SELF CONFIDENCESelf Confdence Training Course - Lesson 1 What does Self-Confdence mean to you? What is self-confdence? The four stylesWhat Does Self Confdence Mean to ou!Self confdence plays an important role in our everyday lives. Beingconfdent allows us to set and reach our goals. It provides staility when wearefacedwithachallenge!itgivesusthatpushthathelpsusovercomedi"culties. Self confdenceisnecessaryinour personal andprofessionallives# aswithoutitonewouldnotesuccessful ineither. Itgivesustheaility to stand up to face our challenges and to pic$ ourselves up when wefall. It can e associated with% & secure feeling & happy feeling &n energi'ed feeling & light-hearted feeling without stress or tension &statein whichonecan trustandelieveandesure aoutone(s ailities and )ualities. What is self-confdence!Self-confdence is a elief in oneself# one*s ailities# or one*s +udgment. It isfreedom from dout. When you elieve you can change things -- or ma$e adi,erence in a situation# you are much more li$ely to succeed.&saself-confdentperson# youwal$withaounceinyourstep. -oucancontrol your thoughtsandemotionsandin.uenceothers. -ouaremoreprepared to tac$le everyday challenges and recover from setac$s. This allleads to a greater degree of optimism and life satisfaction. The four st"lesThere are four styles of Self Confdence communication% /assive &ggressive /assive-aggressive &ssertive.1# The $assi%e $erson /assive ehavior is the avoidance of the e0pression of opinions or feelings#protectingone(srights# andidentifyingandmeetingone(sneeds. /assiveindividuals e0hiit poor eye contact and slumped ody posture# and tend tospea$ softly or apologetically./assive people e0press statements implying that%1I(m unale to stand up for my rights.21I don(t $now what my rights are.21I get stepped on y everyone.31I(m wea$ and unale to ta$e care of myself.21/eople never consider my feelings.2 The 'ggressi%e $erson &n aggressive individual communicates in a way that violates the rights ofothers. Thus# aggressive communicators are verally or physically ausive#or oth. &ggressive communication is orn of low self-esteem# and displaya low tolerance.They e0press statements implying that%The other person is inferior# wrong# and not worth anythingThe prolem is the other person(s faultThey are superior and right(# The $assi%e-'ggressi%e $erson /assive-aggressive people usually feel powerless# stuc$# and angry. They feelincapale of dealing directly rather and e0press their anger in a clever way.4re)uentlytheyspea$softlytothemselvesinsteadofconfrontinganotherperson 5 often try to smile# even though they are angry.)# The 'sserti%e $erson &n assertive individual communicates in a way that clearly states his or heropinions and feelings# without violating the rights of others. &ssertivecommunication is orn of high self-esteem. &ssertive people valuethemselves# theirtime# andtheiremotional# spiritual# andphysical needs.They are strong advocates for themselves -- while eing very respectful ofthe rights of others.&ssertive people feel connected to other people. They ma$e statements ofneedsandfeelingsclearly# theyspea$incalmandcleartones# aregoodlisteners# and maintain good eye contact. They create a respectfulenvironment for others# anddonot allowotherstoauseor manipulatethem.The assertive person uses statements that imply%1I am confdent aout who I am.21I cannot control others# ut I control myself.21I spea$ clearly# honestly# and to the point.2Self Confdence Training Course - Lesson & O*stacles to our +oals T",es of thin-ing $ersonal a,,lication O*stacles to our +oals6stacles are encountered every day of our lives# ut what we do and howwe react during these events will determine the outcomes of such events.6ur reactions to these ostacles willdetermine if the situation ecomes aminor annoyance to a ma+or event. 6ver reacting to a small annoyance canmagnify the issue and ma$e larger than it actually is. These are the types ofreactions that should e $ept in chec$# what is an appropriate response toeach ostacle. T",es of thin-ingWhat image are you pro+ecting in your life? If you don(t li$e what you see#thenchange it7Bychangingyourinnerimagey what youelieve aoutyourself# you can potentially change your outer outcome. Self Confdence isfactor that we humans have# and no one can dominate our attitudes or ta$eour choices from us if we elieve in our self -8S I C&9 :6 IT;.7777 &personwhohaseenroughtupinahappyandpositiveatmosphere#where people value success and self-improvement will have a much easiertime thin$ing positively. Stop thin$ing what others are thin$ing ecause wecan never control others state of mind..777TheThin$ing4actor playsanimportantrole in self confdence of a person. Thisfgure e0plains /eople with low selfconfdence usually feel an0iety and theycan(t performwell. It dependsonyourthin$ing# li$efore0ampleif youthin$I$nowI amgoingtohavean0ietyaoutthe wor$ and I $now will perform ad inthe test # so then person starts to ma$eerrors this is ecause of negativethin$inginhis mind. But ontheotherhand a /eople who eliefs in his self andis self confdent then he can do anythinghe wants and will e successful# nothing $ersonal ',,licationWe all have situations in our personal lives where the aility of self confdence and assertive ehavior helps us achieve our goals. We should practice the opportunity to develop assertive responses. Standing up for yourself will translate into success throughout your personal and professional lives. It will help enhance your self confdence# and ma$e the challenges much more easily to overcome.