The Biblical Basis Of The Biblical Basis Of ForgivenessForgiveness

Matthew 5:23-24 Matthew 5:23-24

Biblical Basis of Forgiveness Biblical Basis of Forgiveness

Practice Of Personal ForgivenessPractice Of Personal Forgiveness

Reconciliation of Relationships Reconciliation of Relationships

50% of patients in psychiatric hospitals 50% of patients in psychiatric hospitals

Forgiveness is a virtue a result of our Forgiveness is a virtue a result of our character traits. character traits.

Healing of yourself than demanding any Healing of yourself than demanding any reparation from the other person. reparation from the other person.

Matt 5:23-24 Matt 5:23-24

Vertical relationship Vertical relationship

Horizontal relationships Horizontal relationships

1. Root Need Of Forgiveness 1. Root Need Of Forgiveness

Conflict and its Causes Conflict and its Causes

James 4:1-3 James 4:1-3

A. Our Desires A. Our Desires

B. Our Differences B. Our Differences

1. Root Need Of Forgiveness1. Root Need Of Forgiveness

What are some of the ways we deal with What are some of the ways we deal with conflict in the Chinese culture? conflict in the Chinese culture?

What are some of the ways we deal with What are some of the ways we deal with conflict in the Western culture?conflict in the Western culture?

1. Root Need Of Forgiveness1. Root Need Of Forgiveness

C. Our Ignorance C. Our Ignorance

i. Internal i. Internal

ii. External ii. External

2. Task Of Forgiveness2. Task Of Forgiveness

Examples of Jesus Examples of Jesus

Lk 23:34 Lk 23:34

Jn 21:15-18 Jn 21:15-18

Mat 18:21-22 Mat 18:21-22

Mat 6:14-15 Mat 6:14-15

Mark 11:25 Mark 11:25

2. Task Of Forgiveness2. Task Of Forgiveness

Why don't we forgive? Why don't we forgive?

A. Achingly Difficult A. Achingly Difficult

Dog eat dog, not dog forgive dogDog eat dog, not dog forgive dog

Rules of the playgroundRules of the playground

2. Task Of Forgiveness2. Task Of Forgiveness

Why don't we forgive? Why don't we forgive?

B. Desire For Justice B. Desire For Justice

Forgiveness is beyond justice Forgiveness is beyond justice

2. Task Of Forgiveness2. Task Of Forgiveness

Why don't we forgive? Why don't we forgive?

C. Does Not DisappearC. Does Not Disappear

““Forgive and forget” Forgive and forget”

ButBut

We cannot truly forget We cannot truly forget

2. Task Of Forgiveness2. Task Of Forgiveness

Why don't we forgive? Why don't we forgive?

D. Requires Divine Intervention D. Requires Divine Intervention

Breaks the cycle of blame Breaks the cycle of blame

Forgiver same plane as the forgiven Forgiver same plane as the forgiven

3. Steps To Forgiveness 3. Steps To Forgiveness The Road To ReconciliationThe Road To Reconciliation

A. Give Up Right A. Give Up Right

"I have a right to holding a grudge""I have a right to holding a grudge"

3. Steps To Forgiveness 3. Steps To Forgiveness The Road To ReconciliationThe Road To Reconciliation

The Road To Reconciliation The Road To Reconciliation

B. Reconciliation requires maturity and B. Reconciliation requires maturity and character character

i. Acknowledge Account i. Acknowledge Account

ii. Apology ii. Apology

iii. Appeasement iii. Appeasement

3. Steps To Forgiveness 3. Steps To Forgiveness The Road To Reconciliation The Road To Reconciliation

Too often people deal with the “head” Too often people deal with the “head” knowledge of forgiveness, but not the knowledge of forgiveness, but not the

“heart” or emotions. Through guilt “heart” or emotions. Through guilt you can get people to apologize, but if you can get people to apologize, but if

their hearts are not yet ready, their hearts are not yet ready, resentment will remain and grow resentment will remain and grow stronger over time. (Ron Kreybill)stronger over time. (Ron Kreybill)

3. Steps To Forgiveness 3. Steps To Forgiveness The Road To ReconciliationThe Road To Reconciliation

Genesis 50:15-21Genesis 50:15-21

3. Steps To Forgiveness 3. Steps To Forgiveness The Road To ReconciliationThe Road To Reconciliation

C. Forgrieving C. Forgrieving

i. Run/Remove i. Run/Remove

ii. Reflect ii. Reflect

iii. Return iii. Return

iv. Release iv. Release

v. Reconstruct v. Reconstruct

3. Steps To Forgiveness 3. Steps To Forgiveness The Road To ReconciliationThe Road To Reconciliation

Short-circuiting forgrieving Short-circuiting forgrieving

i. Run/Remove leads to deniali. Run/Remove leads to denial

ii. Reflect leads to tolerance and ii. Reflect leads to tolerance and indifferenceindifference

iii. Return leads to status quoiii. Return leads to status quo

iv. Release iv. Release

v. Reconstruct v. Reconstruct

Practice Of Personal Forgiveness Practice Of Personal Forgiveness

Reflect and listen to the Holy Spirit Reflect and listen to the Holy Spirit

Need to forgive Need to forgive

Openness to be forgiven Openness to be forgiven