Figure 1. A diagram created by Jon Dunnemann, Founder and Director of The Center for Inter-Spiritual Dialogue Lakewood, NJ 08701 (jondunnemann@yahoo.com) based on Murray Stein’s 1998 book, Transformation: Emergence of the self (Carolyn and Ernest Fay Series in Analytical Psychology) and Dr. Daniel J. Siegel’s concept of “cultivating mindsight”, the ability to look within and perceive the mind and to reflect on our experience. Both are essential to our well-being. For more information see mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation, 2010 (Bantam Books).

Figure 1. A diagram created by Jon Dunnemann, Founder and Director of The Center for Inter-Spiritual Dialogue Lakewood, NJ 08701 (jondunnemann@yahoo.com) based on Murray Stein’s 1998 book, Transformation: Emergence of the self (Carolyn and Ernest Fay Series in Analytical Psychology) and Dr. Daniel J. Siegel’s concept of “cultivating mindsight”, the ability to look within and perceive the mind and to reflect on our experience. Both are essential to our well-being. For more information see mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation, 2010 (Bantam Books).

Self Imago Self Imago (Knowledge (Knowledge

of self)of self)Self-realizationSelf-realizationSelf-emergenceSelf-emergence

Self-revelationSelf-revelation

Self-actualizationSelf-actualization

Self Imago Self Imago (knowledge of the self)(knowledge of the self)

An integrated person is someone who maintains An integrated person is someone who maintains clarity of focus on these six (6) dimensions of the clarity of focus on these six (6) dimensions of the self.self. 1.1. Spirit (breath of life or soul)Spirit (breath of life or soul)2.2. Awareness (presence of mind)Awareness (presence of mind)3.3. Attention (naming and taming)Attention (naming and taming)4.4. Attuning (interacting with others)Attuning (interacting with others)5.5. Practice (seeing and shaping)Practice (seeing and shaping)6.6. Transformation (inner calm and well-being)Transformation (inner calm and well-being)

Spirit Spirit (breath of life or soul)(breath of life or soul)

"One who is born in the Spirit and who therefore "One who is born in the Spirit and who therefore lives by love is liberated from all the narrow claims lives by love is liberated from all the narrow claims of sectarian prejudice, nationalism, legalism, and of sectarian prejudice, nationalism, legalism, and from every division that breeds hatred and conflict."from every division that breeds hatred and conflict."

The word of God is then able to prove itself by its The word of God is then able to prove itself by its transforming power which brings love, unity, peace, transforming power which brings love, unity, peace, understanding and freedom where there were understanding and freedom where there were prejudice, conflict, hatred, division and greed.” prejudice, conflict, hatred, division and greed.”

- Thomas Merton, Christian monk, author, lecturer- Thomas Merton, Christian monk, author, lecturer

Key elements - Key elements - Source (the creator, first cause, and essence of being)Source (the creator, first cause, and essence of being) Dependency (food, shelter, and safety)Dependency (food, shelter, and safety) Relationship (family, community, and worldview)Relationship (family, community, and worldview)

Awareness Awareness (presence of mind)(presence of mind)

““Wisdom requires conscious, intentional and Wisdom requires conscious, intentional and reflective living based on one's values and priorities. reflective living based on one's values and priorities. It means practicing in words and actions who one It means practicing in words and actions who one wants to be.wants to be.

Wise decisions are a response, not a reaction. One Wise decisions are a response, not a reaction. One makes wise decisions by observing the uniqueness of makes wise decisions by observing the uniqueness of a situation and the persons involved, recognizing a situation and the persons involved, recognizing alternatives, weighing options, and making a way alternatives, weighing options, and making a way forward.”forward.”

- Gary J. Boelhower, Author of A Model for Wise Gary J. Boelhower, Author of A Model for Wise Decision-Making Based on Spiritual PrinciplesDecision-Making Based on Spiritual Principles

Key elements - Key elements - Internal (attitudes, emotions, and feelings)Internal (attitudes, emotions, and feelings) External (common knowledge, culture, and External (common knowledge, culture, and environment)environment) Situational (anticipate, contemplate, and postulate) Situational (anticipate, contemplate, and postulate)

Attention Attention (naming and taming)(naming and taming)

"To be a person in the full sense you have to be an "To be a person in the full sense you have to be an agent with a sense of yourself as agent," capable of agent with a sense of yourself as agent," capable of making plans, holding values, and exercising making plans, holding values, and exercising choice.” choice.”

- Charles Taylor, Author, philosopher- Charles Taylor, Author, philosopher

Key elements - Key elements - Assessment (naming, framing, and taming)Assessment (naming, framing, and taming) Perception (material, psychological, and spiritual) Perception (material, psychological, and spiritual) Conflict Resolution (bargaining, negotiating, and Conflict Resolution (bargaining, negotiating, and strategizing) strategizing)

Attuning Attuning (interacting with others)(interacting with others)

““The first half of life is spent mainly in finding out The first half of life is spent mainly in finding out who we are through seeing ourselves in our who we are through seeing ourselves in our interaction with others.”interaction with others.”

- Dr. June Singer, Clinical psychologist and writer who - Dr. June Singer, Clinical psychologist and writer who taught at the Institute for Transpersonal Psychology taught at the Institute for Transpersonal Psychology in Palo Alto and was a member of the C.G. Jung in Palo Alto and was a member of the C.G. Jung Institute in San FranciscoInstitute in San Francisco

Key elements - Key elements - Immediacy (motivators, mining, and timing)Immediacy (motivators, mining, and timing) Matching (mutual understanding, trust, and respect) Matching (mutual understanding, trust, and respect) Approach (interests, positions, and principles) Approach (interests, positions, and principles)

Practice Practice (seeing and shaping)(seeing and shaping)

““Practices need time – they are something done by Practices need time – they are something done by someone to achieve a goal at some time in the someone to achieve a goal at some time in the future.” future.”

- Eckhart Tolle, Author of the The Power of Now and A Eckhart Tolle, Author of the The Power of Now and A New EarthNew Earth

Key elements - Key elements - Tools (best practices, benchmarking, and raising or Tools (best practices, benchmarking, and raising or lowering the bar)lowering the bar) Objectives (concerns, goals, and outcomes) Objectives (concerns, goals, and outcomes) Support system (collaboration, encouragement, and Support system (collaboration, encouragement, and mentoring) mentoring)

Transformation Transformation (inner calm and well-being)(inner calm and well-being)

““The person’s will, like the mind, is transformed, it no The person’s will, like the mind, is transformed, it no longer seeks selfish ends and becomes more other-longer seeks selfish ends and becomes more other-centered.”centered.”

- Brother Wayne Teasdale, Christian monk, author, - Brother Wayne Teasdale, Christian monk, author, lecturerlecturer

Key elements - Key elements - Intelligence (cognitive, emotional, physical, social, and Intelligence (cognitive, emotional, physical, social, and spiritual)spiritual) Reflection (journaling, mature prayer, meditation, Reflection (journaling, mature prayer, meditation, mindfulness, and yoga) mindfulness, and yoga) Transcendence (awakening, frame-shifting, and Transcendence (awakening, frame-shifting, and interconnectedness) interconnectedness)

““Our frequent failure as leaders to deal with our inner Our frequent failure as leaders to deal with our inner lives leaves too many individuals and institutions in lives leaves too many individuals and institutions in the dark. From the family to the corporation to the the dark. From the family to the corporation to the body politic, we are in trouble partly because of the body politic, we are in trouble partly because of the shadows…. Since we can’t get out of it [the shadow], shadows…. Since we can’t get out of it [the shadow], we must get into it – by helping each other explore we must get into it – by helping each other explore our inner lives. What might that help look like?our inner lives. What might that help look like?

First, we could lift up the value of “inner work.” That First, we could lift up the value of “inner work.” That phrase should become commonplace in families, phrase should become commonplace in families, schools, and religious institutions, at least, helping us schools, and religious institutions, at least, helping us understand that inner work is as real as outer work understand that inner work is as real as outer work and involves skills one can develop, skills like and involves skills one can develop, skills like journaling, reflective reading, spiritual friendship, journaling, reflective reading, spiritual friendship, meditation, and prayer.”meditation, and prayer.”

Second, we could spread the word that inner work, Second, we could spread the word that inner work, though it is a deeply though it is a deeply personalpersonal matter, is not matter, is not necessarily a necessarily a privateprivate matter: inner work can be matter: inner work can be helped along in community. Indeed, doing inner work helped along in community. Indeed, doing inner work together is a vital counterpoint to doing it alone. Left together is a vital counterpoint to doing it alone. Left to our own devices, we may delude ourselves in ways to our own devices, we may delude ourselves in ways that others can help us correct.”that others can help us correct.”

- Parker J. Palmer, Author of Let Your Life Speak, Parker J. Palmer, Author of Let Your Life Speak, teacher, and activist who works independently on teacher, and activist who works independently on issues in education, community, leadership, issues in education, community, leadership, spirituality, and social change. spirituality, and social change.