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UNDERSTANDING OF THE DEEN (AL-ISLAM)Intermediate Islamic (FIQH) course in English
Conducted by Ustaz Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail
LESSON # 6LESSON # 6
Using text & curriculum he has developed especially for Using text & curriculum he has developed especially for Muslim converts and young Adult English-speaking Muslims. Muslim converts and young Adult English-speaking Muslims.
““To seek knowledge is obligatory upon every Muslim (male & female)”To seek knowledge is obligatory upon every Muslim (male & female)”
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IN THE NAME OF ALLAH,IN THE NAME OF ALLAH,MOST COMPASSIONATE,MOST COMPASSIONATE,MOST MERCIFUL.MOST MERCIFUL.
"O my Lord! Let my entry be by the Gate of Truth and Honour, and likewise my exit by the Gate of Truth and Honour; and grant me from
Thy Presence an authority to aid (me)”(Qur’an: Isra’: 17: 80)
RENEW TO THE SHIP (UMMAH) RENEW TO THE SHIP (UMMAH) EDUCATION (KNOWLEDGE) EDUCATION (KNOWLEDGE)
Elucidation of the problem identified – Elucidation of the problem identified – Rise of False Leaders Rise of False Leaders and Failed Leadershipand Failed Leadership
Updated 26 NOVEMBER 2016
PARTPART # 4 # 4(Aug-(Aug-20162016))
“O Allah! Grant favours in our hearing, in our sight and in our strength to be
always upon Your Path. And make our yearnings and desires to be in accord
with everything (teachings and guidance) which has ben brought by Your
beloved Muhammad - salutations of Allah and peace be upon him.”
ALLAA-HUM-MA – MA-TI’-NAA – BI-AS-MAA-INAA – WA
– AB-SWAA-RI-NAA – WA- QUW-WAA-TI-NAA- FEE- SA-BEE – LIK, -
WAJ – ‘AL – HA-WAA-NAA –TA-BA-’AN- LI-MAA – JAA – A – BI-HI – HA-BEE-BU-KA
– MUHAM-MADUN – SWOL-LAL-LAA-HU –’ALAI-HI - WA-SAL-LAM
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Hadith extracted from: ‘NASA-IHU AL-’IBAAD ‘ALAA SHARHI AL-MUNABBIHAT ‘ALA AL-ISTI’DAD LI-YAUMI AL-MA-’AD’
Sheikh Imam Muhammad Nawawi bin Umar al-Jawi al-Bantanifamous Nusantaran scholar and Imam in Makkah (1813-1897)
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O Aba Dzar! Renew the ship, for verily the ocean is deep,
And take complete provision, for verily the journey is far,
And lighten the load, for verily the obstacles are almost insurmountable,
And be sincere in your deeds, for verily the scrutinizer of faults
is The Seeing (Allah).AN-NAASEEHAHThe Sincere Advice
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THE HADITH
PREVIOUS LESSON
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CHALLENGES CHALLENGES TOWARDS THIS TOWARDS THIS
UMMAHUMMAH
EXTERNAL
IDENTIFYING THE THREAT
PREVIOUS LESSON
LACKING ISLAMIC PHILOSOPHICALRESPONSE TO ‘SECULARISM’
NEGLECT MASTERY OF LANGUAGES
CONFUSIONIN KNOWLEDGE
ABSENCE OFAN ACTIVE CULTURAL
EDUCATIONBREAKDOWN
OF ADAB
RISE OF FALSE LEADERS AND FAILED LEADERSHIP
SCARCITY OF TRULYISLAMIC EDUCATORS
AND THINKERSTRUNCATION FROMHISTORY OF ISLAMIC
CIVILIZATION
LACK OF ‘READING CULTURE’ AND OF
SERIOUS RESEARCH
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External
Loss of Adab (B)
Internal
(A)
Confusion and Error in Knowledge
.
It is because of (A) the confusion and error in Knowledge that lead to condition for
(B) The loss of Adab in the community. Both internally and externally.
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(C) Rise / election of False leaders
External
Loss of Adab (B)
Internal
(A)
Confusion and Error in Knowledge
Figure 1
The condition arising out of (A) and (B) is:
(C) “The rise of leaders who are not qualified for valid leadership of the Muslim Community, who do not possess the high moral, intellectual and spiritual standards required for Islamic leadership..”
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(C) Rise / election of False leaders
External
Loss of Adab (B)
Internal
(A)
Confusion and Error in Knowledge
“These false leaders then usurped Islamic leadership, who (then) perpetuate the condition in (A) [1] above and ensure the continued control of the affairs of the Community by leaders like them who dominate in all fields.” [2]
[1] The loss of Adab in the community. Thus restoration of Adab has higher priority for Adab precedes even learning. [2] Wan Mohd Nor Wan Daud’s “The Educational Philosophy and Practice of Syed Muhammad Naquib Al-Attas” (ISTAC publication 1998) p 74
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With the “loss of Adab”, even the knowledge of who the
true leaders and scholars is lost, and the confusion compounded.
Actually this confusion in knowledge can be corrected
through Education.
Yet, education in man cannot be truly done without his
having basic “Adab” itself.
Thus the importance of restoring the “Adab” in every
Muslim.
It may even have to begin by correcting their misuse of
“terms” (istilah) and clarifying wrongly assumed “definition”
(ta’rifat) that may have caused whatever misunderstandings.
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LACKING ISLAMIC PHILOSOPHICALRESPONSE TO ‘SECULARISM’
NEGLECT MASTERY OF LANGUAGES
CONFUSIONIN KNOWLEDGE
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ABSENCE OFAN ACTIVE CULTURAL
EDUCATIONBREAKDOWN
OF ADAB
RISE OF FALSE LEADERS AND FAILED LEADERSHIP
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Say, "O Allah, Owner of Sovereignty, You give sovereignty
to whom You will and You take sovereignty away from
whom You will. You honour whom You will and You
humble whom You will. In Your hand is [all] good. Indeed,
You are over all things competent.
You cause the night to enter the day, and You cause the
day to enter the night; and You bring the living out of the
dead, and You bring the dead out of the living. And You
give provision to whom You will without account.“
(Qur’an: Aali ‘Imran: 3: 26-27)
“And it is He who has made you successors (KHALAA-IF) upon
the earth and has raised some of you above others in degrees [of
rank] that He may try you through what He has given you. Indeed,
your Lord is swift in penalty; but indeed, He is Forgiving and
Merciful.”
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“Do they distribute the mercy of your Lord? It is We
who have apportioned among them their livelihood in
the life of this world and have raised some of them
above others in degrees [of rank] that they may make
use of one another for service. But the mercy of your
Lord is better than whatever they accumulate.”
(Qur’an: Zukhruf: 42: 32)
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ESSENTIAL SAFE REFUGE LIKE A SHIP
UPON THE VOYAGE OF LIFE
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* The smallest unit of any society
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“O mankind! (AN-NAAS) Be careful of your duty to your Lord
Who created you from a single soul (NAFSUN WAAHID)
and from it created its mate (ZAW-JAHA) and from them
twain hath spread abroad a multitude of men (RIJAAL) and
women (NISAA-A). Be careful of your duty toward Allah in
Whom ye claim (your rights) of one another, and toward the
wombs (that bare you). Lo! Allah hath been a watcher over
you.”
(Qur’an: An-Nisa’: 4: 1)
AN-NAAS – the generic term for all mankind
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“O mankind! Lo! We have created you male (DZA-KARIN)
and female (UN-THA), and have made you nations and
tribes that ye may know one another. Lo! the noblest of
you, in the sight of Allah, is the best in conduct (TAQWA).
Lo! Allah is Knower, Aware.”
(Qur’an: Hujurat: 49: 13)
DZA-KARIN
UN-THA female (gender); usually ascribing to the biological make up
male (gender); usually ascribing to the biological make up
FAMILYEXTENDED FAMILY
CLANS AND TRIBAL
ORGANIZATIONALNATIONAL
REGIONALGLOBAL
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UMMAHINCLUSIVELOYALTY TRANSCENDSDIVINELY ORDAINEDETERNAL
In the Islamic social order, the family is the first and natural
unit of humanity and the real cohesive force which makes
civilization possible.
It is either based on blood relationship, on faith or formed as a
result of marriage and which later grows through ties of
kinship into groups of tribes, clans and nations. Islam stresses
the importance of the family as a basic unit of society because
the foundation for a strong nation can be realized if the
families in a particular society carry out their respective duties
and abide by the Shari’ah (Islamic Law).
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FIQH MUNAKAHAT
Below are some of the important aspects which marriage aims to
bring :
1) Preservation of family and continuation of the human race.
2) Preservation of Morality and Chastity.
3) Fulfilment and feeling of self worth through emotional stability,
love and kindness.
4) Widening the network of family relationship and producing a
social cohesion in society.
5) Induces greater responsibility by according clear roles.
6) Ensuring the preservation and protection of woman and
children.
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ISLAMICALLY CURRENT REALITY
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Clear patriarchal leadership. Vague , family leadership system
due to effect of dominant secular
socio-economic pragmatism.
Clear gender roles from the
onset with nurturing of
children with Islamic education
so as to later assume their
respective leadership roles in
the future.
Unclear gender roles. Dual
schooling. Any leadership roles
nurtured only when they
compete in adult life dictated by
their socio-economic ‘placement’
after their schooling phase.
ISLAMICALLY CURRENT REALITY
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Prioritise upon ADAB and the
fulfilling of their responsibilities
(TAKLIF).
Priority seemed to be on worldly
‘success’ – undermining religious
values and concern. Inculcation of Knowledge (‘ILM)
with deeds (‘AMAL) leading to
the formation of exemplary
noble disposition (AKHLAQ).
Education reduced to schooling,
with much emphasis only upon
academic achievements.
Under supervision responsible
(WALIY) guardianship throughout.
Dysfunctional guardianship. Neglect
usually began at ‘schooling’ age.
Available leadership role model. Unclear leadership role model.
ISLAMICALLY CURRENT REALITY
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Early adulthood:
- Baby (1 - 3yrs)
- Child (4 - 9yrs)
- Adult (10 - 40yrs)
- Elderly (41 yrs onwards)
Delayed adulthood:
- Baby (1 - 3yrs)
- Child (4- 12yrs)
- Teenager (13yrs onwards)
- Youth ( as long as in school)
- Adult ( in employment age)
- Elderly (at retirement age)
Prepared for assumption of
marriage and family life.
Too pampered and mostly unprepared
for marriage and to start own family life.
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FIQH MUNAKAHAT
“And do not marry polytheistic women until they believe.
And a believing slave woman is better than a polytheist,
even though she might please you.
And do not marry polytheistic men [to your women] until
they believe. And a believing slave is better than a
polytheist, even though he might please you.
Those invite [you] to the Fire, but Allah invites to Paradise
and to forgiveness, by His permission. And He makes clear
His verses to the people that perhaps they may remember.”
(Qur’an: Baqarah: 2: 221)
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'There is no marriage except with a guardian.'
According to the Hadith of Aishah (he ملسو هيلع هللا ىلصملسو هيلع هللا ىلص s.a.w. s.a.w.
said):
“And the ruler is the guardian of the
one who does not have a guardian. ”
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TOLAB – ‘seeking after’
AQAD – NIKAH - solemnization
ESSENTIALS Bridegroom Bride Guardian Two Witnesses Dowry (MAHR’)
KHUTBAH NIKAH
IJAB-WA-QOBUL WALIMAH
o Walimah Nikah
o Walimah ‘Urs
o Clear Offer
o Clear Acceptance
o Confirmed by witnesses
• Read the Ta’liq
KHITAB – ‘engagement’
Registration
FIQH MUNAKAHAT
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[1] BRIDEGROOM –
must be Muslim, who knows the bride; must be free and not forced; and
he must be free from the constrain of Hajj or Umrah; and whose
relationship to the bride is not “Mahram” (those related and cannot be
married as stipulated by Shari’ah).
[2] BRIDE –
must be Muslimah, who knows the bridegroom; not forced by the
guardian; free from constrain of Hajj and Umrah (IHRAM); and she must
be free from previous marriage bond (if applicable). - in this case of
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[3] Guardian (WALIYY ) –
For a bride who has never been married before, her guardian’s consent
is necessary. The Guardian must be a (male) Muslim adult; sane and
must not be forced; and not a “fasiq” (i.e. a Muslim who persist in
committing major sins.)
[4] Witnesses –
Two male Muslims as witnesses (one from each party); they must be
adult, sane and 'Adl (i.e. just, upright and not a “fasiq”)
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[5] Dowry (MAHR’) –
The “mahr” is a marriage gift from the bridegroom to the bride as
consideration. The amount may be determined by the bridegroom
according to his means, at the wife’s request or by mutual consent and
may be of any reasonable value. The minimum stipulated in Singapore
presently is at not less than S$100.00
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[5] Dowry (MAHR’) –
The “mahr” is a marriage gift from the bridegroom to the bride as
consideration. The amount may be determined by the bridegroom
according to his means, at the wife’s request or by mutual consent and
may be of any reasonable value. The minimum stipulated in Singapore
presently is at not less than S$100.00
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FIQH MUNAKAHAT
“And give the women [upon marriage] their [bridal] gifts
graciously. But if they give up willingly to you anything of it,
then take it in satisfaction and ease.”
(Qur’an: An-Nisa’: 4: 4)
...................excerpts from the Khutbah ...............................
“..... Marriage is a social contract, yet it is essentially a spiritual
bond of union which should be made with the firm resolve of
maintaining it for life. The institution of marriage in Islam is based
on interdependence of man and woman in ensuring fullness of life
for each other through mutual affection, mutual confidence and
mutual protection. It involves duties and responsibilities that the
couple should bear together and individually.
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...................excerpts from the Khutbah ...............................
It is the husband’s duty and responsibility :
[a] to maintain the wife with profound care, and live with her on a
footing of kindness and equity;
[b] when blessed with children, to maintain them with devotion and
to provide adequately for their intellectual, moral, physical and
spiritual development; and
[c] to protect the wife and other members of the family to the best of
his ability, and order their lives in accordance with the teaching of
Islam.
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...................excerpts from the Khutbah ...............................
As to the wife, it is her duty :
[a] to guard her chastity and to protect the rights, honour and
property of her husband and to be ever honest and sincere;
[b] to serve her husband and members of the family with
consideration and politeness; and
[c] to bring up the children as good Muslims.
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...................excerpts from the Khutbah ...............................
With the solemnization of your marriage, which will take place
presently, you will begin a new life as husband and wife.
With mutual devotion, understanding and tolerance, you would be
able to live a happy and contented life.
Be grateful to Allah for the blessings of happiness, and face any
trial or tribulation with courage, forbearance, completely trusting
yourselves to Allah.
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And Allah SWT says in the Holy Qur’an :
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“O you who believe ! Guard your duty to Allah and speak words
straight to the point, He will adjust your works for you and will
forgive you all your sins. Whosoever obeys Allah and His
Messenger, he verily, has gained a signal victory.”
(Qur’an: Ahzab: 33: 70-71)
FIQH MUNAKAHAT
...................excerpts from the Khutbah ...............................
Hold discussions between yourselves, and deliberate on all matters
pertaining to the affairs of the family; and exchange counsel in order
to avoid friction.
Maintain good relation with in-laws, treat elders with respect and
youngsters with affection. This will strengthen family bonds and
promote happiness and harmony in the family.
Finally, I advice you to avoid separation (divorce); for separation
brings unhappiness to the children and misery to both husband and
wife.”...... ------------- end of important excerpts from the Khutbah ------------------
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(O! young men) He who can afford to marry should marry, because it
will help him refrain from looking at other women, and save his private
parts from committing illegal sexual relation; and he who cannot afford
to marry is advised to fast, as fasting will diminish his sexual power. ”
(Hadith reported by Bukhary)
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“A woman is married for four things: for her wealth, for
her lineage, for her beauty or for her piety.
Select the pious, may your hands be rubbed with dust!
(i.e. may you be blessed!) ”
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“[In the nature of things,] corrupt women are for corrupt
men, and corrupt men, for corrupt women - just as good
women are for good men, and good men, for good women.”
(Qur’an: Nur: 24: 26)
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“Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has
given one over the other and what they (AN-FAQUU ) spend [for maintenance] from their wealth…”
(Qur’an: An-Nisa’: 4: 34)
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““O YOU who have attained to faith! Ward off from O YOU who have attained to faith! Ward off from
yourselves (i.eyourselves (i.e. save yourself) and those who are . save yourself) and those who are
close to you (close to you (AHLIKUMAHLIKUM) that fire [of the hereafter] ) that fire [of the hereafter]
whose fuel is human beings and stones: [lording] whose fuel is human beings and stones: [lording]
over it are angelic powers awesome [and] severe, over it are angelic powers awesome [and] severe,
who do not disobey Allah in whatever He has who do not disobey Allah in whatever He has
commanded them, but [always] do what they are commanded them, but [always] do what they are
bidden to do.”bidden to do.”
((Qur’an: Tahrim: 66: 6Qur’an: Tahrim: 66: 6))
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“… So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in
[the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard.
But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first]
advise them (FA-’I- ZUU ); [then if they persist], forsake
them in bed (WAH-JUR ); and [finally], strike them
(WADW-RIBU *). But if they obey you [once more], seek
no means against them (LAA-TAB-GHUU ). Indeed, Allah
is ever Exalted and Grand.”
(Qur’an: An-Nisa’: 4: 34)
.Must never be misunderstood as ‘wife beating’. (See the following explanation)
FIQH MUNAKAHAT
Managing a delinquent wife: Steps stipulated in the Qur’an ...
a) “.... admonish” A rebellious wife should be admonished first. The
role of the husband to educate and guide his family towards that
which can save the family from hell-fire, requires him to be firm.
But he should not be impatient but rather he should strive to
firstly teach and if need be to admonished her. The wife should be
careful to note the seriousness of this admonition for it is the first
step. The tone of admonition could be gradually changed from a
firm statement to even raising the voice slightly to indicate the
seriousness of the matter.
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Managing a delinquent wife: Steps stipulated in the Qur’an ...
b) “..... leave them alone in bed” If by admonishing, the wife do not
change her ways, the Qur’an stipulates “sleeping separately.” It is
hoped that the sensitive nature of woman should awaken her to the
seriousness of the matter.
c) “ ........ beat them” Sometimes, even this (i.e. leaving them alone in
bed) may not work. The Qur’an then allows for the husband to
“beat” - This is not meant to cause hurt or pain to the wife,
but as a symbolic gesture by the husband to shock her into realizing
that she has already exceeded her limits.(see following clarification)
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. regarding the word “beating” – this is to be understood in the
context of teaching/disciplining, and the Prophet ملسو هيلع هللا ىلص [pbuh] stressed
that this is only resorted to if the wife “has become guilty, in an obvious
manner, of immoral conduct”, and that it should be done “in such a way
(ghayr mubarrih) as not to cause pain “ If it has to be resorted to at all,
should be more or less symbolic - “with a toothbrush, or some such thing”
or even “with a folded handkerchief”.
Allah SWT also use this term - to “propound”, as in education:
“And [all] such parables We propound unto men, so that they might [learn to] think …” (Qur’an: Hashr: 59: 21)
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Managing a delinquent wife: Steps stipulated in the Qur’an ...
d) “...... appoint arbiters” When all the previous efforts could not
resolve the situation, then the couple is advised to resort to
arbitration.
Two respectable people, one representative for each, to
adjudicate the differences using the teachings of Islam as the
standard.
It is hope that they can advise those guilty of wrong to mend her
ways or his ways (when it is the wife/husband who is at fault).
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RESOLVING CONFLICT THROUGH ARBITRATION
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“And if you fear dissension between the two, send an arbitrator from
his people and an arbitrator from her people. If they both desire
reconciliation, Allah will cause it between them. Indeed, Allah is ever
Knowing and Acquainted [with all things].”
(Qur’an: An-Nisa’:4: 35)
Managing a ‘delinquent’ husband ......
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It may so happen that it is the husband that is the delinquent party.
Although the approach to deal with the ‘delinquent’ husband is not
like the previous steps, because in the case of a delinquent wife her
husband will also be made to be responsible for her sins, whereas the
sins committed by the husband is not borne by the wife. But, there are
ways, which the wife can and should adopt to deal with him:
[a] Words of Advice
[b] Seek Assistance
FIQH MUNAKAHAT
Managing a ‘delinquent’ husband ......
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It is the wife’s right to offer advise as the Prophet [pbuh] have
said “ ... if you are unable to change the (wrongdoing) with your
hands, then do it with your tongue...”.
The manner of giving advise should be one which exude
compassion, kindness and concern (which actually is the strength
in a woman), always giving due respect to him as the husband.
[a] WORDS OF ADVICE
FIQH MUNAKAHAT
Managing a ‘delinquent’ husband ......
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So be firm and yet kind. Thus this has to be done with utmost
patience and perseverance. Knowledge about the religion therefore
is very useful as basis for your advice, because everyone has to
obey Allah and His messenger.
Support this with prayers (SWOLAH ) and supplication (DU’A)
because only Allah s.w.t. has power to change a person’s heart. The
rule is as Allah s.w.t. said : “Invite them (all) to the way of your Lord
with wisdom and fair exhortation ...” (Q: Surah An-Nahl: 125)
[a] WORDS OF ADVICE
FIQH MUNAKAHAT
Managing a ‘delinquent’ husband ......
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When the nature of delinquency involves deprivation of wife’s rights
especially for those stipulated in the TA’LIQ [special condition read
by the husband after the solemnization] such as:
1) non-payment of maintenance (NAFAQAH ) to the wife, or
2) his violence leading to injury to the wife or damage to her property, or
3) when his action causes the wife to lose respect –
… wife can seek assistance or indulgence of the SHARI’AH family
court.
[b] SEEK ASSISTANCE
FIQH MUNAKAHAT
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the TA’LIQ [read by the husband after the solemnization] is:
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“On every occasion that I _____________ : [1] leave my wife _________ for
a continuous period of four months or more, intentionally or
unintentionally; or [2] fail to maintain her for the said period, whereas she
is obedient to me; or [3] commit any action that causes injury to her body
or damage to her property or causes her to lose her self respect; and my
wife complains to the Shari’ah court and if her complain is proven, then she
is divorced by one Talaq (pronouncement). ”
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It does not mean that by going to the SHARI’AH family court, a
woman is taking steps for divorce. Rather an avenue for positive
intervention regarding perceived injustice or perhaps abuse.
The wife will be given professional advice or the couple may (both) be
given to family counsellors to resolve the problems.
There are other Islamic organizations that provide family counselling
services which you may turn to in strict confidentiality.
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Our task (SHARI’AH family court and all Islamic organizations) are
there to ensure problems within families are resolved so as to prevent
breaking up.
You must know that Islamic laws are there to ensure the rights of every
Muslim are accorded.
Perhaps advice from such body may be effective where the wife’s
advise fails.
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"The best of you is the one who is best to his
wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.“
(Hadith reported by Ibn Majah)
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“The most complete of the believers in faith, is the one
with the best character among them. And the best of
you are those who are best to your women.”
(Hadith reported by at-Tirmidzi)
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“Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for
his flock. The Amir (ruler) who is over the people is a shepherd
and is responsible for his flock; a man is a shepherd in charge
of the inhabitants of his household and he is responsible for
his flock; a woman is a shepherdess in charge of her husband's
house and children and she is responsible for them; and a
man's slave is a shepherd in charge of his master's property
and he is responsible for it. So each of you is a shepherd and
each of you is responsible for his flock.”
(Hadith reported by Abu Dawud)
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“So by mercy from Allah, [O Muhammad], you were
lenient with them. And if you had been rude [in
speech] and harsh in heart, they would have
disbanded from about you. So pardon them and ask
forgiveness for them and consult them in the matter.
And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah.
Indeed, Allah loves those who rely [upon Him].”
(Qur’an: Aali ‘Imran: 3: 157)
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