Positive Peer Relationship

Presenter Letesha Gooden

Introduction

Under optimal conditions, children learn core social-

emotional skills during the early childhood years that

enable them to establish and maintain their first

friendships, get along well as members of their peer

communities, and participate effectively in school.

Children who are delayed in their acquisition of these

social-emotional competencies are at heightened risk

for significant peer problems and behavioural

difficulties when they enter Primary

school which can escalate to more serious

emotional difficulties and antisocial behaviours

in adolescence. Hence, promoting social-

emotional development during the Early

childhood years is a priority.

Objectives At the end of this class students should be able to:•Know who is a friend•Identify the trait of a good friend and bad friends

•Know the different types of friends

What is a peer relationship

A peer group is both a social group and a primary

group of people who have similar interests, age,

background, or social status. The members of this

group are likely to influence the person’s beliefs

and behaviour.[1] Peer groups contain hierarchies

and distinct patterns of behavior.

The important of Positive peer relationship

The importance of peer relationship is to help

in a healthy development. Theorist such as,

Vygotsky have stated that peer relationships

provide a unique context for cognitive, social,

and emotional development.

Types of Peer RelationshipFriendships

Casual

Close

Platonic

Cliques

Gang

Dating Relationships

Casual Friends

Casual friends are peers with

whom you feel socially

connected. (These friendships,

however, do not fill some of the

deeper needs humans have.)

Close friendsA close friend is more likely to share with you what

he or she is really feeling and thinking and, in turn,

make you feel comfortable doing the same. A close

friends share common belief / interest and values.

Platonic friends

A platonic friendship is a

relationship with a member

of the opposite gender in

which there is affection,

but no sexual activity.

Clique

clique this is a small

close-knit group of

people who do not

readily allow others to

join them.

Gang

A gang is a group of youngsters or

adolescents who associate closely, often

exclusively, for social reasons, these type of

group normally engage in

delinquent behavior.

Dating relationship

A dating relationship is defined as a romantic or

intimate social relationship between two

individuals that is determined by the facts in each

case, such as the length of the relationship, the

type of the relationship, the frequency of

interaction between the two individuals involved

in the relationship.

Dating relationship

Negative sign of Friendship

◦Low self-esteem in adolescence is associated

with:

Poorer mental and physical health

Worse economic prospects

Higher levels of criminal behaviour

Negative sign of Friendship

The Taker: The taker is a type of friend will try to

possess what you have and acquire your

achievements in order to satisfy his or her envy and

greed. This type of a person will try to sneak behind

your back to either steal money or your significant

other, and he or she will feel no remorse about doing

so. This type of person needs to be completely cut off.

Negative sign of Friendship

Stressor: If you have a friend who always stresses

you out with his or her actions or words, then this

is a sign of a bad friend. A true friend should

never make you feel stressed out. Stress also

includes the feeling that you always need to

please the other person because that person

makes you feel that way.

Negative sign of Friendship

Chaotic: A friend who loves to cause chaos or

takes pleasure in seeing chaos with other people

is not a friend at all.

Negative sign of Friendship

Gossip: A person who talk about other people behind

their backs. gossips to you about everyone will make

you believe that he or she is your best friend. Do not

be fooled. If this person gossips to you about others,

then he or she certainly gossips about you.

Negative sign of Friendship

Bossy: A person who order you around, do not be

fooled by someone who bosses you around and tells

you what to do or how to do it. There are many people

who hang around bossy people and think that they are

their friends; this is wrong. A bossy person is not a

good friend

Negative Effects of Friendship

• Low self esteem

• Abuse mentally physically emotionally• Negative peer pressure

Positive Signs of friendship

•They practice forgiveness

•They make the friendship a priority

•They support each other through their adversity

•They listen to each others

•They tell each other when they are wrong

Positive effects of friendship

High Self-Esteem

◦Girls’ self-esteem tends to decline during

adolescence, while boys’ self-esteem increases

Self identity strengthen

Love and appreciate their self

Know when to say no

•Positive peer pressure

Parents roll in aiding positive peer relationship

•Practice authorative (not authoritarian) parenting•Teach kids how to converse in a polite way•Foster empathy and sympathetic concern for others.•Monitor kids’ social life•Watch out for bullying

Teachers roll in aiding positive peer relationship

Some ways to help children build friendships and social skills include teaching them to:•be aware of the personal space of others.

•Practice making and maintaining eye

contact during conversations..

Teachers roll in aiding positive peer relationship

•Try not to control the discussion.

•Think twice before speaking.

•Allow others to finish speaking before

beginning to talk.

•Always be courteous say please and thank

you.

Conclusion

It has seen where the importance of peer

relationship is evitable for the proper

development of a child. Theorist has also agree

the dept of how it can affect individual when the

absent of socialization take place. However this

can be foster by peers, parents and teachers.

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