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Reading Her Body Language

Have you ever wished that you could just read a womans mind? When it comes to picking up women

skill, technique and game go a long way but, unfortunately, they are useless if you have no idea what she

is thinking. It would be great if women were always direct and obvious but, unfortunately, thats not the

case. Lucky for you there are signs and signals women give off that, if interpreted right, will let you read

her like a book giving you clear insight on her intentions, thoughts and desires.

It is widely accepted that a man should make the first move, so, unfortunately, most women will hang

back and wait until you approach them. If you are going to approach then you better know how to read

body language. It is known that women send discreet signals to lure men into making the first move, but,

just because you feel prompted to approach does not mean a signal was sent. A successful pickup

begins by reading her body language before you even approach. Does she look receptive? Hostile?

Interested? Bored? Youre not here to make hasty decisions, so take a second and analyze to see if she

looks receptive or, even better, inviting for an approach. Inviting cues include things like glancing, eye

contact, smiling, blushing, hair tossing and speaking to you (surprisingly some guys actually miss this

one).

Flirting-signals can be very similar AND very confusing, which is the reason why a number of men will fail

trying to interpret them. Every woman is different and you need to realize that, but there are enough

general signals commonly used that you do need to know. Also, just because a woman is being nice does

not necessarily mean anything more. In all actuality, most women act nice in the hope of being left

alone. Decode the signs and not only will you save yourself potential embarrassment but you might also

land the pickup.

Signs The Game Should Be Played:

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1. Pupil Size and Chest FlushingThey say eyes are the windows to a persons soul but does this have any relevance when picking up

women? It does. Next time you are trying to pickup a woman, pay close attention to the pupils of her

eyes. Pupillometrics (changes in pupil dilation) can be a useful means of measuring humans attitudes

and levels of interest, especially sexual interest. According to several studies and experiments by the

likes of Dr. Hess, Seltzer and Slien (1975) and several followup papers/evolutionary studies by the likes

of Dr. Tombs and Silverman (2004), womens pupils dilate when they are speaking to someone they are

sexually interested in. This is an evolutionary remnant that she is unable to hide or mask. In fact, women

are largely unaware that their pupils give their intentions away and, hence, will not make any attempt to

mask this. So keep eye contact and look for dilation, she just might be sexually interested in you.

Everyone knows that erect nipples are a sign of sexual arousal, but what good are they when you cant

see them? Especially if you cant see them and you are trying to pick her up. Well, there is another great

physiological sign that even she is unaware of and cannot hide. Chest flushing. Most women like to wear

low-cut shirts when they go out, revealing just enough skin under the collarbone, which is all you need.

Glance at the skin under her collarbone at the chest midline and note any flushing. Flushing is another

well-documented strong indicator of sexual interest that accompanies erect nipples

2. Intense Eye Contact, Blinking and Smiling

When you first spot your target, make sure you let her know that you are interested -without being too

obvious. Make eye contact briefly with her once-or-twice and then leave it there. If she is interested, she

will reciprocate by making intense eye contact and/or by relaying a smile. If there is some attraction,

increased blinking will be apparent immediately after she looks away.

This should be obvious, but, if she is with a group of friends and they occasionally start peering at you

and/or initiating eye contact, then you should breathe easy because, chances are, something positivewas said and she likes you.3. Posture, Breathing Level and LaughterIf she lets you approach her, pay attention to any posture changes. Ideally she should be gently moving

her body in your direction. This is a less-than-obvious indicator that she wants to be near you. If she is

interested in what you have to say, you will notice that her eyes will remain fixated on you. Some women

may also convey the acceptance of their suitors advances by copying their breathing pattern. And, no,

this is not a good reason to get caught staring at her breasts (its rude and can blow your game). But, if

you do happen to notice her mimicking your breathing pattern, that is a strong indicator that she sees

herself on your level.

If she occasionally laughs when you say something (funny or not), she is letting you know that she is

interested. This is always a good sign. Brush up on your conversation skills and you might just get lucky.4. FidgetingOnce the conversation is flowing smoothly, you may notice that she has become quite fidgety. This is

not likely because she is uncomfortable; instead, it is a sign that she's a little nervous about how she

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might be coming across. If she cares about how she's coming across, its a good sign. She must really

like you and is probably worried about her blowing her chances with you. Being fidgety also enables her

to draw your attention to specific parts of her body that are sexually sensitive such as the inside of the

wrist, knee and/or leg.

If she has jewelry on, especially around her neck, then she play with it (i.e. twist it around her finger), and

even run her fingers down the side of her neck. She wont make it obvious, but just enough to let you

know that that's where she likes to be touched.

5. Head/Hair Tossing

The head toss is a common sign with most women; it's a well-documented flirting technique that enables

them to show off their neck indicating sexual availability. Women who have long hair are more likely to do

this because they have more to work with; they may even play with their hair by seductively twisting it

around their fingers. A woman's hair can play an important part when it comes to letting you know if she's

interested.

Head/hair tossing is a great way for her to be seductive without trying too hard, especially during a

conversation. By tossing their hair over their shoulders or placing it to one-side, they're giving you a view

of their neck and back. When touched, these are two areas that can be very sensitive and are integral in

foreplay. Don't worry - this also works with women that have short hair. The part of the neck that she has

her hand on could symbolize the area that's most sensitive to her. Pay attention to small details like this,

they may become useful later on.Signs That The Game Should Be ForfeitedWhen a woman isnt interested, she will definitely let you know. But, again, it may be up to you to decode

the signs. Just like she uses body language to tell you that she is interested, she will also body languageto tell you when she isnt.

Eye contact is an integral tool in that it may be the key signal to tell you whether or not to make a move.

If the woman you are interested in is unresponsive to your gaze, it may be a confident sign that she might

not be that interested in you. Many men make a move after a woman gives them a quick glance. Its

important not to make this for positive eye contact and use this as a positive sign. She may just be

checking out the room and the scene.

If you have relied on that specific, quick glance and you're already halfway across the room, observe her

body language to see whether it changes at all when she sees you approaching. If she seems awkward

and takes a few steps back or turns her chest away from you, then it's likely that things are not going well

and you should probably abort. If you do get close to her after ignoring or misreading the signs, then youmay notice that she quickly becomes fidgety, awkward, rude or sarcastic - this is because she's

uncomfortable with the situation.

Some women, while pretending to look somewhere else, may move their heads in the opposite direction

of you. They're doing this in an attempt to avoid that potentially uncomfortable situation. Instead of

simply telling you theyre not interested, most women let their body speak for them. Dont let the situation

get to you or throw off your night. Remember, one woman's loss is another woman's gain!

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Its a Numbers GameWhen looking at the art of flirting, we must take into account the numbers. Some experts believe that it

only takes between 90 seconds and 4 minutes (BBC) for a person to become attracted to someone.

Next time, before acting foolish, look at the signs, distinguish between them and close the deal. You still

may not be able to read her mind but reading her body language is the next best thing.