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The ‘Underground’ Attraction Techniques

– Your Key To Unlocking A Woman’s Inner Desires & Becoming The

Captivating Man All Women Fall For…

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Table Of Content How To Be The Guy ALL Women Love.............................................................3 Fire Away, Captain!.............................................................................................5 ‘Kinesthetic’ Connection..................................................................................11 Using Nicknames/Pet Names: .........................................................................15 Become Interesting By Telling Her Stories ....................................................16 Qualifying Her ...................................................................................................20 Social Proof.......................................................................................................22 Admitting Your Flaws.......................................................................................23 Lack of Neediness ............................................................................................25 My Take On Cocky & Funny… .........................................................................27 When To Know You’ve Begun To Score Points.............................................29 How To Use This Information….......................................................................30 To Sum It All Up… ............................................................................................31



How To Be The Guy ALL Women Love

We were traditionally taught by our parents, grandparents, teachers and well-meaning friends, television, basically everything surrounding us that the best way to get a woman is by treating her right, being attentive to all her needs, care for her, write sappy love poems for her, talking to politely, give her everything she wants, buy her flowers, buy her gifts, take her out for expensive dinners, compliment her, I could go on for DAYS on these… Sad to say buddy, but that’s just a bunch of bullshit. See, when you do all these, you’re just being plain PREDICTABLE. And anything which predictable is outright BORING to women. 99.99% of guys tend to make the mistake of acting overly nice, submissive, to women. They’ll be very conscious of the words they say and the things they do to keep on the ‘good side’ of her scoreboard, mainly because they’re afraid she might just pick up and leave if he said/did anything wrong to offend her. They’ll put up with arrogant, rude and bad behavior from them and will not hesitate to apologize to her, basically ANYTHING just to make her happy. In fact, even when they KNOW they’ve been taken advantage off, they’ll still suck it all in with the dreamy “hope” that one day she’ll just give in and sleep with him. (Sigh). That’s just sooo, soooo sad, isn’t it?. Here’s a crash course for being the guy women are looking for. Take everything I’ve just mentioned above and turn it ALL around when you’re with women. Yes! You heard me right. Do the exact OPPOSITE of everything you’ve been traditionally taught about dating women. Forget those wimpy compliments. Stop buying her stuff. Stop it you freak!! You’ve got to enter into a set by showing her you’re a man with your own set of STANDARDS when it comes to women; if she’s being arrogant, challenge her by telling her you won’t put up with that bratty lil’ attitude, be willing to walk away from women you feel are not up to your standards, CHALLENGE her by busting on her, CHALLENGE her by calling her quirky nicknames, stop hold anything back, let your energy flow, let your PERSONALITY flow…



Always remember… you’re not there to kiss her ass, you’re there to have FUN… with or WITHOUT her, you’re a person of higher social status, a guy people recognize, respect and look up to, you’re never seeking her approval for anything you say or do, you’re comfortable with yourself and the people around you; simply put, you’re just basically not OUTCOME RELIANT. You’ll be learning specific techniques on how this is all done as we go along so let’s get right down to it, shall we?



Fire Away, Captain! Beautiful women get approached ALL the time. They’re sexy, hot and every guy that comes her way will want to ‘get it on’ with her. They KNOW it, they’re USED to it and it’s also one of the reasons why they’re much more ‘shielded’ whenever they’re approached by men. “Hey you’re like the most gorgeous thing I’ve seen in my life… and I’d like to get to know you better…” “Hey beautiful, my name’s John… can I buy you a drink?” “Dang! You with those curves, and me with no brakes…” “Aw, girl, I'm gonna have to put you on my "To Do" List! “There must be something wrong with my eyes, I can't take them off you!” “Baby, you must be a broom, cause you just swept me off my feet.” “Girl, you must be tired 'cause you've been running through my mind all day!” Annoying, isn’t it? But that’s EXACTLY what a hot chick goes through at least 7-10 times… EVERYDAY! If you’re just like any guy who approaches with those corny lines, how do you think she’ll respond to you? Duh?! Of course she’ll ask you to get lost! Notice how each one of those corny lines starts off by complimenting her… specifically her LOOKS. Telling a gorgeous girl she looks stunning will do you no good. Of course she already knows that. In fact, doing so will actually REINFORCE her belief that you are BELOW her in status. You don’t want that. It like you’re saying… “My, my… that’s my trophy girl right there. I’m going to do everything I can to get her…” You see, when a girl sees you as someone who’s LOWER in status as compared to her, in essence you’re actually giving her the POWER to either ACCEPT or REJECT your advances towards her. She’ll be the one calling the shots. Again, you don’t want that.



This is because once you give her the power, she KNOWS you’re interested in her, she knows she holds the upper hand and this gives her the freedom to ‘play around’ with you… she knows she can act however she wants to with you (bad or good) and you’ll STILL be putty in her hands irrespective of how she treats you because she knows all you want is to get into her pants... they’re not stupid and when they see you as one who’s LOWER than her in status, it’ll be much harder for you to gain back her respect in her eyes. Beautiful women will usually get what they want from men. When she asks you to buy her drinks, you will. When she asks you to drive all across town to get her her favorite cup of coffeee, you will. When she asks you to drive 40 miles from your place to pick her and send her back home even though it’s only 400 meters away from her workplace, you will. I know… I know! It’s so stupid but yes, that’s how pathetic we guys can be with beautiful women! With this is mind, with all your interactions with women, what you want is to show a woman that you’re ABOVE her in status. That you’re not someone who’s easily bowled over by women’s beauty, you make it as if YOU are the prize and that THEY have to work hard to get YOU. If you want to be different, if you want to stand out from the rest, then do the exact OPPOSITE of how the other guys does it! You’ve got to show her you’re USED to being around beautiful women and that you’re NOT intimidated by her looks at all. You do this by having NO mention of her looks whatsoever. You do this by treating her, talking to her just like how you talk to other ordinary, average looking person around. When you talk to her, forget the compliments. They won’t work, at least not just yet. Those should be left for later. What you need to do is to just to fire away and bust her balls. CHALLENGE her. Tease her, make fun of her when you can and don’t be looking for her approval for anything. Don’t be expecting anything from her. You talk to her on your own terms. Remember, you’re not there to impress her, you’re there to have a fun, playful conversation with her. In reality, most guys won’t even dare think of doing this because they’re afraid that such actions might offend the girl, and she might just leave and move on to the next guy. That could be further from the truth. When you’re not kissing her ass, you’re demonstrating to her that you just DON’T CARE. You’re demonstrating to her that you don’t even BOTHER about her looks. Now for someone who gets hit on 7-10 times a day, for someone who enjoys having



CONTROL over ass-kissing men, for someone who’s used to getting whatever they want from men, do you think she’ll even stop for a minute and take notice of you? You bet! She’ll be thinking, “Hey why isn’t this guy kissing my ass like the rest of the other chumps out there. What’s with him? This guy’s different. I’ll hang on a while and see what he’s all about.” Now, I’m not suggesting you meet a girl and act like a jerk to her. Again, your goal is to have a playful, fun interaction with her. NOT insult her. You’ll get nowhere with that. Take two steps forward and one step back. Bust on her, bust on her… compliment her. Bust on her, bust on her… then compliment her. Get it? Creating attraction is like a “dance”. There’s never a hard and fast rule to this.

Another Thing I’d Like To Add… I’d like to remind you that women, BEAUTIFUL women especially; they don’t have the TIME to entertain lame ass guys like that, because they get that ALL THE TIME. So they’ll naturally have to “manage their time” and weed out the ‘losers’ from the REAL men by throwing out QUALIFYING remarks too see whether you’re “up to mark” with them. They’ll have to do so right at the beginning to see whether you’re worth their precious time with you… so you’ve got be on the ready when that happens. That’s partly one of the reasons why they’ll give you the cold shoulder, and consciously blurt out ‘test’ remarks at you as you first approach them. Example 1: Her: “Hi. Can you buy me a drink?” You: “Nah, I don’t usually buy women drinks… why don’t you buy ME one?” Her: “Why should I?” You: “So you can pick me up, bring me home and make ME your sex toy…” Her: “Yeah, in your dreams!” You: “So, you’d rather sit here, get free drinks from the other chumps and let them bore you to death?” Her: ** keeps silent** You: “I’m waiting…” Her: “What’s your name…” ( you’re in) Example 2:



As you’re talking to a group of girls, if you spot the hot one wearing chunky hoop-like earings, go… You: “Hey, where’d you get those earings?” You look like you’re wearing funky, new-age tennis balls up there” Her: (Furious) “Says who?” You: “Does it really matter?” Her: “Hmmpph!” You: “How cute…” Her: **speechless** Example 3: Her: “John’s a cool guy.” You: “Why’d you say that?” Her: “I just think he’s cool…” You: “What led you to think so?” Her: “Well, the other day we saw a slick new Samsung cellphone and I told him it looks “nice”… Next thing I knew, he bought one and gave it to me…” You: “Oooooohh… no wonder…! Kaaachingg! 5 bucks says you’ll marry him if you told him a Beamer’s “nice!” Her: “Hey, I don’t mean it like that…” You: “You make me sick!” Her: “Noooo…! Seriously!” You: “Whatever you say, darling… ☺” Example 4: You: “So what do you do to pay your bills?” Her: “I’m an air stewardess” You: “Poor girl…” Her: **stunned** Example: 5: You: “So what do you do to pay your bills?” Her: “I’m a model… part-time” You: “Noooo way! Come on… seriously…” Her: “I’m serious!” You: “Uumm.. ok if you say so…” Her: “I’m serious… why? What’s wrong?” You: “Nothing… just that you don’t look like one, that’s all” Her: “So what do I look like?” You: “Hairdresser…” Her: **whacks you real hard** Example 6: You: “Eeew, You have a booger!” Her: (Turns red) “I have to go to the washroom” You: “Nah, I’m just messin’ witcha…”



Her: “God you! ** whacks you** Example 7: You: “Ewww, you’ve got guys hands!” Example 8: You: “Hey love your bag! Where’d you get it?” Her: “Yeah lovely isn’t it? It’s the latest LV” You: “I’ve got to get one of those for my mom…” Her: **blushes** The hotter the girl, the MORE you bust on her. Especially the 8s, 9s and 10s. This is a fact. It’s been tested over and over again. Don’t believe me, try it, and you’ll see what I mean. For 5s, 6s and 7s, it might or might not work too well with them as these women don’t tend to get hit on that much, hence they might not have such a high-esteem of themselves. See, the underlying concept behind busting on women is this: Beautiful, attractive women knows they have power over men. The more attractive they are, the more power and CONTROL they know they have over men. And by you busting on her and showing you aren’t impressed by her, even the slightest bit, in effect you’re actually NEUTRALIZING that power, you’re decreasing it repeatedly the more you bust on her, whilst effectively INCREASING your own over her. Don’t forget, beautiful women, especially those 9s and 10s have been constantly reminded, or “programmed” ever since they were young on how “hot, beautiful, pretty” they are by people around them, especially guys. They have always been at the center of attention, MAINLY because of their looks. As time passes, they will naturally grow ACCUSTOMED to it. Now, when you suddenly come into the picture, bust on her, you pay more attention to her ordinary looking friends and neglect her, when you show that you just don’t care, you’re indirectly drawing her in to YOUR reality, instead of you getting sucked into hers when you look for approval from her and when you’re always submitting to her needs and wants. If you keep at it, busting on her and stuff, in effect, you’re actually bringing her ‘down to earth’ and playing on HER insecurities. There will come a point where she’ll be secretly wondering “What’s wrong with me? Why isn’t he coming onto me? Why is he not paying attention to me? Is it my hair? Do I have a spinach stuck in my teeth?” And that’s exactly what you want to achieve as you’re busting on her. When she’s psychologically vulnerable, she’ll want to VALIDATE her status as the ‘prize’ most guys



want and she’ll subconsciously be working HARDER for your attention and try to impress YOU. Other Examples:

• You’re rude, you know that? (Use this when the girl is giving you the attitude, rolling her eyes at you, not paying attention when you’re talking…)

• Are you always this arrogant? • Are you always this way? • Is she always this way? (Use this on her friends if she’s showing you the attitude) • Geez. How’d you guys put up with her *smile*) (Use this on her friends if she’s

showing you the attitude) • Bet you don’t have many friends, huh?

So, you see how the “tables have turned” now? She’s the one who has to do all the work to get you. And THIS is true potential when you know how and when to bust on women which will of course come with LOTS of practice with women.



‘Kinesthetic’ Connection Kinesthetic = touch. This is one part of your game that makes ALL the difference. Some people call it “kino”. Some people call is kino escalation. Some call it “kino seduction”. But whatever name you call it, it’s still all the same. To make it simple to understand, all kino means is anything that involves physical touching of any kind. And never EVER underestimate the potential power of it in your interactions with women. By constantly touching a woman as you’re talking to her, you can quickly, yet subtly build an instant form of physical intimacy and sexual tension that only the both of you can feel together. Touching alone can CONNECT the both of you together in ways that are simply indescribable by words, yet can deeply be felt down to its very core. Kino connection makes a woman feel as if she’s known you for a lifetime when you do it right even if the both of you just met for a brief few minutes. It’s harder and it takes a much longer time to create attraction in a woman without using kino. This is a fact. Yes, you might be saying and doing the right things to get her attracted to you, but nothing will really happen until somehow when both your skin brushes against one another, THAT’S when MAGIC happens! Simply touching her in the right places will make her more attracted to you than you could ever do with your looks, your words, and your cologne... combined! Now when I say touching, I don’t mean FONDLING ok? Nothing of that sort, please. Everything that is shared here is supposed to be done in a playful and fun manner, and I DO NOT advocate groping and fondling a girl without her consent at ANY time. Kino escalation can be done in so many ways:

cuddling poking tickling thumb wresting palm reading pulling her hair/playing with her hair/smelling her hair rubbing your shoulders against hers hugging arms around waist kissing on the chicks/lips touching her face caressing her cheeks … and so many more!

… pretty much anything that involves any form of PHYSICAL CONTACT with her is considered kino.



My friend, I want you to know that using kino is a MUST as you’re talking to her. If you want results fast, think of ways to run kino with her with at any available opportunity. Now often times, guys tend to make it too big a deal when they want to touch a woman. “When should I touch her?” “How should I touch her?” “When do I kiss her?” “When and what should I do if I want to hold her hand?” See how big a fuss guys make about this? You see, this is the WRONG way to look at it completely! If you make a big deal out of something, you’re surely bound to be nervous and screw it up when the ‘right’ time comes about. I’m here to let you know that there has never and will never be the ‘right’ time to hold a girl’s hand, or the ‘right’ time to touch her. In fact, what you should be doing is to get her USED to you touching her AT THE VERY BEGINNING so that when you actually DO touch her, it’s something that she’s already ACCUSTOMED to. It won’t be something alien to her anymore because right from the very first time you’ve met her, you’re ALREADY ‘touching’ her so to speak. I hope you see where I’m going with this. Here’s how it’s done: You make it look as NATURAL as possible. You don’t want her feeling as if you’re trying some ‘trick’ her to get in the sack with you. In order to make it look natural, you’ll have to do it CONFIDENTLY… WITHOUT any form of hesitation. For example, if you feel like reading her palm, don’t ask her. You: “Do you know I am a palm reader? Why don’t you take out your hand and I’ll show it to you…” Her: “Sorry, I’m not interested…” You: “Oh ok…” Both: ** Silence ** Instead, go… You: “Hey, I’ve got a neat little trick I bet you’ve never seen before” Her: “And what’s that?” You: Take out your left hand…” Her: “Why should I?” You: “Trust me…” Her: **Hesitating ** You: (You grab her left hand) Brat! No wonder your school teacher didn’t like you…



Her: “Hey…” **beats your arm** You: “What?! I’m just being honest … Ok… now close your eyes…” See the difference? You do it naturally, confidently and you TAKE CONTROL of the set… ALWAYS! Bear in mind however, that you can’t be doing this too often with her as it’ll seem as if you’re demonstrating too much interest in her (which is not what you want at the very beginning as it gives her the upper hand). Now sometimes, you might have to take a little bit longer to get certain types of women to feel comfortable around you before they’re in a flirtatious mood to play the kino game with you. So, if they’re not as responsive to your kino routines, move back… give her space… and then later when you think you’ve established comfort with her, you move in again… Again, look at it as if it’s a dance… a sexy dance… you move forward… and back… forward and back until you get it right. For example… As you’re reading her palm, she doesn’t look interested in what you have to say… just cut it off straight away and tell her… “yeessh, booooring…” then take your hand off her and go “I’m gonna test it on someone else…” You lead. You’re calling the shots. You determine the outcome of the set and NEVER let anyone take that power away from you, especially if she’s trying to test you… Other examples: Say you’ve approached and started a conversation with a woman you’ve just met at a bar, as you’re talking to her, constantly be moving closer in to her, grab her arm and talk in her ear. Stop bothering about whether she might feel offended by you touching her, just ASSUME she’s totally fine with it. And act as if it’s the most normal thing to do as you’re doing it. Don’t be waiting for her response to see whether she approves of you touching her, you’ll DIE doing that! Remember, you’re a SOCIAL guy and social type of guys are used to being friendly and getting all touchy with people… Who cares what she thinks… you draw her into YOUR reality… Now, sometimes, you might come across some stuck up woman who thinks she owns the world and she’ll try to put you down and test by suddenly saying stuff “My, my… are we getting a bit touchy over here…” just respond back with a devil may care attitude and



say “Hey, what can I say? I AM a touchy kinda’ guy… come here and give me a bear hug!” ☺ **go in for the big hug!** Try this out… women will LOVE it! They’ll be surprised at first no doubt about that but again it’s all in HOW you DELIVER those lines that matter most. It’s how you CALIBRATE your body language, your actions and your words that matters more than anything else! Again, it doesn’t necessarily have to be at clubs for you to feel comfortable touching her. Whenever you’re with a girl, when you feel like it, as you’re teasing her, busting her balls, feel free to poke her at her waist, tickle her if you will, grab her hand as you’re calling her nicknames, mess around with her just like how you’d do to your bratty little sister. It’s really as simple as that! Other Examples: When you call her names, poke her… wink at her… and tickle her… When she calls you names, poke her… say… “wanna try that again?” When she busts on you, you grab her hands tightly, your other hand ready to poke her and go “what did you just say?” As you return from the washroom, poke her on both sides of her waist from behind when you’re back… When taking pictures, put your arms and grab the top part of her shoulder firmly and hug her tightly As you’re reading her palm, tickle it with your little fingers… As you’re talking to her, move closer in, smell her and tell her she smells good… Once she’s comfortable around you, play with her hair, stroke her hair gently, stroke her chin with the back of your hand (women will go CRAZY over this!) I have to stress this over again, within your interactions with a girl, kino is a MUST. If deep down, you’re confident, you’re comfortable under your own skin to do as you like and touch her and reel her into YOUR reality, you have instantly DIFFERENTIATED yourself from 90% of the guys out there who always seeks APPROVAL from women… Your goal is to DIFFERENT from EVERY OTHER GUY out there, remember? In ALL your interactions with women, if you’re different, you’ll definitely get noticed straight away… If you want to move forward and heat things up, kino is the fastest technique to amp up her attraction for you.



Using Nicknames/Pet Names: You will normally give your good friend or someone you’ve known for a long time a pet name. When you give someone a nickname, it creates a special bond only both you and her share and it creates a special connection between the both of you. What you should do is this. A few minutes after you’ve started talking her, give her a quirky, funny nickname and mess with her a bit. For example, if she says she’s an accountant by profession, you go… You: “Ugh! You’re a what…? An accountant? Accountants’ are WEIRD!... Her: “No, I’m not!” You: “Wierdo”. Her: “No, I’m not… Why’d you say that?” You: Bla, bla, bla… Then keep calling her “weirdo” once every couple of minutes when she least expects it and have fun with it. As you’re doing it, the both of you would have suddenly developed an instant bond which is only special to the two of you and no one else. It can be fun, playful, flirty and pretty funny when done creatively. You’ll make it seem as if you guys have known one another for AGES, she’ll feel comfortable talking to you and it’s all pure fun with the name-calling and all. Try it and you’ll see what I mean. Most girls will be caught off-guard when you suddenly call them names the moment you’ve just met as it’s normally reserved for old friends/lovers to do so. There are hundreds of nicknames you can use, such as:

weirdo knucklehead auntie (if she’s young) nana (if she’s young) girlie blur-fette (fette makes it sound more feminine, don’t you think? Remember

Smurfette in Smurfs?) Smurfette (if she has a high-voiced pitch and acts all girlie-like) Pamela (use this one on someone who has big boobs) Goofie Little tiger Minxy (remember how Simon Cowell called Kellie Pickler a ‘naughty little minx’ in

American Idol Season 5?) Elaine (call her this if she sucks at dancing… remember Elaine from Seinfield?)

There’s a TON you can use. Just be creative about it, alright?



Become Interesting By Telling Her Stories

Everyone loves to listen to a good, interesting, sensational story… I know I do… don’t you? Think about it… as you’re listening to someone else’s story, ever realized how much the storyteller is drawing you closer and closer to his/her reality? This is an extremely powerful way to display CONFIDENCE to a woman. When you enter a set and instantly be able to suck someone in to your reality, it shows how COMFORTABLE you are with yourself, and clearly projects yourself as someone who is of a higher social value to her, someone who’s interesting and someone whom people are naturally drawn to and someone who’s not shy to show it to the people around you. Same applies in the dating game. If you want to suck her into your reality, you need to engage her by telling her interesting, playful and exciting stories that will capture her imagination and stir up her emotions. You want to be the ONLY guy in her mind who can bring out the very best in her. Notice how women will say “I don’t know what’s the thing about him, but I just feel great when I’m with him…” You do this by stirring up her feelings, her emotions, and create positive sensations within her by using the POWER OF WORDS in all your interactions with her, which includes the stories you tell her. Never EVER underestimate the true power of WORDS in your interactions with people. Unlike us men, women look for emotional sensations within ANY experience. You conjure up the excitement of your stories by using the right choices of words. Use words that ignite people’s emotions. Be extremely expressive; be well aware of the choices of WORDS you’re using as you’re talking to women, it makes a whole lot of difference as you can see later on. Don’t just say… “I was recently in Bangkok city and discovered a place where I was able to catch a bird’s eye view of the entire night view You: “Hey you know the most exciting thing just happened last week. Have you been to Bangkok before?” Her: “Not really, why?”



You: OMG, You don’t know what you’re missing out! I mean… that’s one place you’ve definitely GOT to visit if that’s the last thing you can ever do!” See, I was there last week and it was there that I truly felt what heaven feels like. Seriously. I actually discovered this amazing looking tower, it’s called the State Tower right… and from the outside, it just looks like any ordinary steel structure, but as I went right up the 64th floor, the moment the lift doors opened, 20 meters away… PARADISE. Now, close your eyes and imagine this. You’re walking on a 20 meter circular walkway which was lited in probably one of the most mesmerizing mixture of vanilla colored, fluorescent blue, space-like extraordinary lighting you’ve ever seen which eventually leads you to the main balcony on possibly one of the tallest structures in Bangkok City. With breezy, soothing winds gushing all around you, you see a 21st century, extravagantly modern-age designed revolving bar with ever changing colors of purple, blue, green & yellow with every passing minute, filled with over scores 20-something year-old couples chatting, laughing, wining & dining the night away. A live jazz band is playing in the background on the left hand side of the balcony as your eyes are glazing across one of the most romantic and breathtaking night views of Bangkok City you’ll ever get to see in your life! Can you imagine how it feels right now? Her: Yeah… Bla, bla, bla You: There’s just soo many little wonders in life we’re practically missing out on and that’s why I’ve promised myself to constantly explore the world outside…” Stories you tell could be just about anything in your daily life, just as long as it’s interesting… You: “So what were you up to last weekend?” Her: Bla, bla, bla… You: I had like one of the best weekends… EVER! Her: What’d you do? You: Well, I was all fully accessorized, dressed up and ready to hit the clubs that night until I saw what happened to my beloved batmobile. You should’ve seen it… I mean… I could still see it soo clearly in my head right now… it was like the most unforgettable sights I’ve ever seen in my life… Her: “What happened?” You: “Imagine 3 of the tires gone. The car jack to reel up the car was still there at the bottom and the nuts to all my tires were all over the floor everywhere. **laughs** It was soo funny!” Her: OMG… Funny? Weren’t you pissed mad?!!”



You: I was initially. But I don’t know… I mean, I was surprised myself. All I remembered was how amused I was when I first saw my car… I looked up to the sky and said… God… I LOVE you! **laughs** Then suddenly, out of nowhere comes this patrol car asking me what happened. I remember telling those 2 cops to buzz off and how I just wanted to cry and wallow in my sorrow fate… Obviously they knew I was just joking about it and I went on busting them on how THEY must be the ones who masterminded the whole thing because I’ve never come across cops whenever I needed one in my life! And there they are appearing out of nowhere coming to my aid when I least expect them! Next thing I knew, we were all like laughing and joking bout it and I was back with them at the station, drinking, chilling out with his captain and the rest of the gang… It was hilarious!” More Examples: You: “I just LOVE going to clubs with girls around. You guys are God-sent at times!” Them: “Why’d you say that?” You: “Well, the funniest thing happened last Saturday. You see a bunch of us were out in Aloha the other night and we were hanging out in the bar right… and then one of the bartenders apparently was eye-ing one my friends. Of course she was smart enough to lead him on. A couple of smiles, winks, and flirtatious moves were all that’s needed to reel him in. And that’s when the night REALLY was on! You should’ve seen it… the guy was pouring us drinks for free the whole night right in front of his boss, it was just crazy! The things guys would do for love! Amazing! Everything went pretty blurry after that, and before we knew it, we had 3 other groups of people joining us to party as if we’ve known each other for ages!” Story telling Guidelines…

Tell stories that are funny, entertaining, exciting, adventurous, thought-provoking… those that captures women’s attention; those that are intriguing and interesting. Never talk about how your favorite cat died, how you geniously changed your 10-year old worn out engine in your truck, how your girlfriend was cheating on you or anything that’s boring and negative.

Tell stories that can subtly increases your social value and bring out your personality without making it appear too obvious. Your stories should incorporate how you love to have fun with the people around you, that you’re an adventurous person who’s not afraid to try and explore new things/territories, you are decisive, confident, relaxed, open-minded, optimistic, basically those that highlights the qualities women are attracted to without being too over-the-top

Choose words that will evoke emotional sensations in your stories. Be expressive and paint the full descriptive pictures within your stories.

Your DELIVERY of your stories are equally important. Know how to control your TONE of voice, know when to slow down, quicken the pace, and always bring ENERGY to your stories.

Always have at least 5 pre-prepared interesting, intriguing story materials ready at the back of your mind.



Never lie. Your stories should always be based on real events, not those you’ve just made up on how you were hanging out with Julia Roberts, how much you spent on booze, cars, holidays, etc whatever that’s used by guys to brag to women

Start off your stories with energy…

- “the weirdest thing happened the other day…” - “guys, you wouldn’t believe what just happened a while ago…” - “hey do you guys into (whatever), you know what’s amazing… (start your

story…)”



Qualifying Her: A powerful way to capture a woman’s attention and interest in you is by REVERSING the whole “female role” in the traditional dating game. You do this by communicating in a way that she wants you, she’s the one chasing you, you are the one of higher stature and that she has to “do all the work” to impress you, you decide whether it’s worth your precious time being with her, etc… You do this by showing her that you have your OWN standards in women, you have CHOICES in your pick of women, that you won’t settle for anything less, you are ACCUSTOMED to being with beautiful women, that you are the SELECTOR and NOT the SELECTEE, and you do this by QUALIFYING her to see whether SHE’S up to YOUR “acceptable” standards. Women WILL be surprised and caught off guard when you do this… because these are supposed to be the “privileges” women get in the dating game. As you’re talking to them, you will realize how they’ll try to suck you into this “reality” that they are the prize and you’ll have work hard for it if you want her. There’s something magnetically attractive about men who qualifies women; it projects alpha-like CONFIDENCE in a man; it’s like the guy saying “Hey, I’m YOUR catch of the day, and you sure as hell better be doing something about it fast… cos if you’re not… well… poor you” Examples: Her: “Hey would you be passing McAllister Road later? Can I get a lift home from you?” You: “Oh no you’re not using THAT line on me sweetheart…” Her: “What line?” You: “That’s just part of your sneaky lil’ scheme to ‘trick’ me into going to bed with you later isn’t it… God, you make me SICK!” Her: ** whacks you** Her: **Grabs your hand** You: “Aaaaack! Why are you (act like you’re about to cry)… molesting me?” Her: **Grabs your hand** You: “Hey! I’m not that kind, ok?” **Smile** Her: **Grabs your hand** You: “No stop it! Can we be friends first… pleeeaaase?” **Smile** Her: **Tickles you** You: “Aaack! That’s it! I’m telling my girlfriend…” Her: “You’re a funny guy”



You: ** Looking damn serious**. Look lady. I’ve just known you for 5 minutes and if you’re trying to pick me up and bring me home later by talking to me like that I’m calling the cops ok?… (look at her friends) Geez, is she always like that?” ☺ Her: ** whacks** Her: “Hey, I like singing too! We should go karaoke sometime…” You: “My, my… do you always work this fast?” **smile** Her: **speechless** Her: “Hey, I like singing too! We should go karaoke sometime…” You: “Errm… I don’t really got out with people I hardly know… Maybe we should get to know each other better first” **smile** - Hey what’s with the interrogation and all? I’ve known you for a couple of minutes and you’re ALREADY playing sergeant with me… Geez. Are you always like this with everyone?



Social Proof Social proof is a very powerful psychological trigger that can really influence the way people act. Social Proof is all about human nature and conditioning. As humans we do things based on what other humans do. We are more likely to make a decision or take an action when we have seen PROOF that someone else has also made the same decision. The choice becomes that much easier when we realize people “just like us” (similar demographics) have made the choice too. It’s like I’m walking to a football game to go to my seat and 40,000 people in front of me are lined up going through the gates waiting to enter the stadium. Instead of analyzing where to go , I’ll just follow along with the crowd. For instance, have you ever gotten off a plane in a strange airport and then just sort of followed the crowd to the baggage claim? And done so without really looking at all the signs... just followed the herd? It's why teenagers who tell you that they want to be individuals, but wouldn't be caught dead in an outfit that didn't look like everyone else's. It’s sort of like monkey see, monkey do. We are very, VERY much influenced by people around us, especially if we feel people around us are similar to us. And that’s the underlying concept behind social proof. Same applies here in dating. See, when it comes to creating attraction with women, social proof is a powerful concept because, if we can subtly “demonstrate” to women that other women, just like them, are attracted to us, are interested in us, enjoy hanging out with us or they simply want us, they are more likely to make the same decision. Examples of Social Proofing:

Being seen in the company of women talking, laughing, having a good time Receiving numerous calls when you’re with a woman (shows you have a big pool

of people who wants to hang out with you) Being seen with women who are showing signs of interests in you; hitting you,

hugging you, flirting with you, etc The moment you enter a house party, everyone’s crowding around you and

suddenly the party becomes ‘alive’ Every group setting you enter into, the group attracts attention as everyone

becomes more alive, fun, lively, exciting, etc Your female friends suddenly crowds around you as you enter the room



Admitting Your Flaws Guys love to show off in front of women. They brag about how much money their making, how many women they’ve dated in the past, what car their driving, whom they know, how fearless they are, etc. Women HATE guys who brag and act all egoistical in front of them. On the flipside, guys like to make themselves look PERFECT in front of women. How stupid can women be? Don’t you think women knows NO one’s perfect? Now, imagine if you were to do the OPPOSITE with her. You tell her stories of how and terrified you are of roaches, bugs, creepy insects and why it came about, etc. You share with her stories of how you LOVE listening to boy bands, why you love watching Dallas or “women-only” soap operas, your most embarrassing moments, etc. Example: Her: “Did you hear how Johnny was raking in over 300 grand last year?” Amazing. You: “Aaah, that’s nothing!... (Pause) Man… I’d be freakin’ lucky if I could settle my card bills for last Saturday! Ha ha ha” (Notice how most guys would try to brag about how much MORE money their making to not ‘lose out’ or ‘lose face’ when such situations arise… Here, you’re actually making it look like you’re about to do the same… but you did the opposite, you ended up DISQUALIFYING yourself, and was willing to laugh at yourself.) You see, when you open up yourself and admit your flaws to women, again, it shows how comfortable you are with yourself. It shows you’re confident of showing to people who you really are and not showing off like the rest of the other guys. You’ll look like you’re not trying too hard to gain her approval. She in turn will feel you’re a genuine enough to open up yourself to her, she’ll trust you more and will naturally open up to you as well. In order to do this, you mustn’t take yourself too seriously and be willing to laugh at yourself sometimes… let loose and make fun of yourself… it’s ok to show you’re vulnerable sometimes, after all we’re all just humans and women actually find this pretty darn endearing in a man! Always remember the golden rule to DIFFERENTIATING yourself with women… always… ALWAYS do and act… the UNEXPECTED.

If she thinks or if she expects you to say left… you say… right. If she expects you to submit to her demands… you bust on her even more.



If she expects you to kiss her… you slowly draw closer in to her just like how you’re about to kiss her… then you pull away.

If she expects you to ask for her number, you don’t; you play your game right, you do, you say all the right things to her, get her excited, get her ENGAGED in you… and then you leave without her number.

Same here as well, if she expects you to keep up a clean, goody, perfect image of yourself in front of her… you act the OPPOSITE and make fun of yourself. When you share personal ‘secret’ stories that are funny, embarrassing together with her, that’s when the both of you connect emotionally. That’s where the both of share an emotional bond together. Try it… women love this! Obviously you’d be smart enough to pick and choose the types of flaws you’re planning to reveal to her. If at all possible, try not to reveal anything negative/sad or possibly anything filled with resentment, anger, etc.



Lack of Neediness NEVER ever come from a position of NEEDINESS. Do that and you'll see her run faster than Ben Johnson. A girl must be made to feel that she has EARNED you, only then will she LIKE you. See, if you keep throwing yourself at her feet, she will BOLT for the nearest exit! No one appreciates a doormat, so don't be one! Listen. NEVER be outcome reliant when you're with her. If she gives you bad attitude, shrug it off and don't let it bother you in any way. The keyword here is "non-attachment" Non-attachment means that it shouldn't matter if she is interested or not in you since there are 1001 other girls out there who are equally as great if not BETTER than her. Appearing too eager or anxious to get to know her sends the signal that you are the NEEDY type. And that, my friend is a serious turnoff! You should also approach her with a NONCHALANT attitude. That attitude is bound to pique her interest and get her hooked on you! Remember the saying, “We all want things we can’t get” Same here. Ok… I get it! So how do I show her I’m not needy? Well, simple. You do this by ASSUMING she’s really into you… Examples:

“Hey that guy over there looks more your type, why don’t you go over there and say hi to him”

“Holy shit, you’re a model, I’m sooo not worthy” “You’re a model? Seriously? I mean… seriously?” “You’re a model? Hand model right? I knew it looked familiar when I first saw it!” “Uuum, I’m sorry to break this to you but I think you’re just too ‘nice’ for me!” “You’re soo not my type” “Hey, I just known you for like what… 5 minutes? I’m not THAT type, ok?” “Hey, do you always talk THIS much?” “Geez. How do you guys stand her?” “Geez. She always like that?” “Geez. You always this bratty?”



“You’re one brat, aren’t you?” “Hey get away from me you molester!” “Hey what are you trying to do? Aaaaarghhh. Stay away from me, you freak!” “That’s too much. I’ve had it with you. I want our pictures back!” “Eeew. You filthy ass!” “It’s not working between us” “Say that one more time and it’s over between us”



My Take On Cocky & Funny… The cocky & funny or c&f technique as it’s more commonly known was initially popularized by Dating & Seduction legend David DeAngelo where essentially you’re busting on her not only in an arrogant way, but more importantly… in playful, FUNNY way. It’s an EXCELLENT technique… an excellent combination I might add… and I’d be the first to admit it because I’ve tried it and its effects can be ASTOUNDING on women… it as it not only shows the woman that you’re of a higher social status but you’re also adding in elements of humor in it… which we know is a GUARANTEED way to reel women in for more… Also, when humor is added in, in brings out the playful side within your interactions with her… I know guys who use c&f all the time with women but be I’d like to point out for you to not OVERDO it because it might sometimes get overboard when done too often a time… It is however an additional ‘weapon’ for you create instant attraction with women and again the RIGHT way to use it is to use it in subtle bursts ALONG with the other techniques you’ve learned here to further go deeper into CONNECTION with your target. Examples:

Hey, stop checking out my ass will, ya? So… this is how you normally seduce guys in the gym, huh? (If she whacks you) Hey my baby sister hits harder than that! Nice bag you have there… Bet they looked great when you first bought them Hey, stop undressing me with that look, will ya? (two hands covering yourself) I

feel soooo ‘violated’… Her: “So how old are you?” You: “Why do you ask?” Her: “Just curios, you don’t look very young to me…” You: “You don’t either…” **smile** Her: “Hey!” **whacks** You: “What? You started it first…” Her: “You’re too young for me…” You: “I know. I feel your pain…” ☺ You: “So how old are you?” Her: “Guess…” You: (If she’s young, and she looks 22… you say the opposite extreme) “That’s easy… 32.”



Her: “Hey!” You: “So how old are you?” Her: “Guess…” You: (If she’s mature, and she looks 35 to you… you say the opposite extreme) “That’s easy… 47.” Her: “Hey!” You: “You may look like a sweet, innocent girl but hmmm… something tells me you’re not what you seem to be…”

[Side Note]: When it comes to age guessing… most guys will use the same ass-kissing line… and they’ll always guess a much younger age than they really are… thinking that it’ll compliment them... women are very USED to getting this all the time… They’re expecting the same answer from you… You on the other hand are not there to kiss ass, so you should always go for the UNEXPECTED… and you go for the extreme and give a far-out maximum age…



When To Know You’ve Begun To Score Points:

Once you’ve done all the ‘right things’, she will eventually indicate her liking for you (whether she’s aware of it, it does not matter). I won’t be mentioning about how her pupils will dilate or stuff like that because it’s just not practical for you to be talking to her and be constantly looking to see whether her pupils are dilating or not. You’ll end up looking like a freak if you keep staring into her eyes like that. What I will be giving you are practical, proven signs that will show you when a girl is starting to feel attraction for you. She’s Interested In You:

As you’re talking to her, she giggles and starts touching you, pokes you, playfully beating you (on your arm, shoulders, legs, etc)

She’ll try to initiate back conversation with you (even when you’ve stopped talking)

She subtly glances back at you several times as she’s talking to her friends (she might do it very discreetly, some will just their eyes to look at you)

She plays with her hair and flips it casually and sees whether you’re looking as she’s talking to her friends

As you’re both sitting, her leg (or any part of her body) touches yours and she does nothing to pull away

She touches and lays her hands on your thighs/knees as she’s talking to you She calls you back (or keeps calling you subtly suggesting outings with you) She calls you names, make fun and tease you but in a playful manner She asks whether you have a girlfriend Her eyes are opened bigger and wider and she’s talking to you (she pays full

attention to you and is very responsive as you’re talking to her) She isolates herself from her friends, tries to look cute to be near you (just to

make it easier for you to go talk to her) She introduces you to her buddies She says good things about you/compliments you She laughs at your jokes (however stupid they might be)

She’s Not Interested In You:

She’s not responsive at all as you’re talking to her and always answers with one-worded answers “yes, no, maybe” etc…

She’s not as excited, doesn’t seem interested in talking to you as compared to when she’s talking with her friends or other people

She gets fidgety and impatient talking to you (if you’re on your first outing together with her, she’ll be the one to say “can we go now?”)

She folds her arms, leans back and looks bored talking to you



She doesn’t call back, avoids your calls and practically any negative ‘vibe’, responses she gives you.

You get the drift… How To Use This Information… Women will subconsciously open themselves up to you by indicating signs of interest in you in very brief moments of time as they are with you. These windows will open and close (within seconds sometimes) based on how you’re connecting with her; how emotionally attached are you with her. When she’s showing interest, her window opens. When she’s not interested or not as engaged with you, her window closes. You may have said the right things, her window is opening, she’s indicating interest in you by calling you names, and you unknowingly brushed her off by not playing along, you changed the topic to a more serious one, the energy dies down, the window then closes back. This is a typical scenario of what happens if you’re not aware and quick enough to react when you see that she’s showing you signs of interest. This also goes to show how FRAGILE dating situations can be, how her window opens and closes in a matter of seconds/minutes and how you must ALWAYS be on your toes to act on them; to manage the situation. It’s important for you to do so because once her window closes, you can never tell when her window will open again. So, you see, your goal is to CAPITALIZE on those openings when they DO happen by flirting further with her; basically using the techniques you’ve learned thus far; using those you deem most fitting with the situation at hand. You keep on throwing those at them when their window is open, you keep on doing it until their window is open at full length… and that’s where you know you’ve closed her.



To Sum It All Up… As a summary to what you’ve just learned here, I hope you can see right now that in order to create attraction with women, you’ve got to COMBINE all the techniques and the information here and use it sparingly anywhere you can during your interactions with her, SPRINKLE them on her from time to time… pull back… and sprinkle them some more… do it continuously and NATURALLY as you’re with her and as you do them right, you will see how attraction is “sparked”. Bust on her, poke her waist, tease her, then compliment her… bust on her, create excitement with your stories, call her names, bust on her, hug her from behind… see what I’m trying to get at? It’s naïve to think that all you need to get a girl to like you is to use just one technique all the time on her and she’ll then fall madly in love with you. It just doesn’t work that way. You might think all you need to “do” is to just be cocky & funny with her you’re “in”. You might think all you need to do is bust on her all the time and she’ll instantly fall for you. Not really. Like I said, you’ve got to TEST them out on the woman you’re with, see which ones she responds to the most, throw out the ones that don’t work and keep using the ones that DO work on her and you’re “in”.

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