and animal sources. They have less nitrogen and phosphorus than typical synthetics, so they work more slowly. But, over time, they tend to promote more even growth and healthier soil underneath.

Unlike organic food products, organic lawn and garden products are not regulated by the US Department of Agriculture. Because there are no national standards yet, it can be tricky to find truly organic products. Look for a seal that says “OMRI Listed.” The Organic Materials Review Institute (OMRI) is a nonprofit organization that reviews products and checks them against the National Organic Standards.

Whether using synthetic or organic, it’s important to not over-apply fertilizer. According to the EPA’s publication “Greenscaping,” “Improper use of fertilizers can damage beneficial soil life essential for healthy soils and plants. Excess chemicals can also find their way into ground water, streams and lakes where they can contaminate drinking water and harm fish and other wildlife.”

Always read and follow product labels carefully before using fertilizer and other lawn products.

Doing a little homework will help you make smart decisions about taking the best care of your lawn.


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sImple solutIonsadvice for marriage

“There are two way to do everything. Compromise. Try to see the others point of view.”

“Pray together.”

“Work together and not apart. You will come out a stronger couple if you utilize each other’s strengths and make up for each other’s weaknesses.”

“Forgive, Forgive, Forgive!”

“Never date anyone you wouldn’t marry.”

“Do not keep secrets in your marriage.”

“Learn to be responsible with money early in your marriage. Money is the root of too many divorces today.”

“Don’t forget you married your boyfriend or girlfriend. Treat them as such everyonce in a while, act giggly, date, have fun!”

“If marriage is forever and you made a promise to God- take the word divorce out of your vocabulary. If it is not an option, it should not be used in the marriage.”

“Be your spouses biggest cheerleader. Ask questions, be involved, show interest in their work, education, family, extracurricular hobbies, volunteer work.”

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“We have all heard the saying, ‘The grass is always greener on the other side.’ At the end of the day, there is still one man and one woman in the relationship whose brains are wired completely differently than the other. Marriage takes work, might as well work hard at making the first and only one a success.”

“Wake up every morning and ask yourself, ‘What can I do today to show my spouse that I love them.’”

“Don’t fight to win. Someone always looses.”

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entertAIn In stylewedding shower ideas

Putting together a fun and unforgettable wedding or engagement shower can be a daunting task. The trick is in the details. The more pieces of the bride elect or the couple you can incorporate the better. There are many great ideas you can use to get the ball rolling. Ask around from others who have recently hosted a shower or had a son or daughter get married would be another route. Starting with a theme or colors that mean something to the couple should be the initial step to get the creativity started. This will allow all the other details to start flowing. Having a great invitation also gives guest a sense of what to expect. So if you are looking for something to knock the guest’s socks off, start with a great invitation!

Around the Clock Shower. When sending out invitations give everyone a different time around the clock. Guests will bring a gift that can be used during that time of the day. For example: 8am a waffle iron would be a great gift.

Western theme. One couple took all their engagement photos wearing their boots. So that gave the shower hostesses the idea to host a western themed couple’s shower. That started the idea for the invitation: “These boots are made for walking, right down the aisle.” The more details you can incorporate of the couple into the shower the better. All their engagement photos were used for table centerpieces.

Alphabet Shower. This is a great way to hold a unique shower. Everyone on the guest list receives a different letter of the alphabet. All the gifts correspond with the letter given to the guest.

Christmas Shower. This is great for any time during the year. For one bride elect, Christmas always holds special meaning. Her group of hostesses decided to host a Christmas shower. The shower gets the couple a head start on their first Christmas. Color Shower. Does the bride or groom have a favorite color? College colors or favorite athletic team? Have all the shower

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décor coordinate with that color and ask all the guests to wrap their gifts in that color wrapping.

BBQ. Who doesn’t like a backyard BBQ? This is a great theme for just about any couple. One unique idea for a party favor is to bottle up homemade BBQ sauce and give it to all your guests.

Hobby Shower. Does the couple have a hobby they enjoy together? Gardening, Camping/Hiking? Traveling? Stock them up on things they enjoy doing together.

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hot spotsTwo exciting hot spots to place on your calendar are taking place this month at the Angelina Arts Alliance.

The first is Goodnight Moon and the Runaway Bunny on January 16th.

This beloved bedtime story will be brought to life at the live children’s theater in a special family matinee performance. The sixty minute show by Mermaid Theatre specializes in live adaptations of children’s literature. What you can expect to see at the show is innovative puppetry, striking scenes of the book coming to life, and a musical aspect to make every child get excited.

The matinee performance at the Temple Theater, Saturday, January 16th at 2:30 p.m., is a great way for grandparents and or parents to introduce very young audiences to the performing arts take them out for a special treat, and a great way to create lasting memories with a very young heart. You could even include a couple of children who might not have the opportunity to see a live show and invite them along. The show is suggested for children ages 3-7 and their families. Tickets are $5-$10. These are stories that have lasted through generations. Goodnight Moon is a celebration of familiar nighttime rituals, while The Runaway Bunny’s pretend tale of leaving home evokes reassuring responses from his loving mother. The two productions are not to be missed!

Angelina Arts Alliance has put together a special gift package, “Bunny Bags” that will make a perfect addition to the tickets. This can be a great way to introduce your child to the book and get them excited about the show. Bunny Bags come with two paperback books, Goodnight Moon and The Runaway Bunny, a Goodnight Moon stuffed bunny toy, a scrumptious homemade bunny cookie, and tickets to the show!

The second great event you do not want to miss is the Ballet Folklórico de México on Sunday, January 24th.

This show will begin the great show line up for the 2010 Angelina Arts Alliance. This world renowned production features the largest and most widely acclaimed folk dance company in the Americas.

For almost sixty years Ballet Folklórico de México de Amalia Hernández has celebrated the diversity of Mexico’s rich cultural heritage with dances drawn from regional and historic influences. Ballet Folklórico sets itself apart by combining its artists’ talents with live music, elaborate choreography, and ornate costumes of Mexican culture. With 50 dancers and 20 live musicians,

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this extravaganza of music and dance illuminates the facets of Latin American life with theatrical flair. The results are stunning. Ballet Folklórico celebrates the beloved traditions that lie at the very heart of Mexico. Since 1952, it has become one of the most important cultural institutions in their country, as well as one of the Mexico’s official cultural representatives.

Do not miss this breathtaking performance on Sunday, January 24th at 7:30 p.m. in the Temple Theater on the Angelina College campus in Lufkin. Tickets ($31-$40) are on sale at the Temple Theater Box office. Ballet Folklórico is sponsored by the City of Lufkin. Season Sponsors are Temple-Inland and Lufkin Industries, Inc.

Temple Theater Box Office is open weekdays noon-5:30, or by calling 936-633-5454. For more information, visit www.angelinaarts.org or visit them on Facebook.

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Everyone knows what type of service you will receive when you walk into a Chick-fil-A. It comes from the top down. Julie Walker, owner of the Southloop Crossing location says, “Our corporate leadership has been instrumental in leading Chick-fil-A Operators to keep customer service a very high priority. “Second Mile Service” taken from Matthew 5:41 is a philosophy that Dan Cathy, son of Truett Cathy has championed for our whole chain.

Julie Walker began her career with Chik-fil-A when she was only in High School. “When I turned 16 I got my first part time job at Chick-fil-A in the Westwood Mall in Houston, TX. I was trying to earn $325 for a Spanish Club trip to Mexico. (In those days the going rate for babysitting was $1 per hour. Chick-fil-A paid $2.90. I was going to quit CFA after I earned the money.) During this short time I had the privilege of meeting Chick-fil-A founder Truett Cathy. After hearing him speak and just working in the restaurant I began to fall in love with Chick-fil-A.”

Thirty years later, she is still there!

Growing up in Houston, having family in Shreveport, graduated from SFA, Lufkin was the perfect location for Julie. She was thrilled to be given the opportunity to run the Lufkin location. When the company learned the Lufkin Mall operator was relocating, they offered the position to Julie. “This was really a God thing that I was sent here because if I could have picked any store in the whole chain, it would have been the Lufkin store. Nobody really wanted this store because it was so far in the red. I didn’t care, I just wanted a store!” said Walker. Julie says the best part of her job is sowing seeds into the lives of the people who work with her.

“Seeing Team Members grow and develop into leaders is the most exciting part. We had an elderly gentleman who was a regular customer that several of my Team Members befriended. When he would come to the store, they would spend time visiting with him. On his birthday they threw a party for him. One day they heard he was in the hospital, so on their own initiative they went to visit him. They took him a pillow, because one of the girls felt that hospital pillows were uncomfortable. They decorated the pillowcase for the man and put ‘I love Chick-fil-A’ on it. The man loved the pillow. The man died. They buried the man with that very pillow under his head because it meant so much to him. My Team Members made a real difference in that man’s life. They loved him. That is what this business is all about. The thrilling part of this story for me is that I nor my General Manager had anything to do with initiating that event, but the culture in our store is what allowed that whole event to transpire.”

Julie continues, “What I have learned from operating this business is there is no such thing as perfection, but there is excellence. It’s ok to make mistakes as long as you learn from them.

You can’t do it alone, you have to have help. God always gives you “just enough” of whatever it is you need. Always do the right thing, no matter what it might cost.”


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By now, East Texas is familiar with the very uplifting program for women- The Mosaic Center. This organization, according to the Mosaic Center mission statement, “Seeks to promote and nurture an integrated vision of the whole person – body, soul and spirit. Students of The Mosaic Center develop self-sufficiency to strengthen the family unit. This is achieved through education, guidance, job and life skills training, parenting, mentoring and follow-up.” This is no easy task for one, two, or even ten people. We have all heard the saying, “It takes a village.” At The Mosaic center that is definitely the case-it does take a village. And one major person in that village is the director, Donna Busler.

Donna Busler joined the team in 2008. She was entering a period in her life she was dreading-the empty nest. Her baby girl was about to graduate high school and was headed to college in the fall. One day in the spring of 2008, the director at the time Kitty Bounds, said to Donna in passing that she was ready to take a step back from the center. Kitty also mentioned that Donna would be a great

fit in the position, and she should pray about it. Kitty told her to come to the fundraising dinner that same evening. Donna did not want to go because her son was planning on coming in from college that evening, and the family was planning a quiet family dinner at home. Shortly after the conversation and keeping that conversation to herself, her husband called and said, “Why don’t you call the Mosaic Center? They are having a fundraising dinner and I really think we should go.” Donna ended up telling her son about the dinner and he wanted to go; and the same went for her daughter. This was a first of a few times in the last year the family was able to all get together to share a meal, being her daughters busy, hectic senior year. After being moved by the organization, the mission, the highlights of the year that evening- Donna was moved and felt God moving her. On their way home, she shared the earlier conversation with Kitty with her family. They were in full agreement that this is what she should do. After a lot of time in prayer, Donna accepted the position. She laughs saying, “God really does have a sense of humor and a way of taking care of his children. The week The Mosaic Center needed me to start was the very week my daughter needed to move into her dorm. What timing! It just kept me busy and not a sobbing, basket case making it harder on my daughter.”

This position is important to Donna. It is important to The Mosaic Center. It is important to the women/students. It is important to the volunteers. It is important to the community. Donna is the one who represents the organization to the local and state officials. She says, “It puts me out of my comfort zone. I just think I don’t belong talking to these lawmakers. But, I have to do what I have to do on behalf of the Center. And there is very little that you will find that I will not do for this place- even if it means getting out of my comfort zone.”

Donna shares a story like many who volunteer at the center. They feel as though they are the ones getting more back than the women they mentor. The Mosaic Center has many women involved and many women volunteer to help share a hand up to other women.

The Mosaic Center has two classes a year that educate women in an eleven week class setting. The center provides job and life skills, guidance and mentoring in a Christian setting. Through the program, they help women improve their self esteem and train them in valuable skills for long term employment. Working with one woman at a time, helping them identify their own strengths and resources, they in turn teach them to become self sufficient.

If you would like to get involved, donate, or learn more about The Mosaic Center- contact Donna Busler, [email protected] or 936.639.5068.

Mark your calendar for April 15-18 SERVE ONE ANOTHER TENNIS TOURNAMENT, DINNER & AUCTION

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90th Annual Chamber BanquetThe 90th Annual Lufkin/Angelina County Chamber of Commerce Banquet, is scheduled for 6:30 p.m., Thursday, January 28, 2010, at the Pitser Garrison Civic Center in Lufkin.

The Banquet will feature Humorous Motivational Speaker - Billy Riggs, M.Div., MRE. Billy Riggs is more than a mere speaker, entertainer, magician, singer or comedian. He’s been called the “Dr. Phil of Magic,” a unique communicator, motivator, and wizard who magically changes lives by skillfully weaving humor, audience participation, and world class illusions into a profoundly inspiring program. Renowned as the world’s only Dis-illusionist, Billy Riggs presents grand illusions while shattering the illusionary thinking that hinders morale, performance, confidence and success.

A spellbinding communicator, Mr. Riggs honed his uplifting message and speaking skills in the pulpit, founding one of America’s fastest-growing churches at the age of 29. Though his presentations now are secular, audiences sometimes sense the old preacher in him, stirred by his sincerity and power on the platform. In 2002, Mr. Riggs was presented the highest earned award of the National Speakers Association: the Certified Speaking Professional. Since 1995, he has breathed The Magic of Attitude into people, companies and organizations.

But the goose bumps aren’t always the result of dramatic oratory. When Billy Riggs appears, things on stage begin to disappear! Using world-class magical illusions to drive home his points, Billy’s presentations have transformed hundreds of otherwise ordinary conferences into something truly special. His quick wit and quicker hands spread laughter and raise morale as listeners learn to reshape their destinies with a wave of life’s magic wand: attitude!

Sponsors of the 90th Annual Chamber Banquet are: Gold Sponsors - Memorial Health System of East Texas, KTRE, and First Bank & Trust East Texas. Silver Sponsors - Consolidated Communications, Courtyard by Marriott Lufkin, Lee TranServices, Polk Oil Company, Inc. and Woodland Heights Medical Center.

Tickets for the Banquet will be $40 per person or $500 for table sponsorship (reserved table for 8 and corporate identification at table.)

For more information, call the chamber at 936-634-6644.

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Gale Wasson of the Lufkin State Supported Living Center was the winner of the November First Friday Luncheon $800 Incentive Drawing. This drawing accumulates by $50 per month until a winner is drawn. Gale generously donated her winnings to the Lufkin State Supported Living Center and we are thrilled that this money has gone to help our community.

Ribbon CuttingsRegal Nail Spa celebrated their grand opening with a Ribbon Cutting on Tuesday, November 17th. They are located at 2002 South First Street in Lufkin. They are a full service nail salon. Call (936) 634-1052 to schedule your appointment today. Pictured are the owners of Regal Nail Spa and members of the Lufkin/Angelina County Chamber of Commerce Diplomats Team.

Courtyard by Marriott Lufkin celebrated their Grand Opening with a Ribbon Cutting on Thursday, November 19th. A crowd of over 200 people gathered to tour the new facility. The hotel features a new state-of-the art lobby that enables guests with enhanced flexibility and cutting-edge features for working and relaxing. From WiFi throughout the hotel to their casual bistro, their innovative hotel is a refreshing blend of high-tech hospitality and warm East Texas personality. Pictured are the owners and staff of Image Hospitality, along with Mayor Jack Gorden and Lufkin/Angelina County Chamber of Commerce Board Chairman Todd Kassaw.

Miss McGillicuddy’s celebrated their Grand Opening with a Ribbon Cutting on Friday, December 4th. They are located inside the Lufkin Mall across from JCPenney. If you are looking for fabulous accessories, purses and wallets, this is the place to go! Pictured is Owner Mandy Smith, family, staff and members of the Lufkin/Angelina County Chamber of Commerce Diplomats team.

nAcogdoches countychAmber of commerceImportant numbers for NacCensus 2010 will define Nacogdoches county for the next decade. Communication between Nacogdoches community leaders and the U.S. Census Bureau began in early summer. In fall, planning meetings began for local volunteers to work to meet the accurate count goal for the census, which is scheduled next spring.

“The Nacogdoches Counts committee has now separated into several groups with group leaders,” said City Planner Larissa Philpot. “Each group will focus on a specific area of the community including businesses, schools, SFA, and hard to count populations.”

To do more to spread the truth and benefits of Census 2010, the Nacogdoches Counts committee looks forward to an aggressive public promotion.

“We are putting together a publicity campaign for awareness using fliers, scheduling speaking engagements, recording public service announcements, and a poster contest. People will begin hearing and seeing more at the beginning of the year,” Philpot said.

One fact we must all keep in mind is “completing and returning a Census 2010 form isn’t just important, it’s mandatory.”

Ribbon Cuttings | celebrAtIng good thIngs In busInessHorn WeldingOwner Eddie Horn, (936) 645-8370.New Chamber member.

Elvis ExtravaganzaColdwell Banker Choice Realtors, 2026 N.W. Stallings Dr.Bobby Ray Bridwell, (936) 552-7877.Treats for Elvis fans of all ages.

Hospice of East TexasDirector of Community Relations Jessica Henderson.(936) 560-9277, www.hospiceofeasttexas.org.New business and Chamber member.

Doches Credit Union823 S. University Dr.President James Muse936-569-7700, www.dochescu.com.New branch opening.


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Always know the latest Nacogdoches newsTwitter.com/NacChamber - Twitter updates for Chamber.

Twitter.com/TxBlueberryFest - Twitter updates for Texas Blueberry Festival.

www.Nacogdoches.org - The Nacogdoches County Chamber Web site is also a great place to find a community event! Online calendar (submit your events, too), links to the Chamber events photo albums, Shop Nac First and NacBlog sites, and more!

Join in upcoming celebrations4:30 p.m., Thursday, Jan. 14SFA Center for Economic EducationSFA campus at intersection of Starr and Raguet - former location of Early Childhood Research Center.Director Phyllis Gilbert, (936) 468-2449. New office location.

1:15 p.m., Friday, Jan. 15 Shine Salon105 Upton St.Owner Bradley Pollard, (936) 559-9309New business and Chamber member.

And other events:Alive After Five – 5:30 to 7 p.m., Jan. 21 hosted by The Daily Sentinel at Lanana Hall, 108 N. Lanana St.

Fourth Friday Lunch – Noon, Jan. 22, Hotel Fredonia “Nacogdoches Water Works – A Community Water Park.”.

Operation Thank You! Operation Thank You! is an annual event that gives Chamber directors and other volunteers the opportunity to:

• Deliver the new 2010 Nacogdoches Guide & Chamber Directory and the 2010 Nacogdoches City & County Street Map to as many Chamber members as possible. • To personally say “thank you” for their Chamber memberships and support.

If you would like to join in the delivering - even if you aren’t a Chamber director - please contact Kelly Daniel, [email protected] or 560-5533.

“Teams will be formed and some friendly competition makes the event even more enjoyable,” said event Chair Tonya Hearnsberger, Express Employment Professionals.

Call 936-560-5533 to RSVP for the Kickoff Breakfast 7:15 - 9 a.m., January 12 at the at the Chamber.


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6Farmers Market8:00 a.m.107 Pearl Street559-2570

9Birding with Louis Debetaz & Carroll Moore ( Adults Only ) Kurth Lake936-639-4434


9Millard’s Flea MarketDawn to Dusk6020 North Street (Hwy 59)564-4490

9Nacogdoches Naturally Fire Safety/Camp Stove Cooking468-1832

109th Annual Bridal FairLufkin Civic Center 12p.m.-5p.m.Preregister at A-1 Party RentalsOr ktre.com and admission is freeFor more information call936-639-2595

12Texas Friendly Hospitality Training Workshop5:15 pm - 6:15 pmCVB 200 East MaiinFREE to Downtown Businesses. Advance registration559-2573

13Farmers Market8:00 a.m.107 Pearl Street

559-2507

16Harlem Ambassadors Basketball Show7:00 p.m.Woden High School Gym936-558-3637

16 Goodnight Moon and The Runaway Bunny Temple Theater on the AC campus 936-633-5454

16Bridal MarketHotel Fredonia936-632-6400


16-17Trade DaysDawn to Dusk1304 NW Stallings across from Foretravel564-2150


22State of the County/City LuncheonCrown Colony Country Club 936-634-6644

22SFA Planetarium “Marsquest”7:00 p.m.SFA Campus Planetarium$2468-3009

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Farmers Market8:00 a.m.107 Pearl Street559-2507

23Pickin In Nac Terri Hendrix and Lloyd Maines in ConcertBanita Creek Hall$25.00936-462-8000

24Ballet Folklorico de Mexico Temple Theater on AC Campus 936-633-5454

27Comedy Night Benefiting CASADoors open at 7pmHotel Fredonia$8 pre sale $10 at door564-1234

27-29East Texas Geospatial ConferenceFor info call: Darrel McDonaldSFA936-468-1347

27SFA - “Nate the Great”9:30 am and 12:30p.m.SFA Turner AuditoriumJoin us for this new musical about teamwork and friendship starring nate the Great,Marjorie Weinman Sharmat’s beloved detective, as he uses all of his derring-do to locate his friend Annie’s missing painting. Target Grades: K-4. W.M. Turner Auditorium on the SFA Campus. Tickets: $6 individual, and $5 per person for goups of 20 or more.468-6407

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Send us your events at [email protected]. Submission deadline is the 15th of the month prior to publication.

(January 15th for the February issue)In order for your event to be included please list all ofthe following:

Date, Event Name, Brief Description, Event Location, Time, and Contact.

Farmers Market8:00 a.m.107 Pearl Street559-2507

29Lamp-Lite Theatre “Oklahoma”7:30 p.m.Lam-Lite Theatre

29SFA Planetarium “Marsquest”7:00 p.m.SFA Planetarium$2468-3009

29SFA - “Liverpool Legends”7:30 p.m.W.M. Turner Auditorium$35, $29 and $17.50In this “Ultimate Beatles” Tribute show, the Liverpool Legends perform songs spanning theentire career the Fab Four and on.468-6407

30Lamp-Lite Theatre presents “Oklahoma”7:30 p.m.Lamp-Lite Theatre

30Nacogdoches Naturally Fishing at Lakeside Park468-1832


31Lamp-Lite Theatre presents “Oklahoma”2:00 p.m.

februAry 20103Farmers Market8:00 a.m.107 Pearl Street559-2507

5SFA Planetarium - Marsquest7:00 p.m.SFA Planetarium$2468-3009

5Lamp-Lite Theatre presents “Oklahoma”7:30 p.m.Lamp-Lite Theatre

5First Friday Nights5:00 - 8:00 p.m.Downtown559-2573

5Secret Keeper Girl7:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m.For info call: Crystal BradsherOak Grove Baptist ChurchGirls today face pressures earlier than their mothers did. Live Event offers Moms proventools to coach their 8-12 year-old girls into meaningful friendships, true beauty,, biblicalmodesty and vibrant purity.936-569-0756


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plAces And fAces christmas paradeDowntown lufkinDecember 3, 2009

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casa tour of homesDecember 3, 2009

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There is an important ministry in Livingston, Texas that is changing the lives of women -River of Life Women’s Life Skills and Training Center.

Director, Debby Schmidt was attending school working on a degree in counseling. In 2006, she finished her degree. Later that fall, everything began falling into place to open a center focused on training women in Polk County. The building, volunteers, start up- God had his hand over Debby Schmidt’s life to get her prepared to open River of Life.

Today, three years later, they stand 60 volunteers strong. The ministry is strictly faith based, operating solely on donations. Schmidt says, “We feel that the most important part of the program is getting women in touch with their Creator, the One who loves them and has a purpose and plan for each and every one.”

The ministry is designed to accept nine women at a time to go through a three month program. The first two months it is everyday and the last month is once a week. “Everyday issues are talked about

(depression, fear, divorce, abuse, loneliness, etc.) and solutions are found through the Bible, other women’s experiences, and instruction from qualified individuals who volunteer with RoL.” Volunteers and mentors try to help apply practical insight and steps to problem solving not just coping mechanisms that have so long been the way to deal when issues arise for many of the women.

Job and computer skills are taught everyday to enhance the quality of life for those who need to work. Resume writing, job retention techniques, and interview role playing are just a few of the topics taught, along with an outward appearance makeover which includes haircuts, clothing and makeup.

Each lady walks with a mentor through the eight week daily part of the program and then four weeks of support group to insure that all is still moving forward.

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positive changes in their wives and children experience a new mom. We have found that 90% of the clients that come through the RoL program now attend a church, find work, and move forward in their relationships and everyday experiences.” The ripple effect comes from the families lives touched by the women, then reach out to their extended families and neighbors. And the best part of the program is to see many ladies come back to volunteer, to give back to others the peace and stableness they now experience.

The program is designed to help women in the community. But, lives are touched and changed by the women who come through to volunteer. It brings a sense of enrichment to their lives that they had not known before. Women come to ROL interested in a job and they leave as volunteers and with changed lives.

If you are interested in volunteering there are many areas in need. Or if you know of a woman who needs the program or services offered by River of Life, have them call or stop by for more information about the next session.

River of Life Women’s Life Skills Training Center 936-327-4899


Claire Brody is an inspiring young woman. A few things that make her special and unique are her maturity, her values, her personality, her confidence, and her character.

Claire was born and raised in Lufkin. She is currently a senior at Lufkin High School. Next fall, she will follow her older brother Parker, also attending

University of Texas, with plans to major in Radio, Television, and Film. Her family is very important and close to her heart. Claire says, “My family always instilled something very important inside of me. They taught me that in everything I did God came first, then family, education, community, and finally, any extracurricular activities I could balance.”

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Claire Brody is a familiar name to many because of her very popular Christmas book-- Skippy Dimpledot the Christmas Elf. She says authoring a children’s book gave her an invaluable experience and introduced her to the world of public speaking. When Claire was in the fifth grade, her mother, Margie Brody, asked if she would want to write a book together. They were constantly in the car traveling to soccer games and during these trips, they outlined their plans for the book. Finally, when Claire was in the seventh grade, Skippy Dimpledot was published. “My mom and I visited many schools with a multimedia presentation and I really began to learn a lot about public speaking. It has been an incredible experience that I would not trade for the world.”

Little by little, Claire learned she enjoyed entertaining and decided that was the journey for her life. Her years at Lufkin High School were filled with opportunities and gave her valuable experience. At the end of her freshman year, Claire was asked to try out for the Lufkin High School Mascot. Having served as Lufkin Middle School’s mascot, she knew it was something she enjoyed. Claire tried out and soon found out she would be the first sophomore on the Varsity Cheer Squad. “This was an incredible experience to further my passion for entertaining.” During her sophomore year, Johanna Walker, the Lufkin High School drill team director, asked her to emcee the annual Spring Show. “I was shocked, excited, and nervous at the same time!” This was a poignant event for Claire because it gave her more reason to pursue a career in entertainment. Then this

past year, she again was asked to emcee the Panther Pride Christmas Spectacular.

Throughout her school years she has been a leader and role model. She has been involved in the Girls of Grace Bible Study, Christians in Action, Anchor Club, KYSSED, Student Council, Student Advisory Council, Leadership Tomorrow, W.H.O. club, Lufkin Panther Varsity Tennis Team for four years,

represented Lufkin High School as mascot for two years, a member of National Honor Society and an Angelina County Drug Free All Star. Claire is also a member of St. Andrew’s Catholic Church.

Young women like Claire develop strong character from many influences and experiences in life. One person who has played a strong role in her life is her mother. Claire says, “The prime impact comes from someone very close to me. My mother instilled many vital qualities in me to have as a young woman and I can never thank her enough for that. The impact she has made on my life is indelible. I love her more than words can ever express.”

When asked if she had any advice to share with young women, Claire Brody says, “Priorities, Priorities, Priorities! It is extremely important to decide what matters most in your personal life. Secondly, finding something you enjoy is very important. When I was in sixth grade I learned to play guitar, and to this day it is my getaway from a busy schedule or a bad day. Find your escape. It is very important to pave your own path, and follow your own dream. Never settle. Lastly, give a little more. When you think you have given all you have, give a little more, love a little more.”

Next year Claire will leave Angelina County and head off to fulfill more of her dreams at the University of Texas. Claire Brody’s story is not finished and we cannot wait to hear the rest of her life story!


Inspiring Women

There might not be another business in town that has single handedly helped more brides than Jane Kendrick and Karen Harris with House of Traditions. The two have owned House of Traditions, located in downtown Nacogdoches, for twenty-four years, but the business was open for many years prior to their ownership. Anyone who knows the mother-daughter duo knows how enjoyable they are to be around the minute you walk into their shop.

Jane Kendrick grew up in Shelby County in Patroon, Texas, on a dairy farm. She is always reminding her grandchildren of the days of walking before daylight to milk the cows and then having to walk to school. “I do it to remind them that they really don’t have it so bad!” said Jane. She also graduated as valedictorian of her high school and later graduated from SFA. Jane married Bill Kendrick, and together they had three girls: Jana, Karla, and Karen. Karen says of her mother, “My mom has a great deal of perseverance. Dad passed away at age 42 of Hodgkins so she had to raise three young girls. I’m sure I will never understand how hard that must have been. Then my oldest sister Jana passed away at age 23 with cancer.”

Karen Harris was born and raised in Nacogdoches. She married her high school sweetheart, Brent Harris. They have three precious girls: Jocelyn, 21, Allyson, 17, and Madison, 14.

When you ask the two if owning the shop was always in the plans or a goal of theirs, Jane emphatically says, “No!” Karen, on the other hand, says, “I knew owning a shop is what I always wanted to do.” Jane was in the middle of her teaching career and Karen was attending SFA majoring in elementary education when they took ownership of the shop. Karen and her sisters worked for the previous owners. “So I knew what was in store. (Or so I thought!)” Karen said.

In 1986, they purchased the store. The plan was that Karen would run it and Jane would continue teaching.

In 1991, Jane finally retired from teaching and began working full time at the shop. Now, nineteen years later, they are still working together, side by side. “We enjoy the bond that has been created and appreciate each other’s strengths a great deal more than just mother and daughter. I am amazed at my mother’s recall of people’s names and family members. She genuinely cares about people and their welfare. She has a great ability to recall the patterns brides have selected even years down the road,” said Karen.

When they purchased the store, House of Traditions was located on the corner of North and King in the turn of the century white home. Karen juggled children, running the store, and being mom 24 hours a day. The Harris Family lived upstairs until their middle child was 2. Karen recalls, “It

was very convenient anytime I needed to work and needed a babysitter. And our customers were always so nice to hold a baby every now and then, too. Needless to say, my kids have grown up in the business!”

Jane says that is one of the benefits of working together is being able to work and see the children and be involved with them every day.

Being able to have a business and merge it with raising a family takes a lot of work and team effort. Karen says her family is fully aware that her work consumes a great deal of time and that is what they know and are used to. “I have learned to squeeze a lot into a 24 hour day. I have learned to be a great multitasker and utilize every minute.” One very important factor in everything is her husband. Karen says, “I have a very understanding husband.” As long as Jane makes her bridge dates, lunch with friends, and time for a little travel--she enjoys working at the shop.

Karen Harris & Jane Kendrick


As you can imagine, they have seen some things change over their twenty-four years in the business. Weddings have grown from very formal and traditional to casual and smaller. Brides are waiting a little later in life to marry and are combining household goods. Karen and Jane are incredibly helpful with brides and mothers of brides and grooms—they can assist with everything from etiquette to china choices!

What is their advice to brides? “Brides--make a bridal gift registry in your hometown! Your guests love seeing first hand what you have selected and knowing they are getting something you will need and want. Remember...not all people want to shop on-line! Think long term when making your tabletop selections. Mothers: you are a valuable resource! Your knowledge is generally very helpful and is usually needed!”

To sustain their partnership as mother, daughter, and business partners, they depend on a lot of inspiration. Karen says, “My sister, Karla inspires me to be a stronger and more committed Christian, my mom inspires my work ethic and two very dear cousins have taught me about FAITH!” Jane says her friends and family have always been her sources of inspiration.

Small business is what makes East Texas tick. If it were not for individual people dedicated to making small towns and their communities thrive, there would not be much character in downtown. People like Karen and Jane who are dedicated to their customers make East Texas a truly unique place. “We feel blessed to have been able to be of service to Nacogdoches for 24 years and for developing such great and lasting friendships with our customers and employees. At any given time, you will always see either one of us in the shop because we feel the need to be of service and available to those who are so loyal to shop with us. We want everyone who walks in to experience a little friendly hometown hospitality and leave a

little more relaxed than when they came in. We feel privileged to be a part of downtown and are amazed at the people that pass through our little part of the world.”

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Hall of fame Hubbies

Please submit your Hall of Famer to [email protected]. Be sure to include a photo with 75 words telling us about your husband. Do not forget to list your children or grandchildren’s names if you would like to include them.

Keith and I have been married 14 1/2 years. The Lord has blessed us with two precious children: Collin (12) and Caitlyn (4). Keith is a wonderful husband and father, as well as my best friend. He helps me daily with household chores. He loves spending time with his family and is willing to always be there for us, no matter what we need. Keith is very involved in our church where he is a teacher and youth director.

I Love You,Tammy Davis

It is hard to believe Jim and I will celebrate our fifteenth anniversary this year. Jim and I met on a blind date, set up by his cousin. On our second date, we went dancing and when he held me on the dance floor, I knew I was in big trouble. I can honestly say that’s when I fell in love with him. A dear friend of ours nicknamed Jim “John Wayne” a few years ago. I think the title “John Wayne” best captures Jim. On the exterior, he’s tough and manly, but on the inside he’s a real softy with a heart the size of Texas. Our family

means everything to Jim. Every afternoon when he gets home from work, Jim can be found throwing the ball with Charles and J.B. He loves sharing sports with the boys. We have been through some testing times in recent years, but through it all, our love for each other and for our family has held firm. It all started on the dance floor and I have loved him ever since.

Jim McLeod

Keith Davis

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• Round-the-clock Medicare Certified Skilled Nursing

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Girls GroupMany know Debbie Tompkins and Laura Simpson as the hair dressing duo-- and boy, do they do great hair! These two amazing women have a long history together and an even stronger bond.

Debbie and Laura were the original operators and the very beginning of Laura and Co. They met as friends and were acquaintances. One day Debbie told Laura she was going to beauty school. She went to beauty school and later they began working together.

Prior to beauty school, Debbie has always been a singer. She grew up singing in school and even started a band in high school. Since high school, Debbie has been part of seven bands because of her amazing and beautiful voice.

Laura, on the other hand, loved dancing and singing to Debbie while she was on stage. Laura would always joke and make comments like, “When I grow up, I want to be a Singer.” Having Debbie around would always remind her of that and kept the fire alive inside of Laura. Laura says, “My dad was an absolutely phenomenal tenor. So it has always been a goal that I wanted to accomplish.”

About a year ago, the two of them went to Encore music to pick something up. While they were there, Laura asked about voice lessons. She looked at the schedule and she told Debbie, “I am signing up to start taking voice lessons.” Knowing that was something Laura always wanted to do, Debbie encouraged her.

There is a group of friends that put on a huge annual talent show. Laura set a goal to sing in

the talent show. So off and on twice a month for a year, Laura attended voice lessons with Mikki Friar, who according to Laura has the “voice of an angel.”

Debbie would ask Laura how lessons were going, every once in a while they would sing together. As the talent show drew closer, Laura sang in front of a group for the first time to practice her song for

the talent show. Her friends were amazed, and Debbie pulled Laura aside and said, “Okay you have learned the basics--you have been laying the foundation to build the house, now it is time to add the emotions.”

The talent show was one week away. Two days that week prior to the show, the two of them got together and practiced her song. Debbie says, “she was stiff and lacked feeling.” Debbie would coach her through the mirror, getting her to practice her facial expressions, and would play the piano loud when she needed to sing loud and soft when she needed to play soft.

Their preparation worked! The minute Laura took the stage and her first line came out, “Looking out in the morning rain,” the crowd immediately began clapping, cheering, and whistling.

Laura says, “That day was the best day of my life!” That night Laura took home

the first place trophy. She said, “That is the first trophy I have won my whole life! It sits right on the counter where I get ready every morning. And it isn’t about the plastic trophy. It is about getting over a fear and accomplishing a goal.”

The hair. The singing. The friendship. The bond. It is all a part of who Debbie Tompkins and Laura Simpson are as people. But, this past year, they were able to put another notch in their friendship belt. This was an important experience that they were able to share together.

This experience has brought out a lot of lessons for these two friends. Debbie says, “It is never too late to start your journey with something you are afraid to do. Pursue your dreams no matter how old you are.” Laura encourages women, “If you don’t have passion and life is too busy (which mine is), stop and see what you would like to do for yourself. Refuel when life is being sucked out of you.”

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your WAllethaPPy new year! are you ready to roth?

Bill Gates received his Christmas present late this year. He’s probably not complaining because starting January 1, 2010, he can now convert to a Roth Individual Retirement Account (IRA) despite being the richest man in the world. Oprah Winfrey, Warren Buffet, and Britney Spears can, too – and so can you, regardless of your income.

Benjamin Franklin said, “The only things certain in life are death and taxes.” You might not be able to avoid death, but because of significant recent tax law changes, you can definitely avoid some major taxes. Roth IRAs were once reserved for individuals, single or married, making $100,000 or less in their modified adjusted gross income (AGI). This income limit is now lifted and anyone can convert a traditional IRA or employer-sponsored retirement plan to a Roth. This change is one of the biggest tax advantages ever created and should be considered for your retirement money.

Here are five questions you need to know the answers to before you convert to a Roth IRA.

Question: Why would I convert my traditional IRA to a Roth IRA?Traditional retirement accounts grow tax-deferred, meaning you do not pay taxes until you withdraw money. A Roth IRA also grows tax-deferred, but the funds you withdraw are also tax-free! If you think taxes are going to increase in the future, this

year might be a good time to pay off Uncle Sam early.

Bonus: If you convert this year, you can stretch the taxes over two years by paying 50% of the burden in 2011 and the other 50% in 2012. After this year, the conversion taxes will be due in the following year as normal.

Question: How are Roth distributions taxed?Distributions from your Roth will be income-tax-free as long as they are “qualified distributions.” A “qualified distribution” is one that occurs after a Roth has been open for five years and the distribution is available as a result of a first-time home purchase (up to $10,000), reaching age 59½, death, or disability.

Question: What about the required minimum distributions?Unlike traditional IRAs, required minimum distributions (RMDs) are waived in a Roth. So now when you turn 70½, you will not be required to withdraw funds. Your beneficiaries are required to receive distributions after your death, but the distributions will be income-tax-free, provided the Roth has been open for five years.

Question: Should everyone convert to a Roth IRA?No! If you think your income tax rate will

be significantly lower by the time you take withdrawals from your IRA, it may not make sense to convert. You also want to pay the income taxes with non-retirement funds – not from within your IRA, which can be costly.

Want more information? Contact MariJo to receive a FREE Roth IRA Analysis to determine if this largest tax break in history can work for you and your family.

MariJo Harding is a Financial Advisor Coach who ministers to women by helping them create a true financial peace of mind based on what women really want, while aligning their true purpose of money with their spending and investing decisions. She has a Masters Degree in Social Work (MSW), which enables her to understand the emotional and psychological needs of female investors. She is the author of the forthcoming book, Becoming a Wealth Wise Woman: A Secret Recipe with Seven Special Ingredients.

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Do you have an engagement, bridal, or wedding photo you would like to share with The Journey? Email your photo to [email protected]

Jessica Jenkins and Brandon ConnMarried December 22, 2009in Fort Worth, TXJennifer Conn Photographywww.jenniferconn-photography.com

Brook Allison McPhail & Adam Hunter JohnsonNovember 21, 2009First United Methodist Church, LufkinPhotographer Becki Basham

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Shelley Jansen and Bradley DavisMarried November 21, 2009in Lufkin, TXJennifer Conn Photographywww.jenniferconn-photography.com

Kyle and Valena Spradley, and the late Odie Wheat, are happy to announce the engagement of their son T.J. Wheat and Morgan Hurlbut, daughter of Denise & Paul Conner and Bryan & Jenny Hurlbut. The wedding will be held July 24th at First Presbyterian Chruch of Fort Worth .


relAtIonshIpsone flesh | by Kathryn greene

“It isn’t good for man to be alone; I will make a companion for him, a helper suited to his needs… the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep, and took one of his ribs and closed up the place from which he had removed it, and made the rib into a woman, and brought her to the man. ‘This is it!’ Adam exclaimed. ‘She is part of my own bone and flesh! Her name is ‘woman’ because she was taken out of a man.’ This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife in such a way that the two become one person.” (Genesis 2:18, 21-24 Living Bible). I have just attended two weddings of young people I have known most of their life. I heard them make commitments to each other:~ to love, comfort, and honor each other~ to be faithful and true in sickness as well as health~ to forsake all others emotionally and physically as long as each lives

I also heard them promise:~ to hold to each other no matter what their life experience might be – whether there is poverty or riches, sickness or health.~ to love and cherish each other until death would part them because God commanded it.The Pastor always applauds the couples for making commitments to each other and binding themselves in a marriage ceremony. This is a time when the cultural leaning is to avoid commitment by agreeing to live with each other to see if it the relationship is going to work. Breaking up is hard whether you are married or not! When you give your heart to someone, it hurts when they leave. I heard an illustration that gives a good visual picture of the effects of a couple divorcing. The

verse above (verse 24) says that when man is joined to his wife (married) they become one person and that is like two sheets of paper being glued together. Then, when divorce takes place it is like trying to take those two sheets of paper apart without tearing either piece of paper. It is impossible to do! Becoming one flesh means embracing a new family. When you take on a spouse, you also get all of their baggage, which includes their extended family. You now have two sets of parents (or more), more siblings, grandparents, aunts and uncles, etc. There are more relationships to form, more misunderstandings to work through, as well as more joys to share. You are no longer to think of yourself, but you think with each other in mind – what is best for my spouse and my family unit. It may require making a hard decision in which you choose new family over the extended family.

To become one flesh is much more than a physical relationship. It includes commitment, “leaving and cleaving”, and embracing your spouse’s family as your own. One of the most important decisions you will make is the person you will marry. When you walk down the aisle to take the hand of your husband, you are symbolically saying that you

receive him as God’s gift to you to complete you, that you will allow him to meet the emotional and physical needs that God designed him to meet, and that you will take him to be your partner in fulfilling the purposes and plans of God for your

life. This is a decision to be made with your head as well as your heart. It can’t just be made based on emotions, but in well thought-out pros and cons of what is best as well as

right. Take the time to realize what you are really saying when you say, “I do”!

“You will allow him to meet the emotional and physical needs that God designed him to meet”

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educAtIon sharon luce - teacher of the month | by emily ParKs

Sharon Luce, January’s Teacher of the month is every parents’ dream for their child’s teacher. Her passion for children obviously runs in her family, as she is a third generation teacher. I am so inspired by her thoughts of being a teacher and have renewed faith in our teachers in America! I know there are some bad seeds in the bunch, but I believe there are far more with dedication just like that of Sharon Luce! Thank you Sharon Luce for changing little hearts one child at a time!

tJm: tell us about yourself and your family?Luce: I have been married to a handsome, sweet man for 42 years, Aubrey Luce Jr. and we have 2 great kids. Shanon, our daughter, is married to Bubba Loggins and they have 4 sons... Samuel, Joseph, Aaron, and Preston. Our son, Stephen and his wife Ashley, have a little boy named Wyatt Lane. I am a Memaw for 5 boys who are “everything” to me! God has truly blessed our family and I thank Him for them all. I am the third generation of teachers in my family. My father was Murl Price and he was a counselor for 36 years. My mom, Pearl Price, was a teacher for 32 years. My dad’s mom was also a teacher. I am so proud to be a teacher!

tJm: Who was your favorite teacher when you were in school?Luce: When I was in elementary school at Hudson, I had the sweetest 4th grade teacher named Evonne Tisdale. I have so many memories of that year, but one that has always stood out was the day that I cheated on a spelling test. Instead of being totally ridiculed or belittled, she talked to me about how I might miss the word, it was just a mistake, and that was better than “taking it from someone else”. That lesson stayed with me through all my schooling, even college.


tJm: How many years have you taught? Where and what grades?Luce: I have taught a total of 25 years with a few years of substituting. I have taught 4th grade at Hudson Elementary and 7th and 8th grade Art at Hudson Junior High. I was a 2nd grade teacher at Diboll and 1st grade at Huntington. I have the honor of teaching at Saint Cyprian’s School in the 2nd grade at the present time.

tJm: What do you like most about teaching? Luce: One of the things I love most about teaching is the light that comes in their eyes when they have achieved a goal. It is so awesome to make a goal. One of my students in the 1st grade finally mastered a goal of reading all of his sight words. He sure did giggle a lot as I jumped up and said, “It’s time to dance!”--and boy, did we dance!

tJm: What is your favorite subject to teach?Luce: Hard to say what my favorite subject is to teach, but reading sure does float to the top in my thoughts. Everything hinges on reading...and that opens the door on writing...which opens the other doors. Reading is important!

tJm: What is the most important thing parents can do with their child at home to enhance his/her educational experience? Luce: I believe our parents should start teaching from the day they are born. Reading to a baby. Singing to a baby. I am not an advocate for television. I would limit it to a bare minimum and pull out the Play-doh and markers and games for stimulation. Everyday life teaches our children to love school. You can teach when you “cut” their sandwich. Do they want a triangle or do they want a rectangle? And as many a teacher has said...read to your child. Little words open a world to them all.

tJm: What are some fun, winter, educational activities parents can do with their children at home?Luce: We can do educational activities everyday at anytime. I think one of my favorite things to do with my grandboys is to cook chocolate chip cookies. I let them measure with just as little help from me as possible. They seem to think it is pretty neat to be able to crack the eggs and measure all the ingredients! They also have to clean up. Seems washing dishes can be done by the smallest if you have a stool. So what if they “play a little” with the bubbles. My youngest grandson is only 3, but he is sitting on the bar at this time watching me stir cookies and cakes with a little help from him. It will not be long before he will crack his first egg. We both like to lick the bowl!

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We put more pressure on ourselves to look a certain way on the day of our wedding. First, you need to understand that no one will even think about your size or that you didn’t get into the size dress you wanted to be in, or the hundreds of other crazy thoughts that enter your mind. There are a lot of things that you can do before your wedding to help you feel better about yourself.

Shop Smarter. When you are grocery shopping, think about your purchases so you are not tempted to eat badly. It might take a little longer and requires a little more work, but the healthy foods are all natural and not processed. Stay in the produce department to get more of your basics.

Drink Water. Sugar filled drinks can add a lot of pounds to your diet. One easy way to cut out pounds is replacing sugar drinks with water. Challenge yourself to drink 8-10 glasses of water a day. There are many retail locations that have a drinking container sized for the recommended daily intake of water. This is an easy way to know where you stand. Not only does water help shed pounds, but it improves your skin and complexion, too.

Snacks. The more servings or healthy snacks you eat in a days time, the less likely you are to overeat at a meal. A good idea is to divide up your snacks- almonds, fruit, granola, chips- in smaller packages so they are divided up into snack portions when you need one. Salads. Salads are a great

way to go for mealtime. The problem is that not everyone can fill up on a salad. To alleviate this problem, choose salads that have some sort of protein included. Or plan to eat a salad before your lunch and dinner, than have a smaller portion for the meal.

Heart rate. Along with watching what goes in, you have to get your heart rate up to burn calories. If you want to lose a few inches and pounds for the big day, push yourself to get in at least 45 minutes of cardiovascular exercise 4 times a week. Put it on your calendar and schedule it!

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Women’s heAlthsay i dont to wedding stress

Stomach aches, headaches, sleep problems, poor concentration, moodiness, irritability, racing thoughts…Getting married is supposed to be a happy time, right? So why are so many brides-to-be completely stressed out?

Having to take care of endless details, manage vendors, handle family demands and meet the emotional needs of the groom – and fitting it all into an already busy schedule – can turn any sweet-natured woman into either a blubbering mess or the dreaded bridezilla.

Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be that way. Wedding consultants and planning experts agree that there are some ways to manage the stress and make the planning process more enjoyable for everyone involved.

Expect stress. If you accept the fact that this is a stressful time, you can let go of guilt about it and take some precautionary measures to deal with it. Talk with your fiancé and a close friend about helping you chill out when things get too tense. Come up with a non-judgmental code word they can say to let you know it’s time for a break. When you hear the code word, stop, take a deep breath and then set the planning aside for a while and do something non-wedding related.

Be realistic. A lot of brides set their expectations so high that they drive themselves (and everyone around them) crazy trying to meet them. But unless you have unlimited access to money, you’re going to have to adjust some of your plans. There are a lot of resources (Web sites, books, magazines, friends) that can help you pull off a lovely wedding on whatever budget you have.

Don’t try to please everyone. It’s just not possible.

Nor is it reasonable to try. The wedding is about the bride and groom. You two need to decide what is meaningful to you and what will express who you are. If his mother wants Cousin Jennie to play her bagpipe as you march down the aisle and you don’t care for the idea, it’s ok to say no. Come up with a polite response such as, “Thanks for your suggestion, but we’re going in a different direction with the plans.” Feelings may get bruised, but ultimately it’s your day and it only has to please you and your fiancé.

Delegate, delegate, delegate. No matter how capable you are, no matter how nifty your organizer is, you can’t do everything by yourself. Nor should you, so stop feeling guilty. It’s ok to ask friends, family and the groom for help – as long as you do it nicely. Some churches or reception halls have a wedding coordinator available to help with details. They’ve done this hundreds of times – you

haven’t. Use them!

Take care of yourself. It’s always important to eat right, get enough sleep and exercise, but it’s especially important during times of stress. You’ll feel more energized, you’ll be able to think more clearly and make better decisions. Besides, who wants to see a bride with dark circles under her eyes drag herself down the aisle?

Keep things in perspective. The most important thing to remember is that the wedding is only a one-day event. It’s just a party to celebrate the beginning of a life together. Too many brides feel enormous pressure to make the wedding perfect and they forget about building a solid marriage. Don’t lose yourself in the details of this one day. You have a lifetime of new memories to create, this is only one of them.



There are definite wedding trends that change every season, similar to the everyday fashion industry. Designers pick their top trends as they design cutting edge runway pieces an entire year earlier. No matter what, when your big day arrives, you need to do what fits your own style and personality. 2010 definitely has new looks and trends so here are a few.

dress trendsColors- sage green and blue are the new color trends being seen on the runway. Plum is still a hot color from previous seasons. The new colors can be seen as accents to the dress with a colored sash or hint of colored tulle. Designers are

trying to give traditional dresses a more modern flare.

Bolero. Bolero’s can be seen on many of the dresses this season- simple lace overlay or an extravagant detailed bolero. It is a nice touch to a traditional dress.

Broach. The “it” piece this season is having a broach detail on the dress. It is usually the focal point of the dress. It’s a hot addition to a gown because it is a tiny accessory that adds so much detail.

Off the Shoulder. Off the shoulder is a prominent trend in fashion in general. In the wedding dress industry there is another piece to make a gown pop. The over the shoulder look adds sophistication and style all rolled into one. It can be an extravagant floral detail or a simple tulle strap over the

shoulder. Whatever the fabric and detail choice, the over the shoulder trend will definitely add to the look and feel of the big day.

Bridesmaid dress trendsThe main trend in the bridesmaid department is choosing a dress that your girlfriends can wear again. They are modern and contemporary styles, tea length dresses, and more everyday fabrics. Common styles seen on the runways for the spring season are open backs, over the shoulder or beautiful necklines, and fun colors as opposed to the common use of pastels.

Accessory trendsIt is the final piece that completes any outfit- jewelry. Many brides often place little time and attention to choosing what pieces of jewelry will be worn. But, if it done right, the chosen pieces can make everything come together and pop! Top trends seen with dresses this season are layering pieces- especially necklaces and bangle bracelets. Gold is also something you cannot go wrong with this season. Gold has come back and can be found in many beautiful styles. Again, seen with wedding dresses, broaches of all kinds are very popular. Get creative with what you find and tie it to your bouquet, pin one in your hair. The draw to broaches as a fashion accessory is that it turns into a keepsake and can be transformed into everyday wear after the wedding day.

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beautyPlan Plan Plan

Looking stunning and radiant is what every bride looks forward to on her big day. The more preparation you can do before the week you walk down the aisle, the easier it will be. There is so much to get done and cross off the list that brides often forget to take care of themselves. Keep this list handy to help prepare for the beauty part of your wedding.

Tip 1Makeup Artist. Consider hiring a makeup artist. Your everyday wear makeup is different than your wedding day makeup. The reflection of the flash on a shimmer shadow or a undereye concealer can really change your photographs. Try out different makeup artists and select the one who listens to your likes and dislikes and uses his or her techniques to make you feel glamorous.

Tip 2Hair Texture. It is best to work with your natural texture on your big day. If you are natural curly or have board straight hair, do not attempt to leap from one extreme to the other. Not knowing what will happen with your hair after walking outside or if you perspire at the reception, it is the safest bet to go natural.

Tip 3Waterproof Mascara. You either love it or hate it! If you are not a big fan of waterproof mascara, use your regular mascara and follow it up with a coat of waterproof on top.

Tip 4The Breakout! The dreaded pimple on the most important day of your life. Don’t panic. The best plan of attack is to stay away from it and not touch it. Just do your best with makeup. If it is gigantic, try contacting a dermatologist or

aesthetician that can apply a cortisone injection to shrink the blemish.

Tip 5Plan ahead. If you have hairdressers and makeup artists coming, have everything out and in one location. That way you are not scrambling at the last second looking for the bag you put the mascara in that you just purchased. Have rollers and irons plugged in and ready to go to save time.

Tip 6Last minute calls. Do not make any last minute changes. Wear makeup you are confident in. Do not try something new the day of your wedding. Do not pluck your eyebrows a couples hours before, as the redness cannot be covered up with makeup.


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ask the docdental wellness | by dr warren guy

The Development of Your Child’s FaceBy Warren S. Guy, DDS, PhDPediatric Dentistry of East Texas1218 Ellis Street, Lu!in, Texas 75904

We want our children to develop beautiful faces and smiles that promote their future success. Is that process something we can favorably influence? What factors might have an unfavorable effect?

Compare the faces in the above picture. The newborn head is mostly neurocranium. The face of the six year old (middle) shows that development around the airway in the midface dominates in preschool years. The early teen’s face is nearly fully formed. Jaw and dental development are the emphasis in the grade school years.

takeaway point 1: Timing is important. Abnormal facial growth begins early in life.

Here is what we cannot change: basic genetic patterns. The long narrow face on the left (dolichofacial) and the short square face on the right (brachyfacial) are genetically programmed. Sexual characteristics are as well. These tendencies show up early in the shape of the cranium of newborns.

takeaway point 2: The overall shape of the face is established early as genetic factors direct

the shape and size of the neurologic structures in the upper face like the brain and eyes.The central part of the face develops as part of the growing airway. An open nasal airway optimizes

facial growth. Airway obstruction causes certain facial growth abnormalities. Keep in mind that much of the middle of the face is formed during the preschool years. This in turn will have a major effect on the growth of the jaw and the positions of the teeth in the smile.

takeaway point 3: Take advantage of medical and surgical interventions early for airway obstruction and mouth breathing.

Watch for signs of nasal airway obstruction. These include snoring, nasal allergies, frequent throat and ear infections, sleep apnea and attention deficit. The upper jaw grows narrow with crowded and protruded incisors. The upper

and lower teeth in the front of the mouth do not bite together.

The grade school years are important for the development of the jaws. Permanent teeth erupt. The lower face develops rapidly.

During this period a new way to swallow develops. Abnormal swallowing, called tongue thrust, causes facial growth problems. Airway obstruction continues to be a problem. Normal development and eruption of the teeth gives a pretty smile. Oral habits like nail biting and thumb sucking play a part.

This is the phase when corrections of developing abnormalities is most helpful. The upper jaw can be widened. A weak or excessive lower jaw can be made more harmonious. Teeth can be guided into place.Habits can be controlled. Grade school children are more cooperative than teenagers. Major growth is still taking place. It is much harder to straighten teeth with braces in the teen years after the boney framework is already established.

takeaway point 4: Do not wait to correct


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abnormal facial growth with braces as a teenager. Act on the problem during the grade school years. The earlier the better.

Photo CaptionsFrom Essentials of Facial Growth, Enlow and Hans, 1996

Do you have a topic you would like to learn more about regarding children’s health? Send us your questions and ideas and we will find a local professional to answer your questions. Email us at [email protected].

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child’s playalex and clara Keath

Alexandra, 4, and Clara, 2, moved into a new home and her mother wanted to make the rooms just perfect for their personalities. The rooms are adorable. They provide a lot of color, creativity, and beauty to the girl’s days. Many of the base pieces to the room’s came from the family. Alex and Clara’s mom, Lacey Keath, says, “This couch and armoire used to be mine when I was a little girl. The chair in the corner came from their grandmother.” The chair was the starting point when choosing colors and patterns for Alexandra’s room. The rooms are adorned with chandeliers. It adds an elegant and a feminine touch. Lacey did not want that to set the tone for the room, so she was sure to soften it with the pillows, drapes, and linens she chose. To finish off the rooms, there are adorable prints taken by Becki Basham in beautiful, custom frames all around both rooms.

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kids konnectnew years resolutions

“I want to learn how to read books.”Trey Huddleston, 4 Nacogdoches

“My New Year’s Resolution is to re-use more stuff so I can help the environment.” Mason Rasberry, 6 Nacogdoches

“I want to help my little brother learn how to play baseball.”Hank Warren, 7Lufkin

“In 2010, I just want to go to Hawaii.”Anna Huddleston, 7Nacogdoches

“I want to kill a big buck”James Michael Warren,13Lufkin

“I want to write a brand new song and teach our dog Max some tricks.” Blayre Brent, 6Lufkin

Does your child have a craft, hobby, or interest that they would like to share with other kids their age? Tell us about it by emailing us at [email protected]. Your child might be featured in a future issue of The Journey!


treats and eatssuPer bowl snacKs for Kids | by felicia darK

At many adult gatherings, children come along for the ride. This Super Bowl season will most likely not be any different. If you plan on having a party this year, don’t forget about the kids! It is so easy to make things appeal to children. You can take simple finger foods, dress it up, create a nice presentation- and it will be a child magnet! Go one step further and get heart healthy foods.

Here are a few quick ideas for snack foods for kids:

Bowl of Individual Fruit--grapes, strawberries, blueberries

Bowl of Nuts (do not forget about peanut allergies)

Cheese Cubes. Have a little more time? Stick each cube with a pretzel stick.

Celery and Peanut Butter

Marshmallows

Sandwiches cut out with cookie cutters

Popcorn

Large pretzel sticks dipped in chocolate

Cheese Puffs

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Family supportquestions for counselors

Q: I am recently divorced. My ex-husband and I are still very young and I know dating is going to be in the future for both of us. We have 2 children, a son, age 5, and a daughter age, 2. What is the best plan to introduce dating to the children? Should we set ground rules together on what the children will see and how little or how much they will get involved in our dating relationships? Or do we just decide individually? My ex and I do not communicate or work well together, so I am not sure if we can agree on rules together. What should we do for the sake of the children?

A: The most important thing after a divorce is that your children are adjusting to their new situation. You need to remember that it is not natural for them to see mom and dad with anyone other than each other. If you start dating keep your children away until they are ready for someone new in their life. Do not introduce them to everyone that you date. This is very confusing to children. When you do meet someone that you feel will be around for the long term, take it slow when introducing them to your children. Reassure your children that both mom and dad still love them very much even though they are not still together. They need stability now more than ever. Try not to make the situation anymore confusing for them. The more you and your ex can work together in handling this situation the better it will be for the children.

Christi Rowe, MA, LPC, NCC

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Why I love beIng A momcarrie leonard

Sometimes things just don’t turn out as planned. “Yes”, I told my mother-in-law again “I would rather have the fish poacher than a Cuisinart mixer.” After all, marriage was going to bring out the Julia Child within me and we would eat mainly fish – it’s healthiest after all. Fast-forward 11 years: I’ve burned out two electric hand mixers, I’m still no Julia Child and that fish poacher is lying somewhere in the city landfill. In spite of all this, my family still likes it when I cook dinner. My visions of life as a mom were no less grandiose and thankfully it hasn’t worked as planned either – it has been so much better! Motherhood is never short on surprises. In fact, the greatest lesson it has taught me would be to search for the joy in what is given rather than what was expected. And by all means laugh a lot. Without a sense of humor and a willingness to share our shortcomings with our friends, we would all feel like lonely failures. My younger son Grant had repeatedly missed the target with his nerf gun. His older brother Evan would surely be fed-up soon and stop playing with him. Instead, I watched unnoticed as he patiently taught his little brother how to aim for the target. So excited to be able to witness one of these rare moments, I walked closer. “Good Job” – exclaims Evan. “You got the

Shepherd now aim for the Wise man.”

I had long anticipated watching the Disney fireworks with our boys. I could hardly wait to hear “When you wish upon a star” as we watch the colors light up the sky. Yes, I had planned for this moment – it would be great, no, it would be momentous! At the first mention of fireworks, my youngest son began wailing. You see, neither of my boys like loud noises, they never have. But somehow, I hoped the magic of Disney would help them overcome this fear. Instead, we escaped to a quiet restaurant. When my older son saw how much his mom wanted to watch the show, he put on a pair of earmuffs and we set out to make a memory. That one precious moment of sacrifice on his part made the whole trip more special than I could have ever planned.

Because things didn’t go as planned, I can empathize with the mother struggling to teach her child to use his words instead of his hands, feet or teeth. Likewise, I would never have been blessed with friends that don’t say a word (or better yet laugh) when I explain the red mark on my child’s forehead is a rug burn - which he made on purpose. As for me, when a child gets out of the car with gum stuck to their behind and mismatched shoes because they were allowed to dress themselves, I know instantly that his mom is a friend. And the opposite is true too, if you’ve got any number of children and your car doesn’t occasionally stink, you probably make me a little nervous.

In all our efforts to prove our skills as a great mom, it’s best to remember that it’s rather endearing when we’re not.

Tim, Carrie, Evan and Grant Leonard

“The greatest lesson motherhood has taught me would be to search for joy in what is given rather than what was expected.”

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the revIeW

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eyelashesA brides eyelashes are an important piece for the day. Try this new volume pumping mascara by L’Oreal. It is amazing! The

mascara comes in both regular and waterproof. Available at your local drugstore or grocery chain.

home sweet homeWhat better way to welcome a newlywed couple home. This door mat is a great gift the new couple will surely love. The beautiful French design adds a touch of elegance to the entrance of the home. The mat can be purchased with or without the frame. For more details, visit House of Traditions, 314 E. Main Street, Nacogdoches, 936.564.4101

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Parting Advice:

Try to plan a day to go dress shopping together. Instead of you bringing it to her attention, call the shops ahead and let them know what is going on. Let them drop the hints on etiquette and dress wear. That way they are the “bad guys.”

Charla SparksFashion Shop

The general protocol for the groom’s mother in choosing her dress is to follow the bride’s mother. Once the bride’s mother has selected her dress, the groom’s mother can go ahead and select her dress. I think discussing with the bride and her mother, if possible, on color and style of the dress is common courtesy. Groom’s mother should avoid dresses in white, ivory, black or red, unless the bride specifically requests

one of these colors. In my opinion everyone should honor the bride’s request as much as possible…it is HER special day!

Kelley MooreCarlisle ConsultantYes, you’re probably overreacting! Your best bet is to focus on the things that you have control over and try not to worry about how your future

mother-in-law will dress. Under the guise of making sure your mom and future mother-in-law aren’t dressed alike, you could share what your mom is wearing and suggest a few shops. Tread lightly! You surely don’t want to start off on the wrong foot with your mother-in-law and she just might surprise you with the perfect, elegant outfit.

Suzy ChildersLou Stationery Studio

I am worried about what my future mother in law will wear to the wedding. She usually dresses more on the risqué side. Am I over reacting or should I be concerned? What is the best way to help her choose something appropriate and what do I say?

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