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Strengthening Personal Resilience
Derek Mowbray
MAS www.mas.org.uk
The prevention of stress at work
www.wellbeing-and-performance-group.org.uk
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Derek Mowbray
Chartered Psychologist Chartered Scientist
Founder of The WellBeing and Performance Group Mentor
‘One hell of a fabulous guy!’ Bramble. Golden Retriever. 2006
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Our mission – to ‘make the workplace a fabulous place to work’
Our purpose – • to prevent stress from occurring in the first place; • to facilitate peak performance and productivity; • to strengthen corporate and personal resilience.
Our approach – to establish psychologically healthy workplaces by facilitating the implementation of The WellBeing and Performance Agenda
Our services – applied organisation health psychology; consultancy; facilitation; assessments; organisation development; leadership and team development.
The WellBeing and Performance Group
www.mas.org.uk www.wellbeing-and-performance-group.org.uk www.orghealth.co.uk
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The waiting game allows incubation to occur
Employers often tackle stress from the wrong end.
The costs of waiting for people to become ill are enormous
They wait until someone becomes ill, then hope they get better
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Solutions
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Events and Behaviours
Personal responses
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Adaptive Culture
Adaptive Leadership
Adaptive Working
Environment
Peak Performance
and Productivity
The Adaptive
and Resilient
Person
©Derek Mowbray 2011
Events and Behaviours
Personal responses
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Discovery
Adaptive Culture
Adaptive Leadership
Adaptive Working
Environment
Peak Performance
The Adaptive Person
The WellBeing and Performance Agenda
Corporate Resilience
Personal Resilience
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‘the capacity to maintain personal control and robust attitudes in the
face of challenging events and behaviours.
(Derek Mowbray 2010 revised 2013)
What is personal resilience?
©Derek Mowbray 2010
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Ideas about resilience
A bubble that enables you to concentrate
Contingency arrangements – plan B
Immunise or vaccinate against stress
Aircraft
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The person
Emotions
Control
Evaluation
Choices
Attitude
Self Thoughts
Resilience
Standards
Derek Mowbray 2012
Capacity
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Evaluation/Meaning
Appropriateness Timeliness
Objective evidence
Emotional evidence
Social proof
Fairness Experiences Experiences
Expectation Anticipation
Context
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Choice
Take no action
Learned helplessness
Take action Deferred action
Enforced action
Inaction
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Self confidence
Self awareness
Determination
Organisation
Relationships
Vision Problem solving
Interaction Personal control
over oneself
Personal control over responses to
events
Personal control over responses to
people
The Resilient and Adaptive Person Development Framework
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Self Awareness
I usually know how others perceive me?
(Score: 1 = never…………..5 = always)
‘knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom; mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power’
Question:
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Self Awareness
Link to resilience:
The more you understand yourself and who you are the more you feel confidence in yourself, and the better you understand others
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Self awareness Being self aware makes you attentive to others
Write down 5 bullet points on:
Why you are so fabulous!
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Determination
I am determined to achieve my lifetime ambitions
(Score: 1 = never…………..5 = always)
‘As long as you’re going to think anyway, you may as well think big’
Question:
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Determination
Link to resilience:
The more determined you are the easier it is to overcome challenges successfully
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Determination
Your core values are what drives you and makes you determined 80th Birthday Party
At your 80th birthday party what two comments are your guests
whispering in your ear that makes you feel terrific! (apart from being alive, of course)
Do those comments link closely to your own values?
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Vision
I can see my future clearly
(Score: 1 = never…………..5 = always)
‘If you don’t know where you’re going you will probably end up somewhere else’
Question:
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Vision
Link to resilience:
If you have a long term goal, short term diversions don’t matter too much
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Vision
What do you really, really, really want to do?
Write down two things you really, really want
to do with your life
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Confidence
I normally feel comfortable in a new situation
(Score: 1 = never…………..5 = always)
Ever notice that ‘what the hell’ is the right decision?
Question:
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Confidence
Link to resilience:
If you feel confident you can do anything you wish
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Confidence If you feel confident you can overcome anything
Rosy Glow
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Organisation
I plan my next day in advance
(Score: 1 = never…………..5 = always)
If everything is under control you’re not going fast enough
Question:
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Organisation
Link to resilience:
If you keep control of yourself at times of chaos, you’ll get through it
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Organisation Being organised in times of chaos
168 – how do you spend your time?
168 are the hours in a week. There are no more, nor no less hours available to us
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168 – list how you spend your time
Sleep 52
Bathing, getting dressed etc 14
Eating/cooking/washing up 14
Shopping 4
Housekeeping 6
Commuting 7
Recreation 28
School run 14
Add other activities and how long they take during the week What time do you have over for: Work? Strengthening your resilience?
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Problem solving
I enjoy the challenge of unravelling and solving problems
(Score: 1 = never…………..5 = always)
Some people take no mental exercises apart from jumping to conclusions
Question:
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Problem solving
Link to resilience:
If you can solve problems you can solve anything that’s thrown at you
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Problem solving Solving problems increases your ability to cope
How many pieces of cake can you make from four straight cuts?
8, 10, 14, 16, 19 or 24?
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Problem solving
Answer: 16
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Interaction
In general, I like people
(Score: 1 = never…………..5 = always)
Question:
‘If you always approach everyone with cheerful optimism, you will find that they simply have no choice but to respond in kind’
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Interaction
Link to resilience:
People who know how to handle others are in control
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Interaction Those who persuade others to do things they might
otherwise not wish to do without causing distress
The Assertive Message
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Relationships
My most important relationships are my strongest
(Score: 1 = never…………..5 = always)
relationships are the bedrock of survival
Question:
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Relationships
Link to resilience:
People with important and strong relationships can withstand almost anything
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Relationships These should help you achieve success and happiness
Mutual expectations
My expectations of you and your expectations of me
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My expectations of
you are….
Your expectations of
me are …..
Do we have mutual
expectations?
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You
My expectation of you are
……………
My expectation of you are
……………
What are your
expectations of me?.......
What are your
expectations of me?.......
My expectations of you are …..
And your expectations of
me are …
What are your
expectations of me? …..
What are your
expectations of me? …..
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Top Tips for Personal Resilience
1. Always think and believe you are a fabulous person
2. Always think and believe you can achieve the big things in life
3. Always try to keep an open mind about everything
4. Always try to stay tranquil, peaceful and calm
5. Always be attentive to other people