PRACTICAL ENLIGHTENMENT

The Cosmic Principles that lead to an enlightened

perspectiveAccepting yourself and life

By Ross Bannister Todd © 2009

WHAT DO YOU BASE SELF-ACCEPTANCE ON?

Is what you THINK about– How you look– What you think others think about

what you look – Comparing yourself to others.– Focusing on your faults

Does this all boil down to worrying about how you look?.

Ultimately isn't your valuableness based on a mental decision you make in your head

Isn’t that a whim?An arbitrary decision?You are deciding what makes you

valuable so then

Since you are making the decisions can’t you just decide you are ok the way you are?

You have the power to accept yourself if you choose

But you usually don’t because it feels arrogant

Reasons # 1Reasons # 1

BELIEF: If you accept yourself as you are – you won’t be motivated to change..BELIEF: Your mind says disapproval and judging yourself are required before you can change

Reasons # 2Reasons # 2

BELIEF: it is arrogant to totally love and accept me as I am

Reason # 3Reason # 3

BELIEF: people will go away if I totally love and accept as I am

Reason # 4Reason # 4

BELIEF: since accepting myself as is feels difficult or uncomfortable I shouldn’t do it

Reason # 5Reason # 5

BELIEF: I want reassurance from the outside world that I am ok other wise it feels like I am in danger or venerable, unsure, somehow this feels dangerous

ALL NOT TRUEALL NOT TRUE

ALL OF THESE BELIEFS ARE NOT TRUEThey are a hoax to get you to ration your self love and self acceptance THEY ENABLE THE EGO TO STAY IN CONTROL OF YOUR LIFEAs long as you do not accept yourself you are pretty much powerlessWhen you have self-worth your ego is not in full controlIt ressits any attempt to dilute its power

The only real protection: Is living in the present moment Which requires accepting yourself as is.

Accepting yourself as is creates a place for you to be in the universe.

Self-acceptance is the source of your will power

Without self-acceptance you are powerless, loveless, hopeless, needy, and not a happy camper

ACCEPT YOU NOWACCEPT YOU NOW

Decide now to totally accept yourselfWITHOUT ANY PROOF IN THE PHYSICAL WORLD.WITHOUT ANY PERMISSION FROM YOUR MIND.WITHOUT PERMISSION FROM YOUR PARENTS, LOVER, MATE, BOSS, FRIENDS, ETC..

AFTER YOU ACCEPT YOURSELF CAN DECIDE TO LOVE YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU WILL THEN HAVE THE WILL POWER TO DO THAT TOO.

You do this because you CAN do it even if it feels hard or difficult.

The ego is judging and guilting you which creates doubt– So we want assurance– AND EXTERNAL APPROVAL.– We have been taught to base our

acceptance of our self on what we think other people think and say

But this actually creates another problem:– OTHER PEOPLE CAN FEEL WHEN

WE DON’T ACCEPT OURSELVES.– Which makes them reluctant to

accept us.– This is a lot like running for office and

not voting for yourself

UnderneathUnderneath

The ego mind wants us to ration our valuablenessBecause the more confident we are the less power the ego mind has over us

Our culture has also wrongly taught us that to totally accept and love ourselves is ARROGANT– It is literally 180 degrees backward– IF YOU LOVE AND ACCEPT

YOURSELF YOU HAVE A SMILE, YOU ARE NICE, YOU SELDOM GET ANGRY, YOU TALK TO PEOPLE, YOU ARE NOT AFRAID AND YOU ARE A NICE TO BE AROUND.

On the other hand if you do NOT love and accept yourself you:– Don’t smile often– Are often irritable– EASY TO ANGER, OR GET UPSET.– AND ARE NOT GENERALLY A

FRIENDLY PERSON..

WE ARE TRYING TO BE THE BEST PERSON YOU CAN BE.

And our ego tells us we can always try harder

Not accepting and loving ourselves deprives us of a place to stand in the world

WE ARE CONSTANTLY UNSURE, EVEN AFRAID OF WHAT PEOPLE WILL SAY FOR FEAR THEY WILL JUDGE US AND THEN WE WILL FEEL BAD AGAIN.

All these beliefs are designed to keep our ego mind in control of us.

NO VALUABLENESS, OR SELF-CONFIDENCE KEEPS US TRAPPED IN OUR EGO.

When we feel self-confident we do not listen to our ego nearly as much

THE EGO DRIBBLES LITTLE BITS OF SELF-CONFIDENCE TO US AND THEN JUST AS QUICKLY SNATCHES THEM AWAY

AS LONG AS WE DEPEND ON THE EGO OR THE OUTSIDE WORLD FOR OUR VALUABLENESS WE WILL NEVER HAVE ANY

If you accept yourself as isYou are like a tree with its roots in

the groundWhen the wind blows and the

storms come you are solid, secure, steady, confident.

Self-acceptance looks good tooConfidence is beautifulA smile is very reassuringConfidence allows easy

conversation never jabbering on

STOP TRYING TO GET YOUR VALUABLENESS FROM OUTSIDE OF YOU OR FROM YOUR EGO.

DECIDE it exists, that it is

DECIDE TO ACCEPT AND LOVE YOURSELF ALL THE TIME, NO MATTER WHAT IS GOING GOING ON.

NO MATTER WHAT OTHER PEOPLE SAY OR DO.

SELF WORTH IS A SIMPLE DECISION

THAT CAN FEEL DIFFICULT BECAUSE YOUR EGO IS

RESISTING LOSING CONTROL OVER YOU.

WHEN YOU SAY “I TOTALLY LOVE AND ACCEPT MYSELF AS I AM IN THIS MOMENT”.

AND IT FEELS WIERDSIMPLY DECIDE THAT IS THE

PROOF IT IS HAVING AN EFFECT

ANOTHER SECRET.ANOTHER SECRET.

STOP MEASURING WHETHER SOMETHING HAS WORKED OR NOT BY HOW YOU FEELJUST DECIDE IT IS WORKING

YOUR CHATTER MIND IS ALWAYS UP TO SOMETHING

HOW YOU FEEL IS NOT IMPORTANT

STOP DECIDING TO LET HOW YOU FEEL RUN YOUR LIFE

STOP JUDGING HOW YOU FEEL

CHOOSE TO BE IN THE PRESENT MOMENT

DECIDE YOU ARE OK, CONTENTDECIDE THE WORLD IS OK ‘AS

IS’DECIDE WHAT'S NEXTSTART DOING IT

REMEMBER THE PROBLEM IS NOT WHAT YOU ARE THINKING

IT IS THAT YOU ARE THINKING

THINKING IS AN ADDICTION/HABIT

YOU DO NOT NEED TO THINK IN ORDER TO ACT IF YOU ARE CONSCIOUS AND IN THE MOMENT

More in another module

CONSIDER FOR A MOMENTSAYING TO YOUR SELF “ I

ACCEPT ME AS IS” SHOULD FEEL GOOD, WONDERFUL, EMPOWERING, ENLIGHTENING.

IF ITS DOESN'T FEEL THAT WAY YOUR EGO IS TRICKING YOU.

WHICH IT DOES A LOTYOUR EGO IS NOT YOUR FRIEND

etcetc

THE EGO IS A SABOTEURTHE EGO IS THE PROBLEM THAT CAUSES MANY OF OUR OTHER PROBLEMS

etcetc

REMEMBER YOU CAN'T TRUST WHAT YOU ARE FEELING TO BE CURRENT, TRUE, OR RELATIVETHE EGO CAN TRIGGER ANY MEMORIES OF FEELINGS IT NEEDS TO, TO PROTECT YOUIT CAN TRICK YOU INTO FEELING ANYTHING IT WANTSAND IT WILL DO ANYTHING TO MAINTAIN CONTROL.

IN FACT ABOUT THE TIME YOU GET SUCCESSFUL AT TRULY ACCEPTING YOURSELF.

YOU ARE GOING TO FEEL FEAR, SCARED OR APPREHENSIVE

BUT ITS NOT YOU THAT IS SCARED ITS YOUR EGO MIND THAT IS SCARED IT IS AFRAID YOU ARE GOING TO STOP

LISTENING TO IT, STOP TRUSTING IT THEN IT WILL NO LONGER BE IN ABLE

TO PROTECT YOU AND WILL NOT GET YOUR WHEN IT

WANTS IT

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YOU HAVE BEEN LIVING YOUR LIFE INSIDE YOUR HEAD OR EGO MIND YOUR BODY IS PRESENT, IN THE REAL WORLD BUT YOUR MIND IS SOMEWHERE ELSE

EXCITEMENT, LOVE, HAPPINESS, SATISFACTION, HEALTH, AND ABUNDANCE ARE ONLY AVAILABLE IN THE PRESENT MOMENT.

NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, AVAILABLE IN YOUR MIND, WHICH IS ALWAYS IN THE PAST

LIFE CAN BE BORING WHEN YOU ARE LIVING IN THE PAST IN YOUR MIND

BECAUSE YOU HAVE ALREADY EXPERIENCED IT ONCE NOW YOU ARE RE-EXPERIENCING A MEMORY OF THE PAST AND ITS NOT ALIVE.

IT IS NEVER BORING WHEN YOU ARE IN THE PRESENT MOMENT.

LOOK AT LETTING GO OF YOUR EGO MIND AS PUTTING DOWN YOUR TEDDY BEAR

IT IS JUST TIME TO DO THAT

NOTE: YOU CAN’T STOP THE MIND CHATTER BUT YOU CAN STOP LISTENING TO IT

STOP TRUSTING IT .STOP BEING ADDICTED TO

IT.

OK LETS SAY I GO STAND ON A STREET CORNER AND REPEAT: “I LOVE ME”

SOME PASSERBY WILL PROBABLY GIVE ME A LOT OF STATIC

BECAUSE THEY ASSUME I AM SAYING I AM BETTER THEN THEY ARE

BUT I AM NOT SAYING THAT.

THEY SHOULD BE SAYING YOU ARE A LUCKY GUY.

AND THEY MIGHTAS LONG AS I KEEP SAYING IT,

WHAT THEY SAY WILL NOT MATTER..

etcetc

IN CASE YOU HAVEN’T NOTICED YETALL EGOS ARE INSANE, CRAZY.DO YOU REALLY WANT TO BASE YOUR SELF-WORTH ON WHAT SOME INSANE EGO THINKS?

YOU ARE DISCOVERING YOU HAVE AN INNER REALITY

AS WELL AS AN OUTER REALITY THAT YOU MAY BE AWARE OF

REMEMBER YOUR INNER REALITY CREATES YOUR OUTER REALITY

QUITE SIMPLY

WHAT YOU ALLOW IN YOUR MIND LITERALLY CREATES YOUR LIFE.

YOU DO NOT MANAGE YOUR EGO IT WILL RUN/RUIN YOUYES IT IS A LOT OF WORKBUT LOOK AT THE STAKES

MASTERING YOUR MIND IS THE ULTIMATE FREEDOM

AND THE WAY TO HAVE AUTHORITY FOR YOUR LIFE

HOW CAN SOMEONE MAKE YOU FEEL SOMETHNG?

How do they get inside your body to control your feelings and emotions?

If you are walking down the street and a street/crazy person says you are a jerk or you are a bad person if you don’t give me money

Are you going to react? Probably not much.

Then your mate or friend says ‘you are a jerk’ and now you feel bad and your energy dumps and you can’t look them in the eye

Does this feel about right?

What actually took place? Both went in your ears and your brain

processed them Nothing much happened with the street

person But with your friend you got pretty

upset

WHAT IS THE SOURCE OF THE UPSET?

THE STREET PERSON? -NOYOUR FRIEND? -NOTHE EGO MIND -YES.

ONE WAS CREDITABLE TO THE EGO AND THE OTHER ONE WAS NOT.

You then believed the creditable one and the ego decided to DISAPPROVE OF YOURSELF

AND THEN THE EGO BLAMED IT ON YOUR FRIEND.

But you didn’t see that decision because this has become a deep habit for you.

Since you don’t see the decision you assume it is being ‘done to you ‘

This cripples you and puts you into a false reality.

ANOTHER PERSON CANNOT 'MAKE YOU' FEEL SOMETHING.

ANOTHER PERSONS JUDGMENTS OR GUILT CANNOT GET FROM THEIR BODY INTO YOUR BODY.

Think about this mechanically. How can feelings get from your

body to another body?Is it the Words?No, they are not feelings

When you accept and or agree with their words/ judgments your ego then changes your feelings/ emotions by triggering memories of feelings ‘tapes’ from the pastWhich you can then feelSo YOU ASSUME THEY ARE coming from the other person but they are notAnd they create an ILLUSION.

THIS IS NOT TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR WHAT YOUR EGO IS DOING AND BLAMING YOUR PAIN ON OTHER PEOPLE, SITUATIONS AND THINGS. ..

THIS IS NOT TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR YOUR EXPERIENCE OR YOUR EMOTIONSWhich is necessary to regain power and authority over your life.

When you notice a frown or some other physical movement that your mind interprets as a judgment or disapproval

you then believe your ego when it says that is what they are THINKING.

Again the ego takes that cue and TRIGGERS matching feelings and emotions in your body mind. 

In other words the ego is making you feel something and blaming it on them.

Your ego is judging you and blaming it on them.

AND YOU DON’T SEE THIS BECAUSE THE WHOLE PROCESS HAS BECOME A HABIT.

WHY DO I DO THIS? 1

It is the ego's attempt to avoid feeling bad or being caught off guard, in case people actually say nasty thingsTo protect you the ego makes up every possible negative scenario and presents it to you.

This is constantly going on inside your head and often you do not see that these scenarios are only possible situations instead of ‘currently going on’ or real life situations

These ‘warning’ scenarios confuse us or distort our experience of the present moment

Because our ego triggers memories of feelings from the past [and since we assume all feelings feel real]

We assume this scenario is real because we can feel it but it is an illusion

Because it is a habit it appears automatic

Which makes it appear like they are doing this to you but in fact you are doing it to yourself.

This is part of the egos protection system.

IT IS DOING ALL THIS TO PROTECT US..

But the end result is actually self-sabotage and has many levels of consequences.

The ego can also trigger fear while we are safe at our desk or at home.

This creates stress, dis-ease, and puts us in a negative frame of mind.

LASTLYLASTLY

IF WE DWELL ON SOMETHING LONG ENOUGH IT TRIGGERS THE LAW OF ATTRACTIONHelping to create what we don't want

The way through this is to create a new habit that notices negative thinking and shuts it down, or changes it to positive.

Or just say the inner 'no'Sometimes when I catch this

going on I just shake my head to clear the scenario.

Taking responsibility for your feelings [without guilt] puts you back in power over your life

much more on this later

WHY IIWHY II

WHY WOULD YOU EVER WANT TO DISAPPROVE OF YOURSELF?THE EGO'S PREMISE HERE IS IF I DISAPPROVE OF MYSELF:.– IT WILL MOTIVATE YOU TO CHANGE.–AND THAT DISAPPROVAL IS NECESSARY TO CREATE CHANGE

But DISAPPROVAL DESTROYS your internal valuableness or self-worth which literally cripples you because it destroys your energy.

Which makes it difficult to change things because you don't have any will power

Disapproval of yourself also destroys your will power so you can’t/wont decide to do anything, especially change anything.

If it is something like quitting smoking, drinking or drugs no will power means you cant say NO.

Guilt is one of the ego's favorite tricks That's why it may seem like you need it

to manage your life.  Guilt destroys self-worth and keeps the

ego in control GUILT KEEPS YOU IN THE EGO'S

PRISON.

All this puts you in a bad mood and most likely activates your ego so it recalls lots of bad feelings memories and similar events that have happened before or in your childhoodSO YOU ARE HEADED FOR THE FAST FOOD PLACE, ALCOHOL, DRUGS, SEX, TV AND/OR BED. .You will probably get up feeling like a truck ran over you all night because your ego was recalling all the ‘feels bad’ memories all night long. 

So I ASK AGAIN WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO AGREE WITH THE EGO'S DISAPPROVAL OF YOU?

IT ONLY SABOTAGES YOU

THE KEY TO CHANGE IS ACCEPTANCE NOT RESISTANCE

IF YOU WILL NOT ACCEPT ANYTHING OR YOURSELF

YOU CANNOT CHANGE ANYTHING OR YOU . 

Once you accept something you can change it

BECAUSE YOU HAVE VALUABLENESS, WILLPOWER, ENERGY, STRENGTH, AND THE TIME TO CHANGE THINGS.

 SELF-ACCEPTANCE NEED NOT BASED ON ANYTHING IN THE PHYSICAL WORLD.

IT IS A CHOICE THAT YOU MAKEAND THEN YOU COMMIT TO KEEP

RECHOOSEING IT

Another reason why we accept/agree other peoples criticism/disapproval is we don’t want them to leave.

ALL CRITICISM IS SABOTAGE BECAUSE IT IS NEGATIVE AND THEREFORE IT DESTROYS VALUABLENESS, WILL POWER AND TRIGGERS ‘FEELS BAD’ MOVIES/MEMORIES..

The only thing that works when you need to communicate a change to yourself or others is a positive solution or suggestion

If you don’t have a positive suggestion or solution then keep your mouth shut If they don’t have one don’t accept what they say as negative or judgmentalRequire positive solutions only. 

POSITIVE THINKINGPOSITIVE THINKING

Where this is leading isNEGATIVE THINKING CAN ONLY DESTROY IT CAN NEVER CREATE.You cannot create a positive life with negative thinking

ONLY ALLOWING YOUR EGO TO THINK TERMS OF POSITIVE SOLUTIONS WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE 

You must override your ego and make positive decisions

OR IT WILL MANAGE YOUR LIFE AND YOU WITH NEGATIVE TOOLS..

IN OTHER WORDS YOU NEED TO CHANGE EVERY NEGATIVE THOUGHT TO A POSITIVE ONE.

Every time you hear in your head ‘…should‘ stop and change the it to COULD

SHOULDN’T INCLUDES GUILT

Are you thinking ‘that is a lot of work’?

Yes but look at what is at stake here.

This is about your life, your happiness, health, wealth and aliveness. 

THINK PERFECT MEANS THINK POSITIVE

ThinkPerfect.com This is a simple process that looks trivial and

even egotistical or arrogant but it is very powerful..

Make a list of traits and stuff that make you valuable to you.

This can be a personal list The first 3 are the hardest

I LIKE ME BECAUSE:IKE ME BECAUSE:

I have long hair and drive a motorcycle.I don’t steal tips off tip trays.I AM POSITIVE AS MUCH AS POSSIBLEI am a good cook.I try to leave every situation better then I found it.I don’t blame myself or others for my painful emotionsI TRY TO SEE THE GOOD IN EVERYBODY..I am patient with others especially older people.

This simple powerful exercise can lift you out of your head/ego and put you back in the present moment.

It can change a ‘bad’ day, ‘bad’ date, or difficult situation…etc.

The concept that someone appear to take our love away from us it very importantThe collective ego has taught us this deep habitIT IS ACTUALLY A WAY EGOS CAN SEEMINGLY CONTROL AND MANIPULATE US.

When we feel loved and then someone says or does something and the ego interprets it to mean we are not ok, not loved

We accept the judgment which effectively turns off our love and then blame it on the other person

NOBODY CAN ACTUALY GET INSIDE YOU TO MAKE YOU STOP LOVING OR ACCEPTING YOURSELF.

NOBODY CAN MAKE YOU STOP LOVING OR ACCEPTING YOU WITHOUT YOUR COOPERATION.

THIS IS YET ANOTHER HABIT WE NEED TO CHANGE.

KEEPING THE CONCEPT IN MIND MAY HELP YOU IDENTIFY OR NOTICE WHEN IT HAPPENS

THEN YOU CAN DECIDE TO LOVE AND FORGIVE YOURSELF QUICKLY.

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